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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by highqueen(f): 9:53am On Nov 12, 2018
Saff:
I’m telling you! It’s crazy the way life works grin
Lol, life is a teacher. grin
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by Nobody: 9:54am On Nov 12, 2018
Amakababe:
what lady (age 18-45) hasn't done an abortion before.
all na wash.
u suppose dey thank her for telling u sef lolz.
women don't usually say things like this, unless she really loves you, its to grave things. fool, go on your knees and thank her.
Not every lady is a murderer like you.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by sparko1(m): 9:56am On Nov 12, 2018
EMMAUGOH:
If you as a man has ever had sex with a girl without condom and released inside here. SAME question applies to YOU.
DO YOU DO DESERVED TO BE MARRIED?

The thing is men want it all perfect and holy but how many times have you had the urge or have sex with a girl not thinkING about the implication of that sex.

When shhiitt hit the fan, all of a sudden we start blaming the girl for not carrying the child for 9 months without care. Seeing the child get education and care like other child and also while living the guilt or prejudice of having sex outside marriage and being a lone parent.

Many Nigerians mind is like that of our President.

Is this guilty conscience or you just want to be argumentative? Nobody is talking about if they deserved to be married, Everyone deserves a companion, but will you chose a woman who you know has committed an abortion?

If you as a woman, cannot tell a man who is not your husband yet to use protection when sleeping with you, then you deserve whatsoever the outcome, yeah, if the child is born, the man will take responsibility. You can't say because someone put a snake in your house, you will burn it down. It's YOUR HOUSE FOR CRYING OUT LOUD! it might be wrong of him to throw a snake into your house but you don't burn it down for that reason.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by doggedfighter(f): 9:57am On Nov 12, 2018
ednut1:
I know a girl who did abortion back in school,she don marry born of recent. I also know 2 virgins wey marry 2014 and 2015. No pikin yet. Life no get manual

Exactly.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by blindjustice13(m): 9:57am On Nov 12, 2018
KanielOutis92:
Wow..i cant believe what i'm reading. You do realize that what you are doing right here, is subtly saying to the world..."Hello world, my name is Amaka, & just like every other girl out there, i've had an abortion"...right? Oh well..congrats to you then Amaka. You are the true MVP..oops my bad, scratch that..abortionist
let's get this clear ,a foetus is not a person, it more like a seed which requires the right condition and environment to grow which is why some women have etopic pregnancies and miscarriages. Now pregnancy takes place under different circumstances, not necessarily because the person was not conscious or careful, contraceptives fail(as we now have fake postinor and daily pill in Nigeria), condoms burst .

That being said , I would also like you to know that not only single ladies have abortions ,even married women who due to circumstance either career wise or for convenience also have abortions too.

Now ,it will do us all alot of good to look at things logically than keep a closed mind on all issues. I had an abortion during my NYSC days . It was the best decision as at that time and even now. It is better to be ready to take care of a child emotionally and financially. You dont bring a child into this hard life if you are not even ready to be responsible for that child.

I felt guilty for a long time until I realized my life would have been ruined should I have kept that baby.The main thing is get it done properly and dont cut corners ,else some quacks will take advantage and ruin you.

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by Nobody: 9:58am On Nov 12, 2018
sparko1:


Is this guilty conscience or you just want to be argumentative? Nobody is talking about if they deserved to be married, Everyone deserves a companion, but will you chose a woman who you know has committed an abortion?

If you as a woman, cannot tell a man who is not your husband yet to use protection when sleeping with you, then you deserve whatsoever the outcome, yeah, if the child is born, the man will take responsibility. You can't say because someone put a snake in your house, you will burn it down. It's YOUR HOUSE FOR CRYING OUT LOUD! it might be wrong of him to throw a snake into your house but you don't burn it down for that reason.
do you realy know all that happens in a relationship that leads to sex, pregnancy and then abortion.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by nkemjacob2(m): 9:59am On Nov 12, 2018
If she is remorseful. And ready to change I will
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by Ategberoson(m): 9:59am On Nov 12, 2018
you're talking about marrying a lady that had aborted before



I can't marry a lady that had been disflower in my life. there is no how I can trust any lady that I didn't meet virgin if I get married to her



why settle down for less Op, don't you know how to woo?
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by sabi99(m): 10:00am On Nov 12, 2018
I will marry her so long as the love is there plus am not God to judge her.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by wallchat: 10:02am On Nov 12, 2018
samysmoothfresh:
It's sad seeing how these phrases: "don't judge him/her"
"he/she's not perfect"
"it's a past mistake" etc
have rid the world of it's morals


because of "dont judge", many people now do shiiit, condone shiiit, willingly accept shiiit and encourage shiiit.


