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Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by cocolacec(m): 5:03am On Feb 28, 2019 |
[quote author=Vincent88 post=76128264][/quote] How does she lose the pregnancy? |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by MissingBudget: 5:03am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88: I don't really know whether you want to talk about the secret because you think it could be responsible for your wife's problems ( which I don't believe). But my candid advice to you: Keep that secret with you forever. Right now, it is not clearly harming anyone but yourself. Maybe when you let it out, heads will roll. Some things are better left unsaid. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Martinez39(m): 5:11am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Abfinest007:Just say you want the op to die. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by drololaaof: 5:12am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Many problem but the most important is your concubine who probably spiritually tormenting you and the husband, then your sin against God and humanity ,seek for spiritual help first . If you confess to your brother the underlying power of the on have not been removed. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by reflexionz(m): 5:13am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Bros you can't keep such a secret....sadly it has to come out. Especially to your wife and also you have to tell your brother. It's just sad but you have to own up to it. Anyways that's up to you, if you feel you can face the heat. Now as per your wife's miscarriage I don't know maybe you know but have you considered doing blood tests to confirm your wife's blood group and genotype and yours....... There's a chance your Rhesus factor is the same and that affects or one or both of you have the AC genotype. Please consult medical experts and do something because this isn't a case of cannot conceive but she does and it's a miscarriage I believe it's a medical issue |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by babeosisi: 5:14am On Feb 28, 2019 |
I wish the kid was younger than 10,say 2 or 3 you would have been able to swab her mouth and send off for DNA to be compared to yours to make certain she is really yours. At 10 you can't do that. This is not a good time to tell your brother IMHO. Confess to your wife,it happened before you met her.At least that will free your mind. I hope she is mature enough mentally to know it should stay between you two only. I don't advice you say a thing to your brother in his current state.This will devastate him. He has lost a wife ,his last child is not biologically his and then you spring this up . But that ex wife na wa for her. Who knows if the other 2 are your brother's.Where did he find such a wife 1 Like |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Analysiscorner: 5:16am On Feb 28, 2019 |
You did not offend your wife because you were not married to her when the deed was done. Try and confessed to your brother, possibly as you have hinted, through another brother. The secret must not follow you to the grave. Please, do it soonest. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by SmallSimba: 5:17am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88: How do you know that the girl is your child? I would advise you to do a DNA test first. 1 Like |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Analysiscorner: 5:18am On Feb 28, 2019 |
You made a great mistake by not reporting to your brother what the wife then was up to. Or, for not packing your bag then and leaving for good. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Martinez39(m): 5:18am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88, your brother deserves to know the truth but he is not in position to hear the truth. You may end up causing more harm than good. I will advise that you keep quiet. Your wife miscarriages has nothing to do with your past deed as miscarriages can happen to innocent people. Take your wife to a doctor. Your brother is already broken and emotionally wrecked. To break such truth may lead him to commit suicide or kill you. 3 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by patchsk(f): 5:19am On Feb 28, 2019 |
eyinjuege: Heeeeyyy! You're a gifted writer whose head is correct. You took all those words out of my mouth! No more no less! 1 Like |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by cooltola(m): 5:21am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Confess to your bro , ask God for forgiveness.The Lord do love you and he wants the best for you. Nothing is impossible, Accept Christ as Lord and Saviour. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Agugbadin: 5:21am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88: The first step is to request for a DNA test for the remaining 3 children, that's the only scientific proof that the girl is your child |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by kaffy4tope(m): 5:26am On Feb 28, 2019 |
[quote author=Vincent88 post=76128264][/quote] Forget all these English, the lady has spiritual husband that’s all. Go to a good Celestial Church I’m sure God will free her. As for your brother, don’t tell him anything for now if you don’t wanna send that man to his early grave. He can kill you, kill the kids and kill himself. I am a Nairalander I see unbelievable news everyday. I know you’re being pushed to confess just because you thought your wife not being able to conceive is because of your past. Nah! It’s because she has a spiritual husband. Heed to my advice and don’t forget to Thank me Later!!! 1 Like |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Analysiscorner: 5:28am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88:Oga, God wants you to confess your brother that you slept with his wife severally. But go on and do the dna test. If it is positive, add to your confession of sleeping with his wife, that you fathered the girl. I repeat, the secret of your adultery with his wife must not follow you to the grave. Coming to DNA, I feel that since you are blood brothers, your DNA will still march his to a certain percentage. 1 Like |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Mikepenny5(m): 5:31am On Feb 28, 2019 |
IF ONLY YOU WILL USE YOUR SENSE WELL LISTEN , DO NOT TELL ANY OF THEM , SOMETHING SIMILAR HAPPENED TO SOMEONE, ASK GOD FOR FORGIVENESS,AND FORGET IT. 4 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by varyo: 5:36am On Feb 28, 2019 |
