dwilliams:
Black women no de where I de, just white women, help a brother please

dwilliams:
Na wa o, so out of everybody wey comment na only me u see attack, abeg just carry knife kill me

Ugosample:


i agree with your second paragraph

about the first
i think I made it clear that it's the moms of the boys that trained them to be the way they are, which js an irony

Men are less inclined to train their boys to be highly misogynist and not respect women


It is the mum that arrange second wife for the son

It is the mum that is harraser in chief
And the list goes on

chisco82:
The truth of all these be say what goes around comes around, karma is real. Some of all these our brothers complaining here are there married either a foreign lady who gave him all the support he needed and gave him paper only for him to later divorce her to come home and marry a home breed/Nigerian woman.
They calll it smartness(nwanyi mjiiri nweta akwukwo)
After divorcing her with lame excuses of not being like African woman or not doing what african women does
You think you won’t pay for it especially when she truelly loves you and doing her best to make the marriage work, and you think God will be kind to you, oh! You forgot she’s from a different background and culture totally. So most men are really reaping what they sow.
Let know one start what he/she can not finish, marriage entered into with deception or with selfish mindset will surely crash, be ready give up somethings if you want you marriage to work out.

TaminaliaCatapa:
This has been worrisome abeg, I don’t like the idea of bringing any gf from Naija come marry, they mess up real bad.

The Naija girls wey dem born abroad sef, they ain’t any way different from foreigners wey go dey tell you to start sharing house chores 50:50 with dem. There is nothing bad if I do those chores in my own volition, but making it a duty for me is a no-no.

Reason why I cant marry white is obvious, the very immediate point I just made up there, some won’t even let you take your kids back to naija coz it’s shîthole

Please, if you are a
1. Naija married man in a foreign land
2. Didn’t marry here in naija but abroad

How did you get married and what type of woman is she.


Please we wanna learn

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Lol... Na your own pain me pass

TaminaliaCatapa:
This has been worrisome abeg, I don’t like the idea of bringing any gf from Naija come marry, they mess up real bad.

The Naija girls wey dem born abroad sef, they ain’t any way different from foreigners wey go dey tell you to start sharing house chores 50:50 with dem. There is nothing bad if I do those chores in my own volition, but making it a duty for me is a no-no.

Reason why I cant marry white is obvious, the very immediate point I just made up there, some won’t even let you take your kids back to naija coz it’s shîthole

Please, if you are a
1. Naija married man in a foreign land
2. Didn’t marry here in naija but abroad

How did you get married and what type of woman is she.


Please we wanna learn

Bidobado1:


Dm me, I refuse to share anything meaningful or reasonable with the home based nairalanders.
I don't have time to argue back and forth with people driven by other agendas.

dwilliams:
no vex because of you sef I go deactivate my account so I no go ever make mistake comment on any thread

victorian:










Sighs , I will contact her and ask if she's hooked or not .

You are from which state ? And your age ? And profession ? Are u a christian or Muslim? If Christian ? Which church ? And I will like to have a copy of your pic and your full names .. Possibly u can send pm? And lemme have the details as u are so determined !

Divay22:
Hahahahaha
Abeg if you want to marry, marry over there but don't come here and lament when it's going tough and rough.
Cause y'all don't know, the success of every marriage is base on the couples involved and not where he or she is coming from be it traditional or western.
Same way we have bad marriages here, same we have over there and yes we still have good ones here and good ones over there.

Now I don't have open thread of divorce or marriages hitting the rock rather i open the good ones and within myself decide this is how i want my marriage to be.
It's time we stop feeding on negative things.

Bidobado1:


You are better off asking IG users for advice, the people on here are just abusers and bigots.
They only take pleasure in seeing you suffer and will laugh at your expense.

DanDeeBoss:

wetdick:


lets see the "superior" advice you have other than recycled advice that have been written here before.

dwilliams:
I have done that

aswani:
Please sir, if you have established yourself (i.e good job, house and assets), I beg of you not to come to Naija to find a wife.
You are best of finding someone over there who knows how you have to struggle to achieve what you have.
A high proportion of women that go abroad, as a result of marraige, to an established environment are the worst behaved.
If you are not established, no wahala, take a wife and you can both struggle together to make it. If you are, your best bet is to find a woman without papers over there who will fully appreciate what she has come into having seen the other side of
things.
A word is enough for the wise, don't add yourself to the group of people that regularly tell their stories of regret.

Bidobado1:


You've corroborated my statement, now Jog on.

wetdick:


as i start to jog... You are acting like you have something special to write down or you are scared of counter opinions

TaminaliaCatapa:
I think I should come in,

I am not the type that throws heritage away, and I’m sure gonna pass that to my kids.

I am the type that believes should take 100% financial care of my family, I don’t care if my wife is the General Manager of world bank, if she wishes to help, fine, else, fine too.

As for chores, I believe a man is still the head, I will still take care of my kids, help bathe them, I’m a good cook and can cook almost anything. I will surely help her, I just don’t want any woman giving me verbal agreement it’s a 50:50. A friend of mine is married and when he changes diapers for the whole day today, the wife takes over the next day, failure to do so results in problems, perhaps court. I’m not looking for a slave, for those who didn’t read between the lines.

Naija girls especially those from the village are quick to throw away their values, this is disturbing. Black Americans are the worst, don’t go near them. Whites are very loyal but a single mistake may mean divorce.

It’s really hard if you are putting your future kids in consideration, to find a woman who holds our value at high esteem...

Need I say more?

lefulefu:
very true nothing comes out in being deceptive.

khiaa:


The bolded are extreme lies.

khiaa:


The bolded are extreme lies.

chisco82:

I agree with him(though there are still good blacks) but the black wahalla is extremely much.

Bidobado1:


Be a man, not a parasite.
Just go away, I want nothing to do with you.

pansophist:


I no talk say dem no dey, I talk say dem de hard to find. One just needs to find them.

Besides, the reason western men ain't marrying anymore is not that there are no good wife materials, but if she decides to take you to the dry cleaner (especially with the ''no fault'' divorce law in the US), the law, the court, and the system will help her rape you, using your blood as a lubricant. It is about the system, not the individual. For example, your wife can cheat and you, abuse you and do so many horrible things, she claims divorce (with merely two words like "irreconcilable difference", and boom, lawyers, court and the system supports her decision and split your property, and rewards her for it.

TaminaliaCatapa:


God bless you bro, you too have seen the struggle....
Tufiakawa make I go Naija go bring one karishika....tufiakwa again....

The matter just tire me abeg

Amhappy:
You can get a good woman anywhere. My first option will be to try over there. Second option get a good exposed girl from Naija not village girl ooo but keep her in the dark on your true location and study her for a while.