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mimimile93:
Bro if I tell you how much I detest women mostly naija girls..
I poisoned one to death when I could no longer hold my anger..

Any girl born from the 80s is useless and written_off

Did someone just confess to murder?

And someone quoted him and says he can still edit his post

When you have already sealed his online fate

angelboy01:
I Am not really good at writing a composition but the whole thing started around last year November when I lost my job at a reputable company, things became really hard that my ex wife started with her attitude, someone I helped through her schooling, even opened a shop for her after our wedding.

She started losing interest in me because I was broke and there was no more love because I couldn't meet up to her demands. She became the bread winner around that time, things didn't go as expected for me, I needed to do a lot of things even pay for the rented apartment we were in and the landlord came with the eviction letter.

Things became really tough that she wasn't sleeping at home anymore, she would leave home for days and come back home and give me some little change and leave again, she started to live with her aunt and I became so lonely and useless in her eyes.

Eventually when I came up with the apartment money and we paid I decided I wasn't going to stay with her for a while and go out and look for a job, so as to avoid fight and arguments. She later called me that her boss from the USA was back and she was to go and meet him because they had a meeting to do so I said OK since I usually speak and text with his boss so I allowed her to go. So after I left home I got a job and I frequented coming home to see her and my baby. I later found out she began to lock her phone and I asked her for the password she wouldn't give it to me so I began to suspect her.

One day I eventually found the password and I unlocked it while she was asleep. I found out through a chat she had with her friend that she had sex with her said boss and she even bought a land without telling me all through the years we were together. I felt so betrayed and angry. I woke her up and asked her about it and she started crying and begging me.

I left home angrily and jilted. I was so devastated that I smoked a lot of weed that day and drank so much beer. I called my mom explained to her and later told her mom too. The next day her mom called me that she wanted to poison herself because of what she did. I sent her boss a message on WhatsApp and that one didn't even answer me because he knew what he did with my ex wife.

It's been months now since this happened and her mom calls me almost everyday begging me to forgive and forget but how do I forget, it's not easy for me because I can be having sex with her and be seeing her boss face.

I blocked her on Facebook and whatsapp but didn't block her calls or text message because of my baby when I need to send upkeep money. She calls me but I don't pick up. I know that I can't be with her anymore but she has the wedding certificate we got at the court wedding. I told her to give the photocopy of the certificate to my mom but she wouldn't do it.

Guys the reason why I wrote this is who has an idea on how to go about a divorce without the certificate because someone told me the certificate is important for the divorce. I don't know anything about it and my uncle even said the divorce will cost me a lot of money about 650k. I don't know it that's true too. Lol.

Please guys help out here. I have the proof of the chat and the audio conversation of the sex escapade with her boss so that will help in the court. My lovely daughter is 2 years now. How do I even collect my daughter from her. I have left all my property's for her because of my daughter and am starting my life afresh. Will the court be able to grant me my daughters custody although am not ready to train her myself but I have my mom who can do that for me.

In addition to all of this guy's if your girl or woman passwords her phone and doesn't show you her password be very careful she might be cheating because not only did I find out she had sex with her boss I also found out she was also on some random social media nonsense talking to some random guys and all that and that she also bought a land without telling me for 3 years we were together.

Thanks for learning from my story and God bless you guys.

With 150,000, you can handle a divorce case. But you would keep paying lawyer money say 10k for each appearance that's each day in court. No matter how much you spend, it would not be once so do not be afraid of the matter. Your life is important and your future. My ex wife stole my marriage certificate and all the copies when she moved out of my house. My advantage is that I have all my documents in soft copy scanned to my email address. She was not able to get that. But divorce or no divorce, in case you may not have the money it's your decision to stay far from her and be resolved never to have her again be very prayerful. They can't harm you if God is with you. No one can be against you.

Regards,

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
You know that's untrue. My mom stood by my dad through thick and thin until his very last breathe. So don't you generalize. Humans have been known for infidelity since inception so nothing is new. Just pray you Marry right.

my sis, it was only our mums, and aunties of yesteryears that stood wt their husbands, nt the loosed Indomie generations of our women today. Sometimes, I begins to ask myself, where is that woman of virtues like our mothers that stood wt their husbands presently?

