Lol

Balderdash. So if your poor and uneducated wife of today becomes more wealthy and formally educated than you tomorrow, you'll divorce or kill her.

Marry a virtuous/strong-minded woman, with her you won't have a frenemy in any condition, so long as you remain good to her.

Meanwhile, the character of the woman in this story, in relation to the food scenario in her husband's friend's presence, is that of an unsubmissive woman. Only virtuous women know how to be submissive to their husbands.

Most humans will look down on people they feel academically & or financially superior to. Period.

Women manage their pride even less well. See how housewives pour hot water and hot oil on housemaids for example.

Women are used to marrying up. Successful and powerful men attract women. Like Ned & Regina Daniels.

Only few successful women do not let it get into their heads. More common for wives to earn more in Western world.


But women choose to believe that the hubby "has low self-esteem, is jealous, etc" than face the clear reality of women's behaviour.

runwaymodel:
What's so bad in him dishing out his own plate?

Birds of the same feathers

Xisnin:

She is not a maid.
I repeat, she is not a maid.
Does your friend even have a job because it is only jobless people
who fight over petty things.

Nairalanders will not kill me. Lmao

I think my friends and I are from another planet o. Because we don't have these issues.

sassysure:

That is what he told you or what u and host of his friends have planted and watered in his heart and it has grown.

I'm sure u and ur likes will be happy when their union ends.

He even discuss his relationship with u guys.
What a man!

This is how people like you go about destroying relationships.

When your friend marry and you are still single, limit the way you go to their house, it's a simple rule cos u guys will always look and feast on their marital weakness as you are doing now.
Go and marry your own wife and leave them alone.
Amebo.
Home breaker.

So u didn't read the part where she tells her own friends and made him look so useless that they don't even respect him again?
Selective amnesia is bad for u!

Personally talking back at her husband in the presence of others is a huge no no. Women should learn to protect and save their families from mockery.

Humans and pride though

nwanneni:
Go check now na 2m you go see for that her account
Any woman with 200k monthly income then a small car plus 2m naira savings turns to a feminist overnight.these women no go kill person.

I have observed the same.

Bro, you are very very observant.

greatbygrace:
This has nothing to do with finance or academic. It has everything to do with the attitude and the love they claim they had. There are people in the same scenerio who are happily married. So your generalization is wrong.

There is nothing wrong in a wife calling her husband by name. It only depends on the attitude and manner.

There is also nothing wrong in a man dishing his food himself and even dishing for his wife. It is all about understanding and love.

Loving someone isn't all about money and academics afterall there are illiterates who are madly in love and there are poor people in love also. Although money makes it better. The main thing about love is understanding and sacrifice.

My opinion.

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nwanneni:
we dey talk majority here.
Dude as most women get money pass you ehn your own don finish

I agree with majority, not all women..
They do seem to get very bossy truthfully!!

and what is wrong in subduing my woman ?! I know tonnes of women that cherish being subdued, cos you do not find that loving interesting or what ever adjective you fancy does not mean it is wrong. On this planet have seen lunatic demand right for feminism lesbianism n gays so what are you ranting about ?

As an African the man should be man enough to show he wear the pant n if you are going down the supremacy lane of the white man culture or civilization like many idiots will like to claim I will love you do that right in front of me so I can provide you with spontaneous n appropriate African response as well.

sweetrace:


Op, the man in question is you and not your friend. Nothing to be ashamed of if you need help. The genesis of your marital problems lies in the word you used above. That is to instruct! Why are you instructing your wife? Respect begets respect. I hope you’re not trying to “subdue” your wife to prove that you’re the one who wears the pants in the family? This has nothing to do with her being financially or academically more stable than you. I think it has to do with your poor self esteem. Why don’t you look at it this way? That you must have a lot going for you to have such a woman marry you. Address her with some respect and she’ll respond with even more love and respect.

kevin25:
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .

Screaming

AwkaetitiBabe:
Personally talking back at her husband in the presence of others is a huge no no. Women should learn to protect and save their families from mockery.

Humans and pride though

I like the way u reason, objective and logical!!!

QueenSekxy:
Smh

pls wat does dis mean Chineke ekweghi ihe ojo! and Nwoke m, nodi odu!

kevin25:
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .

Ure frnd simply married an ill mannered woman. Even if he was rich when they met and later things when down for him and she became the bread winner she will still insult him same way. It has nothing to do with education and whatever as such bt the type of person she is and the type of relationship they have.

Funke alakija is still happy in her husbands house.

Supported. Yall need ras illiterate Village orange seller women. Those are at your level. It is because you want better thing. Hot English speaking educated wife.

Face your level and there will be none of this inferiority complex. Both of you will be happy and the cycle of servile women will continue

Xisnin:

Only slaves submit.
Free humans collaborate or go their separate ways.
Make sure you buy an illiterate girl from your village to marry
or even stay single forever.
I don't want to see another thread about "my wife disobey me".

