kevin25:
not matter of marry my girlfrd wont try such talkles of my own wife i dnt enter kitchen talkes Of dishing out food wen my gf is around my dear some women lack respect no matter what a man is a man

Wait. You are still single and you are angry at your friend's wife?
I won't be surprised if you are the one poisoning his minds against his wife.
Married people should be selective of the friends they keep.

Xisnin:
How will he be ordering her around when she is not a maid?

The same kind of insecure men who call women who depend on them "olosho"
are the ones also crying when they meet an independent woman.

She took him from the gutters but now he wants to become an emperor.
Well, he is free to go his separate ways but he will surely be bankrupt in no time.

So its now a crime to ask ur own wife to get u food from the kitchen don worry wat goes around comes around u call it order? Things fall apart

kevin25:
So its now a crime to ask ur own wife to get u food from the kitchen don worry wat goes around comes around u call it order? Things fall apart

She is not a maid.
I repeat, she is not a maid.
Does your friend even have a job because it is only jobless people
who fight over petty things.

Jmk9292:
That's when both are in marriage because of pressure..... Pressure arising from poverty on the side of the man.... Pressure on the side of the woman to be a Mrs..

gbam! Such marriages are usually loveless and dry.

eni4real:
You are rationalizing for this kind of women??
They never do you strong thing

There is no strong thing anywhere.
From the OP's narration, the man has always been poor meaning the woman knew
what she was getting into.
If she had no use for him, she would have dumped him.

Bossjakande:
smiles

Okay o!

Xisnin:

Only slaves submit.
Free humans collaborate or go their separate ways.
Make sure you buy an illiterate girl from your village to marry
or even stay single forever.
I don't want to see another thread about "my wife disobey me".

SMH

Only fools pay Bride price..
What is the essence of paying the bride price when I have to be negotiating who should be the head of the family with my wife..
Being a wife is not slavery but responsibilities to her roles in which the husband assist if it becomes overwhelming..

I have my roles as the husband too which I will never complain about..
No matter what pseudo education or Westernization teaches, I will continue to be the head of the family while she will continue to be 'neck'.
Never negotiate the leadership of your family. You are the head act like it..
I am not asking you to rule her but lead her. Every woman desires that...

If you jam correct "anybody can be the head of the family" lady, you will understand how null and void your point about submission is!!!

Jmk9292:
That's when both are in marriage because of pressure..... Pressure arising from poverty on the side of the man.... Pressure on the side of the woman to be a Mrs..

Baba !!!!

Xisnin:


Wait. You are still single and you are angry at your friend's wife?
I won't be surprised if you are the one poisoning his minds against his wife.
Married people should be selective of the friends they keep.

I dnt have such time guy they are my neigbor get that if not watin concern me nd them the man always advice me not to end with her kind of woman... He always regret everytn he says had it been he married a woman of his level he wil not been havin dis issue... Guy wen ur wife dnt respect u my dear ur finish.

eni4real:
E dey sweet your bele
Can he wash your pants and any other Laundry he found in the basket too
Is that how your mum treated your Dad?? Continue the emasculation!!!

Of course, why won't he when he sucks the living daylight out of the puccy
Anything I do for him, he does for me and the kids are learning.

Go and check my post in food section where I posted his attempt at cake making.

And my my dad did more for my mum. My mum insisted he is a better cook
What I learnt from them is what I am applying in my marriage.
My dad worshiped the ground my mum walked that when he left before her,even though she was still young and needy,she refused to settle for less.

And I actually believed the poster that said u are the man in question.
Grow up.
Marriage is a union and not an office.

kevin25:
the man is a very quiet man the wife dnt see him as anybody but she respect men who are rich or literate yes she does it... It is bcoz she knows the genesis of the man? Had it been she met the man financially ok i dnt think she wil insult him

shatta wale said it all " I KNOW MY LEVEL" this is my advice to any man out there when it comes to the issues of getting married and child bearing be financially prepared if not you go suffer no be small dont let any woman sweet talk you into these things they are good at saying baby anything we see we go eat even if na garri na big fat lie oooo .

Xisnin:

There is no strong thing anywhere.
From the OP's narration, the man has always been poor meaning the woman knew
what she was getting into.
If she had no use for him, she would have dumped him.

