?y friend okey has been engaged to his fiance for a year and he told me in confidence that he wasn't going to marry the lady because she is Old and he needs a 23 year old bride instead of his 34 year old fiance.

Okey bad mouths the lady anytime we hang out together to create a bad impression about her with me but when i go visiting, the things he tells me are different from what i see with the lady.


Last year the lady called me up to please help her talk to my friend use condom when sleeping with his other flings. The truth is that i know Okey side chic who is also my great pal because she is a good talker and she can analyse politics like Maupe Ogun.



Okey promised the fiance to marry her during the last Easter so the girl had inform her parents in the village that her fiance is coming for wine carrying but the truth was that Okey was doing wine carrying for his 23 year old bride with the loan he took from his fiance. For the record, Okey is an average guy with dough but he was cash strapped then so he took 300k loan from the fiance to travel with her to the village.


I was the only one that knew about the game being played out and i was seriously bothered because this lady has really sacrificed a lot for my guy. Treating the worst STDs and forcing him to do likewise, aborting a three month old baby after the guy lied to him that he was in a secret society so if he should have a baby now that he will die. (Sounds funny but my friend has a Nigeria Oscar for his theatrics)



When they got home he dropped the lady at her place and never bothered to bring the lady to come see his family. The lady do call me every time giving me detail of what's going on just like my friend calls me to tell me of how much convincing he is still doing to the family of his 23 year old student bride. I asked my friend what about his fiance and he said she is at her father's house that he has told her that he can't marry her.
I called the fiance to know if my friend is still coming and she said my friend will still show up.


Finally, my friend took the cloth the fiance made as uniform for their marriage rites and use it to go pay bride price for his 23 year old student bride. When he told me with joy that God he finally blessed him that after a lot of pressure against his marrying the 23 year old bride from her sisters that the girl's father finally agreed. I asked him what about his fiance and he said he won't tell her for now that he will just find a way to quarrel with her for the next three months then he will end it. It was then that i knew that my friend was evil and will throw anyone under the bus just for his selfish desire.



I just called the fiance and told her to forget about marriage with my friend that she should come back to Lagos to face her life because Okey is now married. She didn't believe it but when i took her through the emergency travels he makes to the East for one job or the other, the stories that i was used as an alibi to cover for him and others. The fiance was devastated and i told her to watch out for a quarrel before they will travel back. I told the lady not to be scared to tell the guy that i told her everything.

Today, my friend sees me as a Snitch and someone that couldn't keep the guys code. I told him that we are no longer those boys in school with useless code that everything we do now shapes our old age

U deserve to die by lethal injection

You got too close to your Friends Fiancé. Are you sure you have not already broken the guys code in secret between you and her for her to cofide in you so much?
If you were really her friend you would have told her long before it got to a point of no return.


And to the ladies, Your boyfriends friends are not your Friends, it's that simple. Their loyalty lies with their friends or whatever they can get between your legs.

ihimiray:
U deserve to die by lethal injection

You are funny. I did right and will do it again

so in summary you saying "you chose a lady (you barely know) over your friend (you've known since highschool) right?


this here is the reason why i always warn my friends that before they tell me any secret, they should be sure it shouldn't be one revealing "how they hurt someone", "have hurt someone", or "intend to hurt someone" cos i cant be put on a tight corner where i'd choose between saving someone and betraying my friend's trust


you knew you couldn't handle the pressure of choosing to save the ladxw (nearing menopause) from disgrace and hurt or covering for your friend yet you happily remained and continued to act as the middle man cos you were getting some juicy news from both parties



now that you already made a choice, what do you want us to do?



anyways wyou my frrend are a ______


and your friend (okey) is a beast in man form..................such men dont usually end up well in life....
#spits


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Deshannel:
You got too close to your Friends Fiancé. Are you sure you have not already broken the guys code in secret between you and her for her to cofide in you so much?
If you were really her friend you would have told her long before it got to a point of no return.


And to the ladies, Your boyfriends friends are not your Friends, it's that simple. Their loyalty lies with their friends or whatever they can get between your legs.

I don't do friends chic which is my policy and i don't have emotional feelings for her which means i can't get an erection watching her naked. So that's the koko

Bro, you are a true man, u have done well, and truly, u do not deserve that bastard as a friend, when the time comes, he will sacrifice you for his selfish gains. You have no business having such people as friend... You are a respectable man, and should seek people of like minds around you.

CarlosTheJackal:
?y friend okey has been engaged to his fiance for a year and he told me in confidence that he wasn't going to marry the lady because she is Old and he needs a 23 year old bride instead of his 34 year old fiance.

Okey bad mouths the lady anytime we hang out together to create a bad impression about her with me but when i go visiting, the things he tells me are different from what i see with the lady.


