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henritinecy:
So I started dating this girl about this time last year. Things were rosy because I just came back to the country and I was having much money with me. I tried my best to give her what she wants. As times goes on, earlier on this year, we had a little misunderstanding and I initiated a breakup. Of a truth, the issue was minor and didn’t warrant a breakup. She sent my friends to beg me. We kept on going. Along the line, things became rough for me and suddenly, her respect for me started reducing. She hardly create time for us. She is currently in school in another state while I am in Lagos. At this point, we usually breakup up and come back. They were minor things though but sometimes we don’t talk for a while. The last time it happened, she said if we ever break up again, we are never coming back together. And then, When things started going wrong with me financially, she advised to leave the country that it will better me as well as her. But I declined. Gradually , our seeing time reduced. Sometimes she will be in Lagos and we will see just once or twice and she usually tell me that she is busy that’s why it’s like this.

Fast forward to last month. Her elder sister has a wedding and we needed to travel together. So we used my car. Half way into the journey my car engine knocked. The car had to be towed to Lagos while we continued our journey. She even provided part of te money we used in towing the car back to Lagos as well as paying the rest of the fare till we got to our destination. Meanwhile, She was talking to different guys on the phone though the conversations were not related to us but I felt this jealousy in me. While on the journey I asked her if there was someone else and she said no. I asked her to give me her phone and she did without arguing and even opened it. Then I returned it back to her without going through it. Then I asked her what I can do at this point. Cuz now there is no finance from anywhere coming in. As a matter of fact, I was using that particular car for Taxify and now the engine is down. She said she had told me before but I didn’t listen and that I should leave the country and things will be better for me again. I said okay am going to do it this time. So my mind was to come back to Lagos after the wedding and I sell it off. She was even crying while telling me.

On the day of the marriage I took another car from home and helped with the things I could. Taking her and her friends to and fro with respect to the wedding. The day after the wedding, she called me to come pick her from the hotel her friends that came for the wedding were lodging. I got there and we started taking things to the car I brought from the rooms her friends lodged. On our way to the car, a man stopped her and she was having a conversation with the man. And the man was laughing with her and even exchanging contact. This is a man in the 40s. At this point I was furious but I kept quiet. When she was done she came to the car and we set off for her house. She saw in me that I was angry. She then asked me what was wrong and I told her my mood has changed. She asked me to go drop her at the hotel and that when my mood is back on, I should come pick her. I then tuned back, and she came down. Cuz of the love I have for her, I didn’t want this to degenerate to something else. I came down I told her the act was wrong. She then told me if it’s wrong for her to talk to people and meet people because she is dating me. I said it’s not wrong but me being there, it’s disrespectful and besides there are ways she can tell me to excuse her in order to show that she is concerned about me. She then replied and said am speaking English. I felt so back with that statement. I just dropped her stuffs and drove back home.

When I got home, I sent her a long message on Instagram telling her that I cannot continue in this relationship. That I need my respect back and making money is the only value that will bring my respect back. She replied with just thanks. 3 days later, I couldn’t continue a life without her. I called her in the morning. At this point , she has blocked me from communicating with her on Instagram. I asked her to forgive me for what I said and that I was just frustrated with the way things ain’t going well with me, coupled with my car and finances. She told me that she cannot date me again and has moved on. I thought it was a joke. I kept on begging but she has made up her mind.

Last week, I started talking to her with a random account on Instagram and posed like someone that is interested in her and has feelings for her. I also told her that I am not in the country at the moment and will be back next month. For 5 consecutive days we were talking. She even initiated a video call and I declined. Then I asked her about her relationship and she said it’s complicated. That she hasn’t heard from the guy in 2 weeks. And explained all that happened to him. She revealed so many things to me via that conversation. Then I now called her with my number. She then knew I was the one. I started pleading with her again , telling her that I am sorry. She said she has moved on. That the only language she understands now is money which I cannot offer her. That she is tired of this love thing. That if I beg from now till forever , she is not interested. That I should go and make money. That she needs someone that can pay her bills and that the only thing she can do for me is being friends with me. Of a truth she needs money to pay her school fees plus accommodation fee in school which is upward from N300,000 and I cannot provide that now. So she said she needs someone that can be giving her money and that she has suffered enough; But dating me, she can never do that again.

