krissconnect:
Hy, sorry to bother you, I don't know if anyone of you here is peculiar with my situation. I tend to give up on people easily, like a minor misunderstanding with the person, I clear their memory from my head instantly and it never comes back.

My 5 yrs old gf broke up with me earlier this year and I acted like nothing happened, I didn't even reply her breakup WhatsApp message.

I have a friend today and next day, I quit them and it doesn't even bother me. Since I'm growing older, it's started to bother me and I'm deeply worried prior to my relationship life.

I met a girl last week and cos she couldn't reply me on time on WhatsApp, I deleted her number and everything. It happens to me every time.

Pls I don't think this is normal, I need help.

I wouldn't really consider yourself having an issue.. I feel it's best and you've probably never met anybody of impact which is rare. I'm like this cos I'm not ready for people's drama cos in the past I confronted people about their wrongs and they still carried on with their acts anyways. Point is, once u meet someone unique to you, you'll be more inclined to keep that person in your life.. Your actions are best cos you aren't obsessive or clingy.. Don't stress yourself for people who won't stress for you. Get your iPhone xs Max at an affordable price. Whatsapp the number on my Profile

MissRaine69:

What’s normal? Normal is so subjective.

True

MissRaine69:
Some people are expressive regarding how they process emotional distress

Word

So many can relate

shege45:
u know d truth is I’m impatient with girls. I don’t like making them feel like one can’t do without them. The moment i just sense that she’s forming hard to get, i leave her. I know some people would say push harder, some girls just do it but why would i push so hard when ur not the only girl in the world

That's my take too when I was younger, but one day I learnt that pushing harder pays.

I'm married now but the story I am about to tell happened when I was still a fine handsome man. When I say handsome I mean "HANDSOME" May be that was one of my problems who knows. I used to believe in my looks and would feel like as a fine young man if I toast you and you say No.I move on cause I knew I wasn't bad looking. I dress well and look good so if you reject me I won't feel too bad. Because I won't be feeling like " may be because of my bad looks" "may be because I don't dress well" in me I would just say its your cup of Nescafe! and I move on.

There was this fine girl working at the old Leventis Stores in Ibadan 98/99.

I went to buy something there and I saw her. She was one of the sales girls. I greeted her and told her I liked her and she rejected my friendship offer politely with a smile. I now made it a duty to go there like twice or thrice every week. Telling her my intention. She kept saying No.

The day I went for the last time, I didnt go to her but straight to one of her colleagues who already knew my intention. I told her that today is the last day I have come to let your friend Eno (Thats her real name ) know my intention, after today I won't step here again. It was like a treat and really I meant it. I like this girl but I was fed up with the hard to get attitude.

The lady said I should sit at the the Snacks section and wait for her and off she went to meet her where she was. I bought some snacks and soft drink and waited. Not long after then Eno came to sit in front of me. We chatted for like 5minutes, she was on duty and her bosses must not see her chatting like that with a customer, and that was it we booked a date. And She was really a marriage material.

We were good friends and if not for circumstances she would have been the one I married.

Problems with Guys like us is that we don't realise that every girl you meet has got someone in her life already, she would need some time to decide to drop the guy for you or to have you as a friend till she looks for a way to discard the person she met before you.

We just want a lady to say Yes straight away because you see yourself as handsome , rich or famous.

Its not like that. You should just continue to keep up appearance and be nice till she is convinced on what to do with you.

A lot of girls that said No yesterday ended up being Loving Wives of the same Guys they rejected.

Patience is the key.

Nawaooo

Toks2008:


Read this.

https://www.nairaland.com/3610005/before-fire-shots

Wow
That was enlightening I must say

@OP am having the same issue .......though i believe the problem na pride........but i roll smoothly with fellow niggaz

MyGeneration:
Mine is even worst, if I meet a girl and go through the stress of wooing her and she finally agrees to date me, immediately I loose interest. I stop calling or picking up her calls and start avoiding her, even though we have not had sex. It's really demonic

Same here. Its like my pleasure lies in the wooing, chatting and laughter aspect.

samysmoothfresh:



feb 14th would mark my 8years anniversary living like this.


Sometimes this feeling is great cos when others are worrying (most times unnecessarily), i'm as cool as a monk but other times, e just still get as e be.


I myself would start wondering why the fvck i aint bothered about something that should freak me the hell out.

I thought it was Schizoid Personality Disorder at first, but then I later found out it's some spiritual awakening process.

Topze:
Well it's not that bad as far as you're still in good terms with your parents and siblings....

Wish you the best

BTW i have a luxury watch for sale...check my signature

I need to check my life..
I stopped picking mumcy calls
I dey para with popcy like this
But cool with all my siblings...
My parents no longer live together sha .

justmykel:


Wow
That was enlightening I must say

I don mention lalasticlala tire to put am for front page.

