My dear, pardon me to use the word "dear", I want to touch you, so you can have a rethink, about men. Anyway, your mum wasn't charmed but fell in love with a fraudster, you see, there is what you forget to consider, let me tell you, all your elder ones allowed you to be responsible for running the family, I tell you this, you mum saw that but won't tell you, all she tried to do was work towards making you all comfortable and happy but made the wrong choice. She was not charmed to answer your question, she was in a state of confusions considering her situation, lonely and had the devil come in as that low-life man.

Please love your mum, don't resent, hate or feel bad, God is in control

Enchantaurl:
Good morning,nlders.

This is going to be a very lengthy post but please read to the end.

Sometime last year my widowed mother met this man who's into oil bunkering who said he was interested in learning about poultry farming and she in turn will learn his. As at then she was doing well she had a poultry business, mobile banking business, and she supplies things to companies.

Now this man is a divorcee with 3boys from his ex-wife and 3kids from two different women, all this children he doesn't train them.

In the guise of learning each other's business they both started dating and somehow he stopped her from staying with we her kids that were at home ( I,17 being the eldest at home then and a jambite, elder ones are in school)
She started living with him, hardly attends to her business because he always wants her home when he returns. He controlled every aspect of her life.

I think this is too much for your age, but trust me there are still good men out there, don’t let your experience becloud your judgement.
I THINK WE SHOULD ALL SUPPORT HER LET EVERYONE JUST SEND WHATEVER THEY CAN THE POWER OF CROWDFUNDING CANNOT BE OVERESTIMATED

Enchantaurl:
Good morning,nlders.

This is going to be a very lengthy post but please read to the end.

Sometime last year my widowed mother met this man who's into oil bunkering who said he was interested in learning about poultry farming and she in turn will learn his. As at then she was doing well she had a poultry business, mobile banking business, and she supplies things to companies.

Now this man is a divorcee with 3boys from his ex-wife and 3kids from two different women, all this children he doesn't train them.

In the guise of learning each other's business they both started dating and somehow he stopped her from staying with we her kids that were at home ( I,17 being the eldest at home then and a jambite, elder ones are in school)
She started living with him, hardly attends to her business because he always wants her home when he returns. He controlled every aspect of her life.

Stop blaming Men, blame your daft mum who lacked sense of reasoning. The man was a divorcee with numerous kids out of wedlock, who he doesn't take care of. She still went ahead to date the man. All these Kalabari/Ikwere men and women and there uselessness.


Common sense should've told your mom or even you guys, why did this man not living with all these women he had children with?

If your story is true, then :
1) You mum is a very stupid person who should be stripped naked and flogged in public.
2) Her boyfriend is an irresponsible and heartless human being.

Venusman:
You left your Mom in that condition to school at the time she needed you most.

You Mom is a widow and the man knew she needed love (he got into her in disguise). You could have help her out of that mess she called love.

I ain't saying you're wrong to have gone to school but your Mom has greater value too.

This is a very stupid opinion . So because an adult cannot reason properly, a child should not go to school?

Enchantaurl:
I'm beginning to resent her, can't help it.
Thanks for your advice

If your story is true, she deserves the resentment even though the resentment wouldn't solve a thing. I really feel for you.

Excuzeme:

Story is a bunch of cooked lies, she just wanted to vent on how much she hates Men.
Frustration can make people do a lot of strange and senseless things

I was thinking it was a strategy to beg online, but then she didn't get right to it immediately. Maybe she is playing the long game.

While all she narrated could be true, I just couldn't get to believe that the banks are that naive to give a private businesswoman with no collateral a loan.

I could be wrong but I don't think I am.

Enchantaurl:
Your comments and views are encouraged.

So jazzed you gave her 60k! I feel you. Be strong. You will one day tell us how you learnt from it, and grew.

Wish you the best!

cococandy:
I feel like she was too desperate for love

Here’s your answer. When women are raised to believe their successes and accomplishments mean nothing unless there’s a man attached to it to whom the credit can be given, things like this happen. And they will keep happening because many women will fight those who try to talk sense into them.

You always stand out, thanks to your feminist foolishness. Let's assume the op's story is true. So you mean her mum was stupid because she was brought up to believe "her successes and accomplishments mean nothing unless there’s a man attached to it to whom the credit can be given"?
What about men that abandon their family because of some b!tch they heavily squander their money on? Are those men raised to believe "their successes and accomplishments mean nothing unless there’s a woman attached to it to whom the credit can be given"?