He has said it all.,God will help you. quote author=yvelchstores post=76116758]This is a very sensitive issue however I have to state that a man who believes he is bound is bound but if you believe in Jesus, u can no longer be bound for your past sins because he paid for them all with his life. For the issue about your daughter, your wife will forgive u but your brother, that will be so tough, only God can touch a man's heart so I suggest you pray about it first. Since your other brother is away, if your brother is a Catholic, go to a priest and confess asking him to be a middle man between you and your brother. He will help explain things to your brother particularly stressing the fact that you have not been yourself all these years. A DNA test should still be conducted because the girl might just be your brother's at the end of the day but the confession is important not withstanding. It won't be easy but it will be worth it. I support your plans to come clean but do it through a man of God. All the best[/quote] |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by luminouz(m): 5:42am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88:Lol,are u for real? Keep ur mouth shut and work on getting a successful delivery for ur wife Ur brother doesn't need that shiit now,he will kill himself. MARK MY WORDS!! |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by luminouz(m): 5:52am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Tosinex:Congratulations bro!!! U have successfully killed the OP!!! |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by vineyardfarms: 5:57am On Feb 28, 2019 |
This is a very delicate matter, that will put a scar in the family. See a pastor if you are a christian or see lmam if you are a muslim. Respected ones. Take it from there. Keep your wife out of this issue. God help your. Psalms 51 |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by enesexy(f): 6:02am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Please and please don't ever tell anyone this secret..get a DNA done for u and ur girl first. Ur brother will want to kill u and kill himself. Vincent88: |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by luminouz(m): 6:02am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Debramaye:Dont make me angry right now o!!! |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by luminouz(m): 6:04am On Feb 28, 2019 |
enesexy:The story is fake biko.... No right thinking man will do such knowing the present situation on ground.... |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Tenblade: 6:11am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Oh God! Please bro, don't tell your brother. Don't you ever do that. Don't listen to all these people telling you to confess. Believe me , there are some secrets that are not worth letting out. Some secrets are better taken to the grave because letting them out will cause irreparable damage to many things. Look, your brother's children may not be your biological children but they are also your children. Likewise your child is your brother's. Try to look at it in another perspective. Being the biological father of a child doesn't make you her "father" . If you follow my logic. Don't separate your child from her "father" . Yes you made a huge mistake. You messed up seriously. But let it be . Ask God for forgiveness. Forgive yourself and move on. Do not ever tell your brother because it will very likely destroy him and cause a strain in your relationship forever. From what you said, you are three siblings that have lost your parents. You are all you've got. Don't destroy your relationship for nothing. Don't fix what is not broken. The girl (your biological daughter) will also be related to your other kids with your current wife when you eventually have some. There are no worries that they could unknowingly fall in love and get married because they would believe themselves to be cousins. What are you stressing for? Everybody makes mistakes and in this case you have learnt your lessons. Please forgive yourself and try to move on. Treat all your brother's kids as yours, including that your biological daughter . It is well bro. If you feel that strongly about confessing to any one, you can talk to a priest or a therapist. You can tell your wife ONLY IF you trust her not to utter a word if it . You can also confide in your other brother , asking for his forgiveness. Beyond these three people, please never ever tell anyone. And the three of you should carry this secret to your graves. Your eldest brother does not have to know. Let things be the way they are. Let it be beautiful. Peace be unto you bro. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by ekems2017(f): 6:18am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88: Keep the secret away from him. I tell you he wont forgive you. He will die soon that is if he won't kill you. Confess it to God and be free. Go to your spiritual father and seek advice. He will also join you in prayers and knows the actual prayer points to raise to make your wife free. 2 Likes |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Nobody: 6:32am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Vincent88:Pray about it. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by jtjohn(m): 6:33am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Kerosene: it's complicated as you think, what if the wife decide to confess to the man.what will happen? |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Nobody: 6:35am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Just keep it to yourself. Don't tell ur brother who isn't emotionally stable, u wud send him to his early grave. You need to go to church to pray.some secrets are better when kept till u die. Just keep it as ur secret. |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by Roseey0(f): 6:35am On Feb 28, 2019 |
Firstly Ask God to forgive you. Cry out to God genuinely that you are sorry. Use Psalm 51 Fast and ask for mercy. God will give you the desired calmness you need in this condition. Secondly Even if you are not a catholic Pls locate a catholic church and talk to priest. Confess to a priest, he will pray for you and absolve you of this act. Believe me, you will feel better after this 2 step. The priest will likely give you a charity work to do as penance. Once you complete it, the burden and guilt of this act will leave you almost immediately. After you must have done this. Remove your mind from that thought that what is happening to your wife is spiritual. It may be spiritual before now, but after taking these steps above, nothing spiritual again. Let your wife tie her cervix in the next journey while she backs it up with Prayers. Nothing will happen to the next. You don't need to confess to any man after confessing to God. But you can tell your brother AFTER he must have gotten over his divorce and returned back to normal. But tell your wife first, in fact let her be the one to tell your brother. Your brother will forgive you surely 1 Like |
Re: I Had A Child With My Brother's Ex Wife. Please Read And Advice Me by somziency: 6:35am On Feb 28, 2019 |
How did you come to the conclusion that the girl in question is yours. Prove this first before any other thing. You might only need your brothers forgiveness for tampering with his property and not producing a baby with his wife. DNA might reduce the enormity of this issue. |
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