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Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by Sirwallace(m): 3:27pm On May 14, 2019 |
I had to chip into this because the story reckon with me as i would be 30 next february. All is not rosy and we are facing and confronting daily challenge as they come. With prospect of graduating with B.Tech @26, the nigeria school system internal and external conflict made it 28. Reason for that? Your guess is as good as mine. With NYSC rounded up in march this year, for the first time, I realised the fear I have always anticipated in my final year. The fear of the labour market. The nigeria labour market is competitive that age discrimination had to set in. I dont think any of us enjoy staying with our parent after that freedom and privacy we enjoyed in Nysc. But the reality, odd and logistics of surviving out there is very slim on your own. So to those who see guys staying in their parents house as lazy or timid need to know its a different stroke for different folks. You don't judge a man by the number of times he falls down, what matter most is how many times he rise up. Thank you. 6 Likes |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by KelvinC1(m): 3:30pm On May 14, 2019 |
Divay22:2003 I started writting Jamb, 2013 I finally got the admission.. I apply for remedial 6times, Al in this 11 years.. as I was about writing 100L exams unijos stroke with ASUU and I resumed 2014.. I applied computer science and was offered PHYSICS EDUCATION.. I graduated in 2018 February with 2.1.. i just heard that a guy here in Jos killed himself because he failed jamb today.. make them use me as example.. I HARDLY GIVE UP.. at a point I was like even if na MANGO AS DEGREE, I go read, so far na Bsc.. 4 Likes |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by Divay22(f): 3:34pm On May 14, 2019 |
KelvinC1:Wow How about your parents, what did they say? 2 Likes |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by Jayloy: 4:41pm On May 14, 2019 |
People are facing many struggles you can't imagine 1 Like |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by gbosah91(m): 5:05pm On May 14, 2019 |
I am still doing my Nysc, clocking 30 in 2021.... After my pop I will look for a friend to squat with and I know my story will change for good before my 30th birthday. |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by ThothHermes: 5:12pm On May 14, 2019 |
I really like this thread. |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by ennon92(m): 5:23pm On May 14, 2019 |
Jayloy:The Nigeria factor made it seem so, the economy is shrinking day in day out. The rate of unemployment is alarming and there are plenty graduates being churned out in our higher institutions year in year out. Where there's unemployment, there tends to be increase in social vices. Apparently, the issue of kidnappings we've been seeing here and there are being carried out mostly by unemployed graduates. No palliative measures in place to curb this instead they re rehabilitating and integrating ex boko haram militants into the society. Nigeria is just a fvcked up country. Back to the topic, ppl staying with their parents @30 is nt wut they wished for, but then, the situation of things fascinated such. This life is just a mystery; if care is nt taken, one might lose his or her sanity while trying to unravel it. However, just continue to do ur best, pray to God, and i believe things will change for good real soon. 1 Like |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by Uzomavictor(m): 5:32pm On May 14, 2019 |
9ice piece. |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by Uzomavictor(m): 5:34pm On May 14, 2019 |
9ice piece |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by pinkygurl(f): 5:39pm On May 14, 2019 |
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Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by Budline1(m): 5:46pm On May 14, 2019 |
The Nigerian government system has affected it all. We should stop trying to find hope where there is little to none. No jobs, only being self employed is the way to go now. Does everyone has that capital or that skill? I think it's time ppl think out of the box and consider relocating to other countries with better economy and social amenities. It doesn't necessarily have to be USA or UK. That is a research everyone should try to do on their own before or after clocking 30. Go get that job in some other country. Try to gather some funds and relocate to a better place that suit you. My 2 cents. Peace. 1 Like |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by Sososo(f): 7:51pm On May 14, 2019 |
Offpoint:you are actually on point with the above 30 talk but your moniker says otherwise 1 Like |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by Sososo(f): 8:00pm On May 14, 2019 |
pressplay411:this was inspiring. 1 Like |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by Golden75(m): 1:44am On May 15, 2019 |
After reading all d comments above mine,am left with no option than to keep d house moving and exciting. I have 2yrs left to reach d alarming 30. Educationally I was very lucky,coz I finish Sec Sch at d age of 15,got admission to study Chem Engr at d age of 17,supposed to graduate @22 but due to our strike culture graduated at 23,waited 4 1,yr b4 embarking for my NYSC,Passed out at d age of 25,Picked up d surviving job (private sch teaching) while still staying under my fathers roof,Exactly one yr later got a mini organization job outside my state of residence, though not my dream job,but it won't b a bad start either, considering d experience.dat gives me opportunity to get out of my fathers hut at 26 and 2day d story has changed. Though there iz still a lot to achieve,but I bliv with self development my 2morrow shall b greater than 2day. being 30 and still single for d ladies to me iz disturbing,but dat shall not b a reason for jumping into d arm of any Man,instead get urself ready for d kind of Man u desire through self determination. Also for a Man @30 still Single,directionlesss and probably still staying under his parent,he should think of how to move out first,whether he is footing d bills or he is been taking care of,Yes it is not easy but has to find away of making it easy, 1 Like |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by KelvinC1(m): 1:46am On May 15, 2019 |
