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Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by Nobody: 9:50am On Dec 24, 2018
gloria34:
Hello Romancelanders, merry xmas in advance. I have a serious issue disturbing my head. Before i start, note that i have not been intimate with anyone 4 d past 6 months.

I met this guy about 5 months ago and things have been going well, we talk and spend some time together and he has always been Nice to me, he seem perfect in all areas but my only problem is that recently, he has taken to touching me at every given opportunity. Light touch like placing hands on my shoulder, hands on my legs while i'm sitting etc.

The thing is, i'm not Comfortable with it, i feel irritated by his touch and i always stop him from doing so.

Today he asked a question, if i Cant even allow such little body contact then what are we? Pls has anyone experienced this before?
U don't like the guy, just tell him rather than wasting his time
Imagine after 5 months u still feel irritated when he touches your shoulder. Haba that's wickedness.
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by Mariangeles(f): 9:54am On Dec 24, 2018
gloria34:
Hello Romancelanders, merry xmas in advance. I have a serious issue disturbing my head. Before i start, note that i have not been intimate with anyone 4 d past 6 months.

I met this guy about 5 months ago and things have been going well, we talk and spend some time together and he has always been Nice to me, he seem perfect in all areas but my only problem is that recently, he has taken to touching me at every given opportunity. Light touch like placing hands on my shoulder, hands on my legs while i'm sitting etc.

The thing is, i'm not Comfortable with it, i feel irritated by his touch and i always stop him from doing so.

Today he asked a question, if i Cant even allow such little body contact then what are we? Pls has anyone experienced this before?
If you're irritated by his simple touch, then it means you don't like him.
Then why are you wasting his time, using him to keep you company, giving him false hope ??

It's not fair!
If you don't like him that way, let him know period.

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Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by Nobody: 9:54am On Dec 24, 2018
MannieA:



some of you males have big issues.
If she allows him to touch her,you will call her a hoe.
if she doesn't allow him,you will call her stupid..
Wat is the issue??
But this is not about touching of boob's or other sensitive part of her body, this is just about touching her shoulder, hands etc, if she feels irritated by the guy touching her hands n shoulder, after 5 months then I dont see what they are doing together. She should just let him go rather than wasting his time.
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by ugowinn(m): 9:54am On Dec 24, 2018
consultancy:
you get irritated by his mere touch, that's a very strong one and shows you dont like him one single bit. As a matter of fact, you hate him, but long throat for free things you get from him is making you stay. angry

Simple.
Just let the guy be.
You don't like him!
The rest is long stories.

If she said she's waiting for engagement or marriage, we can understand. But you simply want no touch from him. Then let him go.
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by Malawian(m): 9:57am On Dec 24, 2018
5 Months! Abeg no mind OP, she no wan be After 2.
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by Nobody: 10:08am On Dec 24, 2018
mikejj:
oga its 5 month and there is something call choice..let the relationship grow first
Grow to were
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by ChiefAlex(m): 10:12am On Dec 24, 2018
JasonScoolari:
Some of you dolts are just another reason Nairaland ladies call us Scums.

What is the reason for the Insults? Must Gloria34 or any Female nairalander be like your sisters?

Be civil and think well before you type some bullshit.


No hard feelings.
Stfu. Pussy nigga. Asslicker
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by ChiefAlex(m): 10:13am On Dec 24, 2018
MannieA:




Your comment made my evening.

Nice one.I was about replying him but just chilled
Na Wetin Dey sweet you be that lol. Big head
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by skitkid2(m): 10:17am On Dec 24, 2018
gloria34:
Lol, thanks dear. I have no intention of replying such comments, they are out to troll and i Cant allow such comments get to me
You’re the troll
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by Prompto: 10:17am On Dec 24, 2018
gloria34:
Time and love, i understand but money, NO! I brought this here cos i really Dont understand whats wrong, if its just me or others have experienced it so to all those who are out to insult, i will just ignore
When you make a guy understand loving him is difficult after he sleep with you he will also ensure you understood loving you is more difficult so do not wail at that time. Make a stand n stick with it.
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by Skylee(m): 10:22am On Dec 24, 2018
gloria34:
Lol, thanks dear. I have no intention of replying such comments, they are out to troll and i Cant allow such comments get to me
Hi gloria34, of course, those hurling abuse @ u are wrong. However, I think I understand their feelings towards your post.
You're a single mother if am right & this guy came to you with love & passion, probably it might work out btw you too. You knew that but don't want that, probably now or even never.
Also, you want him around to keep your company or whatever U want him around for.
You're imprisoning him please.
Tell him straight you don't have feelings for him, then you'll not feel guilty of delaying & wasting his time.

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Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by JasonScoolari: 10:24am On Dec 24, 2018
ChiefAlex:

Stfu. Pussy nigga. Asslicker
Just because your sisters are not well behaved and well trained shouldn't make you think same of others.
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by chikeorji123(m): 10:24am On Dec 24, 2018
gloria34:
Thats what i've tried doing but everyone is acting like something is wrong with me. Maybe i do see him as a friend as someone pointed out. I feel like i'm d only weird one

Well yes u are,l suggest you stop the relationship and be on your own.. period..7days to go!!.
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by fortunechy(m): 10:26am On Dec 24, 2018
If u want to remain a virgin before marriage plz, keep off any relationship..... I repeat if u want to be a virgin till u married plz, keep off any form of relationship.


Not even that he's trying to kiss or romance u...He touched ur shoulder and u're complaining as if it was a stranger that touche u,. I fink somewhere girls needs reorientation in terms of relationship.
what's the essence of being in a relationship??
mchteeew!!!
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by PennywysCares(m): 10:31am On Dec 24, 2018
gloria34:
Hello Romancelanders, merry xmas in advance. I have a serious issue disturbing my head. Before i start, note that i have not been intimate with anyone 4 d past 6 months.

