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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by thunderbabs: 3:44pm On Dec 08, 2018
See this 21st century parent ooo cheesy.

Give d boy apoti to carry and be doin squats or he shld point his finger on d floor till his legs cant carry him. They will learn

Shioor.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by jaxxy(m): 3:56pm On Dec 08, 2018
OperaMini1:
Good day people.

IMy kids aged 8.5, and 6 years respectively, fight each other at the least provocation. They fight over who lies down where, who sits where in the car, who uses the toothpaste first, etc.

I came home yesterday and the elder (girl) had a bodily harm inflicted on her by the brother, and which is the second time she's getting a mark from him. As I write this now, they've been both grounded, since that yesterday, no watching of TV, no computer games, just sleep and wake up, eat and sleep again.

I'm not sure how long we'd do this, that's why I'm seeking suggestions on how to stop the fighting madness entirely, thanks.

U need to intervene promptly and let the younger know and respect the elder and if there is any problem btwn them it shud be directed to you. The older one also mustn’t maltreat the younger one. Anybody who breaks these laws gets the cane or beating.

Sorry bt I’m not sure grounding alone will work in this case unless u know how to communicate effectively to them so they mature and listen to you.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Nobody: 3:56pm On Dec 08, 2018
Flog them .

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Yuceeluv(f): 3:58pm On Dec 08, 2018
I'd never marry a shallowminded person as you anyways.a wiseman won't dwell the success of his marriage on such frivolities.


Oyerinde16:

I would have found u proposed to you then marry u but 4 d ring on ya nose.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by GenFunction: 3:59pm On Dec 08, 2018
very simple,teach dem how to love....when they begin to eat frm d same plate the love grows
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Nobody: 4:05pm On Dec 08, 2018
Do they eat together? The t ma a at from there. Trust me.
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Clefayomide: 4:06pm On Dec 08, 2018
Lol op things like this are bond to happen when the 1st born is a girl while d second is a boy. I remembered growing up I used to fight with my elder Sis but at the end she'd still whopped my ass [color=#006600][/color]
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by simplesearch: 4:06pm On Dec 08, 2018
The bodily harm part really calls for concern and consecual effort to quickly nip it in the bud, notwithstanding regular fight between siblings of diff sex is a common place especially when the boy occupies a lower wrong on the ladder.

My Advice: Define their daily role and routine especially as regards household chores. let the Boy know you may be left with no option than send him to a boarding should he persist with such attitude, also try to find out from your boys school what his behaviour/ relationship with other pupils is like, if it is similar to that with his sister then he could be a potential bully and also suffering from ASD, If not the behaviour will fizzle out with time. Also don't forget to pray with your children on daily or regular basis while assigning them a portion of the Bible that can foster love between them, that's if you are a christian.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by black56(m): 4:11pm On Dec 08, 2018
Yuceeluv:
grin you never see anything... They'll be okay...don't worry much...just be more disciplined with them...you sound like an indomie generation kinda mum who doesn't believe in beating.

...grounded grin grin in Nigeria abi?no be only grounded na floored.
lols
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Rexmy(m): 4:14pm On Dec 08, 2018
OperaMini1:
Good day people.

IMy kids aged 8.5, and 6 years respectively, fight each other at the least provocation. They fight over who lies down where, who sits where in the car, who uses the toothpaste first, etc.

I came home yesterday and the elder (girl) had a bodily harm inflicted on her by the brother, and which is the second time she's getting a mark from him. As I write this now, they've been both grounded, since that yesterday, no watching of TV, no computer games, just sleep and wake up, eat and sleep again.

I'm not sure how long we'd do this, that's why I'm seeking suggestions on how to stop the fighting madness entirely, thanks.
It's normal... I can remember while growing up, we were all time rivals but at the point when maturity sets in, we realized the need for us to accept ourselves as a team and support one another in everything we find ourselves doing.
However, as a parent, you need to sit them down once in a while to share words with them on the essentials of seeing one's blood as a friend and not rival.
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Tapout(m): 4:21pm On Dec 08, 2018
HavocGirlMile99:
undecided



Op they are kids and its normal for them to fight.


I remembered growing up, me and my elder brother always fought.


Not once, not twice but everyday.


My dad always tied us up in a bench and gave us 24lashes.

But I'm all grown up, I can't even shout at him anymore.

It's called maturity.


So, don't worry, they'll over grow it.

At that age it is not normal for them to be fighting and inflicting injury on themselves pls...

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by SURElee(f): 4:21pm On Dec 08, 2018
It is a phase in kids growing up and parenting experience. As a parent, all you need to do is Instill the value of brotherhood and sisterhood in them so that sibling rivalry and competition doesn't rear up its head in their lives that will affect their future relationship.

In a few years time. When they leave home to be on their own, it is this memories that you will miss because the home will be quiet
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Nobody: 4:24pm On Dec 08, 2018
Tapout:


At that age it is not normal for them to be fighting and inflicting injury on themselves pls...



They are still kids... Chill... They'll be fine. Okay.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by wittyt98(m): 4:34pm On Dec 08, 2018
jeff1607:






yels?
yelz?

Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by wittyt98(m): 4:34pm On Dec 08, 2018
jeff1607:






yels?
yelz

Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by jeff1607(m): 4:36pm On Dec 08, 2018
wittyt98:
yelz?

