You're just a hypocrite as are most NL men.

It's not your type I blame, it's the women who stick with the broke ass men that I blame because trying to please a Nigerian man is like filling a basket with water..... pointless.

You're giving excuses specifically as to why men leave not just their girlfriends but girlfriends who were their backbone financially when they were broke. Why is it when the men become rich that they know the ladies are low in financial and emotional IQ? So they didn't know before?

And if a woman leaves a man for a rich man she's a gold digger right? But when aan does same it's the woman's fault?

jezuzboi:

That's unconditional love you're talking about, not emotional love. But we are humans and we struggle to love ourselves unconditionally like God loves us. Knowing this, we should always try to help ourselves love ourselves. Like my Mummy G.O would say to ladies, "if the man is the BREADWINNER, you should be the "AKARA WINNER"

Stop supporting nonsense. So that person wasn't disgraceful when you were spending their money and only became disgraceful when you became rich?

ImaIma1:
Both parties need to develop themselves along the process. So that they would be on the same level of understanding and no one will feel left behind when they cannot match the standard.

No one would want to take someone who is below standard to important functions to avoid disgrace.

This is one of the best article I've read on nairaland in recent times. Thanks so much. Very insightful!!

Harwoyeez:
U are not far from the truth

If he isn’t far then what is the truth?

lefulefu:
As AngelMarve rightly said if broke men who become rich are dumping ladies who started with them then why is oga Goodluck still with Mama Peace? Abi u know goodluck met his wife wen he was dead broke. And wat of E money nko? E money started dating his wife when he had nothing. All those guys u see doing away with ladies wen they make it there must be a reason to it. Understand some of these guys when they were ppor such ladies probably disrespected them and flaunted their cheating ways in his face. Its very common to see some ladies bash their own men as useless cos he couldnt buy her murano. Some will have different sugar daddies while in a relationship with their guy and u expect d guy not to leave her when he makes it. Who wants a nemesis in his life.

Wait, if she is sticking with the guy while poor and still dating richer men, what stops her from replacing him?
Staying with a broke man is very unlike females.
Women love to stay comfortable in life and quickly dump men without potential.
If she sees potential in the man (which a lot of women have a knack for) then why cheat on him in the meantime while having an idea he’ll leave once money comes?

Wrong.

ANGELMARVE:
Love is bigger than growth.
Growth of someone does not determine your love for the person.

This statement is naive and devoid of high level reasoning. How can one day with a straight face that;

Love is bigger than growth.
Growth of someone does not determine your love for the person.

Example: I have a childhood friend whom I love dearly, but who has refused to grow beyond talking about chasing women and drinking excessively. If that isn't a life I want to lead, I would cut him off.

Haven't you heard of people leaving someone they love/loved because of reasons other than loss of affection?

Love for a partner will not be a substitute for character.

Love isn't constant.

trapQ:
Stop supporting nonsense. So that person wasn't disgraceful when you were spending their money and only became disgraceful when you became rich?

Try to understand the point and don't be ready to pounce. Both parties need to keep developing themselves.

Compatibility is important in marriage, it bridges gaps. And as i said in another post, it doesn't mean that the couple won't be married forever, it would just help enhance the marriage better.

meobizy:

Wait, if she is sticking with the guy while poor and still dating richer men, what stops her from replacing him?
Staying with a broke man is very unlike females.
Women love to stay comfortable in life and quickly dump men without potential.
If she sees potential in the man (which a lot of women have a knack for) then why cheat on him in the meantime while having an idea he’ll leave once money comes?

staying with a guy who is not rich is not unlike a lady .if he's a young man who is hardworking and focused there will be a lady who will love and adore him.abi no be commercial drivers and male hair stylists they marry and get children? are such men super rich? though it will be unlike a woman to remain with a broke jobless unambitious dude who is comfortable with his state.as for a woman who cheats on u weda u rich oo,broke ooo ,potential or no potential woman wey wan cheat on u go cheat on u.afterall there are very rich successful men that have wives dat cheat on dem on regular basis .just pray u end up with a gurl who really likes u and respects u..dats all dat matters.