Please, no one raises women that way. You invented that because, as a feminist, you are a specialist in manufacturing the societal and individual oppression and subjugation of the female gender from thin air. The mum was just too stupid and that stupidity is similar to the stupidity of people parting with their money because of the words and cunning of a prosperity preacher. Good day.

ednut1:
This can't be real. I doubt anyone can be this naive

I have problems believing Enchantaurl. A woman, as far as money is concerned, can't be this stupid?

It’s too complicated for your tiny brain

Martinez39:

You always stand out, thanks to your feminist foolishness. Let's assume the op's story is true. So you mean her mum was stupid because she was brought up to believe "her successes and accomplishments mean nothing unless there’s a man attached to it to whom the credit can be given"?
What about men that abandon their family because of some b!tch they heavily squander their money on? Are those men raised to believe "their successes and accomplishments mean nothing unless there’s a woman attached to it to whom the credit can be given"?

Please, no one raises women that way. You invented that because, as a feminist, you are a specialist in manufacturing the societal and individual oppression and subjugation of the female gender from thin air. The mum was just too stupid and that stupidity is similar to the stupidity of people parting with their money because of the words and cunning of a prosperity preacher. Good day.

Martinez39:

You always stand out, thanks to your feminist foolishness. Let's assume the op's story is true. So you mean her mum was stupid because she was brought up to believe "her successes and accomplishments mean nothing unless there’s a man attached to it to whom the credit can be given"?
What about men that abandon their family because of some b!tch they heavily squander their money on? Are those men raised to believe "their successes and accomplishments mean nothing unless there’s a woman attached to it to whom the credit can be given"?

Please, no one raises women that way. You invented that because, as a feminist, you are a specialist in manufacturing the societal and individual oppression and subjugation of the female gender from thin air. The mum was just too stupid and that stupidity is similar to the stupidity of people parting with their money because of the words and cunning of a prosperity preacher. Good day.

Why blame feminism for her stupidity, 39?
Did feminism make her invent and manufacture?

Keep insulting your late dad and you'll never move forward in life. Honour your father and your mother so that your days may be long in the land your God gives you. If a man slaps you on one cheek turn the other.
If he has treated you and your mother unfairly take as the trials of life whatever doesn't kill you will only make you stronger. Trust in God and forgive those who you think have offended you. They have played their own roles and have gone their own way , so also play your own role and go your own way

Your situation seems kinda similar to mine, it's not that anyone is jazzed by the way... My dad is also late, my dad's oldest brother took everything and in fact, out of six children, my dad who is the last born and everyone else among the children are dead except for the first born who seems to b taking everything regardless of how his siblings children will manage in life.

Where I am trying to drive at is your mom who have made a lot of mistakes seems to have lost her mind (or in another sense, 'jazzed), and you have seen those mistakes and will have to learn from it in order not to end up like her.

I believe you are gonna go places in this life and please, don't have a bad perception of men, there are other good men in this world... It's just that your mom met the wrong one and he took advantage of your mom's desperation to find love.

That's all I wanna say.

cococandy:
It’s too complicated for your tiny brain

Your brain is tiny and well submerged in feminist foolishness. I am sure each time you breath, your brain reassures you of how women are oppressed and how men and society are the problem.

You feminists in secular societies are destructive and hypocritical. Despite the fact that you people are free to go to school, choose any career, shape your destinies, and have rights just as men, you people are not satisfied and feel that you are still oppressed thereby more "rights" are needed. Despite the fact that society is gynocentric, it's still not enough. You guys can't even keep your doctrine of gender equality as you guys recoil when the harsh parts of equality comes. You guys only want the good parts of equality not the responsibility, accountability and consequences.

If you feminists really care about women, how then do you sleep at night knowing fully well the hardship and oppression women in Islam countries face? How can you people ignore that and focus on men in secular societies who love women's rights and call them oppressors and misogynists. If you people really care about gender equality, why don't you vigorously attack the men hating and entitled toxic women who have now defined the feminist movement? Oops, you are all the same. If you people really care about both genders and rape victims, why do feminists always want to believe rape accusers and sweep due process under the carpet?

How come there are a lot of women who are Muslims and feminists? Why are western feminists accepting of Islam? No man is oppressing you or subjugating you, if you choose to be a weak and inadequate assh0le with a victim mentality, that's your choice.

