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scaramucci

Of course it is backward and archaic who doesn't know that .

But let me ask you a question .

When op and the girl are suffering at the hands of their in laws will you especially, be there to fight for them?

It's easy to urge people on, on a faceless forum.

Everyone is a lion online.

Squirrel01:
You are not the first, you won't be the last, this thing has been in existence since the days of your forefathers, you won't marry her, there is nothing you can do about it, seems you don't know the history of this Osun caste system in iboland, love can't break it,Beauty can't break it, you see these folks tagged Osun? The gods blessed them with beauty, good character, and a rare gift, yet tradition abhors them, they don't want them to dine with them, it's tradition, every family wants to keep a clean sheet of their lineage, as per your predicament, I don't have any advice to offer, as the answer lies with your family, your kindred, this is just the ugly truth, you have to swallow this bitter pill, the word Osun is a very strong word in iboland, churches have tried to eliminate and abolish it but to no avail, so many marriageble young ladies out there are roaming the streets of their community due to this issue, their only hope is, if someone who has no interest or knowledge about this Osun issue happens to wife them up. Yet there are still hidden nemesis attached to it. This is what they (your family are avoiding). Thread wisely.

Who are the gods?

If you read carefully you will realise that the OP has already made up his mind to dump her but was seeking validation.

Unfortunately for him most people are telling him to marry her.

Very few people can boast of a relationship like the one OP has. One day he will be lying in bed with his wife and wondering how he let this girl go. It will be a regret that may eat him up for the rest of his life

The Lord will bring her a man better than OP, preferably a man from SS or elsewhere. Let her not date an Igbo man again to avoid another calamity.

OP- What thou doest do quickly!!

BRATISLAVA:
Continue your racial delusion.

He was not black and he was not white. Because one of your parents is one race doesn't make you that race. You become a mulatto. Meaning you have no true race.
In a country with only black people, I can understand why you don't understand race.
Black is black, white is white. Mulattos don't count.

I don't live in Nigeria egbon.
If Meghan Markle were considere white, some people won't make jokes about her monkey baby.

You are the only person I that has turned Obama's colour to a scientific discourse.

*If you are not white, you are not white ( at least that's how the racists have always thought in America, the Carribeans and South Africa).

Obama is as black as my behind.

Asetime:
You have already made up your mind. What advice do u need again?

God bless you jare. i have been reading his comment since, so annoying,
I don't know what else he want from us.

Dpharisee:
Poor people are the ones thinking like you currently in Igboland, rich Igbos just do there thing and send money to Umunna to tell them that their kids have gotten married, go outside and say their kid married OSU and see them deal with you mercilessly

In all these talks I noticed 3 things. Poverty, lack of education and stupidity in action.

HBB1:
After one of my sister's married, we didn't even know that house ( though we lived in the same City) for close to a Year.

My sister said she didn't want any family interference... They will come visit my parents and that was it.

Stay in your bloody house!

Extended family interference is the major cause for unecessary wahala in marriages.

So my mum gossiped a sister-in-law to someone and my brother heard-- that was it!
He stopped calling or answering her calls for a very long time.

He will send money to her account as a son should do, but nothing else.

She has learnt her place now and minds her business.

If the family is proving difficult fvck 'em abeg!

Oh, god you people are truely hilarious.

This goes beyond family opinion. If na that one no problem. Didn't you read where the man said his mother loved the babe.

Even if op marries her and goes to live in Japan his parents, brothers, sisters will suffer the consequences here in Nigeria.

Do you know what it is to be tagged an outcast in a community?

The whole extended family will become outcasts from generation to generation.

You can as well give him money to evacuate his extended family [ if they want to go] I'm sure you nairalanders will contribute for them.

Do you know the spiritual attacks they will face?

OSU is a terrible thing.

You people are mean for egging him on to throw his future into the gutter becuase of a girl that might even have 5 boyfriends waiting.

This is real life not Diego and paloma.

With the spate of divorce , I can't advice anyone to marry anybody you won't be guaranteed peace within the first two years of marriage.

