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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by SURElee(f): 11:44pm On Sep 13, 2018
olugbayilo564:
girls una dey see am so

Marry on time but una go dey form say u can't marry a man wey no de earn 200k


Well I already know that any man wey dey marry woman wey don pass 30yrs Na
rescue mission he go so
Because you are God that gives partners abi? have you seen ladies who get married early and wait 10-15 years to have babies? and the ones who marry late and have babies immediately? have you seen young guys with erectile dysfunction and low sperm count or zero sperm count?

It's like buying newspaper in the evening.
Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by bluefilm: 11:45pm On Sep 13, 2018
But why did you stop buying sanitary pads?

If you know you want to commit a perfect 'crime', then you MUST know that you will have to plan to the end.

That's common sense 101.

Madam, it's seems like your lack of common sense has landed you in a hot soup.

Now prepare to pay the price.

Just know that the guyman will never trust you again... even if he eventually forgives you.

I have nothing else to say.

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by slivertongue: 11:45pm On Sep 13, 2018
Prayers dear,see mariage counsellor &speak 2his family
tankGod u av children. u sud av told him it startd after delivery

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by oshe11: 11:45pm On Sep 13, 2018
Biglittlelois:


Hehehe lemme oo
lol....
But dont rush into marriage with the wrong person oooo

Divorce storiesssss don taya me fà
Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by davillian(m): 11:45pm On Sep 13, 2018
Your husband is just hurt he would be fine and everything will get back to normal.

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by PassingShot(m): 11:46pm On Sep 13, 2018
alterswerve:
So you won't Google.. POF is Premature Ovarian Failure

Wow.. See.. Truthfully, under the law, if he decides to divorce cos of this issue, you know he'll win, cos his lawyer will say you deceived him into the marriage.

It's a tough one.

He's really pissed cos he's feeling that he was deceived into the marriage. He could be wondering how many other things you're keeping from him ry now.

Do what he wants if your marriage is of very high priority to you and let him know you're doing it to show him how sorry you are and for peace to reign between both of you.

Always staying with the kids doesn't guarantee that nothing bad will ever happen to them, and let him know that too.

It's a sacrifice or penance I think you should make IF YOUR MARRIAGE IS OF A HIGHER PRIORITY TO YOU THAN YOUR CAREER and his pay can take care of all y'all well.

My only scare now is that he doesn't begin to demand for more sacrifices from you. But looking at the positive side, if you submit, he may look back at this decision in the future and lift his ban on you working

Wish you the best

PS: You typed good. Big ups!
You did very little wrong. Not much.

Or, did he specifically ask you if you were fertile or not before he married you? And thank God you were blessed with three children at once for him. If you hadn’t, will he have asked for a divorce straight away?

Be strong and stop feeling too guilty about a situation you didn’t bring onto yourself. He should stop being childish and be grateful that you’re both blessed with those kids already. If he doesn’t change, tell only your parents first.

Best of luck.

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by poseidon12: 11:47pm On Sep 13, 2018
You married the wrong guy. He is a complete as*hole. Make sure you don't quit your job. The fool wants to completely dominate you and then dump you. It's not your fault you experienced early menopause.

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by Nobody: 11:49pm On Sep 13, 2018
Wilfredpat22:
The truth is that you deceived him. Well we all deceive men one way or the other. You started dating when you were 29, what happened between 21-28, you were sleeping around with married men I guess

This is as a repercussion for the evils you must have done in school and to other women’s homes. Now yours will be shattered. We ladies don’t hear or listen and eventually it will lead to our downfall


Let your husband look for some one fertile and responsible. By the way Are you sure those kids are his?
In case u don't know, every marriage has its own issues.
When u get married u will understand how bad it is to accuse people of what u just did.

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by seunzor: 11:49pm On Sep 13, 2018
Homeboiy:
young girls una dey see am so

Marry on time but una go dey form say u can't marry a man wey no de earn 200k


Well I already know that any man wey dey marry woman wey don pass 30yrs Na rescue mission he go so


It's like buying newspaper in the evening
Why are you talking like this? If you don't have anything reasonable to say, its better you don't comment at all. Marriage is not a joking matter

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by Nobody: 11:50pm On Sep 13, 2018
What you did was wrong ,since you said you had apologized I guess it will take time for things to get back to normal . A word of advice pls don’t ever leave your job... if eventually things get sour and he leaves you to go and meet another woman how will you cope .

