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Babyforever:
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No Make Me Bite You

joshjc:
that's why I don't have a girlfriend, women with dem wahala

and your premier soap is doing the magic.... I understand...

I must commend your command of grammar parse... I love your write-up literally.
Now, No matter how I wish to come in, some unanswered questions still pop in.
Do you wish to practice practical-christian-relationship with her? Do you wish to get married to a dedicated christian woman? Have you weighed your options? If you have, then you have your solution already!

My case is almost as similar but the reverse. Am creating a thread for it soon.... What if its the guy that wanna stop sxx and the lady insists??

Goldmaxx:
and your premier soap is doing the magic.... I understand...

i don't do that,

oforapor you sure say this girl never use ya glory so. After she disvirgin you,she now aaahh agbabiaka oooo. This girldon do you strong thing na him make you dey feel am like that.Seek God bro

geek4k:
I Need Help! I'm Emotionally Traumatized.

Hi guys!

It's quite a long read so I've tried make it as concise as possible..

I bet you'll enjoy every piece as you thumb through.

We've known each other for some time before i asked her out. She gave a "Yes" sometime on August 2014, which has practically made the relationship 4 years old.

At the earlier stage, we had great feelings towards each other, we where literally submerged in love, did stupid and childish things together. Y'al know what love turns one into nah.

We where practicing a distance relationship. Same city, although just a 45min road trip kept us apart ~ we never denied visiting each other as we often did. thanks to 2go and what'sapp.

Time past, amidst the minor quarrels we had a greater reason to remain put, we grew stronger in love ~ i bet we had the best teenaged age. Got to a point we believed we where both destined for each other i was even prepared to tie the knot if only nature treated my pocket right.

All the while, we never had any bed intimacy only kisses and bla bla... Not until sometime 2017 when i went in. Arrghh! Very awkward i must say, just try to imagine where 2 novices are trying to make something of it. All through the session i was just looking for my way in.

The subsequent attempts after taking several xx video tutorials was fairly good NOT GREAT because she had a very bad sex beginning; a rape victim to be precise and that experience corrupted alot in her sex life. You don't want me to go into details, I hate to too.

[b]Note: [/b]She is a very brilliant girl who got great personality, more reason i loved her wholeheartedly. The not-too-great sex paragraphs isn't made to sabotage her memory but because it's a cornerstone of my ordeal with her.

Heads up guys! She started having issues with the sex experience thing. Not because it wasn't SO GREAT but because it makes her backslide from her faith. Ohh didn't i mention? She's from a very strong Christian home.

I guess the devil took its chances on us, never wondered why it took so long before her realization. Now she's trying to be that born again kind of person again. Guys! I'm sure you know what that means.

The privileges i used to enjoy as a boyfriend where all ripped away not even a kiss or bla bla to manage almost drove me into maturating. Not just that, this is also garnished with some funny acts, not having my time et all. On my end it seems she utterly turned her back against me.

The whole quarrels erupted and all made me look myself like a devil trying to deviate God's child. I on the other end I'm just a lover boy trying to fight back for his feelings.

Things deteriorated, we hardly talk and even if we do wouldn't last more than a minute, all the while i was just drowning in sadness and heartbreak.

I still remember when we broke up our sexual relationship and remained good casual friends. My mind chose to cut any connections with her but my heart said otherwise. I couldn't cut it down, the imaginations of never seeing her again dreaded me even.

Bluntly speaking. I'm very emotionally sensitive with dealings with her. My happiness depends hugely on her, hence, any unfair act she gives set my heart ablaze. that's exaggerated though, but it's just as bad as that. Every now and then I'm always emotionally traumatized and this has bad effects on me.

My Regrets?
I wouldn't blame myself much because i was inexperienced and naive when our feelings was blossoming, I let loose my 100% heart commitment and now the consequences is just as fatal.

If i had known and took precautions earlier I'd have moved on with my life by now. But unfortunately, the reverse is just the case here.

Back to the present.
I've discovered that even the casual friendship hurts me. I mean Yes! No sex, no kisses i get it! I don't just get a dedication from her, no special moments everything is just as boring AF and this disgusts me.

This is where your I need advise.
Respective of the fact I'm still emotionally attached to her, I've accepted my faith of letting her go the issue now is doing this practically. It's just too difficult for me to handle.

Beside this, i feel we might later need each others help one way or another as we're both distant learners in same institution.