I love this girl and it’s hard to let go. Maybe with time, I will. But how do I let go of what I feel for her and how can I move ahead at this point? Yes she has motivated me to go make money and be a better person. But it hurts me so bad that after making this money, some other lady will be the one spending the rest of my life with me. Yes I bleeped up by not listening to her when she first asked me to leave the country. And I bleeped up by initiating a breakup due to my frustration. But my heart lies with her and hopefully with time, I will heal and make enough money that this experience will be a thing that will make me smile when I look back and think about it.

Please anyone that has gotten over someone you have been so much emotionally attached to, I need your help towards getting over her because right now, the whole experience is killing me.

Thank You

This is serious!
You are the cause of ya problem oo.
Work harder and pray for a better bae.

franchasng:
really, oya send her private message u have found your missing wife because u saw light skin girl with big bombom, mumu guys

Ladies are too kind, they ought to be using guys to play piano if they know how mumu most guys are with sex

Once they see fine girl, their whole brain shuts down and they want freebie, and when the girl tells them what it costs to keep her glowing like she is, they will start to cry like babies.

If u want love go and make money and stop disturbing hot ladies with your empty pocket and long prick looking for fine girl to be sleeping anyhow with for free, wicked guys

We guys will be condemning ladies for loving guys for money but we guys can we love ugly, shapeless girl that have no money or connection or foreign citizenship or sth to offer us Let's stop being bias, we guys need to look in the mirror too.

Why are u shouting really Because u probably checked her profile pic and saw a fine, sexy lady, be honest, if she was ugly would u even give her attention or mention her

Ladies wake up, guys are wicked, majority of guys are mean, selfish and only form love when they see a girl or lady that have the qualities they need.

Love is a fallacy! We form love when we find the qualities we want in someone. Why don't we all just love everybody we see including the handicap people around us, huh

If I give birth to a girl eh, I will kill any broke guy that near her or any guy that dare play with her, I will just mud u and heaven won't fall

Why are you wailing all over the thread ?
Are you a prostitute?

henritinecy:
So I started dating this girl about this time last year. Things were rosy because I just came back to the country and I was having much money with me. I tried my best to give her what she wants. As times goes on, earlier on this year, we had a little misunderstanding and I initiated a breakup. Of a truth, the issue was minor and didn’t warrant a breakup. She sent my friends to beg me. We kept on going. Along the line, things became rough for me and suddenly, her respect for me started reducing. She hardly create time for us. She is currently in school in another state while I am in Lagos. At this point, we usually breakup up and come back. They were minor things though but sometimes we don’t talk for a while. The last time it happened, she said if we ever break up again, we are never coming back together. And then, When things started going wrong with me financially, she advised to leave the country that it will better me as well as her. But I declined. Gradually , our seeing time reduced. Sometimes she will be in Lagos and we will see just once or twice and she usually tell me that she is busy that’s why it’s like this.

Fast forward to last month. Her elder sister has a wedding and we needed to travel together. So we used my car. Half way into the journey my car engine knocked. The car had to be towed to Lagos while we continued our journey. She even provided part of te money we used in towing the car back to Lagos as well as paying the rest of the fare till we got to our destination. Meanwhile, She was talking to different guys on the phone though the conversations were not related to us but I felt this jealousy in me. While on the journey I asked her if there was someone else and she said no. I asked her to give me her phone and she did without arguing and even opened it. Then I returned it back to her without going through it. Then I asked her what I can do at this point. Cuz now there is no finance from anywhere coming in. As a matter of fact, I was using that particular car for Taxify and now the engine is down. She said she had told me before but I didn’t listen and that I should leave the country and things will be better for me again. I said okay am going to do it this time. So my mind was to come back to Lagos after the wedding and I sell it off. She was even crying while telling me.