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by lekonso: 11:52pm On Sep 13, 2018
Wilfredpat22:
The truth is that you deceived him. Well we all deceive men one way or the other. You started dating when you were 29, what happened between 21-28, you were sleeping around with married men I guess

This is as a repercussion for the evils you must have done in school and to other women’s homes. Now yours will be shattered. We ladies don’t hear or listen and eventually it will lead to our downfall


Let your husband look for some one fertile and responsible. By the way Are you sure those kids are his?

YOU ARE WICKED

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by poseidon12: 11:52pm On Sep 13, 2018
Kinggnicole:

Lol..were you expecting me to give the cliche Nigerian wife "pray that God touches his heart" advice?

I say it again! She has to leave if it gets to that point. From the write up above, her husband is outright disrespectful and obviously doesn't care about her needs and wants. Imagine telling her to stay and take care of the children so that nothing happens to them since she knows she's not fertile. How insensitive!

OP apologise to him again(if you need to because this is an issue of trust and is quite sensitive too) but tell him squarely that you are not quitting your job. Also give him some more time. If he's not budging , you know what to do.

Right on point. The husband is a fool. He probably has secrets too.

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by bixton(m): 11:53pm On Sep 13, 2018
Kiishii:
I don't even know how to start, I'm really sad and i know it is my fault, i'm sorry if it's a long read i need advise please bear with me.

When i was still single at age 29, I left a relationship that turned out be a mistake so it took time before i met someone else, at age 31 I noticed changes in my period (one month off, one month on) it has never happened to me before so i didnt take it to be anything, then it started skipping 2 months at a roll, then 3 months, i became worried cos i wasn't sexualy active at all. During this period i met my husband and we started something serious, to be on a safe side i went to see the doctor, he said i was fine that it's hormonal changes, he gave me some drugs (mostly vitamins) but it was still skipping, when my husband proposed, i went back to the doctor, he did series of tests, when results came out he said i'm having symptoms of POF, i was shocked, i cried and cried cos it's unheard of for someone my age, i told him i'm about to get married what can i do he said i should start taking hormonal injections since it's too early to be POF, i started taking it and praying all will be fine, all this while i didnt say a word of this to my husband to be or anyone else, then we got married, i took in immediately, it was the happiest day of my life, when we discovered it was triplets i cried tears of joy to the extent that my husband wondered why i was soo happy, i gave birth to 2 boys and a girl, i really thank God for his faithfulness cos i was soo nervous during the pregnancy.

My period was still skipping, then this year march it stopped completely, i went to see 2 different doctors to be sure, they confirmed i have POF (early menopause), i cried and still thank God cos he blessed me with the fruit of the womb but i couldnt bring myself to tell my husband, then he started noticing i dont buy sanitary pad anymore, he asked thinking i was pregnant i always tell him no, at a point he had to ask me if i want to make the pregnancy a surprise, that was when i knew it's time to tell him the truth, i knelt down and told him everything, i held nothing back, he was shocked that i could do something like that to him, he said i should have told him before we got married, i told him he wouldnt have married me if i told him, he was angry, he said what if the hormonal injections didnt work, it was an expensive and wicked gamble, i told him it worked that's what matters now, he abused me and walked out of the house, he didnt come home till the next day, since then things have never been the same.

He hardly talks to me except when necessary, we dont gist and joke anymore, i always beg and beg him, he says he's forgiven me but he goes back to his moody self, we hardly make love anymore, when he finally does, he doesnt look at my face, now he wants me to quit my job so i'll have my full attention on the kids, recently we had a fight about it and i told him point blank i cant quit my job the kids are fine he said i must do that, he doesnt want anything happening to them since i'm no more fertile, who says that? I cried my eyes out that night, It's not my fault nature took it's course on me, i never imagined something like this would ever happen to me.

