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Bros...just go and do thanksgiving next friday or sunday for what God has liberated you from. Dont ever go near her again.
Focus your time and energy on what you can do to help your career and goals

Some guys just find it hard to love a woman....u don't need to be overly rich, her talking to other guys is immaterial.... There must be something about u that tickles her fancy, but u are making urself hard to love sef

Grammarnazi1 what's the time in Nigeria ?

elias0071:
bros this same thing happened to me I swear is like you re talking to me

E don happen to many na. A great number of people hav experienced this same ish. Last last, OP will be fine. But hopefully he finds a good woman and that's when he will appreciate what he's currently experiencing today.

I won't castigate him for begging the lady this way because I've experienced same but that separation is the best thing that has happened to him and when his brain finally comes back to life, he'll thank God for delivering him from delilah. Even the misfortunes in his life may even be traced to this same lady sef, u never can tell.

One just needs to be careful be it a man or woman

Wizkid has said it all "only fake gals will love u wen u ve, wen e red dem tuwama wen e red"

hahahahahaha:
Why do you still love someone like her? How can you not tell that she only loves your money? I feel really bad for you OP; but I must tell you the truth, you have no self-esteem. The only thing that gives you confidence is money, and you used that money to buy what you thought was love, but she didn't love you after everything; she only wanted your money. If you ever bounce back, please don't go near that vacuum of a girl. Find a girl that loves you and can pay her bills; they exist.

My sister, u took the words right out of my mouth. I'm so glad it came from a sister.

I want to jointly congratulate you for the break up in ur relationship,it's indeed a success to you and eye opening to other men aspiring to be in a relationship.

I stopped reading at that point when you said you begged her after catching her off guard using another account. I say to you brother, be man enough in life!!!

Now, if I ever hear that you go back to that relationship, I will find you and give you a beating that will reset your brain.

Finally, time will heal your heart and you will move on successfully. Stay focused in your career and true love will find you someday.

Buy u so foolish........ Shes said shes done wit u.. I know it's hard to let go sometime.. But whats de talk abt anoda woman eating ur money after uve made it.. Have u made it first... I can only beg a woman if she has a good head.... But if she's still make shakara.. I just move on

hahahahahaha:
Why do you still love someone like her? How can you not tell that she only loves your money? I feel really bad for you OP; but I must tell you the truth, you have no self-esteem. The only thing that gives you confidence is money, and you used that money to buy what you thought was love, but she didn't love you after everything; she only wanted your money. If you ever bounce back, please don't go near that vacuum of a girl. Find a girl that loves you and can pay her bills; they exist.

You ve said the whole truth. This is what happens when men think that their self esteem in life is hinged on how much they have and not their character. I don't so much blame the girl because guys like this can throw it to your face that money is everything.

He still hasn't learnt his lesson and may fall into the same mistake again.

You have spoken with so much wisdom.

Love na scam...... Every time wire me money, hello baby have u sent it......lol

Bro forget love and make the money. If I beg woman eh, make she know say na activities I just dey form. When girls full everywhere I go come dey mumu follow one wen nor love me. As a guy u suppose to dey date at least 3 girls so that as one dey malfunction na to delete am.

Lest I forget, dating a girl who is still in Skul is a road to early grave. You go dey spend like fool, yet another young student boy for the Skul go dey Bleep the girl free of charge. I experience this shit in 2015. Now eh I be badoo.

God has chosen to deliver you in this way be thankful to him, was she a virgin when you met her, the answer is an absolute no I presume therefore someone has been there before you, please move on with your life.

henritinecy:
So I started dating this girl about this time last year. Things were rosy because I just came back to the country and I was having much money with me. I tried my best to give her what she wants. As times goes on, earlier on this year, we had a little misunderstanding and I initiated a breakup. Of a truth, the issue was minor and didn’t warrant a breakup. She sent my friends to beg me. We kept on going. Along the line, things became rough for me and suddenly, her respect for me started reducing. She hardly create time for us. She is currently in school in another state while I am in Lagos. At this point, we usually breakup up and come back. They were minor things though but sometimes we don’t talk for a while. The last time it happened, she said if we ever break up again, we are never coming back together. And then, When things started going wrong with me financially, she advised to leave the country that it will better me as well as her. But I declined. Gradually , our seeing time reduced. Sometimes she will be in Lagos and we will see just once or twice and she usually tell me that she is busy that’s why it’s like this.

