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Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by Nobody: 6:08pm On Jan 28, 2019

Her head has been turned.

Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by Mariangeles(f): 6:08pm On Jan 28, 2019

GenFunction:
dis foolish bae fit worse pass olosho sef

I nor blame you, na op I blame for bringing his babe matter here so that any agbero can just say nonsense about her!
Radarada !

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Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by bassdow: 6:12pm On Jan 28, 2019

ogashman:
I didn't go to church yesterday due to the fact that I couldn't iron my clothes because of a total black out by electricity distribution company in my area.

So,I called Bae later in the evening of same day,we talked smoothly about everything,cracked few jokes and laughed and then she asked me if I went to church.

Being the honest type,I told her the truth which was that I didn't go to church, citing my reasons.

Bae really got angry.saying that I never liked going to church bla bla bla.

That how can I call myself a Christian and feel comfortable sitting at home on a sunday.

I apologised for not going to church but also reminded her that going to church does not take one to heaven.

However I told her that one could be a church goer but not a doer of God's word.she should focus more on who I'm and not whether I go to church or not..it doesn't really matter.

There are so many people that go to church yet they do the opposite of what they stand for...it doesn't make sense to me.

After everything, Bae was still angry which led to talking to me in a rude manner and i had to threaten her that I would hang up the call.. She dared me to...I did..because I was fed up with her nagging about church.

I hate pretending to be who I'm not.....I'm a liberal Christian. I go to church most times but not all the time and I hate people wanting to force me to just because they feel it is the right thing.

We have not communicated since yday and I have decided not to call her(knowing she did be waiting for me to call) because I don't think I was wrong in this case.

Pls,My people am I wrong in this?or my girl is just over reacting ?because I see this as a non-issue really.

Reading this, you just sounds like Me exactly except that am not yet in a relationship.

I posted on Facebook early last year that I would suspend going to church as it's not worth my time.

If I want to worship God, I either pray at home (heck my prayer doesn't last more than 3-minutes as I don't ask God for things he has already expected me to do. Most Nigerians disturb God for things He already enabled them to do for themselves.

It's like giving someone a Car, Fuel it and the person still expects you to do the driving.

Another reason I stopped going to church is I hate it when the Preacher talks like the Listeners are Idiots.

Am a very practical person and not close to being Docile like most Nigerians are.

I can equally be very vocal when I want to. Being very practical means I questions things even your If the person is older than my Grandfather.

Now let's focus on your question. You have done the very right thing and would be very stupid to apologize. Don't get me wrong, I can apologize to anyone but in a relationship, you need to define what you what and what you expect, you both equally needs to understand one another.

If you start pretending now, how long would you do that and if she follows you because she believes you are whom she thinks you are and you later change, then the relationship (which would by then be marriage) would suffer.

Let her know your true self now. Of she isn't okay with it, let her look for the next available host.

Don't call her also, if she can't call, let her keep waiting. Relationship involves 2 people making it work or not work. If only one party is doing all the work, it's only a matter of time before it crumbles.

Learn from others. They have made their mistakes. You are better of single till your old age than enslaving yourself.

I have seen men who are willing to either do overtime at their place of work or spend more time in beer parlors just so they only gets home by the time the wife must have gone to bed.

Look around, the numbers of widows keeps rising. Most men die easily due to all the emotional truma, excessive stress, unhappiness, etc they pass through.

From day 1, let her know whom you are, what you are willing to drop and what you never would.

Women needs to know that we both need the relationship. People of the old have always made them believe we Men needs relationship more.

Another reason I tend to avoid kids. The more matured ones should know what they want. If they don't, save yourself the stress and look elsewhere. Every one mustn't be married you know.

Worst case scenario, I fit even adopt sef. I hate to allow Religious, Traditional or Societal variables define who I am. I do what I want and what am more comfortable with.

Don't enslave and inconvenience yourself doing things just so you blend with others.
You're happier and healthier being yourself.

Make i stop here abeg as am typing on mobile and needs to get back to work.

Just watch her, make her understand certain things and always let her know you aren't a do or die person. Most ladies aren't worth all the stress. Most look useful till they come inside. There own na to occupy.