The feeling of not seeing her ever again dreads me alot whilst i doubt I'm capable of moving on if i don't cut her completely of my life.

Sometimes I feel the cause of this crazy feelings is because she deflower me. I don't just know why it's this much.

[b]Note.[/b]It might sound to you that she stopped loving me or never had feelings for me. But the fact is she's too very in love with me all along even till now. Her faith is just strong and nothing can supersede it.

Insults are welcome. But first understand its usefulness her before you waste that effort.

What do you think i should do guys?

So you don't want to repent like her?

Bro, i can relate to your story... To me, this is just like a break up saga. It will be very difficult to cut her off, since she is d one that gave you ur first sexual experience. As it is, woman are hard-minded when they make up thier mind on emotional thing. She has made up her mind and changing her mind will be very difficult. By the way, are u sure she has not seen another man that knows how to drill that thing than you novice, cos i can never trust woman again in my life based on my personal experience. I was once in your shoe though my own was clear case of break up, it was hell for me, my life was mysrable for sometimes, but later on i moved on and time later healed the wound. Now, i am stll thanking God for the breakup cos i never knew i was a prisoner of love then. The break up made me vulnerable to many other fine chicks outside that outmatch my ex. So the breakup was like a freedom to me. So, i will advice that you take your time to flock around ladies, find one or two that will emotionally keep you busy, drill thier pussy when necessary, i am sure in the next couple of times, i am sure you will see this your born again girl as shit...

Liliyann:
I took out time to read the crap you wrote and I wasn't disappointed as usual!!!
Not even a sentence stating when you had to give her money for shopping or get gifts for her!!!
I commend the girl act of wisdom!!
How do you expect her to open up for someone that can not even take care of her financial needs??
Relationship are for real men with enough cash and not for penniless boys!!!

Gold digger spotted....so your father did not provide all that for you that you now pass the responsibility to another guy and see that as a yardstick to judge real men, you go soon get your so called real man who will turn you to a punching bag.....tell me, how much does your brothers spend on another woman, it is your type that send naive men to their early grave...i pity the man that will fall prey to your antics....slay mama

Just go back to the basics

How old are you?

Liliyann:
I took out time to read the crap you wrote and I wasn't disappointed as usual!!!
Not even a sentence stating when you had to give her money for shopping or get gifts for her!!!
I commend the girl act of wisdom!!
How do you expect her to open up for someone that can not even take care of her financial needs??
Relationship are for real men with enough cash and not for penniless boys!!!

Shame on you

Amakavula:
OP you failed, you don't dick her like your idea feel depended on it. you don't do it like it's your last day on Earth that's why she has gone to meet Jesus, the author and finisher if you know what I mean.. �

Bad girl

Very simple, you too become born-again like her. She's absolutely doing the right thing!

There is nothing selfish about it. She is an adult who made her decision. Respect her wishes.

geek4k:
I'm sure the problem is the latter. I honestly respect her wish and desire but don't you think it's selfish and a wicked act? I mean she just left me dating myself.

Liliyann:
I took out time to read the crap you wrote and I wasn't disappointed as usual!!!
Not even a sentence stating when you had to give her money for shopping or get gifts for her!!!
I commend the girl act of wisdom!!
How do you expect her to open up for someone that can not even take care of her financial needs??
Relationship are for real men with enough cash and not for penniless boys!!!

lol na ur type see relationship as a business venture, because he has sex with you (sex u both enjoy o) so u will turn him to money bank, put all ur expenses on him even things the gal can't ask her parents for.... Reason I never ask gals for sex Cus once u do that u open the door for them to begin demanding. And for the guy I understand u well. Am kinda in the same boat with u, my advice if u really love her u guys shud seat and talk abt it, it might not just be religion related. Cus she has feelings too and don't be deceive gals get the feeling from time to time too like guys. So asked her the real reason why. And if she still insist is on religion base guy lock up if u really love her and she loves u too then wait....its her body she has all the right to keep herslf with how guys jump around from gals to gals claiming love when its really lust.. Beside why eat hot plantain on fire if its urs anyways no rush bro

geek4k:
I Need Help! I'm Emotionally Traumatized.

Sometimes I feel the cause of this crazy feelings is because[b] she deflower me[/b]. I don't just know why it's this much.