Fast forward to last month. Her elder sister has a wedding and we needed to travel together. So we used my car. Half way into the journey my car engine knocked. The car had to be towed to Lagos while we continued our journey. She even provided part of te money we used in towing the car back to Lagos as well as paying the rest of the fare till we got to our destination. Meanwhile, She was talking to different guys on the phone though the conversations were not related to us but I felt this jealousy in me. While on the journey I asked her if there was someone else and she said no. I asked her to give me her phone and she did without arguing and even opened it. Then I returned it back to her without going through it. Then I asked her what I can do at this point. Cuz now there is no finance from anywhere coming in. As a matter of fact, I was using that particular car for Taxify and now the engine is down. She said she had told me before but I didn’t listen and that I should leave the country and things will be better for me again. I said okay am going to do it this time. So my mind was to come back to Lagos after the wedding and I sell it off. She was even crying while telling me.

On the day of the marriage I took another car from home and helped with the things I could. Taking her and her friends to and fro with respect to the wedding. The day after the wedding, she called me to come pick her from the hotel her friends that came for the wedding were lodging. I got there and we started taking things to the car I brought from the rooms her friends lodged. On our way to the car, a man stopped her and she was having a conversation with the man. And the man was laughing with her and even exchanging contact. This is a man in the 40s. At this point I was furious but I kept quiet. When she was done she came to the car and we set off for her house. She saw in me that I was angry. She then asked me what was wrong and I told her my mood has changed. She asked me to go drop her at the hotel and that when my mood is back on, I should come pick her. I then tuned back, and she came down. Cuz of the love I have for her, I didn’t want this to degenerate to something else. I came down I told her the act was wrong. She then told me if it’s wrong for her to talk to people and meet people because she is dating me. I said it’s not wrong but me being there, it’s disrespectful and besides there are ways she can tell me to excuse her in order to show that she is concerned about me. She then replied and said am speaking English. I felt so back with that statement. I just dropped her stuffs and drove back home.

When I got home, I sent her a long message on Instagram telling her that I cannot continue in this relationship. That I need my respect back and making money is the only value that will bring my respect back. She replied with just thanks. 3 days later, I couldn’t continue a life without her. I called her in the morning. At this point , she has blocked me from communicating with her on Instagram. I asked her to forgive me for what I said and that I was just frustrated with the way things ain’t going well with me, coupled with my car and finances. She told me that she cannot date me again and has moved on. I thought it was a joke. I kept on begging but she has made up her mind.

Last week, I started talking to her with a random account on Instagram and posed like someone that is interested in her and has feelings for her. I also told her that I am not in the country at the moment and will be back next month. For 5 consecutive days we were talking. She even initiated a video call and I declined. Then I asked her about her relationship and she said it’s complicated. That she hasn’t heard from the guy in 2 weeks. And explained all that happened to him. She revealed so many things to me via that conversation. Then I now called her with my number. She then knew I was the one. I started pleading with her again , telling her that I am sorry. She said she has moved on. That the only language she understands now is money which I cannot offer her. That she is tired of this love thing. That if I beg from now till forever , she is not interested. That I should go and make money. That she needs someone that can pay her bills and that the only thing she can do for me is being friends with me. Of a truth she needs money to pay her school fees plus accommodation fee in school which is upward from N300,000 and I cannot provide that now. So she said she needs someone that can be giving her money and that she has suffered enough; But dating me, she can never do that again.

I love this girl and it’s hard to let go. Maybe with time, I will. But how do I let go of what I feel for her and how can I move ahead at this point? Yes she has motivated me to go make money and be a better person. But it hurts me so bad that after making this money, some other lady will be the one spending the rest of my life with me. Yes I bleeped up by not listening to her when she first asked me to leave the country. And I bleeped up by initiating a breakup due to my frustration. But my heart lies with her and hopefully with time, I will heal and make enough money that this experience will be a thing that will make me smile when I look back and think about it.

Please anyone that has gotten over someone you have been so much emotionally attached to, I need your help towards getting over her because right now, the whole experience is killing me.

Thank You

how old are you?