Most are busy Slaying while you're Hustling, after you don manage make am, they come in as Wife contributing almost nothing useful other than the kids.

Look around, most Land ladies didn't contribute anything to the house and look well, the real owner (who is the Husband) must have died. They tend to come in with their wahala, if you allow it overwhelme you, you die and they take over.

There are few Superwomen. Most I see are pure waste products. Being very practical, I don't allow my dick do the thinking when with them.
And most have nothing to offer hence as soon as their Feminine charms fails, they get frustrated and look elsewhere.

Like earlier said, study her and know if she's close to what you want in a woman. Marriage isn't like buying food in canteen where you easily can leave.

Although me fit do my best but if e no gree, na to separate.

Funny enough, am still under 30 years and not in a hurry. If I run into someone worth it, good else na to stay. If you understand women like I do, you go understand Wetin I dey yarn.

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Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by wherewere2wear(f): 6:14pm On Jan 28, 2019

Tell her, 4rm henceforth no more touching body...Dat u listened 2 an audio preaching nd d pastor said fornication is a sin, So u want 2 stay away 4rm fornication....Church goer way dey do away match cheesy

Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by Dammy774(f): 6:17pm On Jan 28, 2019

Tosinex:
So if she dares you to tear your wedding certificate, you will do the same! You should try and learn more about women. Uncle it is not everything you tear up shirt and show your muscle! She's pissed about you not going to church, all you need to do is just calm her down, and show little remorse about it since she's so concerned! Not getting high on your nerves. Also learn not to argue much with women especially with your lady it might degenerate into what you never envisage!

so there are still sensible people like this on nairaland?
op, if you are still interested in that relationship, please take this advice
dasol!

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Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by lionson(m): 6:19pm On Jan 28, 2019

That young lady has your interest at heart though going to church doesn't make you a better Christian but attending services proves you love God. Just ensure you go next time.

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Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by sniperr007(m): 6:20pm On Jan 28, 2019

ogashman:
I didn't go to church yesterday due to the fact that I couldn't iron my clothes because of a total black out by electricity distribution company in my area.

So,I called Bae later in the evening of same day,we talked smoothly about everything,cracked few jokes and laughed and then she asked me if I went to church.

Being the honest type,I told her the truth which was that I didn't go to church, citing my reasons.

Bae really got angry.saying that I never liked going to church bla bla bla.

That how can I call myself a Christian and feel comfortable sitting at home on a sunday.

I apologised for not going to church but also reminded her that going to church does not take one to heaven.

However I told her that one could be a church goer but not a doer of God's word.she should focus more on who I'm and not whether I go to church or not..it doesn't really matter.

There are so many people that go to church yet they do the opposite of what they stand for...it doesn't make sense to me.

After everything, Bae was still angry which led to talking to me in a rude manner and i had to threaten her that I would hang up the call.. She dared me to...I did..because I was fed up with her nagging about church.

I hate pretending to be who I'm not.....I'm a liberal Christian. I go to church most times but not all the time and I hate people wanting to force me to just because they feel it is the right thing.

We have not communicated since yday and I have decided not to call her(knowing she did be waiting for me to call) because I don't think I was wrong in this case.

Pls,My people am I wrong in this?or my girl is just over reacting ?because I see this as a non-issue really.

Like Ur sincerity but there is no such thing as liberal. Christian.
God doesn't have two standard
His standard is set and can not reduce it for u or anyone.

That been said.
Been a good person isn't tied to going to church.
I can live a honest life and do good and love Ur neighbours and not be a Christian.
But as a Christian, u are mandated to go to church. So I'm not going to church is again the law of the religious sect u claim to be.

Please brother. Forget what people say or do while in church or after church. Do Ur part. Salvation is personal.

And please apologize to Ur gf. She means we'll although she may be reacted that way because u were justifying not going to church.

Shalom.

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Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by lionson(m): 6:22pm On Jan 28, 2019

oilcity:
The truth is that she loves u and cares for u although she's taking it too far. Hearing God's word regularly will at least reduce the chances of one being sold out to darkness.