A lot of people did not read the write-up and as usual hyperventilated with questions already answered in it.
The article makes sense logically and is easily understandable.
There is a saying which goes ‘in life the only constant thing is change.’.
Change occurs for good or bad, well mostly bad but it happens anyway.
Anyone who doesn’t change with time or make adjustments to meet with changes gets left behind.
If lucky they get picked back up when they learn to adapt.
It is the law of the world, it is not nice but it’s set in stone.

lefulefu:
staying with a guy who is not unlike a lady .if he's a young man who is hardworking and focused there will be a lady who will love and adore him.abi no be commercial drivers and male hair stylists they marry and get children? are such men super rich? though it will be unlike a woman to remain with a broke jobless unambitious dude who is comfortable with his state.

It’s what I’m saying: if he’s hardworking and focused but not rich why would she cheat?
If she’s going to cheat with someone rich, why not make him her guy instead of sticking and enduring with Mr. Hardworking-but-can’t-provide-her-every-need?

ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?



Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.

Am sorry, but This is BS post. Between Goodluck Jonathan and Patience who do you think is richer? It’s the wife. Hell! The woman was already a big business woman before Jonathan met her. She was already importing fabrics into PH. She had financial intelligence and GEJ had Academic Intelligence. They complimented each other. That is the reason why they worked. She did not merely support him emotionally but also financially. Take a look at a relationships where the woman and the man support each other financially and emotionally and tell me how far!

ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?

Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.

go and find out d truth before u quote op. gej's wife was very much in politics, she pushed goodluck up politically, gej is not really a political man, but his wife is tough in politics in rivers state ask people.

ImaIma1:


Try to understand the point and don't be ready to pounce. Both parties need to keep developing themselves.

Compatibility is important in marriage, it bridges gaps. And as i said in another post, it doesn't mean that the couple won't be married forever, it would just help enhance the marriage better.

You’re the wisest female on this thread .

Replies devoid of sentiment and emotion, kudos .

WomanOfRace:


You are right. I dated someone for 3 good years; we went through a lot together...then suddenly he saw a light and he told me he needs someone that will be very sound and with skills, probably not HND certificate( I laughed). Finally, I believe our parts are different because I am among the most intelligent women with vision on earth. With what is in my head , mind and the support I need... my man and I will be unstoppable. Not everyone knows the value of a raw gold and in the wrong hand, will be taken for granted. A woman is a liability only to a man who couldn't identify her strength, her value and only want to mold her to his own definition of success. It is all excuse , and most men end up making the mistake of dating their wife and ending up with girlfriend.

To such a man, the end shall tell, don't concluded yet the light shines only for you.

Better to end up with a good woman with vision and ways to build empire with you, than with a woman with so many grammar ,certificate and will be comfortable just working 5-6 job everyday for the rest of her life with you. Highest a duplex. Don't throw away raw gold in place of bronze.

Such women ends up a blessing to another man who would accept them , patient and supportive enough to
help them refine the gold in them and not mold them to strangers they are not. God speaks and work in parables.

Hahahaha

meobizy:

It’s what I’m saying: if he’s hardworking and focused but not rich why would she cheat?
If she’s going to cheat with someone rich, why not make him her guy instead of sticking and enduring with Mr. Hardworking-but-can’t-provide-her-every-need?

Because most times the rich man is either married or feels she is beneath his standards to take as wife.

ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?

Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.

God bless you my brother, same should go for the woman who gets financially balanced b4 the man who's been there for her.
This generation has become too selfish, self-absorbed and self-centered, God help us.

Poor men stick with average women because they have no choice but money gives a man wide range of variety.

There is nothing stopping a woman from making her own money.

Wayne4uall:
Most of the the long time gf once or more than twice cheated on the poor dude, the guy was only managing her because he was broke....

round of applause for u......that is my summary,u nailed it

There is no such thing as "I was there when you had nothing"....what exactly where you doing? fucking him? financing his education? staying at his shop?...women should stop this their nonsense thinking of i was there when he had nothing. Truth is, if a woman was truly there when a man had nothing, he just cannot wait to get money and spend on her. This is just the simplye truth.

i can only stick with her.. if she's part of my success story

ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?

Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.