Because of "dont judge", no one sees the killing of a feotus (abortion) as a grave sin/crime


well for me, i refuse to accept "dont judge" hence, i can never marry a lady who undergo an abortion esp one who feels no remorse


she's a murderer and i refuse to accept her

EOD


PS: op dont let "dont judge" and it's advocates confuse you


do what you think is right

Nice one
I like this...
na d final nail be dis!
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by orobs93(m): 10:03am On Nov 12, 2018
same shitti un matured fellows ...saying trash when they have women as mother's and have girls as daughters ...you wan Bleep person own but you wan kip your own typical black man greed ..you open your dirty mouth for her to give birth to the child ..when you are a broke ass nigger ..so that the child will become another problem to the society ...don't even know what pushed me in typing this comment

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by ChiefAlex(m): 10:04am On Nov 12, 2018
Amakababe:
what lady (age 18-45) hasn't done an abortion before.
all na wash.
u suppose dey thank her for telling u sef lolz.
women don't usually say things like this, unless she really loves you, its to grave things. fool, go on your knees and thank her.

Receive sense. You’re senseless
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by ChiefAlex(m): 10:06am On Nov 12, 2018
Amakababe:
shut up don't be stupid.
you're not perfect, no man is neither is any woman.


marry her for being honest or end up with a worst Olosho in ur house

Bitch shut up. You can’t dictate what he wants for him. Mofo
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by HallaDaTruth: 10:09am On Nov 12, 2018
Saff:
How will you even know.

Most of you have community joysticks, that produce watery transparent sperm, used and abused and barely functioning properly sticks, yet you have the audacity to judge someone based on their past. Let me not say anything
Hmm , you came, you saw , did you conquer ? grin grin grin grin . How do you know these things . The answer is exprience
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by Hoodbilonia: 10:13am On Nov 12, 2018
how wud u know
half of these rats have done couple of abortions
my ex aborted for me in her mind
she scammed me of 10k
my sub money monthly. bich
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by Yuceeluv(f): 10:14am On Nov 12, 2018
Lmao!...this is the type of person that will go and fall 'yakata" in love with a single mum of two or more.

TonyeBarcanista:
For a start, the likelihood of me marrying a non virgin is very slim...

Secondly, I will do my investigation and I will ask her (in the event that I decide to marry a non virgin). If she lies and I find out later, THAT'S THE END!

This is just me though... Beside, marriage doesn't interest me, if not for my Mom, I will remain single and take to having kids outside wedlock! Shikena

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by Nobody: 10:15am On Nov 12, 2018
orobs93:
same shitti un matured fellows ...saying trash when they have women as mother's and have girls as daughters ...you wan Bleep person own but you wan kip your own typical black man greed ..you open your dirty mouth for her to give birth to the child ..when you are a broke ass nigger ..so that the child will become another problem to the society ...don't even know what pushed me in typing this comment
Exactly my position. Nigerians are pure hypocrites.. Maybe the younger ones.. Some are below 17 here. Be careful
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by stephengboy: 10:16am On Nov 12, 2018
God forbid... Lalastikalala
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by Fisher007: 10:17am On Nov 12, 2018
Amakababe:
what lady (age 18-45) hasn't done an abortion before.
all na wash.
u suppose dey thank her for telling u sef lolz.
women don't usually say things like this, unless she really loves you, its to grave things. fool, go on your knees and thank her.

You are right. The truth is bitter.
That is why most women die in their graves with secret.

However I didn't like the part go on your knees and thank her. That's shows no remorse or sign of moral from anyone.

Wish every single guys luck in dealing with their future wife cause women are generally cunny and deceitful.

If you think am lying, ask any lady the following questions

Ask any lady what did the serpent discuss with her apart from the apple?
Or
How many days did she wait to tell Adam (you)/about the apple ?
Or
Why did she eventually tell Adam?
Or
Why is it her the serpent came to deceive in the garden of eden?

Once she can answer any then you will know the truth and be free.

Only those who know , know oo.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by Yuceeluv(f): 10:18am On Nov 12, 2018
grin ayam telling you... Its his type that always give testimony speech during reception about how he fell in love with an ashawo and converted her. The nigga knows Nada bout life

highqueen:

Lol, God knows how to punish your type.