There is more hope for a sick man in the hospital than a sick man in the house. Call her jare. it's not abt who's right or wrong but peace and love.

That young lady has your interest at heart though going to church doesn't make you a better Christian but attending services proves you love God. Just ensure you go next time.

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Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by enoch273: 6:22pm On Jan 28, 2019

Nanceer:
You're the man in the relationship.. why should she force u to church?

Bro, do what's right in your mind and if she isn't cool with it, she isn't your final bus stop

This is one of the best advice I ve read from a lady, I doff my hat to your maturity and beauty.

Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by enoch273: 6:24pm On Jan 28, 2019

okomile:
Do what please you.

Pastors do worse things.

Preaching holiness at the alter, they can't manage their homes.

I have also lost it for d church.

I go to worship Him with my heart.
Do what is right as best as I can.

Don't get forced down to church. Let it be your decision.

All d best!

Bitter truth dear.

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Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by Wuraola01(f): 6:26pm On Jan 28, 2019

DanDeeBoss:
You dis Geh...

Yes na

D guy ought to be happy that he has a gf that's concerned about his religious well being

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Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by kpolli(m): 6:28pm On Jan 28, 2019

ogashman:
I didn't go to church yesterday due to the fact that I couldn't iron my clothes because of a total black out by electricity distribution company in my area.

So,I called Bae later in the evening of same day,we talked smoothly about everything,cracked few jokes and laughed and then she asked me if I went to church.

Being the honest type,I told her the truth which was that I didn't go to church, citing my reasons.

Bae really got angry.saying that I never liked going to church bla bla bla.

That how can I call myself a Christian and feel comfortable sitting at home on a sunday.

I apologised for not going to church but also reminded her that going to church does not take one to heaven.

However I told her that one could be a church goer but not a doer of God's word.she should focus more on who I'm and not whether I go to church or not..it doesn't really matter.

There are so many people that go to church yet they do the opposite of what they stand for...it doesn't make sense to me.

After everything, Bae was still angry which led to talking to me in a rude manner and i had to threaten her that I would hang up the call.. She dared me to...I did..because I was fed up with her nagging about church.

I hate pretending to be who I'm not.....I'm a liberal Christian. I go to church most times but not all the time and I hate people wanting to force me to just because they feel it is the right thing.

We have not communicated since yday and I have decided not to call her(knowing she did be waiting for me to call) because I don't think I was wrong in this case.

Pls,My people am I wrong in this?or my girl is just over reacting ?because I see this as a non-issue really.

You're right in your thoughts, but there is nothing like a liberal Christian; God's words are not confusing... You're either a doer of God's words or you're not.... The light does not mix with darkness, so there is nothing like a liberal Christian.... Don't let oyinbo people deceive you

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Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by ozoneymcm: 6:30pm On Jan 28, 2019

FroshD:
Wow this life though

You have a girlfriend that gets angry at you not attending church on a sunday

And some people are looking for such ladies to make them grow spiritually in their faith.. hmmm

maybe the call didnt end well with you both, but you shouldnt take it up like that, No one is really perfect for sure and since you are in a relationship with her then you should really know your lady wont be okay with you not going to church.

call her and settle the issue Man!!

Op, read this comment 5 times and digest it properly. It's the pure truth. Furthermore you need to know you caused the misunderstanding between both of you not because you didn't go to church but for the reason you gave. You wouldn't have missed work for the same reason. Good luck

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Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by Tonysmith4sure(m): 6:45pm On Jan 28, 2019

MissRaine69:
She is a bit histronic there is no special mandate that stipulates that the only place you can worship God is in a church building. We concern ourselves with where we Worship, when we should worship, what we are wearing, the unholiness of so and so.
Focus on your personal relationship with your maker not a histrionic female. That is what’s important.

Miss Raine......

Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by Damitism: 6:45pm On Jan 28, 2019

ogashman:
I didn't go to church yesterday due to the fact that I couldn't iron my clothes because of a total black out by electricity distribution company in my area.

So,I called Bae later in the evening of same day,we talked smoothly about everything,cracked few jokes and laughed and then she asked me if I went to church.

