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samuelchimmy:
I don't understand why you can't save 20k per month for one year and move out .. I was earning less than 10k with some daily changes when I started living alone,i was 18 then,i remember when I started, my room was empty, I slept on cold floor for some time, bought some few stuffs including bed... But I must mention rentage was 30k per year....... I'm 23 now.you can do it bro, but there will be many times when you wish you were in your parents house

LeoFish92:
Greetings family-landers, I'm having this issue which has been bordering me, I finished service last year, recently got an online side hustle which gives me 30k per month.

And at 26,I'm no longer comfortable staying at home with my parents, I can't hang out late with my friends without my parents drowning my phone with calls, as early as 8.pm at night the calls will start flowing as if I'm a customer care agent. (really frustrating)

Almost all my guys are living on their own, and to make matters worse, I can't receive any female visitor cos of my religious parents and lack of privacy.

On the flip side, I'm scared if a 30k monthly salary can be enough for a guy who wants to rent and probably furnish a self-con of 70-80k per year. (I'm not the extravagant type)

I've never lived alone so I'm really confused if I should make this move at this point in my life.

Guys who are living on their own, what's your take on this?

obailala:
I disagree with the bolded; what exactly is wrong about his reasons?... and what could possibly pass as a 'right reason'?

Truth is that the reasons he gave (i.e. freedom and privacy) is the reason 95% of guys (who still live in the same city with their parents) moved out of their family houses. There's absolutely nothing wrong with a 26 year old guy man desiring to have freedom and privacy.

Irrespective of his current income, this is the time in his life when he needs to start learning to live alone and also a time he needs to start sampling and learning how to receive or be with women; he's already walked into the marriage realm and he shouldnt really wait till he got 300k before he starts learning to be with women.

yesloaded:
Your reasons is not enough bro, I still stay inside my father house even when I already made my first million naira. I remain in single room in my father house, I pay more than 30k to staffs I employed in my own office and to make matter worse, my Dada house to my office is 700 to 800naira transport fee everyday while I can get myself decent self contain or 2bedroom flat at 100k to 120k very close to my office without any transport fare. You should focus on how to develop yourself other than keeping late night outings, partying or carrying girls up and down. Work hard, make money and very other things shall fall in place bro.
Good luck

pocohantas:
Nothing wrong with seeking to move out of your parents house, but you want to do it for all the wrong reasons.



So, your definition of worse is that you can't receive female visitors?

yesloaded:
so because his parent never allowed him to keep late night out is bad right? how old are you biko?

LeoFish92:
Greetings family-landers, I'm having this issue which has been bordering me, I finished service last year, recently got an online side hustle which gives me 30k per month.

And at 26,I'm no longer comfortable staying at home with my parents, I can't hang out late with my friends without my parents drowning my phone with calls, as early as 8.pm at night the calls will start flowing as if I'm a customer care agent. (really frustrating)

Almost all my guys are living on their own, and to make matters worse, I can't receive any female visitor cos of my religious parents and lack of privacy.

On the flip side, I'm scared if a 30k monthly salary can be enough for a guy who wants to rent and probably furnish a self-con of 70-80k per year. (I'm not the extravagant type)
I've never lived alone so I'm really confused if I should make this move at this point in my life.

Guys who are living on their own, what's your take on this?

LeoFish92:
Finally, someone who has been in a similar situation, few days ago, I was on a sweet lovely date with one Chica bonita, Before I could say Jack, calls had started flowing in... SMH.

Talking about properties, first of all, My target is a room self-con, can't afford two rooms, and one room face me I face you is a total turnoff for me.

I already Have a mattress, I envisage it's mostly electronics and fridge that I will have to save for.

With Side hustles like playing musical instruments and writing yielding about 40k monthly, I Still plan to apply for a regular job.

And if there's vacancy for the company I write for, I'll sure notify you

LeoFish92:
Greetings family-landers, I'm having this issue which has been bordering me, I finished service last year, recently got an online side hustle which gives me 30k per month.

