Dangerousboy:
Sir you did a wrong thing. If I were the people in that forum I will remove you. You know why? You were in a Christian forum where the word of God is shared as the solution and Christian doctrine upheld and there you were bringing a circular advice. Don't you know that there are wisdom and there is a superior wisdom which is from above? You were suppose to share godly wisdom there and not just common sense. I do follow ubanja, his work is cool and full of common sense but I don't agree with something's he says because it is not from above. It is only the one that comes from above that is above all.

Samyj247:
yes its true. realist most of the time end up having little friends....because of the way they speak truth but are highly respected...in fact, it will shock you to later found out that those who keeps away from you are your best fan....they would stand for you in terrible situations secretly because they know u speak truth. Forget o....realist get friends well well sef but most of their friends are in hibernation mod...so no fear to be different. Like me I am very blunt and realistic, that why for nairaland I no de take sheeett

pansophist:
Just as you wont walk into a mosque and start condemning their beliefs to favour your christianity, you should have just remain calm and say nothing, but of course, operate on your own conviction. True wisdom is peace loving. The wise do not antagonize peoples anger. James 3.17.

As you might have learnt now, humans largely live and die in lies. The true strength of a man can be determined by how much truth he is willing to accept. People wants to hear "their truth", not "the truth", and only when it validates their worldview. The human mind is like a cement, when it has become thick, its difficult to penetrate. And the older they become, they worse it seems

And lastly proverb 20.3 says, any fool can start an argument, the honorable thing is to avoid them. Avoid such discussion next time. If you see me in real life eh, na pidgin I speak pass. My nairaland persona is totally different from reality. Operate like that, and that's how it work best. Spitting out harsh existential truth is like telling a criminal that you have a gun to kill him when he shows up, it makes your deterrence ineffective because ambiguity is the ultimate strategy to win.

spongeisback:
The fact that a married man is reading, digesting and applying what is written here by a bunch of people that cannot even keep a relationship is shocking. Do you know most of this boys here have nothing going on in there lives so they come online to bash women?

Don't destroy your relationship with people around you because of what you read on a faceless forum.

themaestro08:
Nothing is wrong with you man! Be yourself and express yourself as clearly as you want. But as Robert Greene says author of 48 laws of power "think as you like but behave like others".

pocohantas:


Even undergraduates o, undergraduates that he can pay their fees. Hey, Jehova.

Fountainofyouth:



I couldn't even type more than "smh" up there cos it's really sad that a married man ripe in age, will follow words from confused fellows here, how immature can one be?

emmaodet:


sis, 2 days ago or so, you typed that due to what you read on the ''Asewo thread'' you had to confront your boo because you are worried almost all guys are cheating.
That is to show you that what you read as effect on you which also applys to me and everybody.
i just had to wake myself up that am drifting away.

emmaodet:


that is it bro.
learning from others experiences before it hits you.
thanks bro
truth is bitter and sometimes knowing people love you for what you can provide is sickening

pocohantas:


I didn't confront my boo o, I don't know how you concluded he is "my boo".

I asked questions from my FRIEND. I didn't go about causing trouble, suspecting people or saying in public that all men cheat and fck around. I get sense pass that one na.

Abi will these undergraduates on NL, marry me when I have succeeded in making the sensible men in reality think I am mad?

Better keep madness on NL. Filter your circle off here and do them right. The people you are following will logoff and call their girlfriends at night, after scattering your own.

bigpriik:


you are writing trash.

spongeisback:
The fact that a married man is reading, digesting and applying what is written here by a bunch of people that cannot even keep a relationship is shocking. Do you know most of this boys here have nothing going on in there lives so they come online to bash women?

Don't destroy your relationship with people around you because of what you read on a faceless forum.

emmaodet:


You are right sha, thanks.
Will adjust

Olorunnim:
Op has only one life, it's left to you to live a truthful life or live a lie, the truth is bitter, people don't want to swallow it, but it Would be what makes you stand out.
Don't mind some people here who are condemning you for speaking, they Also practice what the female mis-educationist preach, they see relationship as a game and always want to have the upper hand. When their spouses realises this and wants out they become pained and come here to Wail.

emmaodet:


hmmmmmmmmmm.
Oga ooooo
Bros, if you know the kind heat wey i dey face since yesterday, it makes me look like a fool but i will just keep silence since that is what this life wants.
Truth is bitter
Ti iro ba lo fun ogun ojo, ojo kan ni otito ma ba

emmaodet:
I don't know what is happening to me again because ever since i joined nairaland and started reading some threads and comments on nairaland, following people like ubunja and co, my life as never been the same again.
I thought social media is just a place for fun but it seems what we hear/watch and see as a way of shaping our lives.
Am a very quite, gentle and respected person in the church and my area but things are really happening fast that calls for concern.
Am in a church organised family whatsapp group with alot of respected families but of lately have been more or less an outcast in the group.
Last week, they raised a topic about Love and why people were commenting positively about how they love their wives and how their wives stood beside them when they were poor, i entered the forum and took the whole topic to the opposite direction. I told them about how Love is not enough to hold a relationship because most ladies will leave when no more money or they see a better option.
The forum went hay wire, cut fire and things went south.
Yesterda, they raised a topic about hiw not to condonea cheating partner and as usual i came into the forum and pointed out the fact that only if they know the high rate of infidelity, a large percentage of marriages will crash instantly.
Ever since my first issue, i noticed a lot of them are really avoiding me like a plague because i was raw, harsh and blunt unlike my previous self.
Ubunja, the manipulated man and pther topics of infidelity as really changed me alot and presently my wife is concerned about me because she said my comments were wild, different, raw etc
Am losing my mind pals, don't know what is happening to me.

