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How does she lose the pregnancy?

Vincent88:

Im worried about this too because i dont want my secret to lead him to suicide because its already suffering so much since the divorce but myself im not in peace too because hidden it is killing me every singld day. My brother own a house where he is staying with the kids but he does not want anyone to take over the children myself and wife has tried if we can get the kids to live with us or just the 2 girls he has refused saying he cant live without them he has already lost their mother and he cant be apart from them their are his treasures . He bring them to my house every holidays . Do you think i should keep the secrets from my brother and my wife please?

I don't really know whether you want to talk about the secret because you think it could be responsible for your wife's problems ( which I don't believe). But my candid advice to you: Keep that secret with you forever. Right now, it is not clearly harming anyone but yourself. Maybe when you let it out, heads will roll. Some things are better left unsaid.

Abfinest007:
just cook anoda story convince ur broda to go for a DNA test for all the children tell him u will pay then when d result is out beg him to forgive u

Just say you want the op to die.

Many problem but the most important is your concubine who probably spiritually tormenting you and the husband, then your sin against God and humanity ,seek for spiritual help first . If you confess to your brother the underlying power of the on have not been removed.

Bros you can't keep such a secret....sadly it has to come out. Especially to your wife and also you have to tell your brother. It's just sad but you have to own up to it.
Anyways that's up to you, if you feel you can face the heat.
Now as per your wife's miscarriage I don't know maybe you know but have you considered doing blood tests to confirm your wife's blood group and genotype and yours....... There's a chance your Rhesus factor is the same and that affects or one or both of you have the AC genotype. Please consult medical experts and do something because this isn't a case of cannot conceive but she does and it's a miscarriage I believe it's a medical issue

I wish the kid was younger than 10,say 2 or 3 you would have been able to swab her mouth and send off for DNA to be compared to yours to make certain she is really yours.
At 10 you can't do that.
This is not a good time to tell your brother IMHO.
Confess to your wife,it happened before you met her.At least that will free your mind.
I hope she is mature enough mentally to know it should stay between you two only.
I don't advice you say a thing to your brother in his current state.This will devastate him.
He has lost a wife ,his last child is not biologically his and then you spring this up .
But that ex wife na wa for her.
Who knows if the other 2 are your brother's.Where did he find such a wife

You did not offend your wife because you were not married to her when the deed was done. Try and confessed to your brother, possibly as you have hinted, through another brother. The secret must not follow you to the grave. Please, do it soonest.

Vincent88:

Yes the story is true im not lying ... thanks the only family i have is my 2 brothers ,the other family members we dont have a very good relationships but i will try to talk to my middle bro who is in dubai to see if he can offer any help to talk to our senior brother . All i want is for this secrets to come out so i can beg for my brother forgiveness and be free

How do you know that the girl is your child? I would advise you to do a DNA test first.

You made a great mistake by not reporting to your brother what the wife then was up to. Or, for not packing your bag then and leaving for good.

Vincent88, your brother deserves to know the truth but he is not in position to hear the truth. You may end up causing more harm than good. I will advise that you keep quiet. Your wife miscarriages has nothing to do with your past deed as miscarriages can happen to innocent people. Take your wife to a doctor.

Your brother is already broken and emotionally wrecked. To break such truth may lead him to commit suicide or kill you.

eyinjuege:
What is causing your wife's miscarriages? They need to investigate whats causing it.
Get a good hospital for when next she gets pregnant. Some women just need to be placed on aspirin when pregnant, but that's for particular disease conditions in them. Some may have rhesus incompatibiilty and so many other reasons for recurrent miscarriages.
Anyway, as per your child with your brother, if I were in your shoes that secret remains one forever. You're a deadly snake sha, and if i were also in your brother's shoes and find out, I will try to kill you.

Heeeeyyy!


You're a gifted writer whose head is correct.


You took all those words out of my mouth!


No more no less!

Confess to your bro , ask God for forgiveness.The Lord do love you and he wants the best for you. Nothing is impossible, Accept Christ as Lord and Saviour.

Vincent88:

Yes the story is true im not lying ... thanks the only family i have is my 2 brothers ,the other family members we dont have a very good relationships but i will try to talk to my middle bro who is in dubai to see if he can offer any help to talk to our senior brother . All i want is for this secrets to come out so i can beg for my brother forgiveness and be free

The first step is to request for a DNA test for the remaining 3 children, that's the only scientific proof that the girl is your child

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Forget all these English, the lady has spiritual husband that’s all.


Go to a good Celestial Church I’m sure God will free her.

As for your brother, don’t tell him anything for now if you don’t wanna send that man to his early grave.

