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| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by proficienc(m): 7:35am On Aug 06, 2019 |
OmoAlata1:... 22 Likes |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by CosmicJames(m): 7:48am On Aug 06, 2019 |
SingleGuy9999:I can't imagine getting rejected 7 times in a roll! Honestly, that's will be too to handle. But do not worry brother. You will get a girl that will say yes to you - guaranteed. But there is something you must do before you approach any girl again. Good a thing, it doesn't require money so you are good to go. I spotted the problem you are having and is not money or physical outlook. I understand that this is a matter of importance to you. So I take time to explain things and in the dimension that let you see the light of the day. Read carefully. What I'm going to tell you now will save you from rejection, boost your confidence and get you not only girls but whatever you want. Maybe no body have told you what I'm about to tell you now. But it's actually your problem and you must solve it first. Your problem is you! Not the girls. I will explain below. Here it comes. Connect with your other Self (Your Inner Man Or Inner Voice) You are scattered from within. You do not even agree with yourself that you will get a girl before starting the approach. You can't succeed that way. Is just like you are traveling north, but you are going south. You will never arrive at your destination. As a matter of fact, your inner voice is always telling you something each time but you seem not to agree with inner voice or you never listens. Your inner voice actually told you not to go after many of those girls that rejected you. But it either you ignore or didn't listen. Funny enough, it (ur inner voice) will still return to inform you that you were informed not to go after that girl but you didn't listen. This will in turn weaken your spirit, kills your morals and destroy your confidence faster. Make it a point to always listen to your inner voice. If your inner voice say don't go after her, then save yourself the stress. But if your inner voice say go after her, then fire down! But accept her in your mind first. Believe that she will say YES to you. Make your imagination positive. You will get a girl. This thing is not hard. But it must happen in your mind first. The real problem is that rejection is happening in your mind. That has to be changed. This will take us to the next point - your state of mind. Change Your state of Mind (your belief) Yes, you will have to change your state of mind from rejection to Acceptance. This is of prime importance. You do not believe you will get the girls before you start. You actually believe you won't get the girls and that the girls will reject you before you even start going after them. Then at the end you wonder why you are being rejected each time? It will surprise you, but you are actually the one rejecting these girls. The girls really want to be with you. But by default, you are rejecting them. You have to agree with your inner voice then accept them first in your mind before you start. It's not magic. Nothing is wrong with you. It's just your mind condition. Your mind is sabotaging your efforts. It is unknown to you. But your mind develop this way over time after multiple rejections. You now have the belief that a girl will reject you even before you approach her. And what you believe have a way of determining what happens to you. I don't have enough time to explain the last point which is your Mentality towards women. But if you understand and apply these two points that have been explained, then the last point will fall in place. Good luck brother 22 Likes |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by chibyke02(m): 7:54am On Aug 06, 2019 |
ubunja: This is just the truth. There are so many of them giving you green lights just that you are too busy to notice them or you have already noticed them but don't have feelings for them. Remember there are other guys approaching these women giving you green lights but these women don't have feelings for them and keep turning them down.. 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by SingleGuy9999: 8:14am On Aug 06, 2019 |
Thanks so much guys, you guys have been helpful, I have gotten loads of advice here I need to try especially my mentality I need to change ASAP 2 Likes |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by ChiefGuru24(m): 9:52am On Aug 06, 2019 |
SingleGuy9999: There's a book i read. The book is 10k. Get it. It's worth every penny. I didnt have a gf till i left uni then i bought this book at the time. I had 4 gfs in 5 months. Your own better. I was shy as fûck sef and i even struggled to talk to my female cousins but this book changed everything for me(with a little practice of cuz) there are other books but this one is the easiest and most practical. It breaks it down for you to easy understandable steps. Covers various topics like why you're in the friendzone? Why asking a girl out is bad idea Never get rejected again without lowering your standards. It also has a unique topic i havent seen in any book before "How to get her to make the first move" 2 Likes |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Nobody: 10:16am On Aug 06, 2019 |