What is this idiocy about a man being deflowered?!! Who brought this plague on 21st century guys? Men being virgin, men being deflowered.

geek4k:
I Need Help! I'm Emotionally Traumatized.

Hi guys!

It's quite a long read so I've tried make it as concise as possible..

I bet you'll enjoy every piece as you thumb through.

We've known each other for some time before i asked her out. She gave a "Yes" sometime on August 2014, which has practically made the relationship 4 years old.

At the earlier stage, we had great feelings towards each other, we where literally submerged in love, did stupid and childish things together. Y'al know what love turns one into nah.

We where practicing a distance relationship. Same city, although just a 45min road trip kept us apart ~ we never denied visiting each other as we often did. thanks to 2go and what'sapp.

Time past, amidst the minor quarrels we had a greater reason to remain put, we grew stronger in love ~ i bet we had the best teenaged age. Got to a point we believed we where both destined for each other i was even prepared to tie the knot if only nature treated my pocket right.

All the while, we never had any bed intimacy only kisses and bla bla... Not until sometime 2017 when i went in. Arrghh! Very awkward i must say, just try to imagine where 2 novices are trying to make something of it. All through the session i was just looking for my way in.

The subsequent attempts after taking several xx video tutorials was fairly good NOT GREAT because she had a very bad sex beginning; a rape victim to be precise and that experience corrupted alot in her sex life. You don't want me to go into details, I hate to too.

[b]Note: [/b]She is a very brilliant girl who got great personality, more reason i loved her wholeheartedly. The not-too-great sex paragraphs isn't made to sabotage her memory but because it's a cornerstone of my ordeal with her.

Heads up guys! She started having issues with the sex experience thing. Not because it wasn't SO GREAT but because it makes her backslide from her faith. Ohh didn't i mention? She's from a very strong Christian home.

I guess the devil took its chances on us, never wondered why it took so long before her realization. Now she's trying to be that born again kind of person again. Guys! I'm sure you know what that means.

The privileges i used to enjoy as a boyfriend where all ripped away not even a kiss or bla bla to manage almost drove me into maturating. Not just that, this is also garnished with some funny acts, not having my time et all. On my end it seems she utterly turned her back against me.

The whole quarrels erupted and all made me look myself like a devil trying to deviate God's child. I on the other end I'm just a lover boy trying to fight back for his feelings.

Things deteriorated, we hardly talk and even if we do wouldn't last more than a minute, all the while i was just drowning in sadness and heartbreak.

I still remember when we broke up our sexual relationship and remained good casual friends. My mind chose to cut any connections with her but my heart said otherwise. I couldn't cut it down, the imaginations of never seeing her again dreaded me even.

Bluntly speaking. I'm very emotionally sensitive with dealings with her. My happiness depends hugely on her, hence, any unfair act she gives set my heart ablaze. that's exaggerated though, but it's just as bad as that. Every now and then I'm always emotionally traumatized and this has bad effects on me.

My Regrets?
I wouldn't blame myself much because i was inexperienced and naive when our feelings was blossoming, I let loose my 100% heart commitment and now the consequences is just as fatal.

If i had known and took precautions earlier I'd have moved on with my life by now. But unfortunately, the reverse is just the case here.

Back to the present.
I've discovered that even the casual friendship hurts me. I mean Yes! No sex, no kisses i get it! I don't just get a dedication from her, no special moments everything is just as boring AF and this disgusts me.

This is where your I need advise.
Respective of the fact I'm still emotionally attached to her, I've accepted my faith of letting her go the issue now is doing this practically. It's just too difficult for me to handle.

Beside this, i feel we might later need each others help one way or another as we're both distant learners in same institution.

The feeling of not seeing her ever again dreads me alot whilst i doubt I'm capable of moving on if i don't cut her completely of my life.

Sometimes I feel the cause of this crazy feelings is because she deflower me. I don't just know why it's this much.

[b]Note.[/b]It might sound to you that she stopped loving me or never had feelings for me. But the fact is she's too very in love with me all along even till now. Her faith is just strong and nothing can supersede it.

Insults are welcome. But first understand its usefulness her before you waste that effort.

What do you think i should do guys?

what you should do?

Ogbeni marry her and enjoy full benefits otherwise keep your gun to your pants

Liliyann:
I took out time to read the crap you wrote and I wasn't disappointed as usual!!!
Not even a sentence stating when you had to give her money for shopping or get gifts for her!!!
I commend the girl act of wisdom!!
How do you expect her to open up for someone that can not even take care of her financial needs??
Relationship are for real men with enough cash and not for penniless boys!!!