Congratulations. The money had to disappear for u to know she wasn't meant for u. If u want to continue with this experiment, just know you will still be broke cos the gal na bad luck for ur life.

kidman96:
Brother I just got out of a similar situation like this and trust me I understand the pain you are going through right now. You can never be man enough to just move on. You wake up in the morning with your heart beating like your about to have a heart attack, at night you're thinking about her before going to bed. Every minute of the day you think about her and feel like smashing your head against the wall. You cry when you're alone, your life feels meaningless and sometimes youvask yourself how someone else could make you feel so miserable... Trust me bro I just got out of something like that and it took me months to. I also broke up with her several times until she broke up with me and moved on, but what I noticed was that all those while I was breaking up with her I was also sustaining her financially but then I decided to stop giving her money and for 3 weeks I didn't give her a penny for anything, then she broke up with me through text. Initially I was like "good riddance" but later I started missing her and calling her and she said she has moved on... It took months to get over her... One thing you must understand is that someone who truly loves you will not move on so easily. You see how easybshe fell for the next guy who told her he was living abroad not knowing itvwas you. So my advise to you is that since you have access to leave the country you should leave and hustle hard, but don't ever go back to her. You also need to choose wisely next time. you need to understand Nigerian ladies nowadays don't love for real, all they care about is someone who will pay their bills just like she told you...

So moving on wont be easy but here is what you should do:

You must stop blaming yourself because its not your fault the relationship ended. She never loved you she only loved your money. The relationship ended months before that day. As soon as the money dried up her love dried up. So don't blame yourself.

You must accept the fact the relationship has ended because it has. Even if she comes back please don't accept her, she has shown her true colours.

Don't try to stop thinking about her because you cannot, only time will heal your heart. Think about her, cry if you have to. If you take alcohol drink and get tipsy sometimes and sleep.

Set a time frame to mourn the break up, give yourself 1 month. Go through the pain, think about her, cry, but during these period work intensively on yourself and you goals and ambitions, let your hopes of making it be a source of comfort to you.

You must sieze all communications with her. Stop calling her and expecting her calls. You must accept the fact she has moved lon because she has. Delete her on all your social media account. Facebook, Instagram twitter etc and stop checking on her or snooping around her social media pages. Avoid her pictures or anything that reminds you of her. If possible delete her friends or family members whose posts involving her could land on your timeline. Remove everything that has to do with her from your place...

And after one month of morning the relationship get off your ass and be a man that you are, the only woman worth such heart ache is your mom or any lady who has made so much sacrifice to your life.

All this feeling you described happened to me when I lose money. Never felt this way over a woman that's not even blood. Weird.

henritinecy:
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the truth is you should be happy that this happened and both of you are not yet married. in fact you not initiate the breakup, it has already began a long time when the money stop flowing, infact she a gold digger just try to get back up on feet. love should be a two way thing so since she can act this so easily means she is just into you because of the money so let her go and find someone who deserve you. in Nigeria cheating in a relationship is like normal treat it only few people you will see that stay true.

Low self esteem ediots who tie their self esteem to money!

colyx1:
Love na scam...... Every time wire me money, hello baby have u sent it......lol

Bro forget love and make the money. If I beg woman eh, make she know say na activities I just dey form. When girls full everywhere I go come dey mumu follow one wen nor love me. As a guy u suppose to dey date at least 3 girls so that as one dey malfunction na to delete am.

Lest I forget, dating a girl who is still in Skul is a road to early grave. You go dey spend like fool, yet another young student boy for the Skul go dey Bleep the girl free of charge. I experience this shit in 2015. Now eh I be badoo.

Bro sell your kidney & give her the money since you love her so much

Perfectnumber6:
Normally i just come to nairaland to read stories and laugh if it funny, now bro take this from me you've been totally liberated from the shackles of that fake love okay, see the only thing you miss about that girl is the way you guys have sex , you can't tell me she comes around to wash your clothes, clean your house etc. probably sex with her is mind blowing and that is what you are missing already and thinking of. My guy you deserve better go take one cold bottle of star think of how you would make money like she rightly told you. You should be glad that she was even open to
You, some with demonic spirit would just leave you in the relationship to be dating yourself till you find out that she's tired by then it might be too late. So bro let her go was once in your shoes bro, I still talk with her but no feelings anymore , all the guys she has met after me keeps playing her , we were just chatting someday and she told me I missed you though then i just laughed. Bro move on okay travel out if you've got a visa and I bet you would meet people and before you know it you would forget about her.

You nailed it right bro, there was this girl I love so much knowing that she is always available to any guy with a ride though to me she's not a parasite. Inside me I know I can't marry her but to keep her as bed partner till I am ready to tie the knot with a reasonable girl. I found out she was dating one of my guy with a ride and I used that as an excuse to get out of the relationship. Though the decision was a tough one because for like five months or so i keep missing the various sex styles. Today we are jst friends with no strings attached.