I do ask where all this wives from hell comes from

A man married you, set you up & later go broke u now went & cheated on him haba!!!

Some women are from hell sha...

I will say it again I can never cheat on my husband

A man that set Me up for life, I can never do that I will be by his side till he stands again

Op sorry my dear make sure you do the needful by divorcing her.

It is well with you bro

Bro., go to the court where the wedding was conducted and ask for a copy of the certificate to enable you proceed for divorce and conduct a DNA test to ascertain the paternity of baby the outcome might even help in the court proceeding. As for the legal fee for divorce, it depend on the lawyer but is no as high as the figure your uncle gave you.

Heineken:
very stupid advise

It must be the Heineken talking so I forgive you

Angelboy01, how are you sure the daughter is yours?

Spend 650k for a divorce? Adonbilivit.


Do everything humanly possible to divorce that woman and stay away forever.

babeosisi:
It must be the Heineken talking so I forgive you

be deceiving yourself there

Daboomb:
Another ignorant statement from an illiterate mind!


First, it is in triplicates.
So you both have the two copies (one for each person) while one copy remains with the Registry.
I have my own andmy wife has her own but most men (unlike me) dont pay attention to details an dkeep such important document where it belongs, .....in their safe deposit box.

Second, Please cite the relevant section of the Matrimonial Causes Act or anywhere in the nigerian constitution, where you got that nonsense from.

Gone are the days when men act "macho" and women take advantage.
Nowadays, men too are catching up on the act.

You are so dumb and disgusting for saying this rubbish here that marriage certificate comes in two copies and each for husband and wife. That never happens in any part of the world. And fool and local illiterate like you can boldly come out and type this. You suck mehn. In which planet did you do your useless and illegal marriage where 2copies of cert were issued to you and you have guts to even call me names when you are 100% wrong. Na over sabi dey kill people like you. I'm not supposed to answer a clown like you in the first place..

send me a mail lets talk......tune2patrick@gmail.com

mejai:
first of all , return her bride price

others will comment abt d certificate... I don try.




go to d registry where u registered and ask for der copy. bribe and beg dem for a way out. no be naija again?

Best reply. The op should go to the registry where they married and bribe the officials and get a copy. As long as he remembers the year and month it was done, they can easily trace the date. I did the same

stillseth:
To marry dey fear me

a swear

Truly this is men's world...if the reverse was actually the case your wife will have no choice but to forgive and forget cos she will still see you as the father of her child but because is not you, you decide to devorce her. Well how sure her you that the next woman you gonna marry again won't do worst? Try to forgive and forget...well I pray you make The right decision.

angelboy01:
I Am not really good at writing a composition but the whole thing started around last year November when I lost my job at a reputable company, things became really hard that my ex wife started with her attitude, someone I helped through her schooling, even opened a shop for her after our wedding.

She started losing interest in me because I was broke and there was no more love because I couldn't meet up to her demands. She became the bread winner around that time, things didn't go as expected for me, I needed to do a lot of things even pay for the rented apartment we were in and the landlord came with the eviction letter.

Things became really tough that she wasn't sleeping at home anymore, she would leave home for days and come back home and give me some little change and leave again, she started to live with her aunt and I became so lonely and useless in her eyes.

Eventually when I came up with the apartment money and we paid I decided I wasn't going to stay with her for a while and go out and look for a job, so as to avoid fight and arguments. She later called me that her boss from the USA was back and she was to go and meet him because they had a meeting to do so I said OK since I usually speak and text with his boss so I allowed her to go. So after I left home I got a job and I frequented coming home to see her and my baby. I later found out she began to lock her phone and I asked her for the password she wouldn't give it to me so I began to suspect her.

One day I eventually found the password and I unlocked it while she was asleep. I found out through a chat she had with her friend that she had sex with her said boss and she even bought a land without telling me all through the years we were together. I felt so betrayed and angry. I woke her up and asked her about it and she started crying and begging me.