UIA04:
Oh, god you people are truely hilarious.

This goes beyond family opinion. If na that one no problem. Didn't you read where the man said his mother loved the babe.

Even if op marries her and goes to live in Japan his parents, brothers, sisters will suffer the consequences here in Nigeria.

Do you know what it is to be tagged an outcast in a community?

The whole extended family will become outcasts from generation to generation.

You can as well give him money to evacuate his extended family [ if they want to go] I'm sure you nairalanders will contribute for them.

Do you know the spiritual attacks they will face?

OSU is a terrible thing.

You people are mean for egging him on to throw his future into the gutter becuase of a girl that might even have 5 boyfriends waiting.

This is real life not Diego and paloma.

With the spate of divorce , I can't advice anyone to marry anybody you won't be guaranteed peace within the first two years of marriage.

Are people still this ignorant in the 21st century. Wake up! What is all this kwen.

Dpharisee:
You and OP are from a POOR family, rich families do their thing in-house and don't send anyone to go and investigate OSU for them. They simply give Umunna money to buy 10 cows and celebrate their kids marriage in the village while they host the cremes of society in Hilton Abuja or Eko Lemeridien in Lagos.

Imagine Peter Obi telling Umunna to go and research if Air Peace CEO whose son wants to marry his daughter is OSU, it will never happen

OSU is for poor Igbo folks.

Non Igbos here should take note of this about those still trying to propagate it

You are naive. ignorant and ill informed. I am not here to boast about poor families and rich families. Tell us about your rich family or shut up. You may not even be an Igbo person to begin with. Peter Obi's family will have serious issues marrying from an osu family. This has nothing to do with wealth or influence. Do your research well and stop writing rubbish.

UIA04:
scaramucci

Of course it is backward and archaic who doesn't know that .

But let me ask you a question .

When op and the girl are suffering at the hands of their in laws will you especially, be there to fight for them?

It's easy to urge people on, on a faceless forum.

Everyone is a lion online.

How about you send me a DM and let's see what we make out of it?

Most of the people urging him here are from the south who wouldn't even step foot outside when Yoruba ORO is on.

Double standards everywhere.

Hypocrites full nairaland I swear

DocH:
Are people still this ignorant in the 21st century. Wake up! What is all this kwen.

Mr. Know it all follow the op to go and fight his family na.

Igbos the most barbaric tribe in the whole of Nigeria, yet they will claim they are the best, they wanno go to Biafra. abeg which naija delta wan follow Una go that Una mumu Biafra sef.

scaramucci:
How about you send me a DM and let's see what we make out of it?

Of what use are you to me?

I felt so sad reading this, I know how it feels to be in such predicament but I'll advise you to follow your heart and happiness. Damn the segregation! Damn Osu/Diala system. It has ruined so many lives.

Cast system has been abolish last December.... Why are you living in the past. What wouldn't the osu cast system Kill you when you first make love to her.. Keep living by other people opinion of you

Celestial777:
Osu caste system may never leave the Ibo communities this is the reason.
My friend wanted to marry a girl who happens to be nan OSU from unuagwo kindred. They were both medical practitioners.. the whole family of the man went against such Osuic union saying such marraige will only turn there own lineage to osu. The matter was brought to CWO meeting and the leader of the group there is nothing like osu again in this present day. Las las the relationship was dissolved. After a while the leader of cwo that said osu is nothing...her daughter found herself in similar situation. The man she want to get married to happen to be an osu. She was so confident that her mom will support this union since she already know her stand on it....las las the same woman reget it . She said her only daughter cant marry osu.
Rev Father now remind her what she said sometimes ago and also her position as the head of Catholic women organisation that she should lead by example...she said if its her position as cwo will make her pikin marry osuw she no do again...infact she later join winners chapel sef

That is the irony of osu in iboland

Igbos the most barbaric people in the entire Nigeria, yet they wanno drag we Niger Deltans to that their mumu Biafra.

