galantjoe:
If What u said is true, then your wife suppose to forgive u and move on. For those that have not married, marriage is not bed of roses. There is always abusive language but what matters is asking for forgiveness and forgiveness itself. Your wife must forgive u if you ask for forgiveness.
If she continues to like this, she is still immature
for marriage. you have to consult elders

galantjoe:
If What u said is true, then your wife suppose to forgive u and move on. For those that have not married, marriage is not bed of roses. There is always abusive language but what matters is asking for forgiveness and forgiveness itself. Your wife must forgive u if you ask for forgiveness.
If she continues to like this, she is still immature
for marriage. you have to consult elders

pocohantas:
If my husband tells me such, no matter how long it takes...I must get my pound of flesh.

But then, I am not your wife
Except I suffer amnesia sha. Total one o



By the way, thought it is only women that have bad mouth in marriage? So, una sef dey talk nonsense like this?

Richy4:
That was cold blooded bro.. A technical knock out jizzzz!!!..

This kinda situation deserves 'hail Mary'

Bro this is from me to you.. There are people in this world that got acid mouths. Oh!! When they open it a little, it can divide the red sea.. and u are one of them unfortunately

Killing someone does not necessarily mean using gun or knife.. U have destroyed her self confidence man.. Try and keep your tongue in check in future man..

As for the present situation, keep begging and pleading... U have done your courtship and u know what she likes.. start with that.. she might act like she doesn't want it but keep on doing it still..also give her a little time and space to breathe and think ... She will come around.

In my opinion, taking this case to a third party will further humiliate her the more because that person will like to know what you were fighting about and what you said that made her so upset .. and u can't trust the person not to say it to another person... That will give them a weapon on what to hold against her should there be any misunderstanding between herself and whoever it was that you told..

On a lighter note bro I will suggest that you buy chewing stick in future and keep at home.. if she does or says something that upsets U, and u can't leave the house at that point, and u know that if u opened your mouth, it will shut the whole thing down, just pick up one of the chewing stick and start chewing.. That will keep you mouth in check

genq:
She needs to move on already!
I'm sure during the said argument, she also said hurtful things to you.
At the end of the day, you were man enough to apologise severally. So, the question now is; does she expect you to beg her for the rest of your life?

Biglittlelois:



Hehehe I like this, good advice

izzou:


Maybe he read enough threads on marrying from 18 - 24 year females on nairaland....Thereby neglecting the blessing God gave him in a 31 year old
I'm just saying

pocohantas:
If my husband tells me such, no matter how long it takes...I must get my pound of flesh.

But then, I am not your wife
Except I suffer amnesia sha. Total one o



By the way, thought it is only women that have bad mouth in marriage? So, una sef dey talk nonsense like this?

genq:
She needs to move on already!
I'm sure during the said argument, she also said hurtful things to you.
At the end of the day, you were man enough to apologise severally. So, the question now is; does she expect you to beg her for the rest of your life?

pocohantas:
If my husband tells me such, no matter how long it takes...I must get my pound of flesh.

But then, I am not your wife
Except I suffer amnesia sha. Total one o



By the way, thought it is only women that have bad mouth in marriage? So, una sef dey talk nonsense like this?

pocohantas:


They will find one virgin for him na. Or guve him enough redpill. Last last, we would be here to discuss his matter.

Charles1888:

After we got married, you know newlyweds now, the quarrels about every little thing, it was much then, so this particular incident made me so worked up and angry I made a statement I shouldnt have said, during the heated argument I told her that she was never who I would have married, that she wasn't my specs, she was too old (31 lol) that if someone younger was available I wouldn't blink twice before I'll marry the person, after saying all that, I wasn't sober about it, she held on to that statement, I knew she cried that night, since then we don't talk, play, gist anymore, we became distant, though I apologised the next morning but things isn't just the same anymore, communication isn't there, she only talks to me when she wants to ask or say necessary things, nothing more, though she still cooks, we still have sex, infact every other aspect is fine except for communication, anytime I come back from work and I'm in the sitting room, she doesn't stay there, she either goes to the room or dinning room,

izzou:


According to him, he married her because he needed to acquire something fast.... That's his reason for marrying her

The woman actually solved the jigsaw puzzle when he said those words. And that's why she's avoiding him like a plague

It will take only God to change her mind. I just don't want to sound negative, but it's the truth...

Charles1888:
I had to create a new account for this

I don't know how to get through to my wife anymore, of which the fault is mine, when we were dating, she showed that she was committed to me and loved me wholeheartedly but I was reluctant to marry her cos she was of age, I wanted someone younger, say under 25, but something important that i have to acquire made me marry all of a sudden and she was the only one available, don't get me wrong, I loved her then, her peaceful and humble soul but for some reason I simply can't understand I felt she wasn't enough, but I was wrong, she was perfect, the best I can ever wish for and more, she is everything,

After we got married, you know newlyweds now, the quarrels about every little thing, it was much then, so this particular incident made me so worked up and angry I made a statement I shouldnt have said, during the heated argument I told her that she was never who I would have married, that she wasn't my specs, she was too old (31 lol) that if someone younger was available I wouldn't blink twice before I'll marry the person, after saying all that, I wasn't sober about it, she held on to that statement, I knew she cried that night, since then we don't talk, play, gist anymore, we became distant, though I apologised the next morning but things isn't just the same anymore, communication isn't there, she only talks to me when she wants to ask or say necessary things, nothing more, though she still cooks, we still have sex, infact every other aspect is fine except for communication, anytime I come back from work and I'm in the sitting room, she doesn't stay there, she either goes to the room or dinning room, I have begged and begged and I don't want to involve third party cos I obviously caused this, when she got pregnant, she didn't tell me till I saw the strip, when I asked why she said she forgot, and we had plans to celebrate when she takes in, I was sad that day, I begged and asked to tell me anything she wants and I'll do it, I'll make it up to her,,she said she wants nothing that she is fine, I love her, she is my baby, we use to be gist buddies, I missed that and I want it back, I don't know what to do anymore, it's my fault I know that and I'm sorry I ever said that cos it hurt her deeply, I told her to tell me more evil things so that we will be even, she said she can't that she loves me, we are drifting apart, I can feel it,

Pls help me folks, I came here becos I want anonymous advise, what else can I do to make the hurt go away?

izzou:


According to him, he married her because he needed to acquire something fast.... That's his reason for marrying her

The woman actually solved the jigsaw puzzle when he said those words. And that's why she's avoiding him like a plague

It will take only God to change her mind. I just don't want to sound negative, but it's the truth...

pocohantas:


Lots of people feel one kinda way about their spouses though. It is only human nature to think you can get someone better. Some are only smart enough never to voice it out, so they live happily ever after. As OP done talk im own, na God hand them dey. She will forgive, but she won't forget. What she does with the the memory is up to her.

BetWinners:
Nigerian men have got to stop placing so much value on women.
@OP You told your wife the blunt truth.Women are waaay harsher with the truth when they direct it at men.Countless women have told their husbands the exact same thing you told your wife (their husbands not being their first choice) & the men moved on.
Tell your wife if she can't act right & put that poo behind her,then both of you should split cos you can't continue stepping on eggshells in your own house.
Simple stuff

missjo:

God?
Lol,it's not that serious you guys. She will get over it, all she needs is the reassurance that she was not just an option but the foremost choice.

pocohantas:
If my husband tells me such, no matter how long it takes...I must get my pound of flesh.

But then, I am not your wife
Except I suffer amnesia sha. Total one o



By the way, thought it is only women that have bad mouth in marriage? So, una sef dey talk nonsense like this?