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DMerciful:
You can see that your experience has made you sentimental. The Op said he repeatedly corrected her and after a little improvement she goes back. You need to understand there's a difference btw bf and husband. I myself do tell my wife few times to change her clothes while going out if I'm not comfortable with it, thank God my wife is quite respectful. A man said his wife wears clothes that are uncomfortably short, you a stranger is saying how short is short! Are you saying he doesn't know what he is saying. If a woman is not looking for market why the advertisement?

Katier00:
Op make I kukuma follow ask, is that all? You need to grow up. Is she disrespecting you? Is she wasteful or lazy or is she cheating on you or neglecting her duties as a mother and wife? Why are you creating problem were there is none. How short is the gown sef. How can you tell a woman you love that you are ashamed of her? I don't know for you ooo but my late father would say, as you makee your bed so you lie on it. No use your hand destroy the beautiful thing you have

Smileatme:
Call her, sit her down and explain things to her again. Ask her why is is wearing such cloths. It might be she does not have self confidence ZX assure her of your love and let her know you prepare her in decent clothes. I wish you the best bro.

ihimiray:
nonsense

streetsoldier1:
Life is too short to be living in bitterness and so long to crave for peace of mind, if after correcting and she still act stubborn, pls let her move to her parents house till she receives sense otherwise red card...... Not every woman is meant to stay married.

Spatta:
Truth sucks but can't be denied. trust me, she is flirting the adulterer loves her in that attire, you cant help a pretender when she ended up as your wife, A prostitute cannot do otherwise even if you tame her by religion or church dressing.

she is doing worse than the dressing, i warrant you
most women are bastards in the art of infidelity
be no deceived

andyanders:
Op, having gone through your post and also some comments herein, I can only deduce that most ladies or those not married here have expressed their own view over your post because of who they are. Some good and some bad.

No responsible woman would wanna start showing of negative behavior against your own wish having not shown those attitude at the early stage of your relationship.

Two things are involved here. Either she is having affairs outside, to impress someone out there, or she has a very close bad friend that is misleading her. Check her friends that are very close to her to know where the fault is coming from. Something is definitely wrong and if her mother doesn't resolve the issue and she is not willing to change, take a walk. I advise you not to go back to look for her in order to resolve the issue since you have done that before and it never worked. If you keep going after her, the family will see you as a weak person and the lady can take advantage of that and be messing around.

Empressabbie:
I'm sure you are one of the control freaks she's talking about. No one has the right to tell an adult how to dress. She loves what she wears, so what is the op's problem. If you can't deal with it, then leave her. It's her life

A woman doesn't need any advertisement to get a man. Her mode of dressing does not mean she is doing it for another man. You people should grow up!

Katier00:
you don't seem to get me. The op didn't complain any other aspect of his wife's behavior except for her sudden change in dressing. You can't tag that act as been disrespectful. From the paintings of the op, we can't even tell if the woman is his wife or baby mama or you can't tell tell me she ran out of her husband's house because he scolded her about her dressing. All I'm saying is that the op's manner of approach was wrong, you can't give away your relationship because of this issue. He saw a picture on WhatsApp and that is it, she is shameless. Everyone here or most people here are clamoring he leaves her, haba. I have seen people that trys to control other people's lives because they feel they own them. he said because of this, he has refused her money. Understand where I am coming from, I might be wrong but most times, issues like this are borne out of mere insecurity. He went to get a girl from a so called Christian background thinking that is were he will get a "yes sir woman"

walegees:
Not all prostitute dress provocatively, however, our (both gender)mode of dressings say a lot about our feelings.
What if you succeed in changing are dressing pattern but the intention remained unchanged?
Look beyond the dressing or pretend to be a bad guy that doesn't care.... the land is wide and fatile, stop giving yourself headache because you want to own a woman.

ghettochild4u:
My brother.. Na u see Her.... Na u marry her.
Let me you. Nowadays, ladies stay religious is they can find a man..after marriage the go back to that lifestyle... Some will even back it up with... Pastor says we shd look sexy for our husbands... So intruders won't take our home...
Brother ur mistake was marrying this one outta religious consideration...
If she no go change den divorce her ooo...
And go marry deeper life member...
U knew what u wanted as a wife.... U didn't approach deeper life church...
See ehn... Don't be bringing this trivial family matter Here. Shows u can handle ur home...as a man. Shame on u....
Gerrarahere

Katier00:
Op make I kukuma follow ask, is that all? You need to grow up. Is she disrespecting you? Is she wasteful or lazy or is she cheating on you or neglecting her duties as a mother and wife? Why are you creating problem were there is none. How short is the gown sef. How can you tell a woman you love that you are ashamed of her? I don't know for you ooo but my late father would say, as you makee your bed so you lie on it. No use your hand destroy the beautiful thing you have

Katier00:
Op make I kukuma follow ask, is that all? You need to grow up. Is she disrespecting you? Is she wasteful or lazy or is she cheating on you or neglecting her duties as a mother and wife? Why are you creating problem were there is none. How short is the gown sef. How can you tell a woman you love that you are ashamed of her? I don't know for you ooo but my late father would say, as you makee your bed so you lie on it. No use your hand destroy the beautiful thing you have

Souqwaqif:
I Want The Best For Her But She Seems Not To Understand, Pls Advice Needed

Dear All, good evening.