And at 26,I'm no longer comfortable staying at home with my parents, I can't hang out late with my friends without my parents drowning my phone with calls, as early as 8.pm at night the calls will start flowing as if I'm a customer care agent. (really frustrating)

Almost all my guys are living on their own, and to make matters worse, I can't receive any female visitor cos of my religious parents and lack of privacy.

On the flip side, I'm scared if a 30k monthly salary can be enough for a guy who wants to rent and probably furnish a self-con of 70-80k per year. (I'm not the extravagant type)

I've never lived alone so I'm really confused if I should make this move at this point in my life.

Guys who are living on their own, what's your take on this?

zicoraads:
I moved out of my parents house at this age too.

But I was definitely earning more than you. I totally understand your points, I won't lie, that was some of the reasons I decided to move as well. I remember back then, my dad will call me at about 8:30 and say things like 'I'm about to lock my gate, you had better start coming home'. Some days it was really embarrassing, especially when the outing was a dinner at work or the likes.

For you though, too soon. Way, way too soon. There are a lot of things to be done before taking that step.

I'll advice you start buying a few things though. Get your own mattress if you don't have any. A two seater couch. A small TV. Gas etc. With few sacrifices, you should be able to get the basics in about a year and move out in that same year.

Then think about moving to a room self contain first. Cut your coat according to your size.

But realize that once you do, you are on your own. There are bills to pay. Power, gas, water, food etc. And before you know it, it'll be time to pay another rent. So be sure this is what you want.

Oh, and I'm interested in that writing job as well. Is there space for another writer?

Pocohantas, this thread is for guys only. Steer clear cos you can't relate.

obailala:
Someone who's 26, but you're still giving him the advice of a teenager?... He should stay in his fathers house as a 26 year old man?... Even his father would be irritated by his presence. And yes, living out of the home and receiving 1, 2 or 100 female visitors, that's a basic requirement/phase in a man's life before he gets married, it doesnt necessarily make him irresponsible. He s8mply desirrs to be a man before crossing to the next stage in his life which is marriage.

Gentlevin:
@op. From your write up, I can deduce that all you want is freedom to do whatever you like just because your friends are doing same. Let me tell u that your 30k is nothing in this present economy. Better remain with your parents for now and do some savings till when you are buoyant enough to live on your own...

Better leave girls alone and focus on building your life. If the so-called female visitors come visiting, is it from the same 30k that u will be using to feed yourself and also entertain them? be wise my guy.

obailala:
Someone who's 26, but you're still giving him the advice of a teenager?... He should stay in his fathers house as a 26 year old man?... Even his father would be irritated by his presence. And yes, living out of the home and receiving 1, 2 or 100 female visitors, that's a basic requirement/phase in a man's life before he gets married. He s8mply desirrs to be a man before crossing to the next stage in his life which is marriage.

zicoraads:
Yups, apply for a regular job. I have one and two others. And I'm hoping to add that writing too, especially now that I'm free.

When I moved into mine, I only had a GOTv and a 32 inch TV.

You mustn't have a fridge and all. There is a thread on Nairaland about home clearance sales. I've seen really cheap and good items there. So you can start from there.

justtoodark:
carrying girls upandan is a bad idea...choose wan you like most and marry her immediatly....

young marriage is the best.....

Charmingrascal:
It is advisable for every young man at the age of at most 25 years who can afford an apartment of his own to leave his parents house.
At the age of 25 every young man should strive to leave his comfort zone (parents' house) not because u want to live a life that no one will check mate u but because u have to be a man of ur own.


#Mytake

LeoFish92:
Greetings family-landers, I'm having this issue which has been bordering me, I finished service last year, recently got an online side hustle which gives me 30k per month.

And at 26,I'm no longer comfortable staying at home with my parents, I can't hang out late with my friends without my parents drowning my phone with calls, as early as 8.pm at night the calls will start flowing as if I'm a customer care agent. (really frustrating)

Almost all my guys are living on their own, and to make matters worse, I can't receive any female visitor cos of my religious parents and lack of privacy.