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:18am On Nov 12, 2018
Yuceeluv:
Lmao!...this is the type of person that will go and fall 'yakata" in love with a single mum of two or more.

lol
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by highqueen(f): 10:19am On Nov 12, 2018
Yuceeluv:
grin ayam telling you... Its his type that always give testimony speech during reception about how he fell in love with an ashawo and converted her. The nigga knows Nada bout life

Lol, be nice sis. grin
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by Dshocker(m): 10:21am On Nov 12, 2018
AryEmber:
Don't tell me you think every lady in that age gap gas had an abortion before

She wanted to say every Nigerian girl has done an abortion before #fact
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by Saff(f): 10:23am On Nov 12, 2018
TonyeBarcanista:
For a start, the likelihood of me marrying a non virgin is very slim...

Secondly, I will do my investigation and I will ask her (in the event that I decide to marry a non virgin). If she lies and I find out later, THAT'S THE END!

This is just me though... Beside, marriage doesn't interest me, if not for my Mom, I will remain single and take to having kids outside wedlock! Shikena
How many virgin women can you find in this day and age?

And what guarantee do you have that the virgin lady you find (1/500) will be compatible with you? Or you judge someone’s character based on their virginity? Just because she’s a virgin, how do you know she’s not had anal, or received or given orall sex, been fondled with by many men? Let me tell you something, women are the queens of pretenders. You sound like a child when you speak, you need to sincerely grow up. Hopefully by the time you reach 30, sense will hit you because it’s very clear your very inexperienced when it comes to street knowledge.

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by NWABUKA007(m): 10:24am On Nov 12, 2018
hmm well in my own case I would, by Divine direction.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:26am On Nov 12, 2018
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Saff:
How many virgin women can you find in this day and age?

And what guarantee do you have that the virgin lady you find (1/500) will be compatible with you? Or you judge someone’s character based on their virginity? Just because she’s a virgin, how do you know she’s not had anal, or received or given orall sex, been fondled with by many men? You sound like a child when you speak, you need to sincerely grow up. Hopefully by the time you reach 30, sense will hit you because it’s very clear your very inexperienced when it comes to street knowledge.
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I set my standard and stick to it Ma'am. If that makes me a kid, then I am a proud kid of life.


Meanwhile, learn to respect elderly people...

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by Uglymugg: 10:26am On Nov 12, 2018
frozen70:
That a lady has done abortion before shows that she is fertile

Your question should be can a lady marry an importent man

Lol. Nice coping mechamism, but you've murdered a kid.
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by Nobody: 10:26am On Nov 12, 2018
highqueen:
Mtcheeeew. The guy that paid for the abortion or initiated it is marriageable while the lady isnt right?
You need wipers.
U ladies need to sink it in that u are the ones carrying the womb......and the physical damage or possible death during abortion is all on you...But Why can't u just say no to sex or the abortion? but instead, u bring gender equality arguement into it when a different man that didn't add to body count and abortion cascade comes along making his own choice...
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by PhenomenalAustin: 10:28am On Nov 12, 2018
Saff:
How will you even know.

Most of you have community joysticks, that produce watery transparent sperm, used and abused and barely functioning properly sticks, yet you have the audacity to judge someone based on their past. Let me not say anything

My sister tell them ooo
All these Manhoes

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by Yuceeluv(f): 10:29am On Nov 12, 2018
grin I've just been reading his own comments... Hilarious!...I know of a friend like him that bragged about studying medicine in the university abroad only to end up in the polytechnic studying God knows what grin... Abeg I 'Kant' fit'nt laugh this morning

highqueen:

Lol, be nice sis. grin
Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by Saff(f): 10:29am On Nov 12, 2018
It’s one thing to have standards. It’s another thing to be utterly dense with fairytale-like presumptions. Don’t have too much expectations when looking for a wife, you will be very disappointed I’m telling you. Life does not work like ABC, the unexpected always happens to those who are extremely arrogant and condescending.
TonyeBarcanista:
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I set my standard and stick to it Ma'am. If that makes me a kid, then I am a proud kid of life.


Meanwhile, learn to respect elderly people...

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Re: Can You Marry A Lady Who Has Had An Abortion Before? by highqueen(f): 10:31am On Nov 12, 2018
Yuceeluv:
grin I've just been reading his own comments... Hilarious!...I know of a friend like him that bragged about studying medicine in the university abroad only to end up in the polytechnic studying God knows what grin... Abeg I 'Kant' fit'nt laugh this morning

Lol, true story.
That's what I was trying to make him understand.

cheesy

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