Venusman:
You left your Mom in that condition to school at the time she needed you most.

You Mom is a widow and the man knew she needed love (he got into her in disguise). You could have help her out of that mess she called love.

I ain't saying you're wrong to have gone to school but your Mom has greater value too.

She cannot abandon school and her chance for a better future to sit and babysit her mum. Her mum has lived her life and made her choices.

The Op can help her better if she has an education, a business, etc. She can call her often and see her as often as she can. But much more, she owes herself a better life which her mum will end up benefitting from

I feel so sad about this situation cos your mum is just a widow trying to make ends meet. But the signs were all over the place that the man was no good, but your mum chose to be gullible.

I however wonder the kind of bank that would provide a loan for oil bunkering . It is an illegal business and if she had asked questions she would know that oil bunkering has become extremely difficult in ph for the last 5 years. Trucks are continually burnt by army and people are arrested/killed all the time.

That being said, I think the best thing for you now is to focus intensely on your own life. Your education is important, but with the situation on ground, you really need a side hustle. Do a research and see what business you can do online that would require little or no capital. The poultry business is something you can do after school coz you already have experience and contacts. Good luck and God bless.

Your mum na Ide(dundee) better one.
What kind of oil bunkerer that is successful will want to learn poultry business
Bunkerers that are doing well hardly even find time for their business and families na to come join training of fowl e go want add?
Maybe na all these people weh dey enter creek go buy 10 jugs of diesel from the real bunkerers hand come sell to people weh get listers then make 20k profit your mama jam,not a bunkerer.
And na all these middlemen dey make noise about the business pass,na wetin e use trap your mama
She think say she don jam "machine na pump ego" lol
Stop abusing that high paying profession please.
He doesn't even own his own transportation ffs he had to make your mum borrow 1m to buy a bus for the said business .real bunkerers don't even use buses to transport but tankers or 12 tyres,25 ton truck where they load products in drums and go and offload somewhere in or close to town and start distribution from there.
That guy is a poor diesel middleman,not a bunkerer.finished!
His biggest cash out so far in this life is your air headed mum.simple.
God I hate dull people.
Welcome to the real world youngster,because you go suffer,suffer,suffer again tire so brace up,e don red!

ImaIma1:


She cannot abandon school and her chance for a better future to sit and babysit her mum. Her mum has lived her life and made her choices.

The Op can help her better if she has an education, a business, etc. She can call her often and see her as often as she can. But much more, she owes herself a better life which her mum will end up benefitting from

now make she go the school make we see na.
Ndi better life
I am done advising dull people.

Logobenz3:
now make she go the school make we see na.
Ndi better life
I am done advising dull people.

You don't think she should continue with school? What do you advise she does at this point?

ImaIma1:


You don't think she should continue with school? What do you advise she does at this point?

my point is since she was smart enough to know her mom wasn't acting right,why did she leave for school rather than stay back and save the family business?
Now weh money no dey again make she go the school na.abi na empty hand dem dey use go school?
Anytime I see all these poor people shouting school=a better life,I just laugh because I always know where I will find them after 5 years and trust me,it is nothing close to the better life.
If your family no get money or influence,forget the BS called school and enter street and hustle,that's all.
In her case she didn't even have to hustle but just manage what was existent,she no gree
What advise will I give her at this point that will matter now weh money no dey again?
ABI you no read where she say she dey village
It's clear she has to make her own headway now and that my friend comes with a lot of suffering.
Either she will suffer her head,hands or Toto at this point,just the sad truth.
Ndi school.

Logobenz3:
my point is since she was smart enough to know her mom wasn't acting right,why did she leave for school rather than stay back and save the family business?
Now weh money no dey again make she go the school na.abi na empty hand dem dey use go school?
Anytime I see all these poor people shouting school=a better life,I just laugh because I always know where I will find them after 5 years and trust me,it is nothing close to the better life.
If your family no get money or influence,forget the BS called school and enter street and hustle,that's all.
In her case she didn't even have to hustle but just manage what was existent,she no gree
What advise will I give her at this point that will matter now weh money no dey again?
ABI you no read where she say she dey village
It's clear she has to make her own headway now and that my friend comes with a lot of suffering.
Either she will suffer her head,hands or Toto at this point,just the sad truth.
Ndi school.

Guy stop being a dickk. She's a 17 year old. You can advise here without making fun of her situation.

Enchantaurl:
That I don't know. I feel like calling him and giving him a piece of my mind.

Let him go.. Karma will find him. Do you have a family member who you can explain to?

Your mom obviously is attracted to senseless men. I'm sorry but I have no fck to give to your mom for dating and willing to learn the tricks of oil bunkering from a criminal.

Wait, do you think your mom deserves a good man? Hating on men because of your mother's decision to romanticise with a criminal is a waste of time.