SMH

@bold
I wonder when people would understand this
Thank you

kevin25:
My neigbor got married to a woman that is financially and academically ahead of him yes they started with love at initial stage she did everything possible to make sure the man suceed i mean everything she sacrify evrytn kudos to her, but the problem now is how the woman talks to the husband with no atom of respect she goes around telling people what she has done for the man to the extent her friends no longer see the man as anything .. The one that pains me was the day she told the man to go and dish out food for himself even in my presence, wen the man try to force her my dear come see insult from how she feed him to how she made him who he is,just because the man ask her to go and bring his food even dou the man is working now but stil the woman stil look down on him.. The worst she stil call the man by his name . The man is talking about bringing another woman that wil respect him as The man of the house.. This is a big lesson without money i dnt think you can control a nigerian woman .

she has a lil problem with her character

And he has a lil problem with managing a woman

if they can address this
then they will be fine

in that same Nigeria
I know Yoruba women who are traders footing almost all the bills and are still respectful to their husband's for decades

so it is a matter of how well the man managed the situation
And the character of the woman too

I said something like this in my topic.
Insecure men with low self esteem.

Academics or schooling doesn't equate to education. Education on its own is something personal. You get indoctrinated in school and not educated. So know the difference.
I value education and not degrees. Degrees na nothing to me.

greatbygrace:
This has nothing to do with finance or academic. It has everything to do with the attitude and the love they claim they had. There are people in the same scenerio who are happily married. So your generalization is wrong.

There is nothing wrong in a wife calling her husband by name. It only depends on the attitude and manner.

There is also nothing wrong in a man dishing his food himself and even dishing for his wife. It is all about understanding and love.

Loving someone isn't all about money and academics afterall there are illiterates who are madly in love and there are poor people in love also. Although money makes it better. The main thing about love is understanding and sacrifice.

My opinion.

And your opinion is good.

Ugosample:


she has a lil problem with her character

And he has a lil problem with managing a woman

if they can address this
then they will be fine

in that same Nigeria
I know Yoruba women who are traders footing almost all the bills and are still respectful to their husband's for decades

so it is a matter of how well the man managed the situation
And the character of the woman too

My guy

Why Yoruba women though, you mean Igbo women do not do such?

sassysure:
So he can't go and dish out food?
I have never dished out food for my husband and he is not a small or hungry man. As a matter of fact even when I stopped working for sometime unless when we are eating together.
Once he finish eating, from the day one of our relationship, he will take his plate and wash, with every other thing he sees on the sink.
It has not reduced him from being a man and the man in the house that has my respect always.

Enough of all these gender rules. It has destroyed more than it builds.

Simple things like that are what endears your spouse to you but it seems like your friend is always trying to bring "I'm the man card" in his union like most of our men do.
The woman refused to dish out food, and she was forcing her?
If she usually dish out food, what made her not to do it at that time. Was she too tired or very angry over something?
Did he try to know what was her annoyance, rather he want to exert his right as the head by ordering her to do that. Somebody that houses and feed you?
Common, u guys are really very dumb sometimes. It takes so little to make women lay down everything they have for guys especially working ladies but pride will never allow you guys to see whats before u.

Please tell us how you've not reduced your husband and in what way have you shown him respect if you do all you posted above

Mumu post. An adult that is not disabled cannot dish out food for himself.
Also, she calls him by his name? So, what should she call him? Daddy? Professor? Owner of my head and soul? When they're cuddling at night, she's supposed to say "move closer daddy" abi what?
You are nothing but an unexposed outsider who is jealous and gloating over the misfortune of another person.

The statistics of men creating threads and crying over women on the internet is skyrocketing.
They thought they are strong but alas .............................

SageMK:
Love is never enough.
You can't demand respect when you don't give that out.
It's evident he didn't respect and appreciate her doings.

Absolutely.

Through thought my brother, it just happened to recently.The girl I dated for years, no respect, she can't wash my cloth, she can't sweep my house. The worst part of it is that she always do what she likes. Thank we are no longer together. We guys should be careful seriously

AmazonTopaz:
I said something like this in my topic.
Insecure men with low self esteem.

That's clearly a part of the problem here but not all of it. The two of them don't seem very sensible. She has a bad character while he's stuck in 1841.

greatbygrace:
This has nothing to do with finance or academic. It has everything to do with the attitude and the love they claim they had. There are people in the same scenerio who are happily married. So your generalization is wrong.

There is nothing wrong in a wife calling her husband by name. It only depends on the attitude and manner.

There is also nothing wrong in a man dishing his food himself and even dishing for his wife. It is all about understanding and love.

Loving someone isn't all about money and academics afterall there are illiterates who are madly in love and there are poor people in love also. Although money makes it better. The main thing about love is understanding and sacrifice.

My opinion.

You gave an unbiased view

immaculate1234:


There is no cheating but what I fear most is his life span I swear

when united nations say the average lifespan of a nigerian is 53 yrs u suppose know wetin dey cause am nau. If na oyibo man and im wife start to dey give am stress he sues for a peaceful divorce to have peace of mind but a nigerian will prefer to bear and bottle everythin inside. Dats why u see oyibo man at 81 yrs he's still alive and throwing takwando but a 50 yr old nigerian man is already starting to get bent and looking so stressed up.