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SifonAbasi:
I didnt

Alright, you are good and may you enjoy your hubby to the fullest

Uniquekriss:
. Your comment is d most interesting, i agree with u, once u wanna go into an affair cum marriage, u see your woman as your mate but that doesn't remove d fact that men need to be respected by their women. The strength of a woman is in her feminity, not necessarily trying to lock horns with her man. What women don't know is that they are better placed to control their man when they make him feel like a king, with tenderness and soft spoken words, a man would give all he has, do all of your biddings without knowing and ready to do more. D moment a woman tries to tackle a man's ego, problem sets in

True

Going by what you said about her being calm when you first met, I guess there are some of your actions that triggered this seeming aggression from her. I'm thinking babe is just trying to stand up for herself and be heard, because from your narration, I see too much pride on your part. You do not expect her to become a dummy or to not have opinions because you'll be caring for her and stuff. Work on you while working on her too.. Remember before the GENDER ish, you're first of all humans.

Offpoint1:
I see a ship whereby 2 captains are trying to sail,
A kingdom where 2 kings are trying to rule,
A pack of wolves with 2 Alpha male,
A pride of lions with 2 dominant male,
A car where 2 drivers are trying to drive,
I see a perfect ingredient for a disastrous home.

Op, you don't need my advice... you need common sense. You don't have 2 madmen in a room and expect a tidy room.

Are you a poet?

eaglejay13:
Are you a poet?

No sir, maybe I am and not even know it, cuz I got similar questions on facebook whenever I wrote something.

Kenshinmunac:

One chance ni o

SUPERPACK:
Steal her pant and use her for ritual

hahahahahha craziness everywhere "u be yeye person oooh".

1Sharon:
Talk back at you? Are you her dad?

That statement got me like
He is a control freak

Uniquekriss:
I will like to meet you bro, my situation is similar to this man's, buh a little milder buh I know I am temperamental n not tolerant enough, aint enjoying it buh dun wanna quit d girl.08038635825, WhatsApp me plz. U go good for marriage counseling

Ok bro. I'm at ur service

She talks back at you, like seriously who are you?
'she can't be control ' by who?
Her parents are doing that job
You are proud and looking for someone to control, I am happy she's giving you hot hot
You are the type that after marriage, you start controlling when she has to go out, market and other places of her choice

Kenshinmunac:
Good evening everyone, I have an issue, I just met this girl recently. At first she seemed very calm quite and reserved until I got to find out that she is this very impatient type of person that gets angry easily and talks back at one, if I ever try to raise my voice at her when she does something I don't like she will be like "are you shouting at me I don't understand, you are raising your voice?"

I am now even scared to talk to her and correct her because she will talk back at me and it will lead to argument because I hate my gf talking back at me, and she is so fucking proud and won't calm down and I too am the type that get angry easily, I can't seem to cope with this her character guys I'm thinking of ending the relationship, but it's hard cause I got attached to her already

She has refused to be controlled and like to do what ever pleases her. She basically wants to make the rules in this relationship and I don't want to let her so I don't seem like a weak man. We have broken up and made up twice now because of this anger issue we can't seem to tolerate each other and I don't want or give her the chance to make the rules

I'm afraid if I get married to her tomorrow the union will end up in disaster as it will be filled with quarreling and fighting except one of us come down for each other and I don't want to be her foot mat since I'm the man in the relationship I feel she should come down for me since I will be the one to take care of her, provide and shelter her. I deserve that fucking respect she has no right to talk back at me over the slightest of things just because I express my displeasure over things she does wrong.

Please guys, advice me I'm fucking heart broken right now. I still love her and we broke up again this evening and this time with a whole lot of word exchange guys.

I'm just confused. I hate moving from relationships to relationships. I'm so fragile emotionally. It fucking devastates me

your own side of the story...make we wait for her to come talk her own too.( be like una two na anger god).
besides correct yourself sir u're a man nor mean sey u go control her life (She has refused to be controlled) na relationship and not a game cursor.

crunchyg:
You think its easy to just quit from a relationship you have really gotten attached to, or is your head paining you?

Good day sir,
Please that's your head ache and nt mine!

Saffi:
Then bleeping break up with her and bleeping leave it like that

calddon:
Whats your definition of an introvert?

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noun
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1.
a shy, reticent person.
adjective
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2. Introversion is a personality trait characterized by a focus on internal feelings rather than on external sources of stimulation.

3. For more search for:

Susan Krauss Whitbourne Ph.D.'s
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Posted Mar 25, 2014

cococandy:
You’re a control freak. She’s not your child!

Just listen to yourself and the words you’re saying.

You want to control her
You’re correcting her
You’re raising your voice at her
You get upset that she talks back at you.

Like she’s supposed to keep quiet like a child and listen to you talking condescendingly to her in the name of correction.
What are you correcting her about? What makes you think you know more than her and as such are in position to correct her.

You’re just upset that she isn’t accepting of your mansplaining.
What normal person looks for who to control?

