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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Donald3d(m): 11:23pm On Apr 21, 2019
grin
I got married recently, I am probably much younger than you are, I was practically in your shoes .
I wouldn't want to give to much details, because privacy is important, but I would say this :
No matter what happens, stand your ground, there is only so much resistance a father can give no matter how strict he is or thinks he is .
I didn't give her belle, I married her because she was a gem I couldn't afford to lose.The kind of girl you only see in fairy tales .
If your wife to be is that kind of girl, don't lose her because of your father's decision.You would regret it for the rest of your life. Just be sure she is worth the fight, if she is. STAND YOUR GROUND.You are a man .

Try and find diplomatic ways to resolve it, pray also a whole lot, you have no idea how much prayers can move mountains.Every man has a weak point, find your father's weak point and use it against him, play the fool if you have to and at the end of the day the end goal is getting your wife.

If the drama gets too much she might leave you, trust me, women don't like too much drama no matter how much they love you, especially in this case when she has been with you this long.

If your father is still "doing strong head", please go to your in-laws collect the list and pay her dowry . You already said they trust you. She is marrying you and not your father, from what you said, its not like he doesn't like the girl, he just wants to be stubborn. But I know he would come around, find his weak point and use it against him and win him over, that's what I did.

Don't suffer a life time of regret losing the love of your life because you couldn't stand up to your father.This is one of of your first tests of being a true man.Please pass it
Marriage26

UPDATE : Since you are Christian consider this bible passage. I reminded myself of it almost everyday :
The king's heart is in the hand of the Lord, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will. Prov 21 VS 1
Make sure you and bae pray and fast fervently together. No battle is insurmountable as long as the person no be God, there is a solution.

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Drwords(m): 11:24pm On Apr 21, 2019
4601CE:
Oga leave him alone and do your thing.
If he's also doing something. dont attend .
case closed!!

Ah! Aburo, you think say na papangolo play be dis?

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by CertifiedGee(m): 11:25pm On Apr 21, 2019
Since your father is stone hearted and you don’t want to go against your personal vows and “the love of God”.
Why don’t you lie to him that the so called lady is pregnant and few days after your wedding..... you come up with a story of her losing the pregnancy, like miscarriage or something and keep your woman up with your plans so you’ll have a smooth and consistent story.
I hope it helps sha
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by kstan(m): 11:26pm On Apr 21, 2019
So those of us that their dads are late should go and dig up their dads from the grave to collect “marriage blessings”?
Well... I’m married and I will only say the little I know; “Follow Your Heart”.

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by cvibe2: 11:27pm On Apr 21, 2019
You have not tasted her kpekus for 7yrs, but can she say the same too that she hasn't tasted any other GBOLA for 7yrs you have been together?

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Lopeztranto(f): 11:28pm On Apr 21, 2019
In anything you do, remember you need your father's blessings.. Your still young..so keep doubling your money and explain to ur bae. Besides I feel your dad is right..give it 2yrs at least..

Just talking my talk ooo

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by bitingcool: 11:28pm On Apr 21, 2019
Olukologia24592:
Bro, I'm a Christian that attends Pentecostal church, with what you've said, its a family thing, so the devil is trying to manipulate your way. Because you are about to give heaven joy. All you need now, FAST FOR 7DAYS tell God to help you break that jinx. I'm not a pastor but I speak based on the direction of the spirit

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Chukabiz(m): 11:28pm On Apr 21, 2019
Okay.
Until i hear your fathers side of the story, i have no advice for you









NEXT PLEASE...

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Fadedvoices2: 11:29pm On Apr 21, 2019
Most of the married people living in sorrows today were they not blessed by their parents ?

Parents blessing is nothing . Parents shouldn’t tell you what to when it comes to who to marry


Only Africans take this shît seriously

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by cvibe2: 11:30pm On Apr 21, 2019
CertifiedGee:
Since your father is stone hearted and you don’t want to go against your personal vows and “the love of God”.
Why don’t you lie to him that the so called lady is pregnant and few days after your wedding..... you come up with a story of her losing the pregnancy, like miscarriage or something and keep your woman up with your plans so you’ll have a smooth and consistent story.
I hope it helps sha

Op, what ever you do, don't try the above...honesty should not be expensive.

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by gassbee: 11:33pm On Apr 21, 2019
U r stuck bro, op u know u can't wed without his knowledge or blessing , u gat to play ball with him
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Scream(m): 11:36pm On Apr 21, 2019
Give him fake pregnancy report...he is a jealous man, he couldn't hold himself when he was young and he does not want you to excel where he failed.