ubunja:bro what did you just say  ?1 Like |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by franklingud(m): 10:33am On Aug 06, 2019 |
These Nigerian girls are the same bro, just do these 3 things 1. Make money 2. Stop giving a fvck about them 3. Don't be available always, be scarce, don't always laugh when any of them are with you. They will feel the ego and start creating time for you. But the most important of them all is to MAKE MONEY, GET RICH BRO! You heard me right. And watch them flocking around you like flies. 28 Likes 5 Shares |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Naijazure: 10:57am On Aug 06, 2019 |
Jgoldie: Babe you fine! And your post make brain |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by ubunja(m): 11:30am On Aug 06, 2019 |
acesboy:i said a lot of things. Which part are you having problems with? 1 Like |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Londonboyrep(m): 12:06pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
You are not getting girls because you come across as desperate. You see women say they want attention and all that but in reality, they want the exact opposite. They want a guy who won't be on their case 24/7. They want a guy that can attract other ladies. Women are competitive by nature i.e whilst guys mostly will leave a girl with a serious boyfriend or husband alone I find that women are mostly attracted to guys that are not single. Make lots of females friends but stop asking them out. Build up this bad boy good guy image and for God sakes stop telling them you are a virgin - no woman wants the messy business of teaching a grown man how to fork. I normally would not advise this but in your case, I will...maybe consider paying for sex once just to get the experience needed? A bit too old to learn now I think. And no insults, please. 17 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Kingjags: 12:13pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
Lol. Sorry bro. Others have said the most, so make I just add this small one... no they toast Naija girls...Flirt with them and always know when to go for the kill. And gbam Nna dn they date be that. And don’t be desperate, girls don’t like it when a guy is all over their face. Just be a good bad guy. Back in the days there used to be one Ilegend guy on Nairaland who used to tutor and write books on how to toast. You can look him up, though am not sure if that guy is still on Nairaland way back before I was a member sef 14 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by XhosaNostra(f): 12:24pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
What is your criteria for picking the girls you have chosen to ask out? Personally, I don't think there's anything wrong with you. Perhaps you're going after the wrong girls, who just won't admit that they can't keep up with you. You come across cerebral, very eloquent & verbose. I'm not sure how many girls in your dating pool can match up to that. Their rejection may stem from their own insecurities about not being good enough to be with someone like you, so don't take it personal. Try finding someone who's similar to you in nature or one who shares your interests in reading & other things you're passionate about. 33 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by pansophist(m): 12:36pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
OP, what you are passing through is exactly what most men will surely pass through, its encoded in the sand of time that what makes a man attractive and desired by the opposite sex is about being valuable. Being a man is not valuable, loving her is not valuable, but being a valuable man yourself. Your value as a man is resource based (social status, wealth, intellects etc), it is the transformation for a boy to a man, that will make men respect you, and women attracted to you. other posters have said it all, and even though it is hard for me to believe that true love doesnt exist, as in, being loved just for being a man, all evidence points towards that direction. The mistake I see men generally do is expecting a woman to love him for who he is. No woman will love you for who you are (just being a man), because unlike men, women's value to men is physical (beauty, youthfulness, femininity), something she is born with and doesnt have to work for, yours as a man is the opposite. When women say "real men", "man up", "be a man", it is a testament to this fact that being they separate the boy from a man, but have you ever heard men say "woman up", "real woman", ba a woman"?. Look at it this way, when you tell your friends that you met a new girl, their question will be something like, "is she beautiful", "she get yansh", "how does she look"? What all these implies is that women are valued for just being women. I remember when my sister told my parents about her boyfriend and that they wanna get married, what my parents wanna know was, "what does he do", "where does he work", how old is he", questions that reveal if he is not a boy, but a man, with a sense of responsibility, financial capability and able to lead a family. Another example, most men usually move out from their fathers house to their own apartment, but women move from their father house to their husband house, our culture is deeply buried in this thoughts. Or male musicians showing cars and houses, to signify success (resource base), but female almost getting naked, displaying their curves (beauty/physical base value). Examples abound to prove this dynamics, but you should get the point now. Women are born, men are made. You should "made" yourself, and women will come. So my young bro, I tell you from a place of experience, that you should focus on building yourself, and the women will come. Forget about all those nollywood true love shit, only women usually fall for it, because they operate in their own frame of being rewarded for being women, and project it on men, thinking they fell in love with you because you are you, not knowing their primal base and evolutionary hardwiring that made them skip others to be with a real man. Goodluck 94 Likes 18 Shares |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Chukapage(m): 12:38pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
Your biggest mistake is always mentioning "dating" "love" or "relationships" when you socialize and get close to girls.Just be free ,be free talk casual,flirt casual,tease casually , believe you will be shocked how girls will stop rejecting you ,no girl likes a guy they see as "needy" or too emotional. Let them do the " emotional bullshit" first and even when they start going all "emotional and the love thingy blah blah" don't still appear needy or fall for it . Myself started getting girls back in my University days when I generally stopped giving a Bleep, and also being available infact then na money been dey my head I no come dey send girls after I started making money back in my 400level, girls come dey rush me very hot girls ooo but you know what? I still couldn't give a Bleep though I just kept having sex and nothing more.My hustle then was my major priority.in all things all am saying is STOP GIVING A Bleep AND THEY WILL COME FOR YOU!! 7 Likes |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by XhosaNostra(f): 12:39pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
ubunja: And he should take one from you? LOL! I doubt you date ANY woman of substance. Only the skanks in Hillbrow, ready to go home with a guy after two Savannahs. 4 Likes |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Nobody: 12:41pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
Well at this juncture,I have to chip in. Bro life is a story and each an every one of us has our story to tell. Any person that says he hasn't been rejected by girls is a chronic liar no matter the calibre of person he is. Am going to advise you with one sentence. "Don't let it worry you". You see, am a culprit of self worry and insecurity..when something worries me, I get restless until I solve it. Even up to this moment I can't control my worries. So ironically,am advising you what I can't do myself if it was me..but believe me that is the truth..don't let it worry you.. It's all in your head.. Am in the university..I can authoritatively tell you that girls plays us on a norm.. infact it's now a norm for girls to dey on film for us guys no matter the kind of money you think you have..so when these happens we take it as a norm and laugh over it. But that also doesn't stop us from casting our nets and other fishes. So continue been yourself whilst casting your nets.. when it's your time.. nothing is stopping it. But these shouldn't in anyway affect your focus and hustles.. Peace. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by XhosaNostra(f): 12:55pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
proficienc: The OP doesn't seem like your kind, whose main concern is to add another notch on the bedpost. In fact, he's way above you dimwits. He seems to be looking for something genuine, not an empty shell of a relationship founded on nothingness & manipulation. Don't try to convert him to your shallow lifestyle, but I trust he's smart enough to sift through the chaff. 8 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by ubunja(m): 12:58pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
[s] XhosaNostra:[/s] 4 Likes |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by XhosaNostra(f): 1:03pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
ubunja: You know is net die waarheid. You're coming here fooling people with tall tales, when you know that the only chicks you manage to bag are the type that can be "wooed" successfully with just R10 airtime  3 Likes |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by lilmax(m): 1:05pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
your post is filled with insecurities you feel worthless because of a woman? what are your certifications? if you should die now, will your younger siblings suffer? imagine a guy with brain asking a girl out for four months guy you lack self worth, you do not know when to bounce the thing killing men today are building confidence on money and women you better use your brain 13 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by ubunja(m): 1:07pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
[s] XhosaNostra:[/s] 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by vivalavida(m): 1:11pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
MrBrownJay1: My cousin needs this your advice. Dude is not too good looking,struggling and insists on dating a top notch slay queen and he keeps failing and still won't give up. 3 Likes |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by vincentjk(m): 1:27pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