Christopherrrr:
Hello Nairalanders, greetings. My name is Christopher (pseudonym) from the Eastern part of the country, Imo State to be precise. I'm a man in his early 30's. I have an active account here but I had to sign-up for another account for this thread.
Please pardon my grammatical errors and blunders. MOD please help move to FP.

Few months back, I fell in love with a pretty lady with a beautiful soul. She is 28. Though we are running a long distance relationship but the current in the communication link can power Kanji Dam. Lol!! We can be on calls for hours since the very day I met her. There is a fair share of the feelings, affections, respect and regard for each other. It's not one-sided. Though we have been opportune to be together thrice since the past 10months we met. I have had plans to go about engagement and marriage arrangements this coming festive period though I haven't made this known to her.

She gives me joy, she gives me happiness, she prays for me, she blesses me. There is a part of me she unraveled that I never believed existed. Above all, she gives me peace of mind.

Fast forward to last month, I invited her to a family event. I introduced her to my family as my girlfriend. Instantly everyone fell in love with her. My mum was allover her and she was indeed up and doing. She didn't disappoint me. Not pretence, she has a good home training.

When she left same day after the event, my mum proclaimed her love for her. She said, "Olee ebe isi choota udi nwa nke a?" (Where did you find this kinda girl from?). This made me drop a tear of joy thereafter because I've always prayed for such from her any day I introduce a lady to her. This also happens to be my first time.

Fast forward again to 2weeks later, my dad requested I confirm her community and kindred properly because we happen to come from the same LGA. I didn't even know they have started making inquiries for me even before I asked them to. I confirmed from her and informed my dad. Only for them (my parents) to break the news to me days later that we can't marry from their kindred because they are regarded as Out-Casts (Osu-Cast System). Right now, I can't contend my heartbreak. I'm so devastated and confused.

This has been a long-term tradition that has been for centuries that I don't think it's in my capabilities to do away with it or do otherwise.

My problem now is how do I break the news to her for a breakup because we can't continue like this.

I have never ceased to love her less since the very day I learnt of this. In fact, she gives me reasons to love, cherish and adore her every single day. I still do that to the brim and don't have regrets. Quote me, her type is rare. I love this girl with every breath I take. I just cry myself to sleep every night after our long calls.

Please advise a brother because I'm in a deep state of dilemma.

Oga you're a liar. You can't say all those wonderful things and jettison all because of such nonsense in 2019.

UIA04:
Mr. Know it all follow the op to go and fight his family na.

Hmmm. Shame shame shame. I'm sad. Kedu mmadu onye ojii bu? What the fvck. Like what is the essence of these things? Baseless, no atom of merit, stupid and just ignorant. How then can education set us free? How then do we say knowledge is power? Bad day for me.

UIA04:
Oh, god you people are truely hilarious.

This goes beyond family opinion. If na that one no problem. Didn't you read where the man said his mother loved the babe.

Even if op marries her and goes to live in Japan his parents, brothers, sisters will suffer the consequences here in Nigeria.

Do you know what it is to be tagged an outcast in a community?

The whole extended family will become outcasts from generation to generation.

You can as well give him money to evacuate his extended family [ if they want to go] I'm sure you nairalanders will contribute for them.

Do you know the spiritual attacks they will face?

OSU is a terrible thing.

You people are mean for egging him on to throw his future into the gutter becuase of a girl that might even have 5 boyfriends waiting.

This is real life not Diego and paloma.

With the spate of divorce , I can't advice anyone to marry anybody you won't be guaranteed peace within the first two years of marriage.

So if Dangote's daughter is OSU, they will say he should not marry and he will agree?

Anyway its his choice.

My life, my choice, nobody tells me otherwise!

Dpharisee:
[s]You and OP are from a POOR family, rich families do their thing in-house and don't send anyone to go and investigate OSU for them. They simply give Umunna money to buy 10 cows and celebrate their kids marriage in the village while they host the cremes of society in Hilton Abuja or Eko Lemeridien in Lagos.

Imagine Peter Obi telling Umunna to go and research if Air Peace CEO whose son wants to marry his daughter is OSU, it will never happen

OSU is for poor Igbo folks.