If after giving him a fake text results and he wants to view live action, you would have to give us his phone number...his service providers will know him this year.

On a serious note, pray and speak what you want into fruition...never fear him, make your decision as a man, don't show any signs of weakness or fear. Carry on like it is not an issue. Respect him and take your respect. If he starts raising voice or threatening...it a cue to end discussion...ensure you understand why he's doing what he's doing and ensure you take the right decision...at times (not supporting sex before marriage), they are right but they might not be going about their views the right way.

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Olukologia24592(m): 11:36pm On Apr 21, 2019
bitingcool:


What is it?
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by HitSong: 11:40pm On Apr 21, 2019
Marriage26:
Good day nairalander,

I am a
popular jingo nairalander but got to hide under this moniker...


I have been dating my fiancee for the past 7 years, she had met my parents and I have met her's many times . We planned to get married earlier year. But it was the year my mother left this planet, I informed my family I wanted to get married but they declined, saying, it must be over years of mumsy's demise before I can marry.


We've fixed introduction days 3ice and it got cancelled by my father, what's his reason?


1. NYSC: I was posted to serve in the Northern part of the country 3 years ago, I went to camp, but I couldn't cope with the weather and couldn't leave my business as NYSC won't guarantee me job and I don't have other option. I absconded from the service and faced my business which I saved profits in 7 digits in same year, God made me comfortable.

2: He said I should rather impregnate the girl (backdoor talk)



I am close to my late 20s, he already banned all family members as many depend on him from attending my introduction.

He cancelled my introduction without fixing a new date.

My in-law trust me and ready to release the lady to me as I haven't had sex with her since 2012 that we've been dating...


And Also, God had supplied all I needed for my wedding from A-Z.



Do you think this is a cogent reason?. I want to ahead with my wedding plans...


Kindly advise....Thanks


You deserve a ban for that crime
I'm going to report you.

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Nobody: 11:41pm On Apr 21, 2019
Drwords:


Ah! Aburo, you think say na papangolo play be dis?
My Mum did worse than this . Walahi
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by AgentGoat: 11:45pm On Apr 21, 2019
Your father na sadist. If I be you I will do my things without him.

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by crackhouse(m): 11:47pm On Apr 21, 2019
Marriage26:



My papa no get emotion o... We were brought up with iron hands, bro, the matter pass Abacha regime. He's a dictator... Impregnating before wedding is against my faith but he's surface Christian, and by the way, while growing up, he beats us for not remembering church sermon.


I have met him severally, he never gave any reason, also in the history of the family, I am the first person that want to pay a lady bride price before pregnancy or living together or attempting wedding...
so u want to break the rule in ur family abi? So na u know pass ur father now bah?

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Cadec007(m): 11:48pm On Apr 21, 2019
Marriage26:


I have met him severally, he never gave any reason, also in the history of the family, I am the first person that want to pay a lady bride price before pregnancy or living together or attempting wedding...
wait!!! Are you from Delta state??!!!!

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by ZIMDRILL(m): 11:48pm On Apr 21, 2019
Marriage26:
Good day nairalander,

I am a popular jingo nairalander but got to hide under this moniker...


I have been dating my fiancee for the past 7 years, she had met my parents and I have met her's many times . We planned to get married earlier year. But it was the year my mother left this planet, I informed my family I wanted to get married but they declined, saying, it must be over years of mumsy's demise before I can marry.


We've fixed introduction days 3ice and it got cancelled by my father, what's his reason?


1. NYSC: I was posted to serve in the Northern part of the country 3 years ago, I went to camp, but I couldn't cope with the weather and couldn't leave my business as NYSC won't guarantee me job and I don't have other option. I absconded from the service and faced my business which I saved profits in 7 digits in same year, God made me comfortable.

2: He said I should rather impregnate the girl (backdoor talk)



I am close to my late 20s, he already banned all family members as many depend on him from attending my introduction.

He cancelled my introduction without fixing a new date.

My in-law trust me and ready to release the lady to me as I haven't had sex with her since 2012 that we've been dating...


And Also, God had supplied all I needed for my wedding from A-Z.



Do you think this is a cogent reason?. I want to ahead with my wedding plans...


Kindly advise....Thanks




did i get you clearly ? you mother passes away this year and your father said you should wait for a year

so the year hasnt passed and you think your father is not being fair ?