On the day of the marriage I took another car from home and helped with the things I could. Taking her and her friends to and fro with respect to the wedding. The day after the wedding, she called me to come pick her from the hotel her friends that came for the wedding were lodging. I got there and we started taking things to the car I brought from the rooms her friends lodged. On our way to the car, a man stopped her and she was having a conversation with the man. And the man was laughing with her and even exchanging contact. This is a man in the 40s. At this point I was furious but I kept quiet. When she was done she came to the car and we set off for her house. She saw in me that I was angry. She then asked me what was wrong and I told her my mood has changed. She asked me to go drop her at the hotel and that when my mood is back on, I should come pick her. I then tuned back, and she came down. Cuz of the love I have for her, I didn’t want this to degenerate to something else. I came down I told her the act was wrong. She then told me if it’s wrong for her to talk to people and meet people because she is dating me. I said it’s not wrong but me being there, it’s disrespectful and besides there are ways she can tell me to excuse her in order to show that she is concerned about me. She then replied and said am speaking English. I felt so back with that statement. I just dropped her stuffs and drove back home.

When I got home, I sent her a long message on Instagram telling her that I cannot continue in this relationship. That I need my respect back and making money is the only value that will bring my respect back. She replied with just thanks. 3 days later, I couldn’t continue a life without her. I called her in the morning. At this point , she has blocked me from communicating with her on Instagram. I asked her to forgive me for what I said and that I was just frustrated with the way things ain’t going well with me, coupled with my car and finances. She told me that she cannot date me again and has moved on. I thought it was a joke. I kept on begging but she has made up her mind.

Last week, I started talking to her with a random account on Instagram and posed like someone that is interested in her and has feelings for her. I also told her that I am not in the country at the moment and will be back next month. For 5 consecutive days we were talking. She even initiated a video call and I declined. Then I asked her about her relationship and she said it’s complicated. That she hasn’t heard from the guy in 2 weeks. And explained all that happened to him. She revealed so many things to me via that conversation. Then I now called her with my number. She then knew I was the one. I started pleading with her again , telling her that I am sorry. She said she has moved on. That the only language she understands now is money which I cannot offer her. That she is tired of this love thing. That if I beg from now till forever , she is not interested. That I should go and make money. That she needs someone that can pay her bills and that the only thing she can do for me is being friends with me. Of a truth she needs money to pay her school fees plus accommodation fee in school which is upward from N300,000 and I cannot provide that now. So she said she needs someone that can be giving her money and that she has suffered enough; But dating me, she can never do that again.

I love this girl and it’s hard to let go. Maybe with time, I will. But how do I let go of what I feel for her and how can I move ahead at this point? Yes she has motivated me to go make money and be a better person. But it hurts me so bad that after making this money, some other lady will be the one spending the rest of my life with me. Yes I bleeped up by not listening to her when she first asked me to leave the country. And I bleeped up by initiating a breakup due to my frustration. But my heart lies with her and hopefully with time, I will heal and make enough money that this experience will be a thing that will make me smile when I look back and think about it.

Please anyone that has gotten over someone you have been so much emotionally attached to, I need your help towards getting over her because right now, the whole experience is killing me.

Thank You

1st u being too emotional about everything here.

2ndly the gal or ur gal doesn’t really like u she likes money while u love her so Ure the loser here. Get sense.

3rdly she advised unto make money not because she likes/loves u bt so u can takecare of her needs cos that’s all she needs rite now not a lover boy. Be real with urself. She just got real and told u the truth about her.

4thly. U need to take the focus of her and focus on urself and ur goals. If u make money I guarantee u she will come back even if she with sm1esle cos she’s about the money. The question is; is that the type of gal u want to have a serious or life time thing with? I wud say no bt it depends on what u see in her.

Lastly stop sobbing and get to work and make smtn for urself that will make u a happier and fulfilled person.

A lady shud never be ur priority over ur work.

Saff:
All these men trying to pity themselves, I will tell you the truth. All women in the world whether Nigeria, U.K. France value men with something in their pockets. That’s just the reality, you’re desirability is based on your bank account. You may get a woman when you’re broke, but she will not be the woman you truly want it or she will only suffer with you for so long before her eyes open. I do believe that how she handled the situation was a little wrong, but you better go and hustle. Don’t think you can upgrade and find a woman who can love you “for you” because you won’t. ALL women want a man with substance, a man who can provide, some just hide it better than others. No matter how financially independent a woman is, she’s not going to be with a man who can’t add financial abundance to her life, unless she’s looking for a sugar boy. We all go into relationships subconsciously measuring the things that we can benefit from it. We are all selfish in one way or the other, it’s human nature, This is the reality pill that you men need to swallow.