Non Igbos here should take note of this about those still trying to propagate it[/s]

You don't know nothing

HBB1:
So if Dangote's daughter is OSU, they will say he should not marry and he will agree?

Anyway its his choice.

My life, my choice, nobody tells me otherwise!

Loool

Do you know Dangote's daughter had an arranged marriage?

The guy she married is know to date very fair girls and even impregnated his girlfriend during wedding preparations.


Every mother fawking northern elite's child no matter how educated will have an arranged marriage.

Tradition is worse in the north than in igboland.

Seriously, I expected a more solid argument from you.


The rich people you people use as example practice arranged marriage more than poor people. From the richest family in the world Rothschild, to the richest in Nigeria , Dantata.

That isn't exactly my fault. I only made a suggestion that could help the dude out of his predicament.

filleSouriante:
Ur funny. U want to make lemonade outta somebody's lime. Yoruba demon

Christopherrrr:
Hello Nairalanders, greetings. My name is Christopher (pseudonym) from the Eastern part of the country, Imo State to be precise. I'm a man in his early 30's. I have an active account here but I had to sign-up for another account for this thread.
Please pardon my grammatical errors and blunders. MOD please help move to FP.

Few months back, I fell in love with a pretty lady with a beautiful soul. She is 28. Though we are running a long distance relationship but the current in the communication link can power Kanji Dam. Lol!! We can be on calls for hours since the very day I met her. There is a fair share of the feelings, affections, respect and regard for each other. It's not one-sided. Though we have been opportune to be together thrice since the past 10months we met. I have had plans to go about engagement and marriage arrangements this coming festive period though I haven't made this known to her.

She gives me joy, she gives me happiness, she prays for me, she blesses me. There is a part of me she unraveled that I never believed existed. Above all, she gives me peace of mind.

Fast forward to last month, I invited her to a family event. I introduced her to my family as my girlfriend. Instantly everyone fell in love with her. My mum was allover her and she was indeed up and doing. She didn't disappoint me. Not pretence, she has a good home training.

When she left same day after the event, my mum proclaimed her love for her. She said, "Olee ebe isi choota udi nwa nke a?" (Where did you find this kinda girl from?). This made me drop a tear of joy thereafter because I've always prayed for such from her any day I introduce a lady to her. This also happens to be my first time.

Fast forward again to 2weeks later, my dad requested I confirm her community and kindred properly because we happen to come from the same LGA. I didn't even know they have started making inquiries for me even before I asked them to. I confirmed from her and informed my dad. Only for them (my parents) to break the news to me days later that we can't marry from their kindred because they are regarded as Out-Casts (Osu-Cast System). Right now, I can't contend my heartbreak. I'm so devastated and confused.

This has been a long-term tradition that has been for centuries that I don't think it's in my capabilities to do away with it or do otherwise.

My problem now is how do I break the news to her for a breakup because we can't continue like this.

I have never ceased to love her less since the very day I learnt of this. In fact, she gives me reasons to love, cherish and adore her every single day. I still do that to the brim and don't have regrets. Quote me, her type is rare. I love this girl with every breath I take. I just cry myself to sleep every night after our long calls.

Please advise a brother because I'm in a deep state of dilemma.

So some people still think themselves better than others in this country of ours. You join the shout against marginalisation and racism yet you treat your fellow Blackman and tribespeople as shit. Africans are their own problem

UIA04:
Of what use are you to me?

You don't have to do it.

Christopherrrr:
The only known repercussion is the idea you're alone and can't be involved in any family dealings or association. They can't call you their own and remember no one is an island. Damning the consequences is a very brutal one as the case may be. They're quite magnitudinous. It's quite fair if it was a mistake than being fully aware and venturing into it. It's indeed a dicey one!!

OP, i need your permission to share this post for deliberation on some marital facebook group

UIA04:
Loool

Do you know Dangote's daughter had an arranged marriage?

The guy she married is know to date very fair girls and even impregnated his girlfriend during wedding preparations.


Every mother fawking northern elite's child no matter how educated will have an arranged marriage.