Now he doesn't talk to me at all anymore, i'm about to tell both our families everything cos i've begged and begged him and i'm tired, i want anonymous advise that's why i'm here, please please married men and women or whoever, how do i go about this?




Except there's something else bothering your husband, I can't really pin point what your fault lies.........

You kept a secret from him and hopefully and God willingly you have give an all in one package.
Triplets.......2 boys and a girl


Except probably he intends to have 5 or 7 children, then he can go ahead to marry a second wife if that will make his dream accomplished.

If he could not let you quit your job when you were pregnant he can't say he's morally correct to now tell you to quit same job to look at the children and staying at home.

I still don't get the reasoning
Inform your parents, seek their opinion before informing his parents as well in an all inclusive family meeting.

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by SMEConsult(m): 11:54pm On Sep 13, 2018
Just in case this will happen to someone else.

Never tell a person you've been keeping secrets from them especially your spouse. No one wants to hear that.

If you know he's already showing of discovering, don't go on your knees and start spilling.

Tell him you'll see a doctor. Go see a doctor different from the one that treated you. Get the result and cry all the way home.

He will be happy you have 3 kids at once and most likely share testimony of how God knew ahead and gave you the 3 kids before the mishap occurred to shame the devil.

He even now see it as a free pass to sleep with you more since there's not gonna be any fear of pregnancy.

And.... most importantly, your marriage will be protected.

Sometimes attracting sympathy is way better than apologizing.

Now, the deed has been done. Pull on with him. He may never trust you again but there are smart ways to make him do that. Sorry, private message for that.

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by 1Sharon(f): 11:55pm On Sep 13, 2018
Homeboiy:
young girls una dey see am so

Marry on time but una go dey form say u can't marry a man wey no de earn 200k


Well I already know that any man wey dey marry woman wey don pass 30yrs Na rescue mission he go so


It's like buying newspaper in the evening
You are an ignoramus. Just shut it. Prick

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by brodalikeme(m): 11:55pm On Sep 13, 2018
Hmm
Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by nnamdibig(m): 11:55pm On Sep 13, 2018
OP, follow the advise you receive here and you will be the one to write update here in few months time on how your marriage crashed and the advisers will still read and laugh while taking bigger poo from their man and still staying married.

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by Rajosh(m): 11:57pm On Sep 13, 2018
inasmuch as the marriage is more important to you, I don't advise you quit your job because quitting your job will make you miserable. You've talked and begged, he isn't bugging. This has gotten out of hand and you can't handle it alone. I guess it's time you invited both families and leave the rest to God.

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by Legolast: 11:57pm On Sep 13, 2018
Kiishii:
I don't even know how to start, I'm really sad and i know it is my fault, i'm sorry if it's a long read i need advise please bear with me.

When i was still single at age 29, I left a relationship that turned out be a mistake so it took time before i met someone else, at age 31 I noticed changes in my period (one month off, one month on) it has never happened to me before so i didnt take it to be anything, then it started skipping 2 months at a roll, then 3 months, i became worried cos i wasn't sexualy active at all. During this period i met my husband and we started something serious, to be on a safe side i went to see the doctor, he said i was fine that it's hormonal changes, he gave me some drugs (mostly vitamins) but it was still skipping, when my husband proposed, i went back to the doctor, he did series of tests, when results came out he said i'm having symptoms of POF, i was shocked, i cried and cried cos it's unheard of for someone my age, i told him i'm about to get married what can i do he said i should start taking hormonal injections since it's too early to be POF, i started taking it and praying all will be fine, all this while i didnt say a word of this to my husband to be or anyone else, then we got married, i took in immediately, it was the happiest day of my life, when we discovered it was triplets i cried tears of joy to the extent that my husband wondered why i was soo happy, i gave birth to 2 boys and a girl, i really thank God for his faithfulness cos i was soo nervous during the pregnancy.

