LaBozz:
I have been dating this girl for almost a year now and things have been going smooth with us until recently. I just don't know were the desperation for marriage came from. Now we barely have a normal conversation without the marriage issue coming up.

Though I don't have a steady job per say, I am a business man and am able to make myself a good some of money every week which isn't so bad. She is also working and makes around 60k every month. I have been telling her to relax a little bit so we can plan properly and get ourselves ready for the life time journey together, but she won't listen.

Her own is that in her place once a girl has graduated from school everyone is expecting her to get married. She will even bring up issues of the young girls getting married in her church and she is the only single were she works even though she is actually the youngest in her office.

She is just 24 years of age and almost 25 so she keeps saying she set a deadline for herself to get married before 25. The worse part is that sometimes she tries to threaten me that so many guys are asking for her hand in marriage but she doesn't want them, its me she wants.

This whole desperation is getting on my nerve and I really don't want to rush into marriage because her people want her to get married. So am thinking of calling the relationship off so that she can go and marry one of those men she said is asking her hand in marriage and I will wish her all the best.

Just so you know, am not trying to be tribalistic here, she is Yoruba and said that's how things are done in their culture so I don't know if that's true or she is just making all that up.

What is the essence of a relationship? It's marriage......... When you knew you are not ready for marriage, why delve into a relationship?

Dating for 12 months with no possible date of marriage at this rate, even after 5 years of relationship, the bells would not ring .......

Set her free ..........

Jamariwolff:
Arrant nonsense!

I don't know why you guys think ladies are fools.
You've been fûcking here like constant K for the past 1 year, what is holding u from proposing?
Or you're waiting till u enlarge the whole area abi?!

My own is 3 months max, if you ain't talking marriage then bye boy!
I won't even allow you fûck me much in these 3 months.

So are you married now? Are you a virgin? Please stop fooling yourself

get money
get rich
forget the bich
she aint worth shiiit

Just tell her to come and marry u nah

LaBozz:


That is what I have been preaching for the past 2 months now. She is giving me deadline till December and I hope to call it quit before then since she isn't listening to me anymore.

lol

LaBozz:
I have been dating this girl for almost a year now and things have been going smooth with us until recently. I just don't know were the desperation for marriage came from. Now we barely have a normal conversation without the marriage issue coming up.

Though I don't have a steady job per say, I am a business man and am able to make myself a good some of money every week which isn't so bad. She is also working and makes around 60k every month. I have been telling her to relax a little bit so we can plan properly and get ourselves ready for the life time journey together, but she won't listen.

Her own is that in her place once a girl has graduated from school everyone is expecting her to get married. She will even bring up issues of the young girls getting married in her church and she is the only single were she works even though she is actually the youngest in her office.

She is just 24 years of age and almost 25 so she keeps saying she set a deadline for herself to get married before 25. The worse part is that sometimes she tries to threaten me that so many guys are asking for her hand in marriage but she doesn't want them, its me she wants.

This whole desperation is getting on my nerve and I really don't want to rush into marriage because her people want her to get married. So am thinking of calling the relationship off so that she can go and marry one of those men she said is asking her hand in marriage and I will wish her all the best.

Just so you know, am not trying to be tribalistic here, she is Yoruba and said that's how things are done in their culture so I don't know if that's true or she is just making all that up.

if she refuses to listen to you promuse her a year of marriage, dump her ass. This is nt the time to rush into a marriage

dingbang:
Sit her down and talk to sense into her

How many times do you want the nigga to sit her down naaaa?

Though i don't know him in person, I feel they must have stood, sat, hang, fly just to talk sense into her but no way.

3 years later she go still single

Oga make money first oh.

Money comes 2nd after God 1st and every other thing on planet earth follow after money.

And by the way, why marriage?

I advice you go for baby mama option is the best.

You don't spend much and no stress at all.

Hahaha Wey I bn dey find gal Wey go speed me up!

Jamariwolff:
Arrant nonsense!

I don't know why you guys think ladies are fools.
You've been fûcking here like constant K for the past 1 year, what is holding u from proposing?
Or you're waiting till u enlarge the whole area abi?!

My own is 3 months max, if you ain't talking marriage then bye boy!
I won't even allow you fûck me much in these 3 months.

Lmao!
So anybody will just woo you,you'll accept and then he'll fvck you for three month,after three months he'll tell you he's not interested in marriage and you guys will depart, the cycle will go on and on again
And you're even proud to say it??..
Problem gidi leleyi o!

As for me oo, i must marry enter my own house. i never see d rush rush wey go stop am.

Where is buhari son?

computergeek:
No man should ever rush into marriage. You have to take your time and ensure that you're financially Comfortable and confident. Abi after wedding and ceremonies, you and your wife will move to the streets?

Women naturally have to get married early, because we have biological clocks that are constantly ticking. If there are other guys coming for her, kukuma let her go and be happy.

Focus on making money. Then find yourself another woman. Simple. It may not be easy if you guys really love each other, but this situation is too messy for you to continue.

op, take this advice.

We love who we chose to love.

You can love another lady with time.

Focus on improving your financial life first.

Most Nigerian ladies based in Nigeria are mostly interested in men for marriage once they reach 25yrs. Any man that says hello to them on the street becomes a suitor and a potential husband.