I feel your pain bro but these are the problems: You're kinda nervous when you're around girls, meaning you're not so used to it and when a lady sees a nervous guy, they can detect it immediately You don't just approach a random lady and expect her to be your girlfriend, nah. It won't work for you Let me give you few of my tricks: *Dress well, make sure your teeth is clean free from odour and put on a nice outfit as well (they don't have to be expensive but sharp) *Look for girls in your circles. approach girls you know you're the same level with, not girls classier than you or above your level. You don't have to be rich to get a girl, that's a lie. *I don't do broke girls at all, the "I'm hungry type" expecting you to buy them food always, the type that always wants money for hair, the type that sees relationship as an occupation lol... Don't go for this type bro, they're the type dominating my street and always staring at me. I don't look at them talk more of talking to any, they're gold diggers and I heard of how they sent many igbo guys back to their village because they could no longer buy goods to sell. Don't go for this type *I don't always approach random strangers nah, I go for girl's who I'm sure have noticed my presence (either eye contacts, noticed how good I'm dressed etc...) *when i see a girl I want to talk to, I wear a smiling face and while talking to her, I stare directly into her eyes. Then allow the soft and selected words flow out one after the other ( I think you're missing something here). If you're doing these things, these girls won't reject you easily. Trust me. But that doesn't mean rejection isn't part of it, everyone probable gets rejected, it's part of it. *In some cases i formulate a very sweet lie just to make her laugh and keep the convo going. I always do this because girl's mostly fall for what they hear while men go for what they see. i don't know if you're good looking, for me I'm, tall as well. 15 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by branhampaul: 1:31pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
OmoAlata1:... and this seamlessly proves how stupendiously senseless you were, you are, and will be. 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Kaycee7(m): 1:31pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
XhosaNostra: [img]https://media1./images/f168b7aa200120bda72cdab65a5d1a9c/tenor.gif?itemid=4802144[/img] 9 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by damtan(m): 1:48pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
Too long and clumsy to read actually but I got your message. Maybe you're too nice, too soft, too caring and too careful around the opposite sex. Don't worry Ilegendd will come and help you out. He's my oga. I'm sure he'll recommend FriendZone for you to read. 3 Likes |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by MrBrownJay1(m): 2:02pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
vivalavida: There are many brothas like that, and sadly, only when they hit rock bottom will they finally learn.... but unfortunately, many never give up, and instead they start to do scams and frauds to make money to now attract golddigging slay Queens aka undercover oloshos to their lives. 7 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Goldensword: 2:20pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
One legendary quote from ubunja said keep the girl you like for lust and the girl that like you for love. Geee the way you start with a girl is the way you will end with her. He who is on the ground fear no fall so by now you shouldn't be afraid of rejection anymore, when you approach a girl do so on the side of authority do it like you are doing her a favour and be blunt with words . Above all take a chill i pill and look around you, there are many girls with class crushing on you heavily go for them because they will make thing easy for you. 5 Likes |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Nobody: 2:25pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
OmoAlata1:you're just a piece of sh!t, fvcking bitch. 3 Likes |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by Joystark(f): 2:34pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
This your epistle is awfully long o. But then I read it; it was an easy read. And it flowed.. Cos it felt genuine. Can't imagine telling someone I like them and having them say no.  The joys of being a/the woman. Nonetheless, oftentimes, we do not like those who like like us, we like someone else, who likes someone else... And the circle goes on like that. Really, just be yourself. If you are embarking on any self improvement tasks, do it for yourself, not because you want to get a date. Relax, you'll find what you're looking for sooner than you think. 8 Likes |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by OmoAlata1(f): 2:41pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
FCBboy: Sorry that my comment hit home with you 2 Likes |
| Re: Why do I keep getting rejected by girls? by OmoAlata1(f): 2:42pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
branhampaul: Maybe you should take my advise also 2 Likes |
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