This is a typical case of where an adult person- who is expected to know better - selfishly doesn't realize how her stupid mistakes are going to affect others negatively.

I have never been in this kind situation before but I totally empathize with you. I can feel the pain. And trust me, if this was my mum I would lambast her to the point where she will begin to regret her life and consider suicide... And I wouldn't even care because now I feel like I can totally live without her. Heck, she is in fact a burden to me with all those debts hanging on her neck.

Your mother was just foolishly desperate to be loved and satisfied sexually - so much so that even relegated her beloved kids to the back seat beacuse of a man!!!! But instead of a good man she found a manipulative narcissist that desired to use and dump her.

My dear.. You have to realize now that you are on your own o. Only God is your sponsor now. So you have to do everything out are doing with that mentality. So sorry pls.

budaatum:

Why blame feminism for her stupidity, 39?
Did feminism make her invent and manufacture?

I know cococandy quite well to have made my statement.

...lol

The rants of a misogynist.

Martinez39:
Your brain is tiny and well submerged in feminist foolishness. I am sure each time you breath, your brain reassures you of how women are oppressed and how men and society are the problem.

You feminists in secular societies are destructive and hypocritical. Despite the fact that you people are free to go to school, choose any career, shape your destinies, and have rights just as men, you people are not satisfied and feel that you are still oppressed thereby more "rights" are needed. Despite the fact that society is gynocentric, it's still not enough. You guys can't even keep your doctrine of gender equality as you guys recoil when the harsh parts of equality comes. You guys only want the good parts of equality not the responsibility, accountability and consequences.

If you feminists really care about women, how then do you sleep at night knowing fully well the hardship and oppression women in Islam countries face? How can you people ignore that and focus on men in secular societies who love women's rights and call them oppressors and misogynists. If you people really care about gender equality, why don't you vigorously attack the men hating and entitled toxic women who have now defined the feminist movement? Oops, you are all the same. If you people really care about both genders and rape victims, why do feminists always want to believe rape accusers and sweep due process under the carpet?

How come there are a lot of women who are Muslims and feminists? Why are western feminists accepting of Islam? No man is oppressing you or subjugating you, if you choose to be a weak and inadequate assh0le with a victim mentality, that's your choice.

Acidosis:
Your mom obviously is attracted to senseless men. I'm sorry but I have no fck to give to your mom for dating and willing to learn the tricks of oil bunkering from a criminal.

Wait, do you think your mom deserves a good man? Hating on men because of your mother's decision to romanticise with a criminal is a waste of time.

Responsible men are not in that line of trade. How can your mother ignore all the descent places in this country for the creeks? It's like taking a wife from a brothel and hoping to find her hymen intact.

I think you should focus on your life at this point. You're too young to worry your head over your mother's choices. There are places decent men don't go to; but women will go there looking for decent husbands.

no be where person dey dem go see people? If she is surrounded by the creeks, it is the men from the creeks she will date. Abi, is she supposed to travel around the country looking for decent men?

jclassiq:
This is a typical case of where an adult person- who is expected to know better - selfishly doesn't realize how her stupid mistakes are going to affect others negatively.

I have never been in this kind situation before but I totally empathize with you. I can feel the pain. And trust me, if this was my mum I would lambast her to the point where she will begin to regret her life and consider suicide... And I wouldn't even care because now I feel like I can totally live without her. Heck, she is in fact a burden to me with all those debts hanging on her neck.

Your mother was just foolishly desperate to be loved and satisfied sexually - so much so that even relegated her beloved kids to the back seat beacuse of a man!!!! But instead of a good man she found a manipulative narcissist that desired to use and dump her.

My dear.. You have to realize now that you are on your own o. Only God is your sponsor now. So you have to do everything out are doing with that mentality. So sorry pls.

exactly

And people are here saying she shouldn't feel some level of resentment. The woman is the reason a teenager is staying away from home and hustling jobs, when she should be under the care of a responsible parent.

I don't care how much you need love as an adult, it you have kids, they should be your priority and your selfishness should not come above their well-being.

If OP was not a decent girl that understands the importance of hard work, it is very easy for a girl to be lured into all sorts of things at that age, especially in 100 level in the average Nigerian University. The mother didn't even realize all the dangers she put her own child in because she was looking for love in all the wrong places.