I left home angrily and jilted. I was so devastated that I smoked a lot of weed that day and drank so much beer. I called my mom explained to her and later told her mom too. The next day her mom called me that she wanted to poison herself because of what she did. I sent her boss a message on WhatsApp and that one didn't even answer me because he knew what he did with my ex wife.

It's been months now since this happened and her mom calls me almost everyday begging me to forgive and forget but how do I forget, it's not easy for me because I can be having sex with her and be seeing her boss face.

I blocked her on Facebook and whatsapp but didn't block her calls or text message because of my baby when I need to send upkeep money. She calls me but I don't pick up. I know that I can't be with her anymore but she has the wedding certificate we got at the court wedding. I told her to give the photocopy of the certificate to my mom but she wouldn't do it.

Guys the reason why I wrote this is who has an idea on how to go about a divorce without the certificate because someone told me the certificate is important for the divorce. I don't know anything about it and my uncle even said the divorce will cost me a lot of money about 650k. I don't know it that's true too. Lol.

Please guys help out here. I have the proof of the chat and the audio conversation of the sex escapade with her boss so that will help in the court. My lovely daughter is 2 years now. How do I even collect my daughter from her. I have left all my property's for her because of my daughter and am starting my life afresh. Will the court be able to grant me my daughters custody although am not ready to train her myself but I have my mom who can do that for me.

In addition to all of this guy's if your girl or woman passwords her phone and doesn't show you her password be very careful she might be cheating because not only did I find out she had sex with her boss I also found out she was also on some random social media nonsense talking to some random guys and all that and that she also bought a land without telling me for 3 years we were together.

Thanks for learning from my story and God bless you guys.

contact me for legal advice sir! Check signature for my number

naijacentric:
okay but sometimes test of life comes in such form u just have to forgivr n move on like God forgives us too such is life we are not perfect some men in naija know their wives are cheating on dem but dey kept quiet especially the so called big women in naija its funny how d powerful men will disgrace u again upon wat dey v done its a terrible situation one should just face God n ur kids plus ur life dan lettin one yeye woman push to hellfire because of her sins

Nonsense

My bro, better you stay away, far from her. Da woman fit kill you one day. Just get a lawyer to serve her na if she reach court, she go bring the cert herself

Train yourself to forgive and forget, and reconcile with your wife. You're not sure that the next wife will be faithful. No guarantee that you will meet a better person. So many imperfect people inhabit the earth. Learn to live with the fact that this kind of issues is prevalent all over, people just learn to handle it discretely.

The OP might be bias in his report, judging by what he posted alone is not my thing, he might just be playing the victim-card here, I usually hear from both side.

How are we not so sure the OP is not also a cheats or didn't do anything wrong? People usually account thier report as if they are free from errors.

In most marriages in Africa women are forced/compel to forgive thier cheating husband but when reverse is the case it's always no forgiveness.

Cc angelboy01

bros RUN FOR YOUR LIFE
I REPEAT RUN FOR YOUR LIFE... go oit of the countey or riun far away,from yout current location. her mum and sister might know about her adultery and still encourage her because u are broke then. go for DNA for ur daughter. file a divorce.

y will u too go for a court marriage ？ nigeria qnd wahala

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
You know that's untrue. My mom stood by my dad through thick and thin until his very last breathe. So don't you generalize. Humans have been known for infidelity since inception so nothing is new. Just pray you Marry right.

Our parents stood by each other, material things were the least of their problem then. Our generation are blinded by the material things of this world, you will hardly know your partner without going through this kind of test. Few are exception but majority fall among the above mentioned .

InfernoNig:
I'm sorry man. The mistake you made was getting out of the house yo get high. That's wrong, it makes you neglect the right thing that needed to be done at that time. Well its all history now. You are not alone in this cheating wife issue. Even we single guys face a lot everyday from cheating girlfriends. Like my case last year, my girl broke up with me accusing me of cheating (I never cheated) 5month after she put to bed for another man. I was hurt, I cried every night. But its all the past now and I am glad it all happened now cos I can't imagine how hurtful it will be if I had married her. Be safe man, take time to heal before you start another relationship.

hahahahaha she accused you of cheating but gave birth 5months later.