So mr man, my advice to you is to Work hard and focus on yourself for now. Once you improve yourself, you will find someone hopefully who doesn’t love you STRICTLY for your money. You’ll be with someone who loves you for your money and ALSO for your loving character. So understand the difference and dont go looking for something that is not real. I’m just being real with you, Goodluck

Are you a prostitute?

What he said is nothing but the truth. Better accept it, I don’t know why guys are so selfish like this. You want the finest babe with the biggest ass and boobs, educated and someone who you can brag about to your friends, the list is endless. But a woman wants a man with money and you’ll be crying like dogs. Go and sit down ahbeg. Women do not complain when men list out their standards, in fact they go to the extreme to attract more men, some even risking their lives. Yet you men want to sit down on your ass all day and expect the best quality of women. Ahbeg go and sit down

Alepa:
Why are you wailing all over the thread ?
Are you a prostitute?

Saff:
What he said is nothing but the truth. Better accept it, I don’t know why guys are so selfish like this. You want the finest babe with the biggest ass and boobs, educated and someone who you can brag about to your friends, the list is endless. But a woman wants a man with money and you’ll be crying like dogs. Go and sit down ahbeg. Women do not complain when men list out their standards, in fact they go to the extreme to attract more men, some even risking their lives. Yet you men want to sit down on your ass all day and expect the best quality of women. Ahbeg go and sit down

K

Good boy. At least you know when to shut up.

Alepa:
K

Saff:
Good boy. At least you know when to shut up.

Continue

Hmm,women..bro just hustle and make money.

That the only language she understands now is money which I cannot offer her. That she is tired of this love thing.


When you still see money, you will get tired of it and start looking for love. Human needs/wants are insatiable. Reason why some sleep with ogas driver. Ask yourself why after ten years of marriage Caroline divorced Danjuma?

WaffenSS:
This idiot is the sort of guy who makes girls develop airs and chips on their shoulders

She's a girl; there are like 5 billion of them.

If you can't get one fish here, try another stream.

This right here is how to use a semi colon.

Don't go and make Moneyooo, stay here and be complaining. Inasmuch as we want to run away from it, the truth still remains that money solves about 80% of our problems on earth. As for she being materialistic you should be the only one to tell yourself the truth about that, you only painted the part of the story you want us to hear. Are you sure you didn't make her feel that because you are broke she is now misbehaving. Because I swear, You guys always act terrible when you are broke but at the end of the day you always paint the picture about the girl only wanting money.
Finally The girl in question should also get herself a means of livelihood even though she is a student.

hahahahahaha:
Why do you still love someone like her? How can you not tell that she only loves your money? I feel really bad for you OP; but I must tell you the truth, you have no self-esteem. The only thing that gives you confidence is money, and you used that money to buy what you thought was love, but she didn't love you after everything; she only wanted your money. If you ever bounce back, please don't go near that vacuum of a girl. Find a girl that loves you and can pay her bills; they exist.

Thanks guys, but what do I do with all this likes?

If anyone ever tells you that you don't have sense tell him/her that 700+ people disagree

capslocked and hardmirror dey this thread so?

hahn:
capslocked and hardmirror dey this thread so?

*runs in* wetin happen?

Bro you will definitely get over it. Maximum 2 years from now, you will look and laugh.


I was in exact situation like you. I got over it, got better in all things. The chick later wanted to come back, but it can never be again. Never


A man should focus on getting better, develop yourself, have a purpose. Start your company, grow your resources, be visionary.