He can kill you, kill the kids and kill himself. I am a Nairalander I see unbelievable news everyday.

I know you’re being pushed to confess just because you thought your wife not being able to conceive is because of your past. Nah! It’s because she has a spiritual husband.

Heed to my advice and don’t forget to Thank me Later!!!

Vincent88:
Thank you so much guys for all the advices , after reading your advices i realise that i was being selfish looking for my own interest to bring the secrets out because im desperate for my wife to give me my own child i taught maybe bringing this out will deliver us from having our own children , but i was not caring about how my brothers and wife will feel about hearing this especially my brother because he is already a broken man who rely on alcohol and the only things that is keeping him alive it is his children nothing else. I have come to conclusion that i will take the little girl for a secret DNA test to find out if she is mine or not and even if the results came she is my daughter i will forever keep this secrets till my last day on earth . My wife is not the same anymore since her last miscarriage she is depressed , loosing appetites and weight i cant bear to see her looking sad everyday she is only 24 please put us in your prayers for God to remember us and put a smile on my wife face again . Thank you

Oga, God wants you to confess your brother that you slept with his wife severally. But go on and do the dna test. If it is positive, add to your confession of sleeping with his wife, that you fathered the girl. I repeat, the secret of your adultery with his wife must not follow you to the grave.
Coming to DNA, I feel that since you are blood brothers, your DNA will still march his to a certain percentage.

IF ONLY YOU WILL USE YOUR SENSE WELL LISTEN , DO NOT TELL ANY OF THEM , SOMETHING SIMILAR HAPPENED TO SOMEONE, ASK GOD FOR FORGIVENESS,AND FORGET IT.

He has said it all.,God will help you.





quote author=yvelchstores post=76116758]This is a very sensitive issue however I have to state that a man who believes he is bound is bound but if you believe in Jesus, u can no longer be bound for your past sins because he paid for them all with his life.

For the issue about your daughter, your wife will forgive u but your brother, that will be so tough, only God can touch a man's heart so I suggest you pray about it first.
Since your other brother is away, if your brother is a Catholic, go to a priest and confess asking him to be a middle man between you and your brother. He will help explain things to your brother particularly stressing the fact that you have not been yourself all these years.

A DNA test should still be conducted because the girl might just be your brother's at the end of the day but the confession is important not withstanding.

It won't be easy but it will be worth it. I support your plans to come clean but do it through a man of God.

All the best[/quote]

Vincent88:

Thanks i will tell my wife but im not sure when is the right time to speak with her maybe early morning or very late at night i just dont know and i hope she will not leave me after hearing this

Lol,are u for real?

Keep ur mouth shut and work on getting a successful delivery for ur wife

Ur brother doesn't need that shiit now,he will kill himself.

MARK MY WORDS!!

Tosinex:
Open up to your wife! As long as that child is yours your wife needs and must to know. Then you both should pray fervently in togetherness that you won't loose another child. That's the first step!
The second step is more tasking! Concerning this, you should involve a respected elder who can conveniently talk to your brother on your behalf! You both will go and seek the forgiveness of your brother. There's nothing hidden that won't be shown to light, whether here in this life or hereafter after death, so it's better you let your brother know now so you can gain his forgiveness and God's mercy can shine upon you and your wife and she will conceive and bear you a child safely!!! You've wronged your brother, you need his forgiveness, go and get it! God is giving you a chance to do so, and thats the reason for your wife's predicament, don't hesitate, don't tarry long, may you find God's favor in the face of your brother. Grace!!

Congratulations bro!!!
U have successfully killed the OP!!!

This is a very delicate matter, that will put a scar in the family. See a pastor if you are a christian or see lmam if you are a muslim. Respected ones. Take it from there. Keep your wife out of this issue. God help your. Psalms 51

Please and please don't ever tell anyone this secret..get a DNA done for u and ur girl first. Ur brother will want to kill u and kill himself.

Vincent88:

Ok thanks i will speak with my brother about this but do you think it is neccesary that i talk to him about the child or just keep the secrets from him and my wife pls?

Debramaye:
Marriage is scary single 4 life

Dont make me angry right now o!!!

enesexy:
Please and please don't ever tell anyone this secret..get a DNA done for u and ur girl first. Ur brother will want to kill u and kill himself.

The story is fake biko....
No right thinking man will do such knowing the present situation on ground....

Oh God! Please bro, don't tell your brother. Don't you ever do that. Don't listen to all these people telling you to confess. Believe me , there are some secrets that are not worth letting out. Some secrets are better taken to the grave because letting them out will cause irreparable damage to many things.