Responsible men are not in that line of trade. How can your mother ignore all the descent places in this country for the creeks? It's like taking a wife from a brothel and hoping to find her hymen intact.

I think you should focus on your life at this point. You're too young to worry your head over your mother's choices. There are places decent men don't go to; but women will go there looking for decent husbands.

Nigga44:
Guy stop being a dickk. She's a 17 year old. You can advise here without making fun of her situation.

continue making excuses for foolishness.
17 year old means what?
I made life changing decisions at that age too so I know too well what I am talking about.

Logobenz3:
my point is since she was smart enough to know her mom wasn't acting right,why did she leave for school rather than stay back and save the family business?
Now weh money no dey again make she go the school na.abi na empty hand dem dey use go school?
Anytime I see all these poor people shouting school=a better life,I just laugh because I always know where I will find them after 5 years and trust me,it is nothing close to the better life.
If your family no get money or influence,forget the BS called school and enter street and hustle,that's all.
In her case she didn't even have to hustle but just manage what was existent,she no gree
What advise will I give her at this point that will matter now weh money no dey again?
ABI you no read where she say she dey village
It's clear she has to make her own headway now and that my friend comes with a lot of suffering.
Either she will suffer her head,hands or Toto at this point,just the sad truth.
Ndi school.

Fortunately a good number of this "poor people" are able to finish school and end up doing well financially.

She has already said the businesses were closed down. Her mother can resuscitate the business and run it since she has left the man.

At this age, the op should be focused on shaping her future and if she believes school will do that for her, she should be encouraged.

ImaIma1:


Fortunately a good number of this "poor people" are able to finish school and end up doing well financially.

She has already said the businesses were closer down. Her mother can resuscitate the business and run it since she has left the man.

At this age, the op should be focused on shaping her future and if she believes school will do that for her, she should be encouraged.

e be like say me and you no dey the same country.
You might be typing from the US perhaps?
Them dey focus on shaping the future with empty hand?
Yes things might turn around for good for sure,but it will come with a lot of pain,sweat,blood and suffering that is why I am telling her to brace up because her unrealistic decision making tendencies just earned her a lot of suffering.
She might still make it good in life but would have achieved so a whole lot easier if not for the mistake she made.
I honestly wish her well but I had to highlight the part where she went wrong so others can LEARN from it and know how to make better decisions!

Acidosis:
Your mom obviously is attracted to senseless men. I'm sorry but I have no fck to give to your mom for dating and willing to learn the tricks of oil bunkering from a criminal.

Wait, do you think your mom deserves a good man? Hating on men because of your mother's decision to romanticise with a criminal is a waste of time.

Responsible men are not in that line of trade. How can your mother ignore all the descent places in this country for the creeks? It's like taking a wife from a brothel and hoping to find her hymen intact.

I think you should focus on your life at this point. You're too young to worry your head over your mother's choices. There are places decent men don't go to; but women will go there looking for decent husbands.

Don't say what you don't know.
Some of those men that drive 2019 range rover velar,send kids abroad for holidays and studies,sit in front rows of churches and help the poor,live in duplexes with lots of properties,highly educated with white collar ambitions are in the creeks.
I know some of these men.
Her mom just picked a lowest of the low diesel middleman!

Logobenz3:
Don't say what you don't know.
Some of those men that drive 2019 range rover velar,send kids abroad for holidays and studies,sit in front rows of churches and help the poor,live in duplexes with lots of properties,highly educated with white collar ambitions are in the creeks.
I know some of these men.
Her mom just picked a lowest of the low diesel middleman!

I'm not defining responsibility by the fatness of a man's bank account or the geography of the creeks. I'm defining responsibility by the context and content of a man's moral uprightness which, to a large extent, includes the legality and the nature of his trade or source of income. A wealthy oil criminal by and large is still a criminal in the eye of the law and is liable to the same treatment that befalls criminals.

A woman hoping to date or marry a decent man of value, good morals and character will not look in the direction of oil criminals or yahoo boys, rich or poor.

Acidosis:


I'm not defining responsibility by the fatness of man's bank accounts or the geography of the creeks. I'm defining responsibility by the context and content of moral uprightness which to a large extent includes the legality and the nature of your trade or source of income. A wealthy oil criminal by and large is still a criminal in the eye of the law.

I see.
So it is safe to say there are no good men by your standards then since everyone both in corporate Nigeria and otherwise seem to be in one form of financial fraud or the other.
Bank managers give under the table loans for kickbacks,people in the civil service award contracts to bidders based on the fatness of the kickback,pastors eat God's tithe,private firm runners do a lot of deals,pension cuts by the same people you adore,Doctors sell their own drugs purchased from heaven knows where using hospital structure at hospital prices for money,night life people too switch drinks with theirs for profit maximization,retail too does the same products switching for money reasons,etc...
So it is safe to say everyone is lowest of the low by yoyr accessment?
There is only one truth in this world,it is simply money.
And the good thing is no one cares where it comes from,even you whether you chose to accept that fact or not,it really doesn't matter since it is the truth and you know it.