Why a man will even need woman is for having children. If not why?
There are more interesting things to be done in life than to start crying over a woman!!!

hahn:
If anyone ever tells you that you don't have sense tell him/her that 700+ people disagree

Hhahahaaha

hahahahahaha:
Why do you still love someone like her? How can you not tell that she only loves your money? I feel really bad for you OP; but I must tell you the truth, you have no self-esteem. The only thing that gives you confidence is money, and you used that money to buy what you thought was love, but she didn't love you after everything; she only wanted your money. If you ever bounce back, please don't go near that vacuum of a girl. Find a girl that loves you and can pay her bills; they exist.

Thanks guys, but what do I do with all this likes?

If you truly a woman and not a fake "F", then I doff my hat maam.

HardMirror:
*runs in* wetin happen?

Lol. Read the op. Na your people

Claireshan1:
how do you know that? I don't even have have much male friends and you don't expect me to jump on every guy that says hi to me


Someone has to be reasonable sometimes

The Keyword is "Best Friend" not Male Friend dear.....

If Your undestanding skill is this poor, it tells alot about your experience with the wrong guys......

Lol.... and they turn baba to driver .....

I knew the dimension your story will take from your first line. It wasn't hard to work out man. You just de land, too fresh.....who will say no to you. You got carried away and forgot to continue with your hustle.
Most likely you came back from the UK.....so after all those nightshifts under killing cold weather and so on, spending it on a slag was your best option abi?
Make out time and go to Ladipo market and see how smart returnees have become. Forget the girl.....better girls worth your time are out there.
Nver too late to recalibrate bro.....your time starts now!

Times are coming that the most valuable things that we sought for in this life will be scarce. To find a good man or woman will be very scarce like gold as years go by.
Men should stop playing victims always. Several ladies have suffered in the hands in the hands of heartless men which have made most turn out they are now.
Now, to the OP, we may not know or understand how that money was made cos any money gotten by one's hardwork and sweat, is being spent with sense for every kobo that leaves your hand. Even it is normal that any money being spent and not replaced, will depreciate.
You were spending with no investment or sustainable plan on ground.
80% of the advice given here is correct and going to help. Please learn from this hard lessons and never allow it repeat in your future ahead. Use this hard times and re-strategise. Wish you the best

henritinecy:
So I started dating this girl about this time last year. Things were rosy because I just came back to the country and I was having much money with me. I tried my best to give her what she wants. As times goes on, earlier on this year, we had a little misunderstanding and I initiated a breakup. Of a truth, the issue was minor and didn’t warrant a breakup. She sent my friends to beg me. We kept on going. Along the line, things became rough for me and suddenly, her respect for me started reducing. She hardly create time for us. She is currently in school in another state while I am in Lagos. At this point, we usually breakup up and come back. They were minor things though but sometimes we don’t talk for a while. The last time it happened, she said if we ever break up again, we are never coming back together. And then, When things started going wrong with me financially, she advised to leave the country that it will better me as well as her. But I declined. Gradually , our seeing time reduced. Sometimes she will be in Lagos and we will see just once or twice and she usually tell me that she is busy that’s why it’s like this.

Fast forward to last month. Her elder sister has a wedding and we needed to travel together. So we used my car. Half way into the journey my car engine knocked. The car had to be towed to Lagos while we continued our journey. She even provided part of te money we used in towing the car back to Lagos as well as paying the rest of the fare till we got to our destination. Meanwhile, She was talking to different guys on the phone though the conversations were not related to us but I felt this jealousy in me. While on the journey I asked her if there was someone else and she said no. I asked her to give me her phone and she did without arguing and even opened it. Then I returned it back to her without going through it. Then I asked her what I can do at this point. Cuz now there is no finance from anywhere coming in. As a matter of fact, I was using that particular car for Taxify and now the engine is down. She said she had told me before but I didn’t listen and that I should leave the country and things will be better for me again. I said okay am going to do it this time. So my mind was to come back to Lagos after the wedding and I sell it off. She was even crying while telling me.