Last year the lady called me up to please help her talk to my friend use condom when sleeping with his other flings. The truth is that i know Okey side chic who is also my great pal because she is a good talker and she can analyse politics like Maupe Ogun.



Okey promised the fiance to marry her during the last Easter so the girl had inform her parents in the village that her fiance is coming for wine carrying but the truth was that Okey was doing wine carrying for his 23 year old bride with the loan he took from his fiance. For the record, Okey is an average guy with dough but he was cash strapped then so he took 300k loan from the fiance to travel with her to the village.


I was the only one that knew about the game being played out and i was seriously bothered because this lady has really sacrificed a lot for my guy. Treating the worst STDs and forcing him to do likewise, aborting a three month old baby after the guy lied to him that he was in a secret society so if he should have a baby now that he will die. (Sounds funny but my friend has a Nigeria Oscar for his theatrics)



When they got home he dropped the lady at her place and never bothered to bring the lady to come see his family. The lady do call me every time giving me detail of what's going on just like my friend calls me to tell me of how much convincing he is still doing to the family of his 23 year old student bride. I asked my friend what about his fiance and he said she is at her father's house that he has told her that he can't marry her.
I called the fiance to know if my friend is still coming and she said my friend will still show up.


Finally, my friend took the cloth the fiance made as uniform for their marriage rites and use it to go pay bride price for his 23 year old student bride. When he told me with joy that God he finally blessed him that after a lot of pressure against his marrying the 23 year old bride from her sisters that the girl's father finally agreed. I asked him what about his fiance and he said he won't tell her for now that he will just find a way to quarrel with her for the next three months then he will end it. It was then that i knew that my friend was evil and will throw anyone under the bus just for his selfish desire.



I just called the fiance and told her to forget about marriage with my friend that she should come back to Lagos to face her life because Okey is now married. She didn't believe it but when i took her through the emergency travels he makes to the East for one job or the other, the stories that i was used as an alibi to cover for him and others. The fiance was devastated and i told her to watch out for a quarrel before they will travel back. I told the lady not to be scared to tell the guy that i told her everything.

Today, my friend sees me as a Snitch and someone that couldn't keep the guys code. I told him that we are no longer those boys in school with useless code that everything we do now shapes our old age

Don't treat people like this. Its not fair. Nice one op, you did well.

You did an honourable thing!
The guy shouldn't even be your friend as be might even do the same thing to you

Cutehector:
Don't treat people like this. Its not fair. Nice one op, you did well.

Thanks. I will forward this thread yo him because he still sends me text that i betrayed his trust but i still believe that i did right. Ive got sisters and a daughter that i dont pray such fate befalls them

CarlosTheJackal:
You are funny. I did right and will do it again

it none of ur business telling her... U can get ur self killed... Now u are his enemy

samyfreshsmooth:
so in summary you saying "you chose a lady (you barely know) over your friend (you've known since highschool) right?


this here is the reason why i always warn my friends that before they tell me any secret, they should be sure it shouldn't be one revealing "how they hurt someone", "have hurt someone", or "intend to hurt someone" cos i cant be put on a tight corner where i'd choose between saving someone and betraying my friend's trust


you knew you couldn't handle the pressure of choosing to save the ladxw (nearing menopause) from disgrace and hurt or covering for your friend yet you happily remained and continued to act as the middle man cos you were getting some juicy news from both parties



now that you already made a choice, what do you want us to do?



anyways wyou my frrend are a ______


and your friend (okey) is a beast in man form..................such men dont usually end up well in life....
#spits


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I was trying to make sure it works out for both of them because sometimes people get carried away by fresh and younger .... But the truth there is that this lady has always been there for you and deserves your best attention.

ihimiray:
it none of ur business telling her... U can get ur self killed... Now u are his enemy

It's my business because Karma is real in the real world.


Life is no longer see nothing and say nothing. That lady just needed someone to tell her that she is on a long ride.



If the guy can do such to a lady that he loves and did abortion for her then you can imagine what he will do to you that calls yourself his friend

Lalasticlala Dominique let's do fp tins. I need to know if truly i was wrong

CarlosTheJackal:
?y friend okey has been engaged to his fiance for a year and he told me in confidence that he wasn't going to marry the lady because she is Old and he needs a 23 year old bride instead of his 34 year old fiance.

Okey bad mouths the lady anytime we hang out together to create a bad impression about her with me but when i go visiting, the things he tells me are different from what i see with the lady.


Last year the lady called me up to please help her talk to my friend use condom when sleeping with his other flings. The truth is that i know Okey side chic who is also my great pal because she is a good talker and she can analyse politics like Maupe Ogun.



Okey promised the fiance to marry her during the last Easter so the girl had inform her parents in the village that her fiance is coming for wine carrying but the truth was that Okey was doing wine carrying for his 23 year old bride with the loan he took from his fiance. For the record, Okey is an average guy with dough but he was cash strapped then so he took 300k loan from the fiance to travel with her to the village.