Bros hope u no b one of my village people o

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by chinex104(m): 4:41pm On Dec 08, 2018
they should learn 2 take turns
afterall they r just kids; they don't understand wat it means 2 b fighting over stuff
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by wittyt98(m): 4:44pm On Dec 08, 2018
jeff1607:



Bros hope u no b one of my village people o
its not a crime to Watch out for our son is it?

Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Nobody: 4:51pm On Dec 08, 2018
Poster, disregard any comment suggesting you should ignore them or that it will pass. Most times, it never passes. Constant fights graduates to enmity and rivalry between siblings if not checked early enough.

Teach your son how to respect his elder sister. Get to know what causes their fights and instill discipline accurately.

Most times, kids imitate their parents bad habits. Are you or/and your wife quick to anger? Do you Use abusive speech or fight each other in front of your kids?

If you are guilty of the above, you need to stop it as soon as possible.

God bless your home.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by jeff1607(m): 4:59pm On Dec 08, 2018
wittyt98:
its not a crime to Watch out for our son is it?


abeg ooo
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by taretoofine(m): 5:25pm On Dec 08, 2018
there is a dance called python dance grin
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Ugosample(m): 5:50pm On Dec 08, 2018
Yuceeluv:
grin you never see anything... They'll be okay...don't worry much...just be more disciplined with them...you sound like an indomie generation kinda mum who doesn't believe in beating.

...grounded grin grin in Nigeria abi?no be only grounded na floored.

He is a dad
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Yuceeluv(f): 5:53pm On Dec 08, 2018
Ehn?adonbilivit...

Ugosample:


He is a dad
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by NiggasInParis: 6:16pm On Dec 08, 2018
Send them to Boarding school.

Make them start taking church serious. Let them attend sunday school and children activities.

Discipline them(but still be social at the and of it all) Get a koboko or dogoyaro cain. Kai, ka basu bulla.

Be that disciplined and no nonsense dad, yet loving and caring. Evrything will take shape

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Julivas(m): 6:31pm On Dec 08, 2018
OperaMini1:
Good day people.

IMy kids aged 8.5, and 6 years respectively, fight each other at the least provocation. They fight over who lies down where, who sits where in the car, who uses the toothpaste first, etc.

I came home yesterday and the elder (girl) had a bodily harm inflicted on her by the brother, and which is the second time she's getting a mark from him. As I write this now, they've been both grounded, since that yesterday, no watching of TV, no computer games, just sleep and wake up, eat and sleep again.

I'm not sure how long we'd do this, that's why I'm seeking suggestions on how to stop the fighting madness entirely, thanks.
Though they may fight occasionally, but fighting all the time is acceptable at all.
I think you can discipline them thoroughly and then sit them them and tell them why they must love themselves as siblings.
Let them know they should be defending each other and not to fight themselves.
Instil the fear of God in them and watch over them
May the Lord help you.
Lest i forget, warn the younger one not to ever beat his elder sister.

Best of luck.

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Zeewirld: 6:58pm On Dec 08, 2018
kunleweb:
RJ Bad parentingparenting. Get them to work with one bother so they can develop.healthy bond. Absentee parental.Care causes this or when they o to different families for vacation. Spend more.time.wit them.expose.them.to the word.of God


Instill positive values correct negative values with love


Sow good seeds in their hearts. Instill sound morals and principles and tend the seed till maturity. Dont miss out helping them do their assignments and use that phase to pass sound principles
. Are you an only child and what about their father?
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Nobody: 7:07pm On Dec 08, 2018
Cumtroller:
Let them fight. It is survival of the fittest, this is evolution playing out.

I hope your younger child poisions the elder child so peace can reign in your household.

kia! must u comment? * shaking my head* its a pity

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Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by kunleweb: 7:23pm On Dec 08, 2018
Zeewirld:
. Are you an only child and what about their father?

Pardon?
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by splankface(m): 7:26pm On Dec 08, 2018
Lol its normal for the second to claim right since he's a man, am talking from experience cause am a second child to a girl, but be watchful. They will outgrow it. Its normal grin
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by mechanics(m): 7:32pm On Dec 08, 2018
you can correct them by punishing them either by flogging or frog jump.
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Oyerinde16(m): 7:41pm On Dec 08, 2018
Yuceeluv:
I'd never marry a shallowminded person as you anyways.a wiseman won't dwell the success of his marriage on such frivolities.


it was on a light note, however u can't date me either I'm too tough for a lady that wouldn't shape up
Re: How Do I Stop My Kids From Fighting? by Nobody: 7:56pm On Dec 08, 2018
OperaMini1:
Good day people.

IMy kids aged 8.5, and 6 years respectively, fight each other at the least provocation. They fight over who lies down where, who sits where in the car, who uses the toothpaste first, etc.

I came home yesterday and the elder (girl) had a bodily harm inflicted on her by the brother, and which is the second time she's getting a mark from him. As I write this now, they've been both grounded, since that yesterday, no watching of TV, no computer games, just sleep and wake up, eat and sleep again.

I'm not sure how long we'd do this, that's why I'm seeking suggestions on how to stop the fighting madness entirely, thanks.
Tie them together, they must learn to live as one.. Lol

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