Divay22:my wonderful sweet parents are alive, doing fine in Makurdi Benue state, if I was to wait for them, probably I could have stopped my education in SS2, I picked up the responsibility for my fees and I wrote waec and passed back then, I moved to Jos via my Aunty, stayed with her for 3months and I went solo on my own.. I TRAINED MYSELF THROUGHOUT UNIVERSITY, I even heard an extra year (spillover) because of two 400L physics, Phy402 and phy404, to read been tire me, the 2 courses are all second semester physics. I paid school fees wrote them and passed.. it got to a point that my mum was so concerned about me, she called me one day and said, Adoyii, even if we can't send you money as parent's, please you can call us to at least send you 1cup of garri from our farm produce, i laughed and I REPLIED HER with joy AND SAID, mama, that day will never come.. the day I will call you to demand for what to eat from you guys will never come, relax, your son is a good guy and a big boy.. good name is better than riches, I am not and won't do any illegal thing to Tanish your guys image ma'am, . I worked in 2 hotels in Jos as security and car wash man.. night shift in one week and another night shift in another week in another hotel.. LIFE IS NOT FAIR.. if at Last i no make am enh, then small ojoro and magomago dey this papa God waiting queue.. Sha GOD IS always ABLE.. ALWAYS.. let's never give up.. THANKS.. sharing our stories sometimes is more than giving someone raw cash.. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by Nobody: 9:33am On May 15, 2019 |
if you know my father Jah Rastafari then you would fear nothing,even 30. |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by Best1708(f): 9:45am On May 15, 2019 |
KelvinC1:I love this 2 Likes |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by KelvinC1(m): 10:06am On May 15, 2019 |
Best1708:God bless you ma'am 1 Like |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by Parioladammy: 1:48pm On May 15, 2019 |
wow this thread has been inspirational and encouraging. well i would be clocking my big 30 in few months time. looking back i know i havent gotten to where i want to but am sure i would be there. its scares sometimes when i remember i would be in my thirties soon but i have this greater hope i woud be okay and thirties woud look good on me. 1 Like |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by Samogbo1(m): 5:11pm On May 15, 2019 |
KelvinC1: I must confess, u ve got a big heart! Your temerity n resilient prowess r 2nd to none. Your zeal, courage n keen attitude towards success got my jaws dropped. More strength to U bro... To every1 reading this, trust me, age is simply a number. Dont allow unnecessary pressures from family, frnds and your environment to deter ur JOY and put u into depression. Dont allow people's views n philosophies to ruin your chances of concentrating on getting the best in life. Stop givn room to unhealthy competitions regards your frnds n peers successes(this is the biggest joy killer). Most suicidals are aggrieved with depressions of not meeting up or catching up with equals(mates). Simply get yourself engaged in a meaningful stuff irrespective of the drops. Learn to add meaning to ursef! Aim n aspire to be better than who you were yesterday(compete with no one, simply work on improving yourself no matter hw small). Self development should be a priority(Learn, unlearn n relearn). U can do it without competing with any1. As for the ladies, LIFE IS NOT JUST ABOUT MARRIAGE! Think of adding values to yourself, heed to d above points, work towards being a better you daily, learn to review n make necessary editing on your requirements for a man(if u must!) In Igbo language, an adage has it that: mgbe onye jiri bòò chi, ya bu ututu ya!. ___ur day start counting d moment u wake from sleep... Ponder! Age shldnt be takn criosly, it's just a number. My one cent all d same. 3 Likes |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by Raalsalghul: 5:32pm On May 15, 2019 |
Godsgracee:Responsible parents will have the minimal number of kids and at the same time plan their retirement. People just want to Bleep anyhow without considering the consequences. |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by Godsgracee: 7:46pm On May 15, 2019 |
Raalsalghul:You have point though. Things may not work the way they planned. They may have good plan at the beginning of child rearing, then down the line things may completely change especially in Nigeria where things doesn’t work properly. And also remember we have no control over who our parents are and the type of family to be born into. |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by SKYloafFISH(f): 7:58pm On May 15, 2019 |
Raalsalghul:one observation I have seen is that no parent wants to be irresponsible. Parents who you think are irresponsible, deep inside them, they too are not happy being seen as running away from responsibility. In my course of life, over the twenty something years I have lived, I have encountered matured people whose children saw as irresponsible; acted as if they are not ashamed of being irresponsible but lament when they are alone. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by Raalsalghul: 8:35pm On May 15, 2019 |
SKYloafFISH:Responsibility isn't a decision. It is displayed through actions: consciously. More reason why you shouldn't make excuses for these folks. I don't know what's difficult about having kids in tandem with your finances and at the same time plan for old age. Only exception are when good times turn sour. |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by Raalsalghul: 8:41pm On May 15, 2019 |
Godsgracee:@the bolded is the only acceptable exception. Funny enough, they are very few if not rare. I've have one couple in my environment, managing and just getting by. Guess what, they just had their fourth kid after 2 boys and a girl. I have another colleague with just a boy and a girl. Suspended child bearing to concentrate on finishing his housing project. And he's almost through. Hope you can spot the difference? 2 Likes |
Re: A Man Afraid Of 30. A Woman Afraid Of 30 by Nobody: 11:05pm On May 26, 2019 |
Best1708:we can marry, let talk about it, whatsapp 08064357013. |
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