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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by connectboi(m): 10:01pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
My sister, though I'm not an expert on relationship or woman affairs but all I know and I see is that your not more a kid and you have to plan your life. 1. If you disagree to lend or give whatever the case maybe, do you have anyone else 2 if you give him all can you bear it In a nutshell I will advice you to put him on a trial be giving him 300k out of the whole money because this is your life saving here I think that amount is not too small if he has God feelings. Perhaps he has family to help him with some money again |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 10:01pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
On a positive side though she could lend him the money and nigga could blow from there and become rich and you'll enjoy the benefits. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by mfm04622: 10:02pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Suzzyyy: Rule number 1: Don't borrow ANYBODY money you can't afford to lose. Only give him money that you won't find killing if he doesn't pay back. Else, the money issue will kill the relationship. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by chimeziedickson: 10:02pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Since he keeps his promises....Do give him something reasonable,it musnt be 700k....but have it at d back of your mind that if he doesn't pay back you will part with it....my humble opinion. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 10:02pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Do not give him your life saving girl. In fact, dont give him anything. If you give him less than what he has asked, there's every possibility he won't start up his business cos of insufficient fund. 850k is all you have, please let him source for funds elsewhere. 2 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 10:04pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
donstan18:You be fool ah swear. Mumu. 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by tosyne2much(m): 10:04pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
EllaSparkles:I wonder where you ladies come across these kind of men sha |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 10:04pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
KMSunshine:As per na your papa get this thread shey? Ode oshi. I can't bet 700k this modafucka ain't up to 20yrs. Coming here to talk shii wif me. Consider your pathetic self ignored. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 10:05pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Suzzyyy: If you borrow him, you are going to regret it.. It's hard for people to pay back debts.. I'm talking from experience. Give him what you can afford to loose which in this case is in the range of 200k. We don't want to see a thread of how you borrowed your boyfriend 700k and he refused paying back. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by KMSunshine: 10:06pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti: E pain am |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 10:07pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Suzzyyy:Don't ever ever lend someone 90% of your life savings. And the dude is not even your husband sef. use your head woman |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by giles14(m): 10:08pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Suzzyyy:commonsense is really not common. after all sense is profitable only to those who can use it. cucuma give him the while 820k. what you will see next is IV inviting to his wedding celebration. how did he even know you heard such amount of money? |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by socialmediaman: 10:09pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
@Suzzyyy Be very careful with serious financial decisions as this, giving away all your savings is a financial risk you should NEVER take in my opinion, you don't have to lend him your whole life and be left with nothing, If you must lend, lend him what you can afford for now, not more than 10% max of your savings (lets say 50k to 80k max), that's significant enough, he can put that into his business while working on figuring out how to settle his debts gradually with time. Please note, you cannot afford to give away 700,000 out of only 820,000 of your total savings, it is not financially responsible, i want you to understand this. Even if it was your own financial challenge, i would not advise you to empty your bank account to rebuild a failed business. Sit down with him and discuss his plans about solving this present financial challenge. Find out the details of this problem before you offer any help, since you're getting involved with helping him solve the problem, its fair that he lets you in on it with more information. Know exactly where your money is going into, that is, is it going into his business or into debt repayment? Work out feasible ways to move forward and possible repayment plan |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by momove4real25(f): 10:11pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
donstan18:kikikikikikikikikik |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by ultiabaz36(m): 10:15pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Don't forget the word "BOYFRIEND " It is a major factor |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by teceejay1: 10:16pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
There are things to consider before giving him the money. - What if he couldn't refund it, will you be willing to let go? Because even if he has a good heart, circumstances may not allow him to repay the loan. And if you ask him, he may feel you're not understanding enough. The suggestion is if you're giving him, just make up your mind that peradventure he couldn't repay the loan, you'll be able to cope fine. - Then, if it's your Business savings, consider that you may find yourself in some challenging situation in your Business too, can you cope without a back up? It's not a wise decision to empty your Business Account. That can equally send you out of Business. And note that he's already indebted to a lot of persons, so repaying yours may not be on priority list. Will you still love him if he can't repay the loan? These are questions you should ask before you take any step. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by viktohmarkz(m): 10:17pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
yazz09: if I where you I'll take this |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by ttmax09(m): 10:26pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Thank God i opened this thread na here we go sieve the chaff from the millet ***grabs a chair*** |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 10:27pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Suzzyyy:Aunty please hive to him, he'll for ever be grateful and he'll respect you. do it like you are doing it for God. he needs you now, responsible guys never forget who helped them when they are down. don't give him anything less than 300k-500k. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by baby124: 10:31pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