On the day of the marriage I took another car from home and helped with the things I could. Taking her and her friends to and fro with respect to the wedding. The day after the wedding, she called me to come pick her from the hotel her friends that came for the wedding were lodging. I got there and we started taking things to the car I brought from the rooms her friends lodged. On our way to the car, a man stopped her and she was having a conversation with the man. And the man was laughing with her and even exchanging contact. This is a man in the 40s. At this point I was furious but I kept quiet. When she was done she came to the car and we set off for her house. She saw in me that I was angry. She then asked me what was wrong and I told her my mood has changed. She asked me to go drop her at the hotel and that when my mood is back on, I should come pick her. I then tuned back, and she came down. Cuz of the love I have for her, I didn’t want this to degenerate to something else. I came down I told her the act was wrong. She then told me if it’s wrong for her to talk to people and meet people because she is dating me. I said it’s not wrong but me being there, it’s disrespectful and besides there are ways she can tell me to excuse her in order to show that she is concerned about me. She then replied and said am speaking English. I felt so back with that statement. I just dropped her stuffs and drove back home.

When I got home, I sent her a long message on Instagram telling her that I cannot continue in this relationship. That I need my respect back and making money is the only value that will bring my respect back. She replied with just thanks. 3 days later, I couldn’t continue a life without her. I called her in the morning. At this point , she has blocked me from communicating with her on Instagram. I asked her to forgive me for what I said and that I was just frustrated with the way things ain’t going well with me, coupled with my car and finances. She told me that she cannot date me again and has moved on. I thought it was a joke. I kept on begging but she has made up her mind.

Last week, I started talking to her with a random account on Instagram and posed like someone that is interested in her and has feelings for her. I also told her that I am not in the country at the moment and will be back next month. For 5 consecutive days we were talking. She even initiated a video call and I declined. Then I asked her about her relationship and she said it’s complicated. That she hasn’t heard from the guy in 2 weeks. And explained all that happened to him. She revealed so many things to me via that conversation. Then I now called her with my number. She then knew I was the one. I started pleading with her again , telling her that I am sorry. She said she has moved on. That the only language she understands now is money which I cannot offer her. That she is tired of this love thing. That if I beg from now till forever , she is not interested. That I should go and make money. That she needs someone that can pay her bills and that the only thing she can do for me is being friends with me. Of a truth she needs money to pay her school fees plus accommodation fee in school which is upward from N300,000 and I cannot provide that now. So she said she needs someone that can be giving her money and that she has suffered enough; But dating me, she can never do that again.

I love this girl and it’s hard to let go. Maybe with time, I will. But how do I let go of what I feel for her and how can I move ahead at this point? Yes she has motivated me to go make money and be a better person. But it hurts me so bad that after making this money, some other lady will be the one spending the rest of my life with me. Yes I bleeped up by not listening to her when she first asked me to leave the country. And I bleeped up by initiating a breakup due to my frustration. But my heart lies with her and hopefully with time, I will heal and make enough money that this experience will be a thing that will make me smile when I look back and think about it.

Please anyone that has gotten over someone you have been so much emotionally attached to, I need your help towards getting over her because right now, the whole experience is killing me.

Thank You

hahn:
Lol. Read the op. Na your people

he is a stvpid man

pocohantas:
He should fix his life.
He is broke, like that isn't enough problem, he has wrong priorities and zero drive. If not, why should he type all that epistle over a gold-digging babe? When he should have created a thread in car talk, asking about his car. The car he uses to earn a living.

Young guys these days no too get sense.

Hahaha.

neoG:
Times are coming that the most valuable things that we sought for in this life will be scarce. To find a good man or woman will be very scarce like gold as years go by.
Men should stop playing victims always. Several ladies have suffered in the hands in the hands of heartless men which have made most turn out they are now.
Now, to the OP, we may not know or understand how that money was made cos any money gotten by one's hardwork and sweat, is being spent with sense for every kobo that leaves your hand. Even it is normal that any money being spent and not replaced, will depreciate.
You were spending with no investment or sustainable plan on ground.
80% of the advice given here is correct and going to help. Please learn from this hard lessons and never allow it repeat in your future ahead. Use this hard times and re-strategise. Wish you the best

Sorry but we are already at that time.

frozen70:
I am glad you took responsibility for the break up

You just have to accept the reality and start working on yourself and everything you need to be a man

You said you can't leave her make money and another woman will come and enjoy it, real men don't reason that way, the one you enjoyed with her, was she there when you made the money

You were not matured enough to handle a relationship, your inconsistent lead to several things

Displaying money to women shows that you can only keep women if you have money

Be serious in any relationship you will enter and play mature

Don't be so much in a hurry to show a woman that you have the money and that's what can keep both of you going

When you enter into a relationship, set your goals and target

Lastly, go and master the act and skill of how to handle relationships because relationships are meant for women, so they know what a relationship is, more than men.