Being the honest type,I told her the truth which was that I didn't go to church, citing my reasons.

Bae really got angry.saying that I never liked going to church bla bla bla.

That how can I call myself a Christian and feel comfortable sitting at home on a sunday.

I apologised for not going to church but also reminded her that going to church does not take one to heaven.

However I told her that one could be a church goer but not a doer of God's word.she should focus more on who I'm and not whether I go to church or not..it doesn't really matter.

There are so many people that go to church yet they do the opposite of what they stand for...it doesn't make sense to me.

After everything, Bae was still angry which led to talking to me in a rude manner and i had to threaten her that I would hang up the call.. She dared me to...I did..because I was fed up with her nagging about church.

I hate pretending to be who I'm not.....I'm a liberal Christian. I go to church most times but not all the time and I hate people wanting to force me to just because they feel it is the right thing.

We have not communicated since yday and I have decided not to call her(knowing she did be waiting for me to call) because I don't think I was wrong in this case.

Pls,My people am I wrong in this?or my girl is just over reacting ?because I see this as a non-issue really.

There is no way on earth I can date a religious girl not to talk of marrying one. They are mostly hypocrite. They think going to church is the only way to show you're godly. The fact that I have seen many of them ending up as baby mamas in my area can't just allow me to date them. Nonsense.

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Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by rhemiza(m): 6:48pm On Jan 28, 2019

DanDeeBoss:
She's over reacting joor... I didn't go to church, so??

BTW if I was the one she asked, my answer would be "Yes I went to church"....

lie to me if the truth will break my heart.

Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by Tonysmith4sure(m): 6:49pm On Jan 28, 2019

kpolli:

You're right in your thoughts, but there is nothing like a liberal Christian; God's words are not confusing... You're either a doer of God's words or you're not.... The light does not mix with darkness, so there is nothing like a liberal Christian.... Don't let oyinbo people deceive you

Funny how you think that the people that brought christianity to his doorstep are gonna deceive him.

Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by tzjaynee: 6:50pm On Jan 28, 2019

Eberex:
Na only one cloth you get? You have no excuse not to go to church. Abi na fashion church you dey go

My thoughts exactly. So he only has one outfit for church bah. The guy wasn't just interested in going to church

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Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by DanDeeBoss(m): 6:50pm On Jan 28, 2019

Wuraola01:

Yes na

D guy ought to be happy that he has a gf that's concerned about his religious well being

Abhii na.... But see as she vex...

Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by Tonysmith4sure(m): 6:52pm On Jan 28, 2019

Damitism:

There is no way on earth I can date a religious girl not to talk of marrying one. They are mostly hypocrite. They think going to church is the only way to show you're godly. The fact that I have seen many of them ending up as baby mamas in my area can't just allow me to date them. Nonsense.

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Bros abeg who provoke you

Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by tzjaynee: 6:54pm On Jan 28, 2019

Kayceenaz:

There is nothing like "liberal" Christianity; it is either you're a Christian or not! Christ Jesus hates lukewarmness. Many hide under such tags to dilute God's Word for their own comfort, gains, hence the growing contempt for the Christian faith. Additionally, not going to Church because your clothes were yet to be ironed is no excusable excuse. Would you tell your boss at where you work that you couldn't make it to the office the previous day due to how non-ironed your clothes were? Serving God is a full-time, lifelong job! Do you regard men more than Him? Your friend's annoyance stems from this understanding plus no Christian should neglect fellowshipping with other brethren (kindly see Hebrews 10:25). You cannot successfully run the heavenly race alone and in your comfort zone. So, next Sunday, defy all odds and be among the first ten present in Church.
God bless you!

Well spoken sir

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Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by tzjaynee: 6:55pm On Jan 28, 2019

Avraham:
I am praying for God to give me this kind of girlfriend.

You have one and you are complaining. SMH.

Asin ehn! Like they say, "one man's meal is another man's poison"

Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by fidkel: 7:00pm On Jan 28, 2019

I been think say this guy get sense

Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by Henri8: 7:01pm On Jan 28, 2019

No call am.

Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by fecosequence(m): 7:04pm On Jan 28, 2019

any time I don't go to church I simply get ready for a serious fight with bae.op no b only you

Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by Kayceenaz(m): 7:05pm On Jan 28, 2019

tzjaynee:

Well spoken sir

Thank you.

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Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by yemi15(m): 7:05pm On Jan 28, 2019

Ategberoson:

I have been so unlucky to meet non religion extremist so far

I don't carry any lady for head who them EPP but my best ex's left on this religion palava

Keep searching, you will find that needle in a haystack of religious extremists who is non religious, might just be an old fowl sha. Na women dey old for this country and no man dey look their side for marriage, na then den dey gather sense smh.

Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by Damitism: 7:07pm On Jan 28, 2019

Tonysmith4sure:

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Bros abeg who provoke you

Lol. No one offended me. I was reacting to the OP post. I can't date such a girl. If I were the OP, I will sit the girl down and let her know I'm not the regular church goer. If she ain't okay with that, I will wish her the best finding Mr. Right. I believe in God and I'm nothing without him but going to church can never be a proof of my love for God. I have a lot of testimonies and experiences with God to prove that. I don't need to be in church to proof my godliness.

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Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by NoisyNaybour001(m): 7:08pm On Jan 28, 2019

franchasng:
That girl's conscience is still working despite any sins and its a good sign, and she truly loves you and planning to spend the rest of her life with you, that's why she is concerned about your spiritual life, please listen to her.

I used to have that same lackadaisical attitude towards going to Church on Sundays in the past, but thank God I have regained my sanity this year and my brother I can boldly tell you that it feels so good to be in the house of God, especially during worship and praise.

Don't listen to Nairaland atheists and pagans, take God serious and He will take your life and affairs serious.

Develop the strong love for God and you will always enjoy to be in the house of God not because of your girl or any other person.

Once again, that your girlfriend truly loves you and wishes to spend her life with you, reason she cares so much about your spiritual life, please listen to her it will pay you.

Some people might be saying don't you and your girlfriend have sex, that why then are you people wasting time going to Church

But I tell you, going to Church regularly and being committed to the things of God can make you hear some strong words of God that will change your life and make you stop fornication.

Also for any man or woman to be faithful to his or her partner in our present world of today filled with obscene immoralities and whatnot, you need divine grace and help, and that can only come through being close to God by hearing God's words and filling your soul, mind and spirit with the words of God; you can hardly achieve these things if you are not committed to Churxhy, tell yourself the truth.

Faith cometh by hearing and hearing and hearing, not just by hearing once or twice. Hearing the word of God repeatedly can develop your faith and make you flee from sins.

We all are sinners but we all need the daily grace of God to flee from sin. So keep going to Church and be listening to word of God, one day, God will penetrate your heart and make you change from sinful ways.

All the best

ur always making alot of sense in ur comment man, I don't know u personally but hey God bless u real good

@Op take this one In a million advice

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Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by Ategberoson(m): 7:10pm On Jan 28, 2019

yemi15:

Keep searching, you will find that needle in a haystack of religious extremists who is non religious, might just be an old fowl sha. Na women dey old for this country and no man dey look their side for marriage, na then den dey gather sense smh.

your opinion. I like a Lady with round big butt BBW precisely and I'm not settling for less but ladies below 30yrs won't see me close to them anymore

Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by papyskinsy: 7:10pm On Jan 28, 2019

bro. to be sincere.. u miss her.. and something is telling you to call her lol cheesy

.. dont call her yet call her de following day.. saying yu felt it was childish of her to have got annoyed over a petty issue like dis.. and yu ha e slept over it.. and wanna her view.. as yu seek for resolution.. Good luck mahn

Re: She Got Mad Because I Didn't Go To Church by yemi15(m): 7:17pm On Jan 28, 2019

Ategberoson:

your opinion. I like a Lady with round big butt BBW precisely and I'm not settling for less but ladies below 30yrs won't see me close to them anymore

Then that will be hard, might be time to find that woman you want from Benin Republic here, at least e no far. As for our women, when they are less than 30, na so so mundane requirements den dey carry around before unable go become their ordinary boyfriend.

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