Alainironu akindanidani.

Alphafeezay:
Get yourself another girl, a sex freak that will Bleep her outta ur memories!!!

Ignore my above advise pls, just kidding.

Seriously, just try and figure out if she is not being distracted by any other dude, then give her the space and get yourself productively busy, and mehn, abstain and try to tie the knot with her.
I wish you luck bro.

Ur above advice was what I did at my own time of heartbreak and it worked like magic... Trust me that guy should take the advice.

MartinsD12:
Stop spoiling another man's daughter since you can't marry her 4 years of sexual relationship that's bad

Did you even ask of their age, una own no pass 4years and marriage .So people between 18-23 should go and get married abi

Alphafeezay:
Get yourself another girl, a sex freak that will Bleep her outta ur memories!!!

Ignore my above advise pls, just kidding.

Seriously, just try and figure out if she is not being distracted by any other dude, then give her the space and get yourself productively busy, and mehn, abstain and try to tie the knot with her.
I wish you luck bro.

Ur above advice was what I did at my own time of heartbreak and it worked like magic... Trust me that guy should take the advice.

so you couldn't wait until you get married before you do the do, smh pls someone should help me with that Lil Wayne's meme.Abi na only women be suppose be fargin on wedding nite. mtcheeewwwww

[color=#000099][/color] ion know what to say. But bro just hang on. You'll see the result of patience. If she loves your as much as you love her. Then she'll definitely come back to the old self she was. Your story is nice and touching. I'm in almost same relationship with ya but mine is a no sex until marriage. But we don't have complication for now and i don't pray to have any in future. Thanks.

[/b][b]Note.[/b]It might sound to you that she stopped loving me or never had feelings for me. But the fact is she's too very in love with me all along even till now. Her faith is just strong and nothing can supersede it.

Insults are welcome. But first understand its usefulness her before you waste that effort.

What do you think i should do guys?[/quote][b]

And what is wrong with her faith Oga? There is noting wrong with redefining one's standards if u ask me. And judging from all she has been through and how foresighted u attested of her, i fink u should let her be pls. The only thing I can tell you to do is communicate with her. Shift grounds and Be open to her. If you can't cope with her new standards ,take a bow and leave her very simple and straight forward.
las las, evryone go dey alright.
Btw, sex is seriously not everything.

geek4k:
I Need Help! I'm Emotionally Traumatized.

Hi guys!

It's quite a long read so I've tried make it as concise as possible..

I bet you'll enjoy every piece as you thumb through.

We've known each other for some time before i asked her out. She gave a "Yes" sometime on August 2014, which has practically made the relationship 4 years old.

At the earlier stage, we had great feelings towards each other, we where literally submerged in love, did stupid and childish things together. Y'al know what love turns one into nah.

We where practicing a distance relationship. Same city, although just a 45min road trip kept us apart ~ we never denied visiting each other as we often did. thanks to 2go and what'sapp.

Time past, amidst the minor quarrels we had a greater reason to remain put, we grew stronger in love ~ i bet we had the best teenaged age. Got to a point we believed we where both destined for each other i was even prepared to tie the knot if only nature treated my pocket right.

All the while, we never had any bed intimacy only kisses and bla bla... Not until sometime 2017 when i went in. Arrghh! Very awkward i must say, just try to imagine where 2 novices are trying to make something of it. All through the session i was just looking for my way in.

The subsequent attempts after taking several xx video tutorials was fairly good NOT GREAT because she had a very bad sex beginning; a rape victim to be precise and that experience corrupted alot in her sex life. You don't want me to go into details, I hate to too.

[b]Note: [/b]She is a very brilliant girl who got great personality, more reason i loved her wholeheartedly. The not-too-great sex paragraphs isn't made to sabotage her memory but because it's a cornerstone of my ordeal with her.

Heads up guys! She started having issues with the sex experience thing. Not because it wasn't SO GREAT but because it makes her backslide from her faith. Ohh didn't i mention? She's from a very strong Christian home.

I guess the devil took its chances on us, never wondered why it took so long before her realization. Now she's trying to be that born again kind of person again. Guys! I'm sure you know what that means.