I think it is better than making you responsible for another man's child

Pele, its well

Haba be gentle on him, he only gave his own advice.

yanabasee:
NO SANE Nigerian woman will stand by a man when things get soured....

and that is why no sane man should make a woman even if she is his wife his top priority but alas, we never learn. we always fall for thier tricks which is perfected for resource extraction and loyalty only when the going is good. i pity the guy sha. if am gonna get married, i will do my best to make sure the odds are in my favour in case of a collapse of the union because women are not dependable.

eph12:
No sin is an accident

Just the same way all of you accusing her now are sinners

Did he advice the husband to leave her like you're doing now?

stop deceiving yourself

Pray your own doesn't come back with HIV and infect you and your kids

Why do Nigerians like quoting Bible to defend rubbish?

henroe2k2:
My brother, if u can, forgive ur wife and continue with ur family.... Love conquereth it all... The opinion am lending might sound hilarious... But, it's easier to love than to hate...

On the contrary, it is easier to hate than to love.

akbahbah:
Marriage certificate is wifes property not husband. It should be in wifes custody according to law.

why did the law do that!.. Why can't both have a copy each!

angelboy01:
I Am not really good at writing a composition but the whole thing started around last year November when I lost my job at a reputable company, things became really hard that my ex wife started with her attitude, someone I helped through her schooling, even opened a shop for her after our wedding.

She started losing interest in me because I was broke and there was no more love because I couldn't meet up to her demands. She became the bread winner around that time, things didn't go as expected for me, I needed to do a lot of things even pay for the rented apartment we were in and the landlord came with the eviction letter.

Things became really tough that she wasn't sleeping at home anymore, she would leave home for days and come back home and give me some little change and leave again, she started to live with her aunt and I became so lonely and useless in her eyes.

Eventually when I came up with the apartment money and we paid I decided I wasn't going to stay with her for a while and go out and look for a job, so as to avoid fight and arguments. She later called me that her boss from the USA was back and she was to go and meet him because they had a meeting to do so I said OK since I usually speak and text with his boss so I allowed her to go. So after I left home I got a job and I frequented coming home to see her and my baby. I later found out she began to lock her phone and I asked her for the password she wouldn't give it to me so I began to suspect her.

One day I eventually found the password and I unlocked it while she was asleep. I found out through a chat she had with her friend that she had sex with her said boss and she even bought a land without telling me all through the years we were together. I felt so betrayed and angry. I woke her up and asked her about it and she started crying and begging me.

I left home angrily and jilted. I was so devastated that I smoked a lot of weed that day and drank so much beer. I called my mom explained to her and later told her mom too. The next day her mom called me that she wanted to poison herself because of what she did. I sent her boss a message on WhatsApp and that one didn't even answer me because he knew what he did with my ex wife.

It's been months now since this happened and her mom calls me almost everyday begging me to forgive and forget but how do I forget, it's not easy for me because I can be having sex with her and be seeing her boss face.

I blocked her on Facebook and whatsapp but didn't block her calls or text message because of my baby when I need to send upkeep money. She calls me but I don't pick up. I know that I can't be with her anymore but she has the wedding certificate we got at the court wedding. I told her to give the photocopy of the certificate to my mom but she wouldn't do it.

Guys the reason why I wrote this is who has an idea on how to go about a divorce without the certificate because someone told me the certificate is important for the divorce. I don't know anything about it and my uncle even said the divorce will cost me a lot of money about 650k. I don't know it that's true too. Lol.

Please guys help out here. I have the proof of the chat and the audio conversation of the sex escapade with her boss so that will help in the court. My lovely daughter is 2 years now. How do I even collect my daughter from her. I have left all my property's for her because of my daughter and am starting my life afresh. Will the court be able to grant me my daughters custody although am not ready to train her myself but I have my mom who can do that for me.