So helping him to get a job or making provision when the husband was poor gives her the temerity to be rude to her husband with reckless abandon

You never jam the "I have my degree and you have yours" lady.
Like I said "they never do you strong thing"!!

Xisnin:

She is not a maid.
I repeat, she is not a maid.
Does your friend even have a job because it is only jobless people
who fight over petty things.

Wat u said now means that u didnt read my write up very well coz i said dat d man is working now nd provides for the family just dat no matter any amount he has d wife has it times two d wife is stil richer than him

sassysure:


Of course, why won't he when he sucks the living daylight out of the puccy
Anything I do for him, he does for me and the kids are learning.

Go and check my post in food section where I posted his attempt at cake making.

And my my dad did more for my mum. My mum insisted he is a better cook
What I learnt from them is what I am applying in my marriage.
My dad worshiped the ground my mum walked that when he left before her,even though she was still young and needy,she refused to settle for less.

And I actually believed the poster that said u are the man in question.
Grow up.
Marriage is a union and not an office.

Your first sentence is not necessary tho!

Just try to treat your husband with more respect and never emasculate him...

He is really trying..

Any age difference??

You sound older and more mature than him!!!

immaculate1234:
My uncle is having this same problem everyday na wahala but they have 3 kids now I guess he is enduring the relationship and being matured about it, love supersedes all

pls advice ur uncle to do regular blood pressure checkup cos there was this family friend wey i know wey also endure im marriage. Wife was cheating on him and disrespecting him and d man cos na dedicated catholic im dey swallow everything. Na one saturday mornin as im wan wash im car then as im bend down to wash im car tires im heart fail am then im die on d spot.im two big dauthers and im wife dey inside dey watch film. Pls tell ur uncle to do check ups oo. Wen u endure na ur blood pressure dey suffer am oo.

sassysure:


Of course, why won't he when he sucks the living daylight out of the puccy
Anything I do for him, he does for me and the kids are learning.

Go and check my post in food section where I posted his attempt at cake making.

And my my dad did more for my mum. My mum insisted he is a better cook
What I learnt from them is what I am applying in my marriage.
My dad worshiped the ground my mum walked that when he left before her,even though she was still young and needy,she refused to settle for less.

And I actually believed the poster that said u are the man in question.
Grow up.
Marriage is a union and not an office.

U get luck if na my type u marry we for don divorce how can i been struggling kitchen wit my wife? Dnt she knw her work,My wife must atleast respect me d way sarah respects abraham.I hope u read d bible wen abraham told his wife to go and make food for the strangers dat visited dem did sarah ask him go to and do it by himself?

Go and read about the ideal woman PROVERB CHAPTER 31 VS 10 TO 31 Then tell him if the woman is an ideal woman

eni4real:
Only fools pay Bride price..
What is the essence of paying the bride price when I have to be negotiating who should be the head of the family with my wife..
Being a wife is not slavery but responsibilities to her roles in which the husband assist if it becomes overwhelming..

There is no rule book for life. People are free to choose whatever they want.
The part where I come from recognize bride price but the bride's family never accepts.
If the bride price is the justification for submission, this particular man should be
the one cooking and serving his wife food because he is useless according to your logic.
Slavery is about coercion, threat and lack of choice. So my submission was correct.

I have my roles as the husband too which I will never complain about..
No matter what pseudo education or Westernization teaches, I will continue to be the head of the family while she will continue to be 'neck'.
Never negotiate the leadership of your family. You are the head act like it..

If for some reason you fail to perform your role do you automatically lose your "leadership" position.
What makes you a better leader than your wife?
I admit that some dumb women need guidance but so do dumb men and being incapable
of making sound decisions has nothing to do with gender.

I am not asking you to rule her but lead her. Every woman desires that...

If the bold were true, we won't be having this conversation.
In fact, the wife of this "friend" would have jumped to obey her husband's command.
I guess this false assumption is why many men are shocked and are having marital problems.

If you jam correct "anybody can be the head of the family" lady, you will understand how null and void your point about submission is!!!