I hope she sees the signs and leaves you before she ends up in a horrible marriage with someone looking for a subordinate, not a partner.

I wonder whose raising these prideful, egocentric boys who think they can come into a woman’s life and run the show. Oh I know.

GTFOH

I guess you are a woman and birds of the same feather,look let me reveal a secret to you most men find submissive women very interesting even if they take the woman's submissiveness for granted they will still cherish her because elsewhere they will never find a submissive woman since they already have one at home that's how posterity made it.

MunorAnne:
Going by what you said about her being calm when you first met, I guess there are some of your actions that triggered this seeming aggression from her. I'm thinking babe is just trying to stand up for herself and be heard, because from your narration, I see too much pride on your part. You do not expect her to become a dummy or to not have opinions because you'll be caring for her and stuff. Work on you while working on her too.. Remember before the GENDER ish, you're first of all humans.

Good advice! @ OP, you don't need to show or proof you are a man or the head of a relationship, that is what people with low self-esteem do, relationship is not a competition, or a boss and an apprentice relationship.you don't need to control your spouse to be a great husband or boyfriend, I think you need to work on how you see relationships all together and then both of you should sit and discuss compromise and way forward.

Kenshinmunac:
True bro unless she go control you. And me will never be a man a woman will control.

don't be deceived bro women still control men ( only the smart ones)


a smart woman allows a man exert his authority but makes him do her bidding in a subtle way.

as long as you she put you first then you are in safe hands.

when you see a woman that makes anything you touch turn to gold bro make her yours in every legal and responsible way.

tits and a pretty face may draw your attention but a good woman will keep your attention

but remember something must kill a man

I don't blame the fact that u are attached to her.. maybe because u like her appearance and all,that can actually happen to anyone but the fact she gets angry easily and talk back at u and u claim not to like that manner..then I expect you to be automatically detached from her....becos no matter aw beautiful u are... I go just dislike u immediately the moment I notice such silly manners......but anyway if u are willing to help her out cos I see she has an issue with anger and u equally claim to have Same too..oga u guys can work and help each other out.. before u know with time..u guys will be here on NL uploading pre-wedding photos

kurlz:
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introvertDictionary result for introvert
noun
/ˈɪntrəvəːt/
1.
a shy, reticent person.
adjective
/ˈɪntrəvəːt/

2. Introversion is a personality trait characterized by a focus on internal feelings rather than on external sources of stimulation.

3. For more search for:

Susan Krauss Whitbourne Ph.D.'s
Nine Signs You’re Really an Introvert
Discover the advantages.
Posted Mar 25, 2014

well i know some who i can call introverts by this definition but they are very poor writers

calddon:
well i know some who i can call introverts by this definition but they are very poor writers

Kenshinmunac:
Good evening everyone, I have an issue, I just met this girl recently. At first she seemed very calm quite and reserved until I got to find out that she is this very impatient type of person that gets angry easily and talks back at one, if I ever try to raise my voice at her when she does something I don't like she will be like "are you shouting at me I don't understand, you are raising your voice?"

I am now even scared to talk to her and correct her because she will talk back at me and it will lead to argument because I hate my gf talking back at me, and she is so fucking proud and won't calm down and I too am the type that get angry easily, I can't seem to cope with this her character guys I'm thinking of ending the relationship, but it's hard cause I got attached to her already

She has refused to be controlled and like to do what ever pleases her. She basically wants to make the rules in this relationship and I don't want to let her so I don't seem like a weak man. We have broken up and made up twice now because of this anger issue we can't seem to tolerate each other and I don't want or give her the chance to make the rules

I'm afraid if I get married to her tomorrow the union will end up in disaster as it will be filled with quarreling and fighting except one of us come down for each other and I don't want to be her foot mat since I'm the man in the relationship I feel she should come down for me since I will be the one to take care of her, provide and shelter her. I deserve that fucking respect she has no right to talk back at me over the slightest of things just because I express my displeasure over things she does wrong.

Please guys, advice me I'm fucking heart broken right now. I still love her and we broke up again this evening and this time with a whole lot of word exchange guys.

I'm just confused. I hate moving from relationships to relationships. I'm so fragile emotionally. It fucking devastates me

Its obvious you guys are not compatible the earlier you forget her and move on with your life the better for you

Kenshinmunac:
I am now even scared to talk to her and correct her because she will talk back at me and it will lead to argument because I hate my gf talking back at me, and she is so fucking proud and won't calm down and I too am the type that get angry easily, I can't seem to cope with this her character guys I'm thinking of ending the relationship, but it's hard cause I got attached to her already

She has refused to be controlled and like to do what ever pleases her.

The bold says it all.
Break up with her immediately!

Even if you break up with her, you will still have the same problem in your next relationship.
No educated and enlightened adult wants to be controlled or treated like a kid.
Even if you find one that appears slavish, it is either she depends on you for a living or she
hasn't found a better option. If you desperately need to control a person, then hire a PA and start paying her a salary.