I was the only one that knew about the game being played out and i was seriously bothered because this lady has really sacrificed a lot for my guy. Treating the worst STDs and forcing him to do likewise, aborting a three month old baby after the guy lied to him that he was in a secret society so if he should have a baby now that he will die. (Sounds funny but my friend has a Nigeria Oscar for his theatrics)



When they got home he dropped the lady at her place and never bothered to bring the lady to come see his family. The lady do call me every time giving me detail of what's going on just like my friend calls me to tell me of how much convincing he is still doing to the family of his 23 year old student bride. I asked my friend what about his fiance and he said she is at her father's house that he has told her that he can't marry her.
I called the fiance to know if my friend is still coming and she said my friend will still show up.


Finally, my friend took the cloth the fiance made as uniform for their marriage rites and use it to go pay bride price for his 23 year old student bride. When he told me with joy that God he finally blessed him that after a lot of pressure against his marrying the 23 year old bride from her sisters that the girl's father finally agreed. I asked him what about his fiance and he said he won't tell her for now that he will just find a way to quarrel with her for the next three months then he will end it. It was then that i knew that my friend was evil and will throw anyone under the bus just for his selfish desire.



I just called the fiance and told her to forget about marriage with my friend that she should come back to Lagos to face her life because Okey is now married. She didn't believe it but when i took her through the emergency travels he makes to the East for one job or the other, the stories that i was used as an alibi to cover for him and others. The fiance was devastated and i told her to watch out for a quarrel before they will travel back. I told the lady not to be scared to tell the guy that i told her everything.

Today, my friend sees me as a Snitch and someone that couldn't keep the guys code. I told him that we are no longer those boys in school with useless code that everything we do now shapes our old age

You were a decent human being and the friend is vile! I was going to judge you by his standards until you put a spin on it

If my girl friend was running that kinda bs around me, I would holla at the nigga and tell em straight

Say no to vultures

CarlosTheJackal:
I was trying to make sure it works out for both of them because sometimes people get carried away by fresh and younger .... But the truth there is that this lady has always been there for you and deserves your best attention.

oh i see


well i've been in such a situation before except that what he (my friend) told me was how he stole another of my friends money...............i didnt know if i should tell the guy or not



anyways i think you did the right thing though cos from your story, okey seems to be a very selfish diabolical person



you should stay away from him too

samyfreshsmooth:
so in summary you saying "you chose a lady (you barely know) over your friend (you've known since highschool) right?


this here is the reason why i always warn my friends that before they tell me any secret, they should be sure it shouldn't be one revealing "how they hurt someone", "have hurt someone", or "intend to hurt someone" cos i cant be put on a tight corner where i'd choose between saving someone and betraying my friend's trust


you knew you couldn't handle the pressure of choosing to save the ladxw (nearing menopause) from disgrace and hurt or covering for your friend yet you happily remained and continued to act as the middle man cos you were getting some juicy news from both parties



now that you already made a choice, what do you want us to do?



anyways wyou my frrend are a ______


and your friend (okey) is a beast in man form..................such men dont usually end up well in life....
#spits


[mm]

Vulture spotted vampire we see you

samyfreshsmooth:



oh i see


well i've been in such a situation before except that what he (my friend) told me was how he stole another of my friends money...............i didnt know if i should tell the guy or not



anyways i think you did the right thing though cos from your story, okey seems to be a very selfish diabolical person



you should stay away from him too

He is not diabolical rather he loves playing on everyone intelligence. Do you know he went to the lady and told him that I'm a bad friend and that I'm planning to date her that's why.


Today the lady is in a new relationship but Okey still pester her on phone calling the wife unprintable names and looking for an opportunity to sleep and th the lady again.

CarlosTheJackal:
Thanks. I will forward this thread yo him because he still sends me text that i betrayed his trust but i still believe that i did right. Ive got sisters and a daughter that i dont pray such fate befalls them

OP our action defines who we are and what u just did makes me believe u are a good person and when karma will be sharing his gifts in future, u will be left out.

Those of u saying OP is bad, what if the girl was Ur sister? Why did he borrow money from a girl to pay the dowry of another girl, Isn't that witchcraft? And to think may be the girl would have rejected other guys because of him.Just imagine the girl knows he has flings and still stayed.
What is more terrible is that he is looking for a cheap way to lay her off without paying back her money not minding her time wasted with him, a 34yrs old lady for that matter o.

Haba naw! The guy is wicked.

Guys code if there's any, should be kept if the guy is a reasonable person, not a wicked soul like OP's friend who might betray the OP one day because it is in him.