The privileges i used to enjoy as a boyfriend where all ripped away not even a kiss or bla bla to manage almost drove me into maturating. Not just that, this is also garnished with some funny acts, not having my time et all. On my end it seems she utterly turned her back against me.

The whole quarrels erupted and all made me look myself like a devil trying to deviate God's child. I on the other end I'm just a lover boy trying to fight back for his feelings.

Things deteriorated, we hardly talk and even if we do wouldn't last more than a minute, all the while i was just drowning in sadness and heartbreak.

I still remember when we broke up our sexual relationship and remained good casual friends. My mind chose to cut any connections with her but my heart said otherwise. I couldn't cut it down, the imaginations of never seeing her again dreaded me even.

Bluntly speaking. I'm very emotionally sensitive with dealings with her. My happiness depends hugely on her, hence, any unfair act she gives set my heart ablaze. that's exaggerated though, but it's just as bad as that. Every now and then I'm always emotionally traumatized and this has bad effects on me.

My Regrets?
I wouldn't blame myself much because i was inexperienced and naive when our feelings was blossoming, I let loose my 100% heart commitment and now the consequences is just as fatal.

If i had known and took precautions earlier I'd have moved on with my life by now. But unfortunately, the reverse is just the case here.

Back to the present.
I've discovered that even the casual friendship hurts me. I mean Yes! No sex, no kisses i get it! I don't just get a dedication from her, no special moments everything is just as boring AF and this disgusts me.

This is where your I need advise.
Respective of the fact I'm still emotionally attached to her, I've accepted my faith of letting her go the issue now is doing this practically. It's just too difficult for me to handle.

Beside this, i feel we might later need each others help one way or another as we're both distant learners in same institution.

The feeling of not seeing her ever again dreads me alot whilst i doubt I'm capable of moving on if i don't cut her completely of my life.

Sometimes I feel the cause of this crazy feelings is because she deflower me. I don't just know why it's this much.

[b]Note.[/b]It might sound to you that she stopped loving me or never had feelings for me. But the fact is she's too very in love with me all along even till now. Her faith is just strong and nothing can supersede it.

Insults are welcome. But first understand its usefulness her before you waste that effort.

What do you think i should do guys?

And what is wrong with her faith Oga? There is noting wrong with redefining one's standards if u ask me. And judging from all she has been through and how foresighted u attested of her, i fink u should let her be pls. The only thing I can tell you to do is communicate with her. Shift grounds and Be open to her. If you can't cope with her new standards ,take a bow and leave her very simple and straight forward.
las las, evryone go dey alright.
Btw, sex is seriously not everything.

She has taken the best decision of her life: giving up a life of sin and putting God first. You can never change that because the Holy Spirit has empowered her to take that great decision in spite of herself. What you feel now is not love for her but infatuation. Real love will make you to respect her decision. Maybe you started out loving her before you both ruined it with acts of sin: kissing, smooshing, caressing and love making. Of course, the peak is sex! These acts will definitely fuel your emotions and colour otherwise true relationship, changing the basis of togetherness from love to sex. Because each time you are together, instead for you to talk about edifying things, things that will improve or shape your relationship - all the talks will be a prelude to sex with lots of touching and kissing. This is not love! You are hooked by infatuation and the spirit of sexual peversion. Sex is not to be experienced when you are not married. It is a very strong tool to consummate marriage. Because it is capable of inflamming emotions and make them look like they are rooted in love. So you need help! Give your life to Jesus Christ. Confess your sins to Him and ask Him to take over your heart. Devote your time to serving Him and He will fill your heart again with joy unspeakale. Leave her and stop calling her. Infact, cut off contacts with her. If God meant for you to come together again, it will happen on its own accord without cultivation. If you follow my advice, you will thank me one day. God bless you.

Repent and seek Christ. That is your best solution.

Raydans:
Get yourself another girl. I think that's what you should do.






Real men. That term has been used to blackmail many men to their early grave by lazy & broke ass thing like you.
Don't you want to be a real woman too with your two hands
Relationship are for real women not for penniless culprit like you!!!

For this, I declare you a REAL MAN.

Sorry bro....most of the time, first love is just experimental love..
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Your true love will come along, with or without the sex
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Always remember it's not always about sex.
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Keep your head up

TarOrfeek:
Your talking like somebody that will soon buy Sniper.



Make sure you go with change. Make them no owe you for here and for there too.

Lwkmd....