@OP You are an id1ot!

You over-complicate simple things, and you don't understand female nature.

Fúck off here crying, get a gym membership and start getting your life together. Then get other girls. Id1ot!

hahahahahaha:
Why do you still love someone like her? How can you not tell that she only loves your money? I feel really bad for you OP; but I must tell you the truth, you have no self-esteem. The only thing that gives you confidence is money, and you used that money to buy what you thought was love, but she didn't love you after everything; she only wanted your money. If you ever bounce back, please don't go near that vacuum of a girl. Find a girl that loves you and can pay her bills; they exist.

Well articulated!
I owe you a bottle of kunu or zobo drink

Oga that girl is not the right one for you..the right the for you to do now is to do your best and make money..leave the country if you have nothing going on for you here but when you finally make the money again that guy should not be in the picture.now she knows how to advice you to travel back so you will be sending her money from there but she couldn't advice you to start up something good with the money you came with but she was busy spending it.the way things are going you might make the money and still go back to her..what do you mean you were frustrated when you broke up with her?we're you waiting for her to have sex in your presence before you leave her..why would she be giving out her contact in your presence so what do you think the friends will see you as?a dummy?
You broke up with someone for disrespecting you and you still went back to beg?Oga forget her and move on..I would have said you should look for a girl to distract yourself with but from the way you sound you can't even afford T-fair to go see any girl..go back to your base..it even looks to me that you came back to Nigeria because of this girl.

I stopped giving relationship advice cus 99% of people involved don't take it and will finally go back to their poo.........even your close pals too.

No be my mouth u go hear wetin u go do bro atleast u no be goat, sense still dey ur head.

don4real18:
You need balls man. Real balls and not the two that accompanies your banana.
If I get to hear that you called to apologise to her again, I will find you (believe me, I will) and give you a life-resetting slap.

This guy is a savage

henritinecy:
So I started dating this girl about this time last year. Things were rosy because I just came back to the country and I was having much money with me. I tried my best to give her what she wants. As times goes on, earlier on this year, we had a little misunderstanding and I initiated a breakup. Of a truth, the issue was minor and didn’t warrant a breakup. She sent my friends to beg me. We kept on going. Along the line, things became rough for me and suddenly, her respect for me started reducing. She hardly create time for us. She is currently in school in another state while I am in Lagos. At this point, we usually breakup up and come back. They were minor things though but sometimes we don’t talk for a while. The last time it happened, she said if we ever break up again, we are never coming back together. And then, When things started going wrong with me financially, she advised to leave the country that it will better me as well as her. But I declined. Gradually , our seeing time reduced. Sometimes she will be in Lagos and we will see just once or twice and she usually tell me that she is busy that’s why it’s like this.

Fast forward to last month. Her elder sister has a wedding and we needed to travel together. So we used my car. Half way into the journey my car engine knocked. The car had to be towed to Lagos while we continued our journey. She even provided part of te money we used in towing the car back to Lagos as well as paying the rest of the fare till we got to our destination. Meanwhile, She was talking to different guys on the phone though the conversations were not related to us but I felt this jealousy in me. While on the journey I asked her if there was someone else and she said no. I asked her to give me her phone and she did without arguing and even opened it. Then I returned it back to her without going through it. Then I asked her what I can do at this point. Cuz now there is no finance from anywhere coming in. As a matter of fact, I was using that particular car for Taxify and now the engine is down. She said she had told me before but I didn’t listen and that I should leave the country and things will be better for me again. I said okay am going to do it this time. So my mind was to come back to Lagos after the wedding and I sell it off. She was even crying while telling me.

On the day of the marriage I took another car from home and helped with the things I could. Taking her and her friends to and fro with respect to the wedding. The day after the wedding, she called me to come pick her from the hotel her friends that came for the wedding were lodging. I got there and we started taking things to the car I brought from the rooms her friends lodged. On our way to the car, a man stopped her and she was having a conversation with the man. And the man was laughing with her and even exchanging contact. This is a man in the 40s. At this point I was furious but I kept quiet. When she was done she came to the car and we set off for her house. She saw in me that I was angry. She then asked me what was wrong and I told her my mood has changed. She asked me to go drop her at the hotel and that when my mood is back on, I should come pick her. I then tuned back, and she came down. Cuz of the love I have for her, I didn’t want this to degenerate to something else. I came down I told her the act was wrong. She then told me if it’s wrong for her to talk to people and meet people because she is dating me. I said it’s not wrong but me being there, it’s disrespectful and besides there are ways she can tell me to excuse her in order to show that she is concerned about me. She then replied and said am speaking English. I felt so back with that statement. I just dropped her stuffs and drove back home.