Tradition is worse in the north than in igboland.

Seriously, I expected a more solid argument from you.


The rich people you people use as example practice arranged marriage more than poor people. From the richest family in the world Rothschild, to the richest in Nigeria , Dantata.

I don't care if she had one or not-- it was her choice, nobody forced her.

All I said was, will OP be saying OSU rubbish if the girl were Dangote's daughter?

...and contrary to your obnoxious stereotype, every mother fawking rich kid in the north does not have an arranged marriage!

The rich usually marry the rich because of the circles they roll in.

Anti-Osu free me.

Jombom:
Pls provide me with her phone # if she's truly interested in a serious n sincere relationship that can lead to marriage. I am Yoruba Osu matter no concern me, in fact God punish the system self.

This is exactly what came to my mind.
We other tribes don't have this. Free passage...

Christopherrrr:
Hello Nairalanders, greetings. My name is Christopher (pseudonym) from the Eastern part of the country, Imo State to be precise. I'm a man in his early 30's. I have an active account here but I had to sign-up for another account for this thread.
Please pardon my grammatical errors and blunders. MOD please help move to FP.

Few months back, I fell in love with a pretty lady with a beautiful soul. She is 28. Though we are running a long distance relationship but the current in the communication link can power Kanji Dam. Lol!! We can be on calls for hours since the very day I met her. There is a fair share of the feelings, affections, respect and regard for each other. It's not one-sided. Though we have been opportune to be together thrice since the past 10months we met. I have had plans to go about engagement and marriage arrangements this coming festive period though I haven't made this known to her.

She gives me joy, she gives me happiness, she prays for me, she blesses me. There is a part of me she unraveled that I never believed existed. Above all, she gives me peace of mind.

Fast forward to last month, I invited her to a family event. I introduced her to my family as my girlfriend. Instantly everyone fell in love with her. My mum was allover her and she was indeed up and doing. She didn't disappoint me. Not pretence, she has a good home training.

When she left same day after the event, my mum proclaimed her love for her. She said, "Olee ebe isi choota udi nwa nke a?" (Where did you find this kinda girl from?). This made me drop a tear of joy thereafter because I've always prayed for such from her any day I introduce a lady to her. This also happens to be my first time.

Fast forward again to 2weeks later, my dad requested I confirm her community and kindred properly because we happen to come from the same LGA. I didn't even know they have started making inquiries for me even before I asked them to. I confirmed from her and informed my dad. Only for them (my parents) to break the news to me days later that we can't marry from their kindred because they are regarded as Out-Casts (Osu-Cast System). Right now, I can't contend my heartbreak. I'm so devastated and confused.

This has been a long-term tradition that has been for centuries that I don't think it's in my capabilities to do away with it or do otherwise.

My problem now is how do I break the news to her for a breakup because we can't continue like this.

I have never ceased to love her less since the very day I learnt of this. In fact, she gives me reasons to love, cherish and adore her every single day. I still do that to the brim and don't have regrets. Quote me, her type is rare. I love this girl with every breath I take. I just cry myself to sleep every night after our long calls.

Please advise a brother because I'm in a deep state of dilemma.



So some people still think themselves better than others in this country of ours. You join the sho

So some people still think themselves better than others in this country of ours. You join the shout against marginalisation and racism yet you treat your fellow Blackman and tribespeople as shit. Africans are their own problem

Don't let any nonsense tradition deprive you of your everlasting joy and peace

Op, you've obviously concluded on letting her go. You that made that decision should know the best way to break the news to her since you know her kind of person already . I pray she finds someone that will make her forget the hurting feeling of break-up.

BRATISLAVA:
Tell Dem. Dey r living fairy tales

Meghan is compensation 4 Diana death. That's y he's aloud 2 do anytin.
She is nt even blak

They will not suffer the consequences with op.

What is the guarantee op won't find another better lady?


Love kor love ni.

God helps op he messes up , puts his family into trouble and the babe ends up cheating on him in the marriage.

He will come to romance section spewing bitterness all the days of his life.