I'm sorry, but I have no regard for parents that are too consumed with their own shitttt to see their children. Having kids means you don't get to be selfish anymore.

Venusman:
You left your Mom in that condition to school at the time she needed you most.

You Mom is a widow and the man knew she needed love (he got into her in disguise). You could have help her out of that mess she called love.

I ain't saying you're wrong to have gone to school but your Mom has greater value too.

What would you have had her do? Her mum is a freaking adult... and her mum! You can't control or forcefully influence such a person's decision.

Good thing she gained admission quickly.

Martinez39:
Your brain is tiny and well submerged in feminist foolishness. I am sure each time you breath, your brain reassures you of how women are oppressed and how men and society are the problem.

You feminists in secular societies are destructive and hypocritical. Despite the fact that you people are free to go to school, choose any career, shape your destinies, and have rights just as men, you people are not satisfied and feel that you are still oppressed thereby more "rights" are needed. Despite the fact that society is gynocentric, it's still not enough. You guys can't even keep your doctrine of gender equality as you guys recoil when the harsh parts of equality comes. You guys only want the good parts of equality not the responsibility, accountability and consequences.

If you feminists really care about women, how then do you sleep at night knowing fully well the hardship and oppression women in Islam countries face? How can you people ignore that and focus on men in secular societies who love women's rights and call them oppressors and misogynists. If you people really care about gender equality, why don't you vigorously attack the men hating and entitled toxic women who have now defined the feminist movement? Oops, you are all the same. If you people really care about both genders and rape victims, why do feminists always want to believe rape accusers and sweep due process under the carpet?

How come there are a lot of women who are Muslims and feminists? Why are western feminists accepting of Islam? No man is oppressing you or subjugating you, if you choose to be a weak and inadequate assh0le with a victim mentality, that's your choice.

Lmaoooo...
Guy,you dey try o...all this epistle for that girl?
Why do you even bother,when their offline realities are different from their online persona.
The girl you quoted is married o, do you really think she talks to her husband in a feminist way?

I have read your comments on this feminism stuff on several threads, my advice is try not to get 'triggered off' into e-brawling. Just be cool,say ur stuff. I like some of the points you always make.

Yes....She was jazzed with a good dicking.....she is loving the john thomas in her life.....

bizza45:
c I know d man ur mum dated was an ass-hole but disrespecting ur late dad on nairaland is d most stupid tin I have read today...

u can hate all men and become a feminist, but that will not pay back d loan ur mum took.. I will simply tell u to forgive d man and pretend that he don't exits anymore,
2, this might b difficult but u need to start hustling with any little amount u have, start something right now or get a job, ur mum can start her poultry in little scale ... I know its capital intensive but she can start with 5- 10 birds and sell dem when they are a a month or 2 months old

lastly d hate in ur heart is like an acid and if care is not taken it will eat u up... this is going to b difficult but learn how to get over it

well said. ..she dramatically crushed my sympathy



Make I pocket my sympathy and offer as a man

cococandy:
The rants of a misogynist.

boohoo .. flat his points not wail victim. I bet people just agree with u just to avoid u offline

Enchantaurl:
But we her kids were there to show her love,we were supportive.

you can't replace a man's place in a woman's heart....

Venusman:
You left your Mom in that condition to school at the time she needed you most.

You Mom is a widow and the man knew she needed love (he got into her in disguise). You could have help her out of that mess she called love.

I ain't saying you're wrong to have gone to school but your Mom has greater value too.

Enchantaurl

How was the girl at fault? She was 17 at the time.

The mum is strictly to blame.

Elderly single women are desperate for love and can give their 2 eyes for it. They are the prime target for these Yahoo boys. The same maga or is it magess can fall multiple times. A 51 year old Australian lady who had lost $90,000 to a Malaysian based Yahoo boy was after the incident gisting with another dupe. She was advised that if it is not a man she has met in flesh and can take her out, she should forget it.

They are easy game. The man knew that and exploited it

Imagine you're a 52 year old single or divorced mother of four and a man says you're the most beautiful thing he has ever seen. That he just loves you and he can't stop thinking of you. He says "you're his dream" and he'll like to one day marry you and he keeps stringing you on.

Again, I say, they are easy game

Amuatulu:
Where's Lalasticlala sef

I'm sure he's somewhere now using his long amu to fück some atulu.