Toks2008:


I don mention lalasticlala tire to put am for front page.

It's on FP na.. E don tey sef

Shezkid:


It's on FP na.. E don tey sef

Not this one...tbe quoted one.

Toks2008:


I don mention lalasticlala tire to put am for front page.

I guess it's because it's not a SNAKE thread, I learnt he loves SNAKES �

Hmmm

FredAndrew:
You need prayers

Prayer for every thing. This is why Nigeria is neck deep in shit.


Instead of working hard people will fast and pray, visit imam, sacrifice rams, chickens, even human beings.

Imagine prescribing Panadol for every illness, malaria, typhoid measles...

Prayer works but not for this.

tamethem:


That's my take too when I was younger, but one day I learnt that pushing harder pays.

I'm married now but the story I am about to tell happened when I was still a fine handsome man. When I say handsome I mean "HANDSOME" May be that was one of my problems who knows. I used to believe in my looks and would feel like as a fine young man if I toast you and you say No.I move on cause I knew I wasn't bad looking. I dress well and look good so if you reject me I won't feel too bad. Because I won't be feeling like " may be because of my bad looks" "may be because I don't dress well" in me I would just say its your cup of Nescafe! and I move on.

There was this fine girl working at the old Leventis Stores in Ibadan 98/99.

I went to buy something there and I saw her. She was one of the sales girls. I greeted her and told her I liked her and she rejected my friendship offer politely with a smile. I now made it a duty to go there like twice or thrice every week. Telling her my intention. She kept saying No.

The day I went for the last time, I didnt go to her but straight to one of her colleagues who already knew my intention. I told her that today is the last day I have come to let your friend Eno (Thats her real name ) know my intention, after today I won't step here again. It was like a treat and really I meant it. I like this girl but I was fed up with the hard to get attitude.

The lady said I should sit at the the Snacks section and wait for her and off she went to meet her where she was. I bought some snacks and soft drink and waited. Not long after then Eno came to sit in front of me. We chatted for like 5minutes, she was on duty and her bosses must not see her chatting like that with a customer, and that was it we booked a date. And She was really a marriage material.

We were good friends and if not for circumstances she would have been the one I married.

Problems with Guys like us is that we don't realise that every girl you meet has got someone in her life already, she would need some time to decide to drop the guy for you or to have you as a friend till she looks for a way to discard the person she met before you.

We just want a lady to say Yes straight away because you see yourself as handsome , rich or famous.

Its not like that. You should just continue to keep up appearance and be nice till she is convinced on what to do with you.

A lot of girls that said No yesterday ended up being Loving Wives of the same Guys they rejected.

Patience is the key.

God bless you sir

Toks2008:


Not this one...tbe quoted one.

Okay..

justmykel:


I guess it's because it's not a SNAKE thread, I learnt he loves SNAKES �

Lol! It's not easy honestly considering the number of times his moniker is mentioned in one hour on nairaland threads...

Toks2008:


Lol! It's not easy honestly considering the number of times his moniker is mentioned in one hour on nairaland threads...

Ya true
Na him own hustle be that

you are normal ma bro or you want me to tell you is your village people that are eating agidi with your destiny

i assure you nothing is wrong with you for I just like you the real reason may be due to the fact that you've had too many exposures and experiences in the past which makes you to realise that you're allergic to some people's Bullshits of which if you let it bother you it only affects only you emotionally for if you get angry at other people's bullshit you're only hurting yourself and the person won't even know.
so bro you are normal there's nothing wrong with you

I can see a lot of people claiming to be like the OP

Hhmmmmmmm

krissconnect:
Hy, sorry to bother you, I don't know if anyone of you here is peculiar with my situation. I tend to give up on people easily, like a minor misunderstanding with the person, I clear their memory from my head instantly and it never comes back.

My 5 yrs old gf broke up with me earlier this year and I acted like nothing happened, I didn't even reply her breakup WhatsApp message.

I have a friend today and next day, I quit them and it doesn't even bother me. Since I'm growing older, it's started to bother me and I'm deeply worried prior to my relationship life.

I met a girl last week and cos she couldn't reply me on time on WhatsApp, I deleted her number and everything. It happens to me every time.

Pls I don't think this is normal, I need help.

If you really quit easily, you wouldn't have dated your girlfriend for five years.

Mac2016:

I am seeing someone like me after many years. Nothing in the world look so real to me even people and relationships. When you are near I feel strong connection when far away I fill strong disconnection, not hatred, but to me i just assume you are fine and good and shd not be bothered.
To relationship, once it ends with us, I may miss you dearly at first but later i get very used to your absence from my life and to me the person becomes more of a myth than reality.
It is well!

, I never knew it's abnormal. That's exactly like me, immediately I leave an environment, I don't miss anything about it. I've spent up to four years in Lautech and I don't have a single friend, I'm currently alone in my room and I'm super comfortable with it.

