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Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by kitaatita: 5:15pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
frankman365:That's the most unfortunate advice you can give someone. I married without the consent of my family and I don't regret it. Why should you sacrifice lifetime happiness in order to please parents that have about 30 years to live. 14 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by cnonyechi(f): 5:16pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
olumyde: The bible says honour ur father and mother that your days may be long. I have seen people who went against their parents and some resulted in d death of one of d spouses. I have also seen people who went against their parents they r very much alive but sooo unhappy. How will u feel wen u advise ur children and they decide not to listen. For ur maraige to be sweet and successful both parents need to bless d union 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Josh44s(m): 5:17pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
One world “Horrible”. Getting divorce soon though and am gonna throw a big party for it. Lesson I learned from it is never allow any of your wife’s elder siblings to live with you. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by sampete(m): 5:17pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
This is about my Elder Sis. She wanted to get married to a man who was way older than her, he was practically my dad's age mate. My parents and the church refused to okay the marriage. She threatened to kill herself if she wasn't allowed to marry the man. Parents were forced to okay the marriage. They have been married for years, no kids. Still praying for them. 3 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by hammerFC: 5:17pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Marriage is not personal but a family matter. It is an abomination to marry without parental consent. Afterall, the marriage is as much in the interest of your parents as it is yours. 1 Like |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by chloride6: 5:17pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
cnonyechi: If your parents are late nko? There are a lot who followed their parents and are unhappy for it. 12 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 5:18pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
frankman365:OP if you like you self. Follow this advice keenly, I mean keenly especially if your parent were responsible for your upbringing. What you are yet to see, your parents can see from a far. I am not married but have been in 2 serious relationships that almost led to marriage. My parent had problem with one and that one remains my worst night mare till date even till this present minute. I am happy I didn’t make the mistake to continue in that relationship. 2 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by sacramento1212: 5:18pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
agaliboy: Sorry about that. I will never marry against my parents wish provided their reasons are justified. If they don't consent and provides a valid reason, i will abort mission. That's why before even talking marriage, i must introduce the said lady before them so that if there's anything, it will be known early enough before the pronouncement is made officially. As long as they are alive, their parental blessings are important. 2 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by rottennaija(m): 5:18pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Tallesty1: More like happily ever after. Experience in both ends abound, some work out well, other may not. Best thing is, be sure of who you are marrying and why 3 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 5:18pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Tallesty1:I don't know why I read your post with apprehension, hoping it ended well. Thank God it did. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Lizilicious(f): 5:19pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Lemme come here and read experience |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Tallesty1(m): 5:20pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
rottennaija:Exactly, otherwise nah only you go suffer am |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 5:20pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Thread says those with experience should share. Instead, people are giving unsolicited advice. 18 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Tallesty1(m): 5:21pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
ADAMUdaCOWBOY:Obviously because there are too many similar stories with a bad ending. 2 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by sacramento1212: 5:22pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
chloride6: It's a different thing if the parents are late. Marriage is more between the families than the individuals marrying that's the reason it's very important the parents consent to it if they are still among the living. Yes, some followed their parents advise and are unhappy while others didn't follow and are also unhappy. The most important thing is let their reasons for objection be valid. 3 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 5:25pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
agaliboy:I relate with your story very well!!! 1 Like |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by jaszplus12(m): 5:28pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
A lot of things are involved here... firstly how long you have been dating is very important...I say so because don't ever let go of someone you've dated truthfully for a long time just because someone else does not like her! If you leave her I guarantee you...the next person u will date won't last as long... check with other people's experience... But I truly hope this relationship has seen it all... Now...your mom doesn't want u to marry her because of HER mother behavior... funny. Time passes... people change...then what's your dad's opinion? Carefully coax your mum to see reason.. My experience is nearly the same as my mom felt o was not bouyant enough to marry a girl I'd dated for 8 years prior! Long story short I followed my heart and went ahead...now the lady was wise enough to impress my mum with wisdom and just fee gifts... today she's the favorite wife among 5 others! Stay focused bro....it always turns out well! 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by LegitGirl(f): 5:28pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