You even need to let go of this relationship. Now that you cannot give him the money he requested he will resent you and not marry you. This is why you DO NOT show people your account because they start planning how to spend your money. Without thinking that you have planned how to use all that money to the last one naira in the account. 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Rubbiish(m): 10:32pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
emmaodet:@bold for d sake of kids...not that it is really worth it though... Mind u considerable number of ladies are like saff, just that she voiced it. u can deduce that from their comments. We see how husband buy cars worth millions for their wives on birthdays & anniversary here on nairaland daily, how many women have u seen doing same for their man? Here we have someone screaming she cant give her hubby 700k?? Anything a woman step into, is only abt what she can gain... |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by fhranchez(m): 10:37pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
girl, you are 29 and unmarried just use that 700k to buy your ticket for marriage...... ask me why because you're never getting your money back in the nearest future. just take it as if you helped your husband business.. that way you go follow chop the money. if he doesn't marry you and doesn't pay you girl, you've lost all
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Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by baby124: 10:38pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Rubbiish:700k is 80% of her savings. I am sure you cannot give 50% of your savings to your dying relative not to talk of your wife. Think before you spew rubbish like your name implies. So after giving him 80% of her savings how is she supposed to manage recurrent expenditures in her personal life and business? You want her to spend her money till she runs down so that she and the man will both be broke and useless abi. You are the type The is restless when they see a woman has money and will not hesistate to make her squander it all so you can feel like a man. Any human that has the guts to ask for 80% of another’s savings is simply wicked and has a plan. 2 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by fancy4eve(f): 10:41pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Dou he has helped in d past, but he gave wat he cn let go, so my dear, just Gv him wat u can let go, in order 4 u not 2 b @ d loosing side. 4get luv nd tink wit ur head ohk. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by fancy4eve(f): 10:41pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Dou he has helped in d past, but he gave wat he could let go, so my dear, just Gv him wat u can let go, in order 4 u not 2 b @ d loosing end. 4get luv nd use ur head ohk. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Nobody: 10:43pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Refreshingly, she has given meat to the notion that ladies by default are self centered and selfish. The same dude gave you a whole 100k at a time when your business needed a breath of cash to survive. You didn't pay back. You didn't come online to ask us if you should accept the money or if he was testing you. I bet at that time, the relationship was barely 2yrs old.. Fwd to when he needs your help, he has proven to be loyal and trustworthy, the relationship has firmed up, then you come online to declare and to ask opinion from us who don't even know you or your bf. It's typical of women when they want to offer help or after they have offered help, they would red flag it and trumpet it. Just one Bleep up from you, even if it's 10yrs after, and they would remind you how they saved your career. I wish I could meet the guy whose condition made him to stoop low to ask you for money in private, yet you brought it online. It's certainly condition that makes crayfish bend. I would advice him to take an interest loan from the bank for it's better to take a loan with peace of mind than to be 'helped' and be a financial captive. I wouldn't even mind giving him an interest free loan to sort his ish out. No man should be made to suffer such ridicule. 3 Likes |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Rubbiish(m): 10:43pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
NwanyiAwkaetiti:That's my girl...Now u are talking. It is a two way thing, we shouldn't always look at d negative...What is important is knowing if d guy is responsible & good headed. Her past dealings with him should tell d kind of person he is. Good people hardly forget who helps them, it played out in the life of stella obasanjo & wizkid also alluded to it in his chat with his babymama. Op if u can't help your man now, it is best u end that relationship, if things eventually turns out well for him, just know he won't treat u right. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Rubbiish(m): 10:47pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
fancy4eve:How did u come abt this? Do u know if all he had when he gave her d 100k was 120k? Dont jump into hasty conclusion |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by extraswag007(m): 10:50pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Suzzyyy:Oh I'm so disappointed with the comments I'm reading on this thread and it's so disheartening knowing they're all coming from women who definitely want to build a home with a gentleman someday...Oh I so much pity that Man. Now back to the situation on ground, I trust you've heard enough and you've made your decision already but one last thing I'll love to tell you is this, Always remember whether you help him or not, he will get back to his feet and never forget in a hurry that you can be in his shoes someday. 1 Like |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by Rubbiish(m): 10:50pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
baby124:Wasn't expecting anything less from u...Thought your man hating had led astray by now...Surprised u still here... |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by yenereal(m): 11:00pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
It is now like you want to bet. Rule is: Don't stake what you cant afford to lose. In the same vein, dont lend what you cant afford to lose. He needed 700k, that doesn't mean you should give him that. I'm into business too and I know sometimes things doesn't work out as I often imagine. He might analyze how he would spend the money and it looks almost real and cool, but mind you, that's just a forecast. It might end up not working as he assumed it would. Be careful and listen to the good advice which you've been given. |
Re: I Love My Boyfriend But I Am So Scared Of Lending Him 700k by fancy4eve(f): 11:02pm On Sep 23, 2018 |
Rubbiish:no man, I repeat no man will risk 100k out of his 120k, so tink b4 u talk. Hv seen so many cases dat ended in big fight, so dear, to avoid long story, u Gv wat u cn let go. |
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