I met this guy about 5 months ago and things have been going well, we talk and spend some time together and he has always been Nice to me, he seem perfect in all areas but my only problem is that recently, he has taken to touching me at every given opportunity. Light touch like placing hands on my shoulder, hands on my legs while i'm sitting etc.

The thing is, i'm not Comfortable with it, i feel irritated by his touch and i always stop him from doing so.

Today he asked a question, if i Cant even allow such little body contact then what are we? Pls has anyone experienced this before?
you are stupidd
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by Nobody: 10:33am On Dec 24, 2018
Unlimited22:
Gloria34, so sorry to ask this, but have you been sexually assaulted? In any form?
It was an attempt when i was ten but it wasnt serious cos we had adults in d house
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by lanreabbey(m): 10:35am On Dec 24, 2018
absolutely rubbish...r u in a relationship with d guy?,,if yes...just touching ur shoulder,hands,leg...not even a kiss...and u r out here posting rubbish on nairaland...if it's a no sex relationship,,let d guy know..rather dan waisting his fucking time....Some ladies really really need orientation...I pity u...u go enter 30+ before marriage
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by micflo28(m): 10:38am On Dec 24, 2018
He wants to initiate sex. If you don't feel comfortable about a situation with a man and you honestly know you will never be. Keep him at arms lenght else he will force his way sometime in the future with you. If he is just a friend, be proacrive and set a stiff boundary. He wants more than just friendship. If he fails to listen and stop touching you, call off the friendship and be very careful. Most guys can act stupid when denied an opportunity. My 1% to a sister. Hope this words of mine find you.

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Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by Nobody: 10:39am On Dec 24, 2018
bigpicture001:


From all your replies..its very obvious you don't need advice. You only reply people who supports u. Why com here anyway. Uv already made up ur mind nd just need support.

Plz leave that guy alone nd stop decking him. You.might say u don't take money from him. But you took the time he would hv used to find someone BETTER. Plz don't be a witch. Leave him alone with ur no sex life.....
I Dont reply people who throw Insults around and not all comments can be responded to, they can be taken without replying
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by Nobody: 10:40am On Dec 24, 2018
bigpicture001:


From all your replies..its very obvious you don't need advice. You only reply people who supports u. Why com here anyway. Uv already made up ur mind nd just need support.

Plz leave that guy alone nd stop decking him. You.might say u don't take money from him. But you took the time he would hv used to find someone BETTER. Plz don't be a witch. Leave him alone with ur no sex life.....
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by toplinetrtrend: 10:41am On Dec 24, 2018
gloria34:
I Dont understand y most guys think any girl in a relationship is after money. I Dont have d world but recently, my salary was increased to over 80k, i Dont beg to feed

Yeah. Most girls in a relationship are after the money
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by Nobody: 10:45am On Dec 24, 2018
victorisreal02:
gloria34 I understand how you feel, you seem not be comfortable with him touching you, speaking from the males end, you'll hardly find a guy that'll be comfortable in such relationship with such strict rule of no touching, and you should also be honest to yourself, maybe you only see him as a friend or you don't find him sexually attractive.

Inspect your feelings for him properly if you mistake like for love, then talk to him base on how you feel about him, or if you feel the nice guy act is just a way for him to get down with you and leave you, then you should apply the 12 months rule

Thank you!!
Thank u
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by Nobody: 10:50am On Dec 24, 2018
don4real18:
Gloria34, you are not sexually attracted to him which is kinda a big deal. You never defined the relationship from the beginning but it's never too late to let him know how you feel.
There's a high probability that you guys won't remain friends so you might end up missing his company which you have enjoyed for the past 5 months but it's better than leading him on to a future never meant to be.
My regards to your son
I understand. Thank u
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by Investordaves: 10:52am On Dec 24, 2018
Be careful with the touch,your body is the temple of God.from touch to sin.
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by Nobody: 10:52am On Dec 24, 2018
slimthugchimee2:

You are more sexually attracted to your fellow gender
Not true
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by Buffalo2(m): 10:58am On Dec 24, 2018
zenith4biz:
We are pencil in the hand of the creator
grin grin
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by Nobody: 10:58am On Dec 24, 2018
sage101:
Just 6months?

Well whats your reasons for not wanting him to touch you?
He irritates you or U being Godly?

let us knw your reasons for better advice
From d comments and personal reasoning, i understand that i considered him a friend. I was wrong not to have told him so before now
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by ibkayee(f): 11:00am On Dec 24, 2018
If you aren't comfortable with him touching you, you need to tell him bluntly.

A lot of the time, merely showing them signs that you're disinterested will either go over their heads or be ignored.

If you've explained how you feel to him already and he still continues, you obviously aren't on the same wavelength so I'd advise you end the relationship.

Was he aware of how you felt at the beginning of your relationship?
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by Nobody: 11:02am On Dec 24, 2018
Chukazu:


Are you saying if money has been invested you would have allowed it? undecided
U didnt understand d post. I was accused of spending his money
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by BalogunIdowu(m): 11:05am On Dec 24, 2018
Your relationship with him should be defined.
But the problem I have with most relationship is that, can't they do without sex?
That's a really big problem!
Tell him what you want and of he is not pleased, let him give you a break!
Re: I Don't Want Him To Touch Me by Bizibi(m): 11:11am On Dec 24, 2018
kunleweb:




Fooool with sense of entitlement i qonder hoe you empty things see or.think of yourselves
what is this!!!?

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