When I first met my woman, I met her decently dressed, since she is from a Christian background, likewise my very self.

But as time goes on I discovered she puts on dresses that are either too tight or too short. I have corrected her in love several times and even reported to her parents, she adjusted for a while and continued again.

She even promised to stop such dresses because of our baby girl.

This time around she put on a very short gown that makes her look like a prostitute on her WhatsApp profile.

On seeing it, I replied that I am ashamed and disappointed in her and as a result I refuse giving her the money she demanded.

She knows why I was angry and why i made such comment and instead of her to apologize she told her mother that I said I was ashamed and disappointed in her, her mother called me to ask me why I said such, I explained to her that its because I have been correcting her on her dressing but this one was too bad, she said OK and that's all.

Its over 5 days now I have not heard any thing from her and her mum. So I just kept silent too because the last that happened I was the one that called for a meeting with her parents to sort it out.

This time around I may not do such again.

However, if there is a better way you can advise me on this I will appreciate. Since her dad may not be in the know.

Thanks

Katier00:
you don't seem to get me. The op didn't complain any other aspect of his wife's behavior except for her sudden change in dressing. You can't tag that act as been disrespectful. From the paintings of the op, we can't even tell if the woman is his wife or baby mama or you can't tell tell me she ran out of her husband's house because he scolded her about her dressing. All I'm saying is that the op's manner of approach was wrong, you can't give away your relationship because of this issue. He saw a picture on WhatsApp and that is it, she is shameless. Everyone here or most people here are clamoring he leaves her, haba. I have seen people that trys to control other people's lives because they feel they own them. he said because of this, he has refused her money. Understand where I am coming from, I might be wrong but most times, issues like this are borne out of mere insecurity. He went to get a girl from a so called Christian background thinking that is were he will get a "yes sir woman"

Katier00:
me teenager? You don look my face before?

Katier00:
He went to get a girl from a so called Christian background thinking that is were he will get a "yes sir woman"

Katier00:
nobody is arguing supremacy here. Since you don't understand my point of view no need to continue this discussion. Have a blessed day

vingeophysicist:
So because of her dress code you want to end your relationship. My dear I even love this kind of lady's because there change in there dressing gives you signal to investigate her. Op I advice you to be vigilant but don't complain about it again so as to make her think you are not watching her. I'm certain something fishy is going on because of her change in dressing.

DanDeeBoss:
Lol... No vex sha

andyanders:
Op, having gone through your post and also some comments herein, I can only deduce that most ladies or those not married here have expressed their own view over your post because of who they are. Some good and some bad.

No responsible woman would wanna start showing of negative behavior against your own wish having not shown those attitude at the early stage of your relationship.

Two things are involved here. Either she is having affairs outside, to impress someone out there, or she has a very close bad friend that is misleading her. Check her friends that are very close to her to know where the fault is coming from. Something is definitely wrong and if her mother doesn't resolve the issue and she is not willing to change, take a walk. I advise you not to go back to look for her in order to resolve the issue since you have done that before and it never worked. If you keep going after her, the family will see you as a weak person and the lady can take advantage of that and be messing around.

nuggarito:
This is why it's not advisable to marry girls that are too religious in the first place.
I think she wants to taste that part of her life she missed.

Katier00:
Op make I kukuma follow ask, is that all? You need to grow up. Is she disrespecting you? Is she wasteful or lazy or is she cheating on you or neglecting her duties as a mother and wife? Why are you creating problem were there is none. How short is the gown sef. How can you tell a woman you love that you are ashamed of her? I don't know for you ooo but my late father would say, as you makee your bed so you lie on it. No use your hand destroy the beautiful thing you have

greatnaija01:
In the JOURNEY OF LOVE.... TAKE YOUR BRAIN ALONG.

She is dressing for someone else.... who is richer or better than you in HER EYES.

SHE IS NOT READY TO BE A WIFE.

following your own BIBLE... she is NOT a WIFE.

check CHARACTER before you go and deceive yourself at the ALTAR and Alter your destiny.

LET HER GO SLOWLY and run for your life.

She won't change even after marriage. She loves the attention she gets when she dresses that way and the money she also gets.... OOPS or maybe the sex she is getting... or she hopes to get which you are TOO GODLY to give her.

go and improve yourself financially and socially... till she is too LOW for you then she will be able to obey every command of yours. THAT'S HOW LIFE WORKS....

REMEMBER.......... NICE GUYS ALWAYS FINISH LAST.

Katier00:
I didn't say so. The op should define short, how on earth do you know that she is dressing up for another man? There are thousands and one way, he could have corrected her without using those demeaning words. From experience jealous men don't like women to look good because in their tiny mind, the lady is doing it for a man. My ex told me that I should stop wearing trousers because it reveals my contours and attract men to me, so he won't take it. How can somebody think like that? I don't support bad thing but when you see a control insecured freak, you won't need a magician to tell you that. No offense to the op

DMerciful:
You can see that your experience has made you sentimental. The Op said he repeatedly corrected her and after a little improvement she goes back. You need to understand there's a difference btw bf and husband. I myself do tell my wife few times to change her clothes while going out if I'm not comfortable with it, thank God my wife is quite respectful. A man said his wife wears clothes that are uncomfortably short, you a stranger is saying how short is short! Are you saying he doesn't know what he is saying. If a woman is not looking for market why the advertisement?