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Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by Nobody: 7:47am On Mar 15, 2018 |
obaataaokpaewu:Not that ooo. We all want to be Mrs. Especially those of us that are lazy. We think we are running from home and problems at home. Na we marriage dey hungry pass. Then during courtship we will close eye and be planning wedding. We will not see what we are supposed to see, or we will see it and pretend it's not a problem. God help us all. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by somehow: 7:49am On Mar 15, 2018 |
Majority of the nos from the females can be traced to "money" obaataaokpaewu: |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by Nobody: 7:49am On Mar 15, 2018 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti: Too much knowledge my dear. Knowledge has reduced tolerance and many people don't grow their souls to match their intellect level. It's highly troubling the way relationships break thesedays and actions of so-called loved ones. He poured water on me 5 days before wedding i called it off, the other one too that poured the water is a slowpoke. The thing my lady is, we need to see more reason to remain onboard the ship that reasons to vacate it. The devil keeps whispering things that aren't there into people's ears and it triggers a response. Also, rather than many working on themselves, they spend their youthful days lusting and sleeping around, when it's time for the real deal, they aren't psychologically and mentally prepared. Finally, it's okay to be ill prepared, but then the desire to get it right should be the motivating factor for many of us, but na lie. When i read comments like anyone that can't marry me for who i am should walk. It's the new maady ive seen in town, even God wants us transformed and renewed in our mind after we become renewed, then when should i not demand for slight improvement/changes in issues i don't like or can't deal with, especially since i'm winlling to make some changes myself. Selfishness,self-centerness,self-preservation all of this are the culprits, it's easier to marry, but these things hinders cleaving process in marriage, in one body, one soul,one mind in two different bodies, this is what's missing, the binding factor. 4 Likes |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by Nobody: 7:49am On Mar 15, 2018 |
234GT: Really... that simple ....right? |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by terrezo2002(m): 7:50am On Mar 15, 2018 |
ajl:Marriage is meant for those who can bear it. It is sweet and at the same time very challenging. If one's partner will not stop messing up, keep loving him/her. That's the oath they took. For better for worse, till death do us part, I will keep loving. That's the same love God showed to us even when we always mess up, He keeps loving us. |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by Nobody: 7:52am On Mar 15, 2018 |
chiddyok: It boils down to selfishness, even if there are issues and we marry a person with issue, if the person is willing to improve, i see no reason why such marriage will not stand the test of time. People have a demaning culture that stinks, that self entitlement, that comes with how i want to be treated, plus, an unwillingness to improve even during marriage is another issue. The key to me is to never marry/date or even consider any person who's not on the path of contoinous improvement. Also, run away from anyone that appears perfect like a brother mentioned earlier. Joseph did not date, Issac did not date, but we never heard a single wahala in the marriage of Joseph despite marrying a foreigner, it's self-entitlement,self-aggrandizement,over-inflated sense of self, selfishness,self-centernedness is making people run maad If people stop using their lives/marriages to prove a point, then marriages will be better. Some ladies will spend their entire lives wearing themselves out to make money cause they don't want to be told by their partners he helped them. Some men want it their way or no other way and are not opened for discussion, i recommend registry to check for psychiatric tests on people to determine their psychological wellness before they grant them license to marry, many people by themselves are seeck, and need help. Both genders alike Education and knowledge should improve things instead it's making many of us unbearable and intolerant, we have it in the reverse, too much knowledge is the problem Time for church. See you guys later 3 Likes |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by Nobody: 7:57am On Mar 15, 2018 |
revolt:ahaaaaa... That's the world we live in. Now the anthem on men's lips is "what's she bringing to the table ". So what could be the possible solution? |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by Nobody: 8:01am On Mar 15, 2018 |
pantherblack:Quite a write-up. Many are getting it right. You just have to find that person you compatible with. All the best |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by Nobody: 8:06am On Mar 15, 2018 |
Oblongata: True True. |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by Nobody: 8:06am On Mar 15, 2018 |
revolt:Men love feminists(liberal). A woman who knows what she wants, has her say, independent, and can communicate effectively in any intellectual discourse. I think social media is the cause of men becoming less masculine |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by Nobody: 8:08am On Mar 15, 2018 |