My period was still skipping, then this year march it stopped completely, i went to see 2 different doctors to be sure, they confirmed i have POF (early menopause), i cried and still thank God cos he blessed me with the fruit of the womb but i couldnt bring myself to tell my husband, then he started noticing i dont buy sanitary pad anymore, he asked thinking i was pregnant i always tell him no, at a point he had to ask me if i want to make the pregnancy a surprise, that was when i knew it's time to tell him the truth, i knelt down and told him everything, i held nothing back, he was shocked that i could do something like that to him, he said i should have told him before we got married, i told him he wouldnt have married me if i told him, he was angry, he said what if the hormonal injections didnt work, it was an expensive and wicked gamble, i told him it worked that's what matters now, he abused me and walked out of the house, he didnt come home till the next day, since then things have never been the same.

He hardly talks to me except when necessary, we dont gist and joke anymore, i always beg and beg him, he says he's forgiven me but he goes back to his moody self, we hardly make love anymore, when he finally does, he doesnt look at my face, now he wants me to quit my job so i'll have my full attention on the kids, recently we had a fight about it and i told him point blank i cant quit my job the kids are fine he said i must do that, he doesnt want anything happening to them since i'm no more fertile, who says that? I cried my eyes out that night, It's not my fault nature took it's course on me, i never imagined something like this would ever happen to me.

Now he doesn't talk to me at all anymore, i'm about to tell both our families everything cos i've begged and begged him and i'm tired, i want anonymous advise that's why i'm here, please please married men and women or whoever, how do i go about this?


This one is hard

I will advise you to follow these steps below:

1. Pray to God Almighty
2. Pray
3. Pray
4. Show him love and care more than the ones you've been doing
5. Pray
6. If he persist, inform your pastor/alfa/someone you know he respects a lot.
7. Repeat step 1 to 5
8. If he persist, inform both your parents
9. Repeat step 1 to 5
10. DO NOT QUIT YOUR JOB!!! No matter what

I mDe mention of pray many times because with God, all things are possible. InshaaAllah, He will soften his heart. Just keep on praying and show him the best care and love you can ever show him. Remember, do not quit your job pleassseee...



BTW, what have you been doing at age 21 to 29? Are you sure it is not your past that is hunting you?

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by tbliss22(m): 11:57pm On Sep 13, 2018
Hello dear, don't get too disturbed by your hubby's attitude. For crying out loud, you didn't create yourself and thank God for his wisdom all over you to have those bouncing baby boys and a girl.

What if you had told him before marriage, he might have left you psychologically depressed which might affect you for the rest of your life.

U have your kids already, pray to God for helpers towards your growing kids. Be sincere with him and apologize just maybe God might touch him

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by Legolast: 12:00am On Sep 14, 2018
bluefilm:
But why did you stop buying sanitary pads?

If you know you want to commit a perfect 'crime', then you MUST know that you will have to plan to the end.

That's common sense 101.

Madam, it's seems like your lack of common sense has landed you in a hot soup.

Now prepare to pay the price.

Just know that the guyman will never trust you again... even if he eventually forgives you.

I have nothing else to say.

You can comment without abusing

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by Biglittlelois(f): 12:01am On Sep 14, 2018
oshe11:
lol....

But dont rush into marriage with the wrong person oooo


Divorce storiesssss don taya me fà

I dey fear marriage as i dey so, wetin be the benefit if not to answer husband and wife then born pikin

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by naijjaman(m): 12:01am On Sep 14, 2018
Kiishii:
I don't even know how to start, I'm really sad and i know it is my fault, i'm sorry if it's a long read i need advise please bear with me.

When i was still single at age 29, I left a relationship that turned out be a mistake so it took time before i met someone else, at age 31 I noticed changes in my period (one month off, one month on) it has never happened to me before so i didnt take it to be anything, then it started skipping 2 months at a roll, then 3 months, i became worried cos i wasn't sexualy active at all. During this period i met my husband and we started something serious, to be on a safe side i went to see the doctor, he said i was fine that it's hormonal changes, he gave me some drugs (mostly vitamins) but it was still skipping, when my husband proposed, i went back to the doctor, he did series of tests, when results came out he said i'm having symptoms of POF, i was shocked, i cried and cried cos it's unheard of for someone my age, i told him i'm about to get married what can i do he said i should start taking hormonal injections since it's too early to be POF, i started taking it and praying all will be fine, all this while i didnt say a word of this to my husband to be or anyone else, then we got married, i took in immediately, it was the happiest day of my life, when we discovered it was triplets i cried tears of joy to the extent that my husband wondered why i was soo happy, i gave birth to 2 boys and a girl, i really thank God for his faithfulness cos i was soo nervous during the pregnancy.