On the flip side, I'm scared if a 30k monthly salary can be enough for a guy who wants to rent and probably furnish a self-con of 70-80k per year. (I'm not the extravagant type)

I've never lived alone so I'm really confused if I should make this move at this point in my life.

Guys who are living on their own, what's your take on this?

obailala:
I'm a man, and I know what it means to have some freedom, space and privacy. There's a difference between a man who's already over 25 and working and a teenager.

dam007:
brother, I left home at 25, my parents were too smoldering, they in fact offered to give me transport to work but that liberty to go out, party, hosts friends or do anything fun... much like what you're facing currently. I had a similar pay too, actually I was favoured to find an agent who agreed to hire me, pay 30k but deduct 10k per month to defray my rent. it was the right set up... mind you, it was God purely, no connections or favour.
the catch really is this, in that comfort zone, nothing positive will happen to your status. it'll only deteriorate. do you have a girlfriend?? mine was my ultimate motivation. she actually threatened to leave if I didn't find a job however little and start off. your parents may still help out while you find your footing but be rest assured. you have what it takes to take the bold step. pray about it, then get the Bleep outta there. daddy's money can buy you chicken and fried rice but I kid you not, it'll never be as sweet as the garri and suya you purchase with your hard earned money. if you know you know.

czarina:
Been there done that.

LeoFish92:
Greetings family-landers, I'm having this issue which has been bordering me, I finished service last year, recently got an online side hustle which gives me 30k per month.

And at 26,I'm no longer comfortable staying at home with my parents, I can't hang out late with my friends without my parents drowning my phone with calls, as early as 8.pm at night the calls will start flowing as if I'm a customer care agent. (really frustrating)

Almost all my guys are living on their own, and to make matters worse, I can't receive any female visitor cos of my religious parents and lack of privacy.

On the flip side, I'm scared if a 30k monthly salary can be enough for a guy who wants to rent and probably furnish a self-con of 70-80k per year. (I'm not the extravagant type)

I've never lived alone so I'm really confused if I should make this move at this point in my life.

Guys who are living on their own, what's your take on this?

LeoFish92:
Lol, na yesterday I knack the question, na u come dey see am this morning

zicoraads:
Yups, apply for a regular job. I have one and two others. And I'm hoping to add that writing too, especially now that I'm free.

When I moved into mine, I only had a GOTv and a 32 inch TV.

You mustn't have a fridge and all. There is a thread on Nairaland about home clearance sales. I've seen really cheap and good items there. So you can start from there.

zicoraads:
I moved out of my parents house at this age too.

But I was definitely earning more than you. I totally understand your points, I won't lie, that was some of the reasons I decided to move as well. I remember back then, my dad will call me at about 8:30 and say things like 'I'm about to lock my gate, you had better start coming home'. Some days it was really embarrassing, especially when the outing was a dinner at work or the likes.

For you though, too soon. Way, way too soon. There are a lot of things to be done before taking that step.

I'll advice you start buying a few things though. Get your own mattress if you don't have any. A two seater couch. A small TV. Gas etc. With few sacrifices, you should be able to get the basics in about a year and move out in that same year.

Then think about moving to a room self contain first. Cut your coat according to your size.

But realize that once you do, you are on your own. There are bills to pay. Power, gas, water, food etc. And before you know it, it'll be time to pay another rent. So be sure this is what you want.

Oh, and I'm interested in that writing job as well. Is there space for another writer?

Pocohantas, this thread is for guys only. Steer clear cos you can't relate.

vingeophysicist:
get out from here.Your own situation is different nah. Men will definitely assist u.Are u not a lady?

oyb:
this was in 2003.

i did not get married until 2006, when i got a good job. my new bosses were definitely a little vexed. they had thought this young guy will enjoy the money and status for three or four years so we can use him well. instead - i got married within 6 months

LeoFish92:
This is exactly my point, I know I can hustle more when I'm alone, but at the moment, I just make Lil cash with my online stuff, and somehow I'm contented because I have free food and accommodation..

I just need something to challenge me.

Perhaps the reasons I gave in my post are mundane but yes, at 26, I'm supposed to have freedom to do what ever I wanna do(responsibly)