Lol you misunderstood him. The Guy wrote what's happening around the world not what should happen. You re only writing what should happen and world doesn't revolve that way... And Goodlucks wife.. well everything isn't about going to school to acquire knowledge. Patience has a lot of qualities that won't make a man dump him some she displayed before and during his husband's rein... Op is actually talking about growth in intelligence and not growth in education.

Op, I will prove this your hypothesis wrong. My bae that stood by me during my struggling times won't be dumped as long as she didn't dump me. There are still principled and loyal guys out there. Needless to say that I'm one.

Well said

ANGELMARVE:
Absolute Nonsense.

A lady stuck by you when you were broke, now that you are Rich, you left the lady because in your words, "She has now become a liability"
So tell me why Goodluck Jonathan is still with patience Jonathan?

Are you more richer and educated than Goodluck Jonathan?

Yes!!! i know a woman must develop her own self, mentally, educationally or resourcefully but that do not mean that if she fails to meet the requirement guaranteed for your financial level, that you should dump her.

A real man will use his wealth to uplift his woman financially, educationally and transform her to your standard.

Before you condemn this write up. Try and be poor before and then become rich. Then you can determine. Money changes tastes. Most rich men today don't have their first wives and their retained wives. Though, the ball is played differently by different people. A lot of things make you want to retain or let go. Some less iq women stay in a marriage just because they think there is no place to go. Life could diverse

ImaIma1:


Easy tiger!

The point i am making is that one party should not be redundant while the other keeps getting upgraded. Whether you agree or not, they cannot relate effectively well as spouses. There will be a lot of leaving the spouse behind for events, not being able to watch a movie together (while one wants Africa magic Yoruba, the other wants Comedy Central).

Don't get me wrong...the marriage could last forever but many things that could foster bonding will be absent. You might think what i said is vain and childish but it is the sad reality.

well said, growing up as a younger person, I'll rather place more emphasis solely on a lady's physique. Don't get me wrong cos It still matters to me but I'll prefer an average looking lady that I can relate with intellectually, I reckon the beauty will fade

sweetilicious:
I quite agree with you op.Most of these ladies feel it's an entitlement.If you were dating him while he was poor, work on yourself as he works on himself too.You are supposed to partner with him to build castles.What if he didn't make it or something happened to him, won't be able to to survive still? Build castles together and stop looking for someone to drain.The blessings of God for a man is the same for a woman.He said he will bless the works of our hands.Women should learn how to grab the bag too!

sister i love ur word you are an icon to all ladies a real model. your words are beautiful. life is unfair many people struggle and still dont make it. you are struggling please just note these dont take life too serious enjoy self at the right time. be humble and when you see other ladies having fun dont feel superior because they might be of help one way or the other. god bless your relationship and increase your wisdom. From my own profile pic it certain that im more likely a street nigger but im actually hardworking im my own way. God bless the fruit of our labour

Elder0001:



Your perceptions on everything posted on this site makes me believe you live in a village and have never travelled out of Nigeria to experience what life really is . You’re quite overly traditional and primitive /archaic in thoughts .

Mr Man shut up! Lefulefu is one of the few people that is sane with a good perception of civility and being realistic on this forum. You on the other hand is the opposite... What you know to do best is to throw tantrums and pride yourself in twisted mindset about some perceptions in life which you got from westernization which may not be applicable here.... Oga we know it's likely you no dey live in Nigeria and it could be seen from some of your write ups, but I can boldly tell you that you have spewed many thrash on this forum which can make many question your morality! Even the abroad life wey you dey pride yourself in, many moral and good people dey there wey no dey live life according to their destructive aspect of civilization.... So shut up and don't criticize one of the few good people here when your own character and intellect is questionable.

PS: you won't be dignified with a reply. Thank you!

CruellaDeVil:
I knew elder0001 was the same person as l0ol. Ive known this fact before but I just reconfirmed yesterday. he's also n0one, note their love for using zeros's in their names. I moda fuckin knew it! what a fuckn coward he is! I wonder how pocohantas/ antibrutus got mixed up with such a character. tueh!

Wrong. Very wrong

this is rubbish, your right up only encourages this behavior, men who do these things are fools, becos the new friends never saw anything good in them during their struggles.