My period was still skipping, then this year march it stopped completely, i went to see 2 different doctors to be sure, they confirmed i have POF (early menopause), i cried and still thank God cos he blessed me with the fruit of the womb but i couldnt bring myself to tell my husband, then he started noticing i dont buy sanitary pad anymore, he asked thinking i was pregnant i always tell him no, at a point he had to ask me if i want to make the pregnancy a surprise, that was when i knew it's time to tell him the truth, i knelt down and told him everything, i held nothing back, he was shocked that i could do something like that to him, he said i should have told him before we got married, i told him he wouldnt have married me if i told him, he was angry, he said what if the hormonal injections didnt work, it was an expensive and wicked gamble, i told him it worked that's what matters now, he abused me and walked out of the house, he didnt come home till the next day, since then things have never been the same.

He hardly talks to me except when necessary, we dont gist and joke anymore, i always beg and beg him, he says he's forgiven me but he goes back to his moody self, we hardly make love anymore, when he finally does, he doesnt look at my face, now he wants me to quit my job so i'll have my full attention on the kids, recently we had a fight about it and i told him point blank i cant quit my job the kids are fine he said i must do that, he doesnt want anything happening to them since i'm no more fertile, who says that? I cried my eyes out that night, It's not my fault nature took it's course on me, i never imagined something like this would ever happen to me.

Now he doesn't talk to me at all anymore, i'm about to tell both our families everything cos i've begged and begged him and i'm tired, i want anonymous advise that's why i'm here, please please married men and women or whoever, how do i go about this?



You are blessed with three kids and you told him the truth and cleared it from your chest, killing yourself for him may not even fix your marriage either. You can't spend your entire life or marriage blaming yourself and thereby getting yourself close to a mental breakdown.

The part I don't understand is why someone who has fallen out of love with you, now want you to quit your job.

Don't even try quitting your job for anyone, right now. Good luck sha!

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by 1Sharon(f): 12:04am On Sep 14, 2018
saajus:
So,stay at home and watching the kids 24/7 will stop bad things happening to them. That will stop fire outbreak. That will stop injury when they are playing in school. That will stop oil tanker explosion on their way to school. Your husband is funny. 3 children are not that risky compare to many people with just 1.

I guessed how you told him caused this problem. The Doctor you met before marriage never confirm POF. I could you have told him then that, you got POF. The only mistake was that you didn't share your medical history with him.

I'm not a fan of secret but your husband need to chill. I'm very sure that there is even a solution somewhere to this POF of a thing.Research.


To be honest she didn't need to tell him anything cos she has kids. Part of the problem is already hidden. She could have have told him she noticed she stopped getting her period like before.

The husband seems like an everlasting bastard tho..

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by SheIsElle(f): 12:04am On Sep 14, 2018
Wilfredpat22:
The truth is that you deceived him. Well we all deceive men one way or the other. You started dating when you were 29, what happened between 21-28, you were sleeping around with married men I guess

This is as a repercussion for the evils you must have done in school and to other women’s homes. Now yours will be shattered. We ladies don’t hear or listen and eventually it will lead to our downfall


Let your husband look for some one fertile and responsible. By the way Are you sure those kids are his?
You are really childish but you won't remain a child forever. One day you will grow up to face fate worse than that of the op, good enough you are a woman, just wait and see.

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by ezugegere(m): 12:06am On Sep 14, 2018
I think your husband is doubting your real age, and I am too

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by luminouz(m): 12:07am On Sep 14, 2018
Kinggnicole:

Lol..were you expecting me to give the cliche Nigerian wife "pray that God touches his heart" advice?