NEalt1: Lol. She won't misbehave. And if she sees this, she'd still know it's you. 5 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 5:29pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
sandra50: He isn't looking for advice. He's looking for people to share their experiences so that he can learn from them. Like he said, talk is cheap indeed. 6 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by bujebudanu1(m): 5:30pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
LegitGirl: Like she's the only girl a guy is dating and his parents doesn't like her? 12 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Ishilove: 5:30pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Moneystopnonsen:Wheew! I read stories like this and realise how blessed I am. 3 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Adebowale89(m): 5:32pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
I'm not married yet but soon and I can recall to my mom instances why we can't marry outside Yoruba land but I sat her down and make her understand why marrying another person except my longtime gf would cost my marital life. after all discussion she succumb. she's now my mom best friend, she even side her anytime we have misunderstanding the good things of this is my dad support anybody even if she's Hausa but she must be educated I think you should talk to your mom close ally and find time to sit her down when she's in happy mood 1 Like |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Ishilove: 5:34pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
agaliboy:Life is a never tiring teacher. We will keep learning till we leave this earth. 1 Like |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by jmaxjohn(m): 5:34pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Your mum is looking for the attention and care she lost from their dad from you. Seems you're the only sibling in Nigeria Moneystopnonsen: 2 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by HBB1(m): 5:34pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
A sister married without involving any of us-- I mean nobody! My parents almost died when they heard. ( They had been planning on how to edge out the poor guy, who had stayed with her through thick and thin).But they have calmed down now, and she and her husband are doing well-- it's been over 10 years. Though I didn't support it, (I felt he stole her then) but bruva, it's your life! Person wey no get parent no go marry? I'm currently dating a woman 3 years older, thankfully my mum likes her, but if she didn't, that's her business, I'm not marrying her (mum) She married her husband and has borne the consequences, I will marry mine and bear it too. People should be responsible for their actions abeg-- if you get burnt, you blame yourself and non other 56 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by femison32(m): 5:35pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
kitaatita:God bless u am facing the same challenge 2 Likes |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by sunmarouk(m): 5:35pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
let me share my own experience the family of my girlfriend then refuse accepting me to date/marry their daughter simply because my uncle had an issue with her(my girl) mum that led to her death. they were bittered on hearing my family name(same with my uncle). my girl gave me an option to eithr get her pregnant or elope with her. she was ready to disobey them, but i was not ready, simply because i couldnt leave all what i have on ground & wasnt capable to foot all her bills then, to avoid her dropping out from school) she refuse to see reasons & later hated me for that 1 Like |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by babadee1(m): 5:37pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
Tallesty1: This is a great story bro with very useful lessons. By the way, what state are you guys from? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by NwaliE01: 5:39pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
The heat in marriage is too much for any man to bear alone. Don't disobey your parent's advise because in marriage, you need a family in your immediate home/family. Your mum's advise may safe your neck in the future which you might not see now due to blinded love. Think, think and think again before you go about it your own way. |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 5:39pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
I'll share an experience my elder brother had going against father's instructions. My elder brother had child out of wedlock with a lady from Ikeduru, IMO state but the lady grew up in Owerri. When he brought her to see my parents in abuja, my parents didn't like her attitudes and they made it known to him. I could remember father telling my brother to cut every ties with the lady because he won't succeed nor live long with a woman as such. Father explained his decision and gave instances to buttress his points, but my elder brother went ahead to marry the girl. Few years down the lane, father became an umpire to the couples each time they had a fight. He still remained my brother his advice few years ago. Father died a disappointed man seeing how miserable his oldest son became for not listening to him. It's been 5 years father died yet, the marriage has never been peaceful. My brother became a shadow of his old self. A broke man who can no longer afford to look after himself and his family. He went from grace to grass, filled with regrets. I pray he gets it right and God forgives him 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Share Your Experience After Marrying Without Your Mother's Or Father's Consent by Nobody: 5:40pm On Jan 12, 2019 |
As a lady it's not wise to go into families that don't want you.If you sense any form of coldness or silent treatment,it's best to abandon that relationship ASAP.I had my own experiences and I never bounded with my ex mom and family members,don't Know why though,maybe because of the conflicting tribes or the fact that it seems everyone eyes was trying to validate the "foreigner".Its very easy for parents to reject women,but of course they don't realize they also have unmarried daughters as well. I don't think my parents have a say in my choice of spouse.They can only advice but the decision to marry or not lies entirely on me since I will be the one to live with the man. 4 Likes |
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