In addition to all of this guy's if your girl or woman passwords her phone and doesn't show you her password be very careful she might be cheating because not only did I find out she had sex with her boss I also found out she was also on some random social media nonsense talking to some random guys and all that and that she also bought a land without telling me for 3 years we were together.

Thanks for learning from my story and God bless you guys.

Go and see a councillor for counseling. You will be amazed amount of things you can do after counseling.

angelboy01:
I Am not really good at writing a composition but the whole thing started around last year November when I lost my job at a reputable company, things became really hard that my ex wife started with her attitude, someone I helped through her schooling, even opened a shop for her after our wedding.

She started losing interest in me because I was broke and there was no more love because I couldn't meet up to her demands. She became the bread winner around that time, things didn't go as expected for me, I needed to do a lot of things even pay for the rented apartment we were in and the landlord came with the eviction letter.

Things became really tough that she wasn't sleeping at home anymore, she would leave home for days and come back home and give me some little change and leave again, she started to live with her aunt and I became so lonely and useless in her eyes.

Eventually when I came up with the apartment money and we paid I decided I wasn't going to stay with her for a while and go out and look for a job, so as to avoid fight and arguments. She later called me that her boss from the USA was back and she was to go and meet him because they had a meeting to do so I said OK since I usually speak and text with his boss so I allowed her to go. So after I left home I got a job and I frequented coming home to see her and my baby. I later found out she began to lock her phone and I asked her for the password she wouldn't give it to me so I began to suspect her.

One day I eventually found the password and I unlocked it while she was asleep. I found out through a chat she had with her friend that she had sex with her said boss and she even bought a land without telling me all through the years we were together. I felt so betrayed and angry. I woke her up and asked her about it and she started crying and begging me.

I left home angrily and jilted. I was so devastated that I smoked a lot of weed that day and drank so much beer. I called my mom explained to her and later told her mom too. The next day her mom called me that she wanted to poison herself because of what she did. I sent her boss a message on WhatsApp and that one didn't even answer me because he knew what he did with my ex wife.

It's been months now since this happened and her mom calls me almost everyday begging me to forgive and forget but how do I forget, it's not easy for me because I can be having sex with her and be seeing her boss face.

I blocked her on Facebook and whatsapp but didn't block her calls or text message because of my baby when I need to send upkeep money. She calls me but I don't pick up. I know that I can't be with her anymore but she has the wedding certificate we got at the court wedding. I told her to give the photocopy of the certificate to my mom but she wouldn't do it.

Guys the reason why I wrote this is who has an idea on how to go about a divorce without the certificate because someone told me the certificate is important for the divorce. I don't know anything about it and my uncle even said the divorce will cost me a lot of money about 650k. I don't know it that's true too. Lol.

Please guys help out here. I have the proof of the chat and the audio conversation of the sex escapade with her boss so that will help in the court. My lovely daughter is 2 years now. How do I even collect my daughter from her. I have left all my property's for her because of my daughter and am starting my life afresh. Will the court be able to grant me my daughters custody although am not ready to train her myself but I have my mom who can do that for me.

In addition to all of this guy's if your girl or woman passwords her phone and doesn't show you her password be very careful she might be cheating because not only did I find out she had sex with her boss I also found out she was also on some random social media nonsense talking to some random guys and all that and that she also bought a land without telling me for 3 years we were together.

Thanks for learning from my story and God bless you guys.

Women are most dangerous set in the world, never trust them even if u care. Now social media has worsten their sense of belonging. Guys learn from this

angelboy01:
I Am not really good at writing a composition but the whole thing started around last year November when I lost my job at a reputable company, things became really hard that my ex wife started with her attitude, someone I helped through her schooling, even opened a shop for her after our wedding.

She started losing interest in me because I was broke and there was no more love because I couldn't meet up to her demands. She became the bread winner around that time, things didn't go as expected for me, I needed to do a lot of things even pay for the rented apartment we were in and the landlord came with the eviction letter.