Look, your brother's children may not be your biological children but they are also your children. Likewise your child is your brother's. Try to look at it in another perspective. Being the biological father of a child doesn't make you her "father" . If you follow my logic. Don't separate your child from her "father" . Yes you made a huge mistake. You messed up seriously. But let it be . Ask God for forgiveness. Forgive yourself and move on. Do not ever tell your brother because it will very likely destroy him and cause a strain in your relationship forever.

From what you said, you are three siblings that have lost your parents. You are all you've got. Don't destroy your relationship for nothing. Don't fix what is not broken. The girl (your biological daughter) will also be related to your other kids with your current wife when you eventually have some. There are no worries that they could unknowingly fall in love and get married because they would believe themselves to be cousins. What are you stressing for?

Everybody makes mistakes and in this case you have learnt your lessons. Please forgive yourself and try to move on. Treat all your brother's kids as yours, including that your biological daughter . It is well bro.

If you feel that strongly about confessing to any one, you can talk to a priest or a therapist. You can tell your wife ONLY IF you trust her not to utter a word if it . You can also confide in your other brother , asking for his forgiveness. Beyond these three people, please never ever tell anyone. And the three of you should carry this secret to your graves. Your eldest brother does not have to know. Let things be the way they are. Let it be beautiful. Peace be unto you bro.

Vincent88:

Im worried about this too because i dont want my secret to lead him to suicide because its already suffering so much since the divorce but myself im not in peace too because hidden it is killing me every singld day. My brother own a house where he is staying with the kids but he does not want anyone to take over the children myself and wife has tried if we can get the kids to live with us or just the 2 girls he has refused saying he cant live without them he has already lost their mother and he cant be apart from them their are his treasures . He bring them to my house every holidays . Do you think i should keep the secrets from my brother and my wife please?

Keep the secret away from him. I tell you he wont forgive you. He will die soon that is if he won't kill you. Confess it to God and be free. Go to your spiritual father and seek advice. He will also join you in prayers and knows the actual prayer points to raise to make your wife free.

Vincent88:

We have been to many good hospitals and she is very okey in herslef and the doctors cannot find the exact cause of her miscarriage all they been saying she is fine which is true because she get pregnant easily but it doesnt stays. It is like a spiritual things . Thank you

Pray about it.

Kerosene:



My guy sincerely, listen to what this woman has said above.
Reasons:
1. Your relationship with your brother will never remain the same even if he forgives you. You stand the chance of losing your only brother who is around you, the other is in dubai.
2. You do not want your daughter back, so! let sleeping dogs lie
3. With the present state your brother is, he most likely will kill himself
4. You spoke of Conscience; take it as a punishment for what you did and find peace with God.
5. Your wife accepted your daughter as your brother's child, your wife might not be so nice to her knowing she is your daughter. The attitude of an average Nigerian woman.
6. What you did might not be the cause of your wife miscarriage. like someone suggested on the trend, go to the hospital, it could be the issue of Rhesus.

Know that the overall decision lies with you, but how will you feel if, all I have listed above happens after confessing to your brother? You chances of been forgiven are very slim, and chances of worsen your brothers condition are high.

it's complicated as you think, what if the wife decide to confess to the man.what will happen?

Just keep it to yourself. Don't tell ur brother who isn't emotionally stable, u wud send him to his early grave. You need to go to church to pray.some secrets are better when kept till u die. Just keep it as ur secret.

Firstly
Ask God to forgive you.
Cry out to God genuinely that you are sorry.
Use Psalm 51
Fast and ask for mercy.
God will give you the desired calmness you need in this condition.

Secondly
Even if you are not a catholic
Pls locate a catholic church and talk to priest. Confess to a priest, he will pray for you and absolve you of this act.
Believe me, you will feel better after this 2 step.
The priest will likely give you a charity work to do as penance. Once you complete it, the burden and guilt of this act will leave you almost immediately.

After you must have done this.
Remove your mind from that thought that what is happening to your wife is spiritual.
It may be spiritual before now, but after taking these steps above, nothing spiritual again. Let your wife tie her cervix in the next journey while she backs it up with Prayers. Nothing will happen to the next.

You don't need to confess to any man after confessing to God. But you can tell your brother AFTER he must have gotten over his divorce and returned back to normal. But tell your wife first, in fact let her be the one to tell your brother. Your brother will forgive you surely

How did you come to the conclusion that the girl in question is yours. Prove this first before any other thing.

You might only need your brothers forgiveness for tampering with his property and not producing a baby with his wife.

DNA might reduce the enormity of this issue.