LivingFree:


You were a decent human being and the friend is vile! I was going to judge you by his standards until you put a spin on it

If my girl friend was running that kinda bs around me, I would holla at the nigga and tell em straight

Say no to vultures

Lol. I do get attacked by our other friends for doing that because they said I've lost our boys code.

YOU did well

Better late than NEVER....

.Some gurls are funny ehn....

If there are signs that he is cheating, just know he is CHEATING


But some no get self worth, willing to stay with a guy thats cheating and even marry him

Later You give birth in an unsafe environment which might lead to divorce and also spoil your children's life.......

CarlosTheJackal:
Lalasticlala Dominique let's do fp tins. I need to know if truly i was wrong

U didn't do any wrong whether front page or not.

U did the BESTEST thing if there's something like that.

Never in Ur life should u as a sane person be in a party with insane people if not, whatever treatment that is reserved for them will be given to u.

CarlosTheJackal:
It's my business because Karma is real in the real world.


Life is no longer see nothing and say nothing. That lady just needed someone to tell her that she is on a long ride.



If the guy can do such to a lady that he loves and did abortion for her then you can imagine what he will do to you that calls yourself his friend

Don't mind those telling you you did wrong. How does this your friend sleep at night knowing he doesn't have a conscience? I even pity for the ignorant girl he married 'cause such people don't change.

Well done, BTW.

CarlosTheJackal:
Lalasticlala Dominique let's do fp tins. I need to know if truly i was wrong

U didn't do any wrong whether front page or not.

U did the BESTEST thing if there's something like that.

Don't be a party to evil.

kingkakaone:

OP our action defines who we are and what u just did makes me believe u are a good person and when karma will be sharing his gifts in future, u will be left out.

Those of u saying OP is bad, what if the girl was Ur sister? Why did he borrow money from a girl to pay the dowry of another girl, Isn't that witchcraft? And to think may be the girl would have rejected other guys because of him.Just imagine the girl knows he has flings and still stayed.
What is more terrible is that he is looking for a cheap way to lay her off without paying back her money not minding her time wasted with him, a 34yrs old lady for that matter o.

Haba naw! The guy is wicked.

Guys code if there's any, should be kept if the guy is a reasonable person, not a wicked soul like OP's friend who might betray the OP one day because it is in him.

He later paid half but the guy is ready to shoot me if he meets me in a dark alley. Thanks though

CarlosTheJackal:
Lol. I do get attacked by our other friends for doing that because they said I've lost our boys code.

Tell them to keep their code and their friendship.
Just be happy u now know who Ur friends are.
Make better friends than them and move on from such a cancerous circle if not they might influence u to become toxic like them.

BTW, did u people write down a code when u were growing?

kimbraa:
Don't mind those telling you you did wrong. How does this your friend sleep at night knowing he doesn't have a conscious? I even pity for the ignorant girl he married 'cause such people don't change.

Well done, BTW.

My fear for the lady sanity was when she was inflected by STD from the guy and she still stayed put. I told her she should tell the guy to use condom but she said the guy refuses.


I was also very angry with the girl when she terminated the pregnancy. She should have used it to know the guy real intentions because i didn't want to tell her what the guy planned to do because i wanted her to read between the lines and figure it out on her own

You did very well. Some men are just pure evil.

CarlosTheJackal:
Lol. I do get attacked by our other friends for doing that because they said I've lost our boys code.

Are you a boy tho? No dumb bitchè could run that bs around me so they duck and dive. If I have to see it then I have to do something about it. Yes, it became my business. Stop explaining yourself because now people know how you roll, they'll keep their bs to themselves.

kingkakaone:

Tell them to keep their code and their friendship.
Just be happy u now know who Ur friends are.
Make better friends than them and move on from such a cancerous circle if not they might influence u to become toxic like them.

BTW, did u people write down a code when u were growing?

Remember guys cover every shiit of their fellow guy and it's an unwritten rule

LivingFree:


Are you a boy tho? No dumb bitchè could run that bs around me so they duck and dive. If I have to see it then I have to do something about it. Yes, it became my business. Stop explaining yourself because now people know how you rule, they'll keep their bs to themselves.

Lol. I used the word "boys code" to explain the unwritten rule of guys

CarlosTheJackal:
My fear for the lady sanity was when she was inflected by STD from the guy and she still stayed put. I told her she should tell the guy to use condom but she said the guy refuses.


I was also very angry with the girl when she terminated the pregnancy. She should have used it to know the guy real intentions because i didn't want to tell her what the guy planned to do because i wanted her to read between the lines and figure it out on her own

Some people are just users. If not that you informed her and in a way your actions prepared her mind for the worse, she would have lost it after finding out he went to marry someone else. Indeed, the guy isn't a friend of anyone and would have thrown you under the bus if opportunity presents itself. Fùck bro code!