Cc
Martinez39
Larryking540
Franchasng
Mekenz
Ubunja
Pansophist
Pocohantas

emmaodet:
I don't know what is happening to me again because ever since i joined nairaland and started reading some threads and comments on nairaland, following people like ubunja and co, my life as never been the same again.
I thought social media is just a place for fun but it seems what we hear/watch and see as a way of shaping our lives.
Am a very quite, gentle and respected person in the church and my area but things are really happening fast that calls for concern.
Am in a church organised family whatsapp group with alot of respected families but of lately have been more or less an outcast in the group.
Last week, they raised a topic about Love and why people were commenting positively about how they love their wives and how their wives stood beside them when they were poor, i entered the forum and took the whole topic to the opposite direction. I told them about how Love is not enough to hold a relationship because most ladies will leave when no more money or they see a better option.
The forum went hay wire, cut fire and things went south.
Yesterda, they raised a topic about hiw not to condonea cheating partner and as usual i came into the forum and pointed out the fact that only if they know the high rate of infidelity, a large percentage of marriages will crash instantly.
Ever since my first issue, i noticed a lot of them are really avoiding me like a plague because i was raw, harsh and blunt unlike my previous self.
Ubunja, the manipulated man and pther topics of infidelity as really changed me alot and presently my wife is concerned about me because she said my comments were wild, different, raw etc
Am losing my mind pals, don't know what is happening to me.

Cc
Martinez39
Larryking540
Franchasng
Mekenz
Ubunja
Pansophist
Pocohantas

healthserve:





Ubunja look what you've done

Martinez39:
Well, say your truth out loud with discretion. Some people don't believe in god and can't say it because na hell dem go face. It's like that everywhere. Most people always want to hear what they like, facts and evidence don't matter to them. Even though facts do not care about their feelings, their feelings do not care about facts. In Muslim countries, you cannot say the truth about Islam without being punished.

Saying the truth about love, women and romance upsets women, beta men and many married men. Women don't want their cunning and manipulative ways revealed because it's their survival strategy and means to get undue advantage. Beta males are professional women defenders and pleasers and they see women as angelic and impeccable beings. It's not easy for many married men to face the fact that their wives, whom they love, sacrifice and spend so much on, are just loving them for what they can provide. This truth brings the harsh realisation that the investment, both financial and emotional, are wastes and these are in some way being used.

ubunja:
he'll be alright.

We all passed through this phase. It's the Red Pill Awakening.

healthserve:




Ubunja ..Smh. Am I glad more men are waking up to the truth. One by one, we'll save " man-kind ", the brotherhood of blue pill brothers

ichidodo:
Totally relate with you bro...Tis best you keep the truth to yourself especially now that you're married because you could hurt yourself and those close to you in the long run...keep to the shadows but avail yourself to those who you feel might be susceptible to the truth or you feel the truth might improve the quality of their lives tremendously people like your brothers or young men around you who are unmarried..heck even married men also. See yourself as the character Morpheus in the movie Matrix who goes about looking to yank a Neo or two out of the rabbit hole whilst suffering the persecutions of not only those plugged into the system but also the custodians of the Matrix system "Agent Smith"..

ubunja:
one by one those who choose to awake will awake.

Biingoo:
Feminist are in pains. See them wailing above me

healthserve:




The matrix principle applies. People we try to deliver, even professionals I.e doctors, lawyers will fight and persecute you. Morpheous words.

ichidodo:
If you ask me I wouldn't want all men to be delivered because if we all become lions who would become antelope? thus the system becomes highly unbalanced and volatile, many guys could use their newly found powers wrongly thus crashing this harmonious system simps have built.Our sisters and daughters could be caught out and exploited..

Mekenz:
trust me you're on the right path, I totally relate and concur with what you wrote, I totally feel like the odd one amongst my friends because of my own thought patterns. my own views and opinions must always be on the contrary with theirs, which sometimes leads to some fracas between friends and even families, but I have learnt to navigate through the brouhaha, which is to say a very little then back whatever I wanted to say again with my actions. this is to avoid everyone perceiving me as an enemy/negative vibe nigga.

I no longer argue with then unnecessary whenever my opinions didn't go well with then, rather I excuses and disassociate myself from the midst.

NB. becoming too rigid and frigid is not always the best way to go, because you will loose some of your nice friends in the process, perhaps some persons always shy away from the reality and the truth. they always find succor running from one church to another just to hear and listen to prosperity massages.

perhaps you need to know when to readjust and apply leniency only when it seems necessary.


these pattern has been working ever since.

healthserve:




Apt. Another matrix in itself within a matrix