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Jaqenhghar: 11:48pm On Apr 21, 2019
Blingblings:
Am not sure your dad wants your progress.. Freestyle that man and do your thing. Your dad is a sadist, possibly diabolic. Its obvious he's not happy because you don't depend on him. He wants everyone to be under him. Something else dey involved.

Btw, how did your mum die, are you still sure him no use her for sacrifice??
Te 'll em
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by jaxxy(m): 11:48pm On Apr 21, 2019
If Ure a Christian and Ure dad isn’t I can understand where there might be sm conflicts bt Ure a man and shudnt wait for ur dad so long as Ure independent and ur dad has no cogent reason. Talk to any elders u know to talk to him and hope he listens bt if not push on with ur life is my advice.

He has no right to dictate to u and tell u to impregnate ur fiancée. Makes no sense.

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Chiefqueenn(f): 11:49pm On Apr 21, 2019
Your dad is selfish
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by CertifiedGee(m): 11:49pm On Apr 21, 2019
cvibe2:


Op, what ever you do, don't try the above...honesty should not be expensive.

From the write up, the OP seems to be outta options as to convince his dad and why not compromise a bit just to make him happy & satisfy whatever pleasure he is gonna derive
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by elizabethg: 11:50pm On Apr 21, 2019
Na wa oo.. why would he ask you to impregnate the lady first..? Or is he doubting if the girl can conceive..?
Anywaiz.. i think the best is to sit your dad down and have a heart to heart discussion with him as per why he doesn't want you to get married to the said lady..

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by NIKEDEEDS(m): 11:52pm On Apr 21, 2019
Marriage26:



My papa no get emotion o... We were brought up with iron hands, bro, the matter pass Abacha regime. He's a dictator... Impregnating before wedding is against my faith but he's surface Christian, and by the way, while growing up, he beats us for not remembering church sermon.


I have met him severally, he never gave any reason, also in the history of the family, I am the first person that want to pay a lady bride price before pregnancy or living together or attempting wedding...

Bro... This is the way forward.

Agree with your father...
Make him believe ur wife is pregnant already (all it will cost you is a fake pregancy test and some whatsapp text messages from your girlfriend)...
Make sure dat some of ur inlaws are part of d plan (those dat u trust with d plan) while u leave d rest to response in d natural way dey ought ...
Then make plan plans 4 ur wedding with ur fathers support. .
If possible she should wear a fake pregancy kit 4 d traditional marriage...
Boomm... case settled...

Lets look at d bible, bro...
Abraham did it with Abimelech because of sarahs beauty(he did this twice in d bible, d second one with king of Egypt)..
Jacob did it with issac and to get Esaus blessing..
The Gibeonites did it with joshua and their kingdom wasnt conquered by joshua since has already made a promise...

Some parents (especially dads) can be very rigid but in dat their rigidity they lose control over their family...

I forgot to to add, i had a simiar experience with my dad(twice actually)...
During d first experience, we tot u could be convinced and employed d services of all his good friends dat we tot could talk some senses into him but we meet a brick wall...
While for second experience(from d experience we go from d first), we followed 'YES SIR' approach until we got wat we wanted...

I AM VERY SURE YOUR OLD MAN IS AN IGBO MAN...
But why are dey always like this...
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by baby124: 11:52pm On Apr 21, 2019
Did your father give you a reasonable time as to when it will be ok for you to get married? Maybe he cannot afford a wedding yet as we know burials are expensive. We also know that you probably plan on asking him for support for your wedding. If he said you should give a Year then give a year. He just lost his wife and he’s probably not going to be at his best emotionally and financially for a wedding. As long as the time frame of his request is reasonable I think you should wait.

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Rosylia(f): 11:53pm On Apr 21, 2019
With your admirable faith in God, he'd change your dad's strong heart for good.

Kindly introduce me to your kind of business... I'm very much interested.
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by Nobody: 11:53pm On Apr 21, 2019
This is not new. My entire nuclear family didn't attend mine ncluding parents and siblings. None did but life goes on buddy.

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Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by OAUTemitayo: 11:53pm On Apr 21, 2019
Your has father has seen something you can't see. Don't force your way..
I will impregnate the lady if it is me. Is the lady a virgin?
Re: Father Refused To Attend My Wedding by alert01(m): 11:55pm On Apr 21, 2019
Drwords:


Ah! Aburo, you think say na papangolo play be dis?

You're funny tho. But dont mind the guy's comment. He think na joke. A father has a very severe role in a son's life. Been there and done that. Don't disrespect ur father

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