When I got home, I sent her a long message on Instagram telling her that I cannot continue in this relationship. That I need my respect back and making money is the only value that will bring my respect back. She replied with just thanks. 3 days later, I couldn’t continue a life without her. I called her in the morning. At this point , she has blocked me from communicating with her on Instagram. I asked her to forgive me for what I said and that I was just frustrated with the way things ain’t going well with me, coupled with my car and finances. She told me that she cannot date me again and has moved on. I thought it was a joke. I kept on begging but she has made up her mind.

Last week, I started talking to her with a random account on Instagram and posed like someone that is interested in her and has feelings for her. I also told her that I am not in the country at the moment and will be back next month. For 5 consecutive days we were talking. She even initiated a video call and I declined. Then I asked her about her relationship and she said it’s complicated. That she hasn’t heard from the guy in 2 weeks. And explained all that happened to him. She revealed so many things to me via that conversation. Then I now called her with my number. She then knew I was the one. I started pleading with her again , telling her that I am sorry. She said she has moved on. That the only language she understands now is money which I cannot offer her. That she is tired of this love thing. That if I beg from now till forever , she is not interested. That I should go and make money. That she needs someone that can pay her bills and that the only thing she can do for me is being friends with me. Of a truth she needs money to pay her school fees plus accommodation fee in school which is upward from N300,000 and I cannot provide that now. So she said she needs someone that can be giving her money and that she has suffered enough; But dating me, she can never do that again.

I love this girl and it’s hard to let go. Maybe with time, I will. But how do I let go of what I feel for her and how can I move ahead at this point? Yes she has motivated me to go make money and be a better person. But it hurts me so bad that after making this money, some other lady will be the one spending the rest of my life with me. Yes I bleeped up by not listening to her when she first asked me to leave the country. And I bleeped up by initiating a breakup due to my frustration. But my heart lies with her and hopefully with time, I will heal and make enough money that this experience will be a thing that will make me smile when I look back and think about it.

Please anyone that has gotten over someone you have been so much emotionally attached to, I need your help towards getting over her because right now, the whole experience is killing me.

Thank You

Don't be a mumu bros

Claireshan1:
This guy sef just thank God you guys broke up the girl never truly loved you but your money hence the reason her attitude changed when the money stopped coming through

I'll advise you to go hustler for yourself don't even think of going back to that girl


I wish I can see a guy that will love me this way,I always meet the opposite set of guys

Lol
I think you should review the list of your friendzone.
We're obsessed about you more than this cos this stuff above ain't love

My guy go and make money,love is not existing without money.

You are just like my ex initiating breakup and begging again

It has happened to me before but not like yours exactly though, mine was not the money monger type but lack respect... Since it has to do with your emotions ..I will advise you get another girlfriend as soon as possible it will make u forget her fast. God give you a better one..

She didn't leave you because of money....

She left because she thought you were mature enough to govern your emotions (jealousy & paranoia in this case).

Your insecurity is out of this world. And yeah, you sounded like you could speak for both parties and that's where you are wrong.

The girl love(s/d) you but your servitude mentality made you miss the bigger picture.

Good luck in your future endeavours.




These guys are on the same page with me.

DonMekino:
Some guys just find it hard to love a woman....u don't need to be overly rich, her talking to other guys is immaterial.... There must be something about u that tickles her fancy, but u are making urself hard to love sef

bestpunterever:
how old are you?

Ten06:
Guy you need to grow up and stop acting like a 16yrs guy. You acted childishly toward the girl that is why she took you for granted.

Chyxki:
Sorry op... but you seem really naive.

My advice is this... forget women for now and get your life back on track.

hahahahahaha:
Why do you still love someone like her? How can you not tell that she only loves your money? I feel really bad for you OP; but I must tell you the truth, you have no self-esteem. The only thing that gives you confidence is money, and you used that money to buy what you thought was love, but she didn't love you after everything; she only wanted your money. If you ever bounce back, please don't go near that vacuum of a girl. Find a girl that loves you and can pay her bills; they exist.

God bless you for this...