Acidosis:


I'm not defining responsibility by the fatness of a man's bank account or the geography of the creeks. I'm defining responsibility by the context and content of a man's moral uprightness which, to a large extent, includes the legality and the nature of his trade or source of income. A wealthy oil criminal by and large is still a criminal in the eye of the law and his liable to the same treatment that befalls criminals.

A woman hoping to date or marry a decent man of value, good morals and character will not look in the direction of oil criminals or yahoo boys, rich or poor.

I will tell this same line to my bunkerer neighbour's wife who is living large from the proceeds of stolen crude.who knows,she might preach to her husband to stop.
Word on the street say she finished college in the UK.

Logobenz3:
I see.
So it is safe to say there are no good men by your standards then since everyone both in corporate Nigeria and otherwise seem to be in one form of financial fraud or the other.
Bank managers give under the table loans for kickbacks,people in the civil service award contracts to bidders based on the fatness of the kickback,pastors eat God's tithe,private firm runners do a lot of deals,pension cuts by the same people you adore,Doctors sell their own drugs purchased from heaven knows where using hospital structure at hospital prices for money,night life people too switch drinks with theirs for profit maximization,retail too does the same products switching for money reasons,etc...
So it is safe to say everyone is lowest of the low by yoyr accessment?
There is only one truth in this world,it is simply money.
And the good thing is no one cares where it comes from,even you whether you chose to accept that fact or not,it really doesn't matter since it is the truth and you know it.

The doctors I know care for the sick, diagnose and treat all kinds of ailment. The Pharmacists in my cycle dispense and administer drugs to patients. The bankers in my cycle manage financial transactions and, so far, my account officer has not stolen my money from my accounts.

So what do oil bunkerers do exactly?


It is not about money but the length at which a man can go to make money. A man willing to damage pipelines and government properties, kill, or engage in all forms of illegalities is capable of doing anything else called evil and criminal. That's the point. So, a woman that ignores these traits should get ready to swallow the ills in marriage.

You cannot date or marry a criminal and expect someone like me to mourn or send "moral" epistles to a man or woman with no moral compass.

Logobenz3:
I will tell this same line to my bunkerer neighbour's wife who is living large from the proceeds of stolen crude.who knows,she might preach to her husband to stop.
Word on the street say she finished college in the UK.

Truth is not measured on the scale of wealth. My kind of truth don't give a fck about a man's wealth.

Logobenz3:
I will tell this same line to my bunkerer neighbour's wife who is living large from the proceeds of stolen crude.who knows,she might preach to her husband to stop.
Word on the street say she finished college in the UK.

You do not believe in morality?

Or the end always justifies the means to you?

Acidosis:


Truth is not measured on the scale of wealth. My kind of truth don't give a fck about a man's wealth.

Like David said...

When he sees the wealthy flaunt their wealth, he is tempted till he remembers their end.

I am sure Invictus Obi was a source of inspiration to many on the streets till the international disgrace.

bukatyne:


You do not believe in morality?

Or the end always justifies the means to you?

I do not believe in morality because such a thing does not exist in capitalism.
Some of the people you all claim to be moral aren't moral at all na,you should know that.
What of industrialist that dump toxic waste in the open ocean?
Pharmaceutical companies that create diseases and later release the formula after causing so many death and pain?
If not for CIPLA(Indian pharmaceutical company),I hope you know many people living with HIV would have died due to the cost these Europeans wanted to put in acquiring ARVs.Now how many Nigerians especially would have been able to afford treatment?
What of People who bribe/strike deals with governments to twist business/financial policies in the favour especially our known hero DANGOTE?
Imagine you being a cement importer with the rest of your pals and one of your competitor runs behind your backs and strike a deal with the custodians of the law to ban the import of cement since he was building a factory already?
Before you all count your losses,regroup and build a factory too,he must have been So rich that competing with him in the same market will be outright foolishness.
Do all these sound moral to you?
I AM NOT AND WILL NEVER BE A MORAL PERSON BECAUSE ALL OF THEM(MORAL PEOPLE) ARE ALWAYS IN TERRIBLE PLACES(NEWSPAPER STANDS,CHURCHES,DESTITUTE HOMES,ASYLUM,CHARITY BENEFICIARIES ETC..)
I can't kill for money or use weapons,but I can participate fully in other activities irrespective of where the difference comes from.
The earlier we accept this,the better for us as a people.
Not like morality matters anyways,capitalists know better

bukatyne:


You do not believe in morality?