I say it again! She has to leave if it gets to that point. From the write up above, her husband is outright disrespectful and obviously doesn't care about her needs and wants. Imagine telling her to stay and take care of the children so that nothing happens to them since she knows she's not fertile. How insensitive!

OP apologise to him again(if you need to because this is an issue of trust and is quite sensitive too) but tell him squarely that you are not quitting your job. Also give him some more time. If he's not budging , you know what to do.
I know ur not married with this ur mumu ADVICE!!!!

Wee u kip kwayet

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by raydatluvs(m): 12:07am On Sep 14, 2018
My heart is with you as you go through this difficult period.

Although I find it unnecessary that you decided to slap him with all the mind boggling details. More so your explanation of ' if I had told you, would you have married me' is probably the peak of naivety, Like wtf . It shows that it was a well thought out deceit and I hope the kind of angel that appear to Joseph and changed his mind appears to him.

That said,I don't think it's in your place to tell any third party,at least not yet! People process devastations differently so give him time and space but still be around. Even if you need outside counsel, I'll advice a professional one say doctor to clarify whatever he needs.

Finally,I don't think quitting your job will do any good.

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by KingLennon(m): 12:07am On Sep 14, 2018
Wilfredpat22:
The truth is that you deceived him. Well we all deceive men one way or the other. You started dating when you were 29, what happened between 21-28, you were sleeping around with married men I guess

This is as a repercussion for the evils you must have done in school and to other women’s homes. Now yours will be shattered. We ladies don’t hear or listen and eventually it will lead to our downfall


Let your husband look for some one fertile and responsible. By the way Are you sure those kids are his?
If you are a female then your beauty is a waste because you don't have brain and if you are a male then your parents should never celebrate cuz they don't have a child yet. Nonsense....

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by Olamibawse(m): 12:08am On Sep 14, 2018
Kinggnicole:

Lol..were you expecting me to give the cliche Nigerian wife "pray that God touches his heart" advice?

I say it again! She has to leave if it gets to that point. From the write up above, her husband is outright disrespectful and obviously doesn't care about her needs and wants. Imagine telling her to stay and take care of the children so that nothing happens to them since she knows she's not fertile. How insensitive!

OP apologise to him again(if you need to because this is an issue of trust and is quite sensitive too) but tell him squarely that you are not quitting your job. Also give him some more time. If he's not budging , you know what to do.
Well, i think it will be to the best advice of the Op to take the advice of the fellow b4 u.
@kinggnicole, plz is her job more important than her marriage and children?
what if God forbid something happens to any of the children while she was away at work? Won't the husband be even more mad with her?
What if she lost her job tomorrow, won't she look for another job?
If u truly know the value of a family and u know what it means to have a happy one u won't have advised a fellow woman like ursef to leave her home due to hard times that will surely pass..

@Op, what if the hormonal injection didn't work? U know this would have been a different story entirely. the man have every right to be mad cos he felt he was deceived into the marriage but if he truly loves u, he will surely get over it and find ways to support you but he needs time to accept and process all that has happened. Thank God u both have 3 lovely kids.

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Re: POF: My Marriage Is About To Be Ruined Becaus Of A Secret I Kept From My Husband by blackpie(f): 12:09am On Sep 14, 2018
Wilfredpat22:
The truth is that you deceived him. Well we all deceive men one way or the other. You started dating when you were 29, what happened between 21-28, you were sleeping around with married men I guess

This is as a repercussion for the evils you must have done in school and to other women’s homes. Now yours will be shattered. We ladies don’t hear or listen and eventually it will lead to our downfall


Let your husband look for some one fertile and responsible. By the way Are you sure those kids are his?
angry
Wilfredpat22:
The truth is that you deceived him. Well we all deceive men one way or the other. You started dating when you were 29, what happened between 21-28, you were sleeping around with married men I guess

This is as a repercussion for the evils you must have done in school and to other women’s homes. Now yours will be shattered. We ladies don’t hear or listen and eventually it will lead to our downfall


Let your husband look for some one fertile and responsible. By the way Are you sure those kids are his?
bitch

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