I would not advise anybody I know to settle down with a lady who believes in "head of the family"
regardless of who she nominates for the position.
I prefer ones who don't believe in the head at all.

kevin25:
Wat u said now means that u didnt read my write up very well coz i said dat d man is working now nd provides for the family just dat no matter any amount he has d wife has it times two d wife is stil richer than him

Well, it is simple.
Let him divorce her, go to the village and buy an obedient wife since nobody
is tying him down.

Xisnin:

There is no rule book for life. People are free to choose whatever they want.
The part where I come from recognize bride price but the bride's family never accepts.
If the bride price is the justification for submission, this particular man should be
the one cooking and serving his wife food because he is useless according to your logic.
Slavery is about coercion, threat and lack of choice. So my submission was correct.


If for some reason you fail to perform your role do you automatically lose your "leadership" position.
What makes you a better leader than your wife?
I admit that some dumb women need guidance but so do dumb men and being incapable
of making sound decisions has nothing to do with gender.


If the bold were true, we won't be having this conversation.
In fact, the wife of this "friend" would have jumped to obey her husband's command.
I guess this false assumption is why many men are shocked and are having marital problems.


I would not advise anybody I know to settle down with a lady who believes in "head of the family"
regardless of who she nominates for the position.
I prefer ones who don't believe in the head at all.

Nice Theories!
Praticals has a lot of plot twists!!
At least, you meant well!!!

eni4real:
So helping him to get a job or making provision when the husband was poor gives her the temerity to be rude to her husband with reckless abandon

You never jam the "I have my degree and you have yours" lady.
Like I said "they never do you strong thing"!!

It is obvious that our expectations for marriage are very different.

If your "strong thing" has any meaning, please lay it bare.

She picked the man from the gutters and now he has the effrontery to turn her
into a maid.
He should hire a maid if he wants someone to dish his food for him.

Since he now has a job, I wonder why he hasn't look for a young illiterate wife that
will worship him.

Rubbish post...
Some women have all that and will still make u happy...
Its all about the individual, not the status

Why can't he dish food by himself? Is he an amputee?

E

op your delusional and your mentality is on the low side . such advice is irrelevant , what is wrong if my wife is richer than me at the end of the day if the love and understanding is there that is what matters

kevin25:
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .

You are so low in IQ. That you are educated does not mean you are learned. You went to schoo but school did not go through you. Such a low life scum bag.

dominique:
Why can't he dish food by himself? Is he an amputee?

Hmmmm

sassysure:
So he can't go and dish out food?
I have never dished out food for my husband and he is not a small or hungry man. As a matter of fact even when I stopped working for sometime unless when we are eating together.
Once he finish eating, from the day one of our relationship, he will take his plate and wash, with every other thing he sees on the sink.
It has not reduced him from being a man and the man in the house that has my respect always.

Enough of all these gender rules. It has destroyed more than it builds.

Simple things like that are what endears your spouse to you but it seems like your friend is always trying to bring "I'm the man card" in his union like most of our men do.
The woman refused to dish out food, and she was forcing her?
If she usually dish out food, what made her not to do it at that time. Was she too tired or very angry over something?
Did he try to know what was her annoyance, rather he want to exert his right as the head by ordering her to do that. Somebody that houses and feed you?
Common, u guys are really very dumb sometimes. It takes so little to make women lay down everything they have for guys especially working ladies but pride will never allow you guys to see whats before u.

That's ur husband...can his parents come and u won't dish food?
No dey use ur one husband compare to us all biko..

Thank you

lefulefu:
pls advice ur uncle to do regular blood pressure checkup cos there was this family friend wey i know wey also endure im marriage. Wife was cheating on him and disrespecting him and d man cos na dedicated catholic im dey swallow everything. Na one saturday mornin as im wan wash im car then as im bend down to wash im car tires im heart fail am then im die on d spot.im two big dauthers and im wife dey inside dey watch film. Pls tell ur uncle to do check ups oo. Wen u endure na ur blood pressure dey suffer am oo.

There is no cheating but what I fear most is his life span I swear

luminouz:
Rubbish post...
Some women have all that and will still make u happy...
Its all about the individual, not the status

we dey talk majority here.
Dude as most women get money pass you ehn your own don finish