Things became really tough that she wasn't sleeping at home anymore, she would leave home for days and come back home and give me some little change and leave again, she started to live with her aunt and I became so lonely and useless in her eyes.

Eventually when I came up with the apartment money and we paid I decided I wasn't going to stay with her for a while and go out and look for a job, so as to avoid fight and arguments. She later called me that her boss from the USA was back and she was to go and meet him because they had a meeting to do so I said OK since I usually speak and text with his boss so I allowed her to go. So after I left home I got a job and I frequented coming home to see her and my baby. I later found out she began to lock her phone and I asked her for the password she wouldn't give it to me so I began to suspect her.

One day I eventually found the password and I unlocked it while she was asleep. I found out through a chat she had with her friend that she had sex with her said boss and she even bought a land without telling me all through the years we were together. I felt so betrayed and angry. I woke her up and asked her about it and she started crying and begging me.

I left home angrily and jilted. I was so devastated that I smoked a lot of weed that day and drank so much beer. I called my mom explained to her and later told her mom too. The next day her mom called me that she wanted to poison herself because of what she did. I sent her boss a message on WhatsApp and that one didn't even answer me because he knew what he did with my ex wife.

It's been months now since this happened and her mom calls me almost everyday begging me to forgive and forget but how do I forget, it's not easy for me because I can be having sex with her and be seeing her boss face.

I blocked her on Facebook and whatsapp but didn't block her calls or text message because of my baby when I need to send upkeep money. She calls me but I don't pick up. I know that I can't be with her anymore but she has the wedding certificate we got at the court wedding. I told her to give the photocopy of the certificate to my mom but she wouldn't do it.

Guys the reason why I wrote this is who has an idea on how to go about a divorce without the certificate because someone told me the certificate is important for the divorce. I don't know anything about it and my uncle even said the divorce will cost me a lot of money about 650k. I don't know it that's true too. Lol.

Please guys help out here. I have the proof of the chat and the audio conversation of the sex escapade with her boss so that will help in the court. My lovely daughter is 2 years now. How do I even collect my daughter from her. I have left all my property's for her because of my daughter and am starting my life afresh. Will the court be able to grant me my daughters custody although am not ready to train her myself but I have my mom who can do that for me.

In addition to all of this guy's if your girl or woman passwords her phone and doesn't show you her password be very careful she might be cheating because not only did I find out she had sex with her boss I also found out she was also on some random social media nonsense talking to some random guys and all that and that she also bought a land without telling me for 3 years we were together.

Thanks for learning from my story and God bless you guys.

Mr man, it's painful but you have to forgive your wife. I mean every word of it. Forgive her and take her back.

All these things was as a result of hardship. Please do forgive her.

angelboy01:
Read your comment and you are so on point bro. For those saying that I should forgive her yes I have forgiven her but to take her back is a no no. Most people don't even know what cheating means, a cheat will always be a cheat. And if I take her back do you think I can take my mind off the fact that she cheated? Some guys thinks it's easy to take a cheat back and that's total crap, you are digging your own grave. I even had a dream that she strangled me. Shortly after she came back from her boss meeting I contracted a PID disease from her which I used about 11k to treat myself. Yeah I can forgive but can't forget, I am a kind of guy that once the trust is lost its gone for good. There are many women in the world and why would I take her back. I am even glad that am free, I am focusing more on my life and my daughter. I only wrote this so that guys should learn from me, Never rush into marriage and make sure you read the signs before engaging. I didn't write all of this to ask guys on whether I should take her back or not. I have realised my mistakes and God help us all. Guys once again don't rush into marriage and read the signs like I said.

Good you have made up your mind.

However, there is nothing like "read the signs" ...your wife changed cos you were broke. Many women today, especially in Nigeria respect their husbands only because he is still providing.

Yes, it is good to marry an understanding woman (who also makes money) but also don't "go broke"

Enjoy your new life.

austyn0:
This life sha...

the picture message no suppose end there oo... you can do better. Good work

naijacentric:
den how will God forgive u

The GODS never forgive.