Or the end always justifies the means to you?

Invictus obi will be out soon if he agrees to the terns of the other party,let's bet if you've got balls

Enchantaurl:
But we her kids were there to show her love,we were supportive.

You must not have a loving boyfriend or have fallen in love. Trust me yes you all showed her love but there is love and there is looooove.
Dont be hard on your mum. That man is a wicked man. Dont leave school. Struggle , work hard stay focused

You must create your own world and not live through your mothers world. It's a shame that your mum found a way to attract horrible men (including your dad, in your own words). Just know that they are lot of good guys out there and you will be losing a lot by having the mind set that all men are evil or by trying to become a bitch.
Your mum was not bewitched, she just made terrible choices when it came to men. Some people just love without their head. Sorry about your experience, just don't let it scar you.

Na wa o. Sisisioge. Do people still fall mugu for love like this?

Logobenz3:
Your mum na Ide(dundee) better one.
What kind of oil bunkerer that is successful will want to learn poultry business
Bunkerers that are doing well hardly even find time for their business and families na to come join training of fowl e go want add?
Maybe na all these people weh dey enter creek go buy 10 jugs of diesel from the real bunkerers hand come sell to people weh get listers then make 20k profit your mama jam,not a bunkerer.
And na all these middlemen dey make noise about the business pass,na wetin e use trap your mama
She think say she don jam "machine na pump ego" lol
Stop abusing that high paying profession please.
He doesn't even own his own transportation ffs he had to make your mum borrow 1m to buy a bus for the said business .real bunkerers don't even use buses to transport but tankers or 12 tyres,25 ton truck where they load products in drums and go and offload somewhere in or close to town and start distribution from there.
That guy is a poor diesel middleman,not a bunkerer.finished!
His biggest cash out so far in this life is your air headed mum.simple.
God I hate dull people.
Welcome to the real world youngster,because you go suffer,suffer,suffer again tire so brace up,e don red!

are you this stupid? That's someone's mum

Venusman:
You left your Mom in that condition to school at the time she needed you most.

You Mom is a widow and the man knew she needed love (he got into her in disguise). You could have help her out of that mess she called love.

I ain't saying you're wrong to have gone to school but your Mom has greater value too.
G

. How she wan help her mama again?+?abi she for use hammer knack her mama brain to get sensé? some people prefer learning in à hard way

seunmohmoh:
Let him go.. Karma will find him. Do you have a family member who you can explain to?

none that I can think of.

Nigga44:
I feel so sad about this situation cos your mum is just a widow trying to make ends meet. But the signs were all over the place that the man was no good, but your mum chose to be gullible.

I however wonder the kind of bank that would provide a loan for oil bunkering . It is an illegal business and if she had asked questions she would know that oil bunkering has become extremely difficult in ph for the last 5 years. Trucks are continually burnt by army and people are arrested/killed all the time.

That being said, I think the best thing for you now is to focus intensely on your own life. Your education is important, but with the situation on ground, you really need a side hustle. Do a research and see what business you can do online that would require little or no capital. The poultry business is something you can do after school coz you already have experience and contacts. Good luck and God bless.

she once managed a poultry so it was easy for her to get a loan from them

unicorn79:
Na wa o. Sisisioge. Do people still fall mugu for love like this?

Hian! You had to call me into this? Biko ask the oracle

Logobenz3:
Your mum na Ide(dundee) better one.
What kind of oil bunkerer that is successful will want to learn poultry business
Bunkerers that are doing well hardly even find time for their business and families na to come join training of fowl e go want add?
Maybe na all these people weh dey enter creek go buy 10 jugs of diesel from the real bunkerers hand come sell to people weh get listers then make 20k profit your mama jam,not a bunkerer.
And na all these middlemen dey make noise about the business pass,na wetin e use trap your mama
She think say she don jam "machine na pump ego" lol
Stop abusing that high paying profession please.
He doesn't even own his own transportation ffs he had to make your mum borrow 1m to buy a bus for the said business .real bunkerers don't even use buses to transport but tankers or 12 tyres,25 ton truck where they load products in drums and go and offload somewhere in or close to town and start distribution from there.
That guy is a poor diesel middleman,not a bunkerer.finished!
His biggest cash out so far in this life is your air headed mum.simple.
God I hate dull people.
Welcome to the real world youngster,because you go suffer,suffer,suffer again tire so brace up,e don red!

You don't use such foul words on someone's parents,it is uncalled for. You can comment without being uncivilized about it. Thank you

Logobenz3:
continue making excuses for foolishness.
17 year old means what?
I made life changing decisions at that age too so I know too well what I am talking about.

How is it that you sound so much like him!!!