I'm suppose to go to my area brother's hostel but I'm just comfortable with being alone . Hope it does not have a negative psychological effect?

krissconnect:
Hy, sorry to bother you, I don't know if anyone of you here is peculiar with my situation. I tend to give up on people easily, like a minor misunderstanding with the person, I clear their memory from my head instantly and it never comes back.

My 5 yrs old gf broke up with me earlier this year and I acted like nothing happened, I didn't even reply her breakup WhatsApp message.

I have a friend today and next day, I quit them and it doesn't even bother me. Since I'm growing older, it's started to bother me and I'm deeply worried prior to my relationship life.

I met a girl last week and cos she couldn't reply me on time on WhatsApp, I deleted her number and everything. It happens to me every time.

Pls I don't think this is normal, I need help.

The truth is that you don't place value on the people that have been coming across you

But the good thing is that you are now becoming aware of your self and your attitude

As far you are living, people will upset you likewise you too will upset people

Learn to be tolerant and see the goodness in people and you won't want to lose them

It's still early for you to get your balance

FavouriteMe:
How people exceed a year or two in a relationship still baffles me!
Anyway this your condition only reflects the low value you have for others.

Yours ain't good either.. if you can't keep a two year relationship.. can you really live with someone for lifetime? No way!

[b]hmmmm erm its like God just knows how to provide solutions to your problems when you least expects . thank you op for opening up for many of us that are still hiding behind the curtain... please I am sort of similar to what the op is complaining about or even worst..
I regularly shut out ladies who show their interest in me some even I honestly i am seriously regretting my actions but my hearts keeps building higher walls holding my emotions captive.. I fight it hard to love and once I begin to like someone slightly my emotions begin to harden.. this is weird and frustrating ..and i noticed once I fall in love it can be very difficult to let go and that's what am afraid of..also I think one of the things that contributed to this strange lifestyle is a result of jealousy among people especially some who call themselves friends..sometimes when I makes friends they become jealous of me because of my abilities , my taciturn nature and because of my physique and women easily gets attracted to me within a nano speed of light( I don't brag and I dislike getting attention and I am not the flirtatious type)...some married men go to the length of tarnishing my reputation so as to keep their wife's from having anything to do with me cos they are scared their wives may fall for me (which sometime happens).. as a result I refuse to make friends and I do hide some of my abilities. you can imagine a situation when a lot of guys are dying to get a ladies attention but unfortunately the girl is only interested on the guy who is not after her.. lemme just stop here there's still a lot but lemme pause here ..I would welcome advises, suggestions please. [/b]

krissconnect:
Sometimes, I do think I'm never gonna have friends, I'm never gonna keep friends. Other times I do feel I was created to be cold, stoned, and not depend on anyone

have you ever done a personality type test ?

Knowing your personality type is the first step to identifying why you are the way you are ?

MyGeneration:
Mine is even worst, if I meet a girl and go through the stress of wooing her and she finally agrees to date me, immediately I loose interest. I stop calling or picking up her calls and start avoiding her, even though we have not had sex. It's really demonic

its not demonic

Its pshycological
I'm suspecting two things

Number 1

Its either you are someone who easily gets bored and as such only enjoy the feeling of the "chase " and conquering the prey

or you discover the lady doesn't satisfy your intellectual and emotional mental need . Maybe a feeling of superiority complex or perfectionism

You have created a idea of a your perfect woman in your head and when you finally get to know this girl you are dating she just becomes like other girls.

Number 2

You are yet to recover from the hurt and pain a past lover or close person caused you and as such you prefer to let go of these ladies instead of creating something with them because the future is uncertain.

Pastev1:
My brother, it's d spiritual dat controls physical! It's not normal as u rightly said, U might have prayed lots of prayers u know, but u need someone wit higher grace to conduct a deliverance on u. It's forces dat fight against ur relationship in life, n dis can make 2remain single in life time! seek for a good deliverance ministry for deliverance.

oh puhhlease brother
I'm a strong christian but this is nothing spiritual at all

some of us have high self esteem and low tolerance for bullsh.I.t. we are self sufficient and can very independent minded

He didn't tell you he was lonely .

generationz:


its not demonic

Its pshycological
I'm suspecting two things

Number 1

Its either you are someone who easily gets bored and as such only enjoy the feeling of the "chase " and conquering the prey

or you discover the lady doesn't satisfy your intellectual and emotional mental need . Maybe a feeling of superiority complex or perfectionism

You have created a idea of a your perfect woman in your head and when you finally get to know this girl you are dating she just becomes like other girls.

Number 2

You are yet to recover from the hurt and pain a past lover or close person caused you and as such you prefer to let go of these ladies instead of creating something with them because the future is uncertain.

my problem is number 1 though number 2 is a little bit part of it. I am yet to meet my dream woman.