Olumyyde: Ofcourse you should. I appreciate it when people disagree with my assertions, cos it shows we have 7 colours in a rainbow, though beam comes from one color, called white. So there are 7 perspectives to the Truth, mine is just louder. 1 Like |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by ussy09(m): 8:21am On Mar 15, 2018 |
timsbee:That man go get money big time. 1 Like |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by myself13: 8:23am On Mar 15, 2018 |
NwanyiAwka: This. |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by MsFaith: 8:23am On Mar 15, 2018 |
engrelvis: A situation where you are ready to give your best but your spouse is not cooperating, it can be disheartening. Marriage is not only about bearing children. 2 Likes |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by olabrad: 8:35am On Mar 15, 2018 |
Tinamoore: What do you know now that you didn't know before? Can you sort of shed more light? I'll like to learn from you |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by FRONTPAGE: 8:37am On Mar 15, 2018 |
Never. My greatest mistake in life is the wife I married 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by olabrad: 8:41am On Mar 15, 2018 |
Liliyann: So, if your husband had a great profitable business before marriage but things went downhill some years into marriage due to circumstances beyond his control and not his fault, you will dump him and marry another person? It's either you think with a brain soaked in hot feces or you are a curse to womanhood. Your understanding of marriage is very poor, immature and undignifying. Please stay single for the rest of your life and have no kids, lest you pour your useless, unearthly ideas into the poor hapless, helpless kids. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by shine12: 8:47am On Mar 15, 2018 |
kimbraa: If you read my comment properly, you'll discover that I said that I'm of the opinion that money is not the catalyst to happiness.It'll never be.Does money makes things easier? YES. It is money (and God's Grace) that kept the late Stephen Hawking till 76.I he was in a village in Maiduguri,he would have been dead long time ago. You are right, many things rate higher than money.I know that. Also, are you married? Now, no one in life hates comfort and ease. The question on the thread is, would you marry your spouse if you know what you know now?. Many married people are living lives they did not envisaged, would they want that again if they were to have another go at it? My comment was just an analysis based on this objective question. |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by revolt(m): 8:48am On Mar 15, 2018 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti:NO...men love women that are a lil helpless, but super tactical. This ensures he takes responsibility or becomes onerous to her, thus boosting his ego. Independent women make men feel useless, and we all know how women don't really handle power cos of their emmotions. This is the ideal position tho. No man wants to share responsibility with his woman. That's basically the only way hell guard his queen like an egg. 2 Likes |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by Nobody: 8:54am On Mar 15, 2018 |
revolt:You sure about that Where are you from? 2 Likes |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by jhenie(f): 8:54am On Mar 15, 2018 |
234GT: Huncle abi Hanty marriage isn't how you look at it from afar, it takes only the grace of God to stand, only the married understands marriage, it's not easy that's why we are being advised to be mentally, emotionally, psychologically and spiritually ready before getting married. Someone once said it is a bitter sweet experience but if the bitterness exceeds the sweetness then it will only get worse. Quarrels are ALWAYS bound to take place, we are humans. Prayer is the key to a successful marriage, if not the devil will make you form a mountain out of a molehill. 1 Like |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by Donald3d(m): 8:55am On Mar 15, 2018 |
Waffarianman:Chai God dey your back. 1 Like |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by obaataaokpaewu: 8:57am On Mar 15, 2018 |
YelloweWest:I used "Maybe", didn't conclude |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by revolt(m): 9:01am On Mar 15, 2018 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti:I'm a mallam. |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by YelloweWest: 9:06am On Mar 15, 2018 |
obaataaokpaewu:Senseless assumption. |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by Ngokafor(f): 9:08am On Mar 15, 2018 |
Those saying 'No' may even be the problem in their marriages. |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by obaataaokpaewu: 9:10am On Mar 15, 2018 |
YelloweWest:k |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by Olii(f): 9:10am On Mar 15, 2018 |
Oh my Jesus, I'm afraid of marriage, I feel like crying 1 Like |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by Nobody: 9:10am On Mar 15, 2018 |
revolt:Only a sweeping glance at your threads tells all. Bye Mr mallam |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by shayoor(f): 9:11am On Mar 15, 2018 |
Yes, yes, and yes I will choose him over and over again. God bless you my husband and bless the work of your � I love you Taiyelolu ejire 2 Likes |
Re: If You Knew What You Know Now, Would You Marry Your Spouse? by ochuciano(m): 9:13am On Mar 15, 2018 |
chiddyok: Blessed are you madam, for these was not reveal to you by flesh and blood, but byGod in heaven. You said it all 1 Like |
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