When next you are in a relationship, be a man, talkless and observe more.

Nah.. Naija women master transactional relationship..ie their company in exchange for monetary benefits.. This Maga of a guy doesnt understand it

BigIyanga:
Nah.. Naija women master transactional relationship..ie their company in exchange for monetary benefits.. This Maga of a guy doesnt understand it

That is enh,

He doest even have an idea at all

Saff:
What he said is nothing but the truth. Better accept it, I don’t know why guys are so selfish like this. You want the finest babe with the biggest ass and boobs, educated and someone who you can brag about to your friends, the list is endless. But a woman wants a man with money and you’ll be crying like dogs. Go and sit down ahbeg. Women do not complain when men list out their standards, in fact they go to the extreme to attract more men, some even risking their lives. Yet you men want to sit down on your ass all day and expect the best quality of women. Ahbeg go and sit down

Life is a not a beauty contest.. Every girl has some beauty, boobs and asss... but some Naija girls with beauty as their only value, are exchangeable with no utility value.. Use and throwaway like recharge card

Saff:
All these men trying to pity themselves, I will tell you the truth. All women in the world whether Nigeria, U.K. France value men with something in their pockets. That’s just the reality, you’re desirability is based on your bank account. You may get a woman when you’re broke, but she will not be the woman you truly want it or she will only suffer with you for so long before her eyes open. I do believe that how she handled the situation was a little wrong, but you better go and hustle. Don’t think you can upgrade and find a woman who can love you “for you” because you won’t. ALL women want a man with substance, a man who can provide, some just hide it better than others. No matter how financially independent a woman is, she’s not going to be with a man who can’t add financial abundance to her life, unless she’s looking for a sugar boy. We all go into relationships subconsciously measuring the things that we can benefit from it. We are all selfish in one way or the other, it’s human nature, This is the reality pill that you men need to swallow.

So mr man, my advice to you is to Work hard and focus on yourself for now. Once you improve yourself, you will find someone hopefully who doesn’t love you STRICTLY for your money. You’ll be with someone who loves you for your money and ALSO for your loving character. So understand the difference and dont go looking for something that is not real. I’m just being real with you, Goodluck

Am sure yahoo boy have bought ur pant for 200k, else u for get sense.
There's no single connection between what u wrote and the topic, what if he op had already married the bîtch b4 he got broke, so na so u go advice married woman to do prostitution because her husband got broke.
Anyways people have different mentality, people like u see relationship as business opportunity where the highest bidder wins.
To some relationship is about been a team, if the girl had advice him to invest am sure he won't have gone broke.
And don't think everyone has broke mentality like u, in the so called develop countries, women pay bills, so don't come here saying trash u don't know.
U can't defend stupidity, if u are stupid u are stupid.

charliboy654:
Am sure yahoo boy have bought ur pant for 200k, else u for get sense.
There's no single connection between what u wrote and the topic, what if he op had already married the bîtch b4 he got broke, so na so u go advice married woman to do prostitution because her husband got broke.
Anyways people have different mentality, people like u see relationship as business opportunity where the highest bidder wins.
To some relationship is about been a team, if the girl had advice him to invest am sure he won't have gone broke.
And don't think everyone has broke mentality like u, in the so called develop countries, women pay bills, so don't come here saying trash u don't know.
U can't defend stupidity, if u are stupid u are stupid.

well most women will not marry a man who is poor, probably only out of desperation. And he if does get broke throughout the marriage, there’s only so much supporting a woman can do before she gets frustrated and tired. Although I believe everyone deserves a chance for love, I’m just speaking on what I see. This is the reality. I like in the United Kingdom, ive lived in Nigeria and France, please believe me when I say most women around the globe are the same.

HardMirror:
he is a stvpid man

Lol. Obviously