Let her go and marry the guys ready to marry her, pls don't keep her waiting pls. Don't worry, once u are ready u must find a suitable lady to marry.

Marry her or lose her.

At least propose to her.

That's if you love her

Marriage is Important but Money is Importanter...You will not feed her with garri And groundnut..Remember pampers and Sma Gold money in another 10 months if you be sharp shooter...you should be financially and mentally ready..it is a mental something..Pls I'll advice you not to rush..And have this at the back of your mind bro..whatever that would be yours would yours..Take your time and be happy..peace ✌✌✌✌✌

dingbang:
Sit her down and talk to sense into her

Sit down and fukk sense into her

LaBozz:
I have been dating this girl for almost a year now and things have been going smooth with us until recently. I just don't know were the desperation for marriage came from. Now we barely have a normal conversation without the marriage issue coming up.

Though I don't have a steady job per say, I am a business man and am able to make myself a good some of money every week which isn't so bad. She is also working and makes around 60k every month. I have been telling her to relax a little bit so we can plan properly and get ourselves ready for the life time journey together, but she won't listen.

Her own is that in her place once a girl has graduated from school everyone is expecting her to get married. She will even bring up issues of the young girls getting married in her church and she is the only single were she works even though she is actually the youngest in her office.

She is just 24 years of age and almost 25 so she keeps saying she set a deadline for herself to get married before 25. The worse part is that sometimes she tries to threaten me that so many guys are asking for her hand in marriage but she doesn't want them, its me she wants.

This whole desperation is getting on my nerve and I really don't want to rush into marriage because her people want her to get married. So am thinking of calling the relationship off so that she can go and marry one of those men she said is asking her hand in marriage and I will wish her all the best.

Just so you know, am not trying to be tribalistic here, she is Yoruba and said that's how things are done in their culture so I don't know if that's true or she is just making all that up.

Before any reasonable comment, we need to hear her side of the Story. I smell rats...

THANKS SO MUCH. THIS IS A NICE ADVICE. BUT IF ONLY THE STORY IS REAL....

my guy delay her till she's 30 and breakup with her, not every relationship must end in marriage...we need to teach these girls a lesson dat they actually need us to be complete and it ain't the oda way round.

Quiet the relationship that is d same reason l quiet mine last two month.manup boy.

So after u ve Bleep her tire,u want dump her abi,u may nt find good girl like dat if u miss ds opportunity

My friend Letting her go shows that you don't love her bro

Jamariwolff:
Arrant nonsense!

I don't know why you guys think ladies are fools.
You've been fûcking here like constant K for the past 1 year, what is holding u from proposing?
Or you're waiting till u enlarge the whole area abi?!

My own is 3 months max, if you ain't talking marriage then bye boy!
I won't even allow you fûck me much in these 3 months.

so you haven't been in a relationship before or do they all propose to you within 3 months... All the guys fûcking you have been proposing no wonder!!

Let her go.

Nonsense.

If you ever fall for that trick, you're done for.

If a girl becomes desperate for marriage, just let her be and tell her that you will not allow yourself to be pressurized into making hasty decisions.

But wait a minute... do you ever plan to marry her or are you marking your time and waiting for the next best thing to come?

You need to set your own priorities right.

If there's a reason why you don't want to marry her or marry at all right now, you just have to let her know so that she will go while she's still marketable.

LivingFree:


Relationships have levels and commitment in stages... he's obviously reluctant to discuss the next stage of their relationship. The girl isn't wrong to speak her mind and he needs respond. Simple!

I agree.

LaBozz:


Am telling you bro. The worse thing is that while my mum is telling her to cool down, her mum is telling me about tradition.

A guy here like you does not support wasting others people time. Feelings change with time except in rare cases..pls do not waste each others time.

From the write up,what I don't understand is the deadline ,sounds desperate, childish and she has no where to go. still keep your calm and observe cos (you)ending the relationship means you broke her heart as some ladies are funny(nothing diabolic oo but spreading the news like j boy broke my heart after using me..lol)so allow her end it so you can be free and I'm very sure no heart break involved from your end cos you are already prepared about her next action..

Yes... bravo Sister! That is the way to go. Try reducing it to like 1 month maximum, if no marriage talk, end it!

Jamariwolff:
Arrant nonsense!

I don't know why you guys think ladies are fools.
You've been fûcking here like constant K for the past 1 year, what is holding u from proposing?
Or you're waiting till u enlarge the whole area abi?!

My own is 3 months max, if you ain't talking marriage then bye boy!
I won't even allow you fûck me much in these 3 months.

Oyindidi:
Marry her na, you want chop clean mouth fold blokos run. Go marry her

Marry her at 25, when he's not even ready financially?

daben1:
at 24, I bet you this girl is not psychologically, mentally and emotionally fit for marriage, one if these girls that you'll marry and in the middle of the night they'll start crying, when you ask them what happened? they'll tell you nothing and in the morning they'll start crying again that when she's was crying in the night, you didn't pet her, you continued sleeping...

What do you mean by at 24 a woman isn't psychologically and mentally ready for marriage. Ideally a woman at 24 should already be a graduate and possibly on her Masters if that's her priority. Is it until when she's 30? If you take statistics properly, you'll find out most of our mothers have been married and have their first kids around that age or even before.