There is a solution though, go to any remote village near you and buy yourself a wife preferably
a very young one. Then you can totally control her life without fear of rebellion.


Your gf is neither your sla

Kenshinmunac:
Mehn I wish I knew wouldn't have been involved with her. She is fucking proud but letting her go is so heart shattering because I got attached. Thanks for the advice though bro,

sorry bro
also facing same issue
love won't let me leave her yet cos I too gate jumping from one lady to anoda
if I may ask
which state is she from?

Kenshinmunac:
Good evening everyone, I have an issue, I just met this girl recently. At first she seemed very calm quite and reserved until I got to find out that she is this very impatient type of person that gets angry easily and talks back at one, if I ever try to raise my voice at her when she does something I don't like she will be like "are you shouting at me I don't understand, you are raising your voice?"

I am now even scared to talk to her and correct her because she will talk back at me and it will lead to argument because I hate my gf talking back at me, and she is so fucking proud and won't calm down and I too am the type that get angry easily, I can't seem to cope with this her character guys I'm thinking of ending the relationship, but it's hard cause I got attached to her already

She has refused to be controlled and like to do what ever pleases her. She basically wants to make the rules in this relationship and I don't want to let her so I don't seem like a weak man. We have broken up and made up twice now because of this anger issue we can't seem to tolerate each other and I don't want or give her the chance to make the rules

I'm afraid if I get married to her tomorrow the union will end up in disaster as it will be filled with quarreling and fighting except one of us come down for each other and I don't want to be her foot mat since I'm the man in the relationship I feel she should come down for me since I will be the one to take care of her, provide and shelter her. I deserve that fucking respect she has no right to talk back at me over the slightest of things just because I express my displeasure over things she does wrong.

Please guys, advice me I'm fucking heart broken right now. I still love her and we broke up again this evening and this time with a whole lot of word exchange guys.

I'm just confused. I hate moving from relationships to relationships. I'm so fragile emotionally. It fucking devastates me

If this is really true. You are best apart. It won't get better.

Kenshinmunac:
Mehn I wish I knew wouldn't have been involved with her. She is fucking proud but letting her go is so heart shattering because I got attached. Thanks for the advice though bro,

Attached kill u there . Until she attach you eith a knife body go tell u

SUPERPACK:
Steal her pant and use her for ritual

wat if dat girl is ur sister?, Rest In Peace in advance

Kenshinmunac:
Good evening everyone, I have an issue, I just met this girl recently. At first she seemed very calm quite and reserved until I got to find out that she is this very impatient type of person that gets angry easily and talks back at one, if I ever try to raise my voice at her when she does something I don't like she will be like "are you shouting at me I don't understand, you are raising your voice?"

I am now even scared to talk to her and correct her because she will talk back at me and it will lead to argument because I hate my gf talking back at me, and she is so fucking proud and won't calm down and I too am the type that get angry easily, I can't seem to cope with this her character guys I'm thinking of ending the relationship, but it's hard cause I got attached to her already

She has refused to be controlled and like to do what ever pleases her. She basically wants to make the rules in this relationship and I don't want to let her so I don't seem like a weak man. We have broken up and made up twice now because of this anger issue we can't seem to tolerate each other and I don't want or give her the chance to make the rules

I'm afraid if I get married to her tomorrow the union will end up in disaster as it will be filled with quarreling and fighting except one of us come down for each other and I don't want to be her foot mat since I'm the man in the relationship I feel she should come down for me since I will be the one to take care of her, provide and shelter her. I deserve that fucking respect she has no right to talk back at me over the slightest of things just because I express my displeasure over things she does wrong.

Please guys, advice me I'm fucking heart broken right now. I still love her and we broke up again this evening and this time with a whole lot of word exchange guys.

I'm just confused. I hate moving from relationships to relationships. I'm so fragile emotionally. It fucking devastates me

You bleeping ranting on NL and can't bleeping handle a hyper girl.

lilianofentse:
Good day sir,
Please that's your head ache and nt mine!

Never you say its my head again, do you hear me, I am not the op

MNDY:
See ehn...the thing wey dey pain me for dis life, na to see woman dey control man. That thing infuriates me asf!

OP, your girl is one of such women. The earlier you let her go, the better for you.

Therese May controls the Uk, so what’s your point? No man can control me. We are all equal. We both have our strengths and weaknesses so give the control rubbish a rest.

@ Kenshinmunac

Lol. Please leave the poor girl alone

You can't even control a child, na adult you want to control.

You shout at her and you don't want her questioning that. You shouldn't even be caught shouting at a child. Something is really off about you. If you are looking for a slave, please look further. She has proven to be well brought in love, respect and civility to expect respect from her man. You have proven to be capable to respect other people, you are a control freak. No well-adjusted man or woman would want that. I hope she has the common sense to find someone better.

crunchyg:
Never you say its my head again, do you hear me, I am not the op

Never you say its my head again, do you hear me, I am not the op[/quote]Why the sudden display of anger, or do you have a *big head*