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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Darevofpeace(m): 5:11pm On Sep 29, 2019
Kneephy:


She wants a boyfriend who does not want her.
You are a straight forward man.
Your heaven is well guaranteed. Congratulations!
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by IamaNigerianGuy(m): 5:21pm On Sep 29, 2019
Paulo3ree:

Plse who is seun?

Forum owner
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by ericmor: 5:22pm On Sep 29, 2019
Rach111:
you are absolutely right dear. Thanks for your great contribution and support

tu es le bienvenue mon cher
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by bigpicture001: 5:24pm On Sep 29, 2019
Honestly..u are not serious...u left a guy cuz he calks u sexy..?

A Lot of gals woukd crave for thier guyz to admire them through nd through...

Na small pikin dey worry u..guess ur under 26 years of age
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Teel012(m): 5:27pm On Sep 29, 2019
Love is found in strange places, check your pm.
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Saintabdul(m): 5:30pm On Sep 29, 2019
Rach111:
I dated my ex for 6yrs. Who was never proud of me, can't even post my pics on any social media, even the day I did he got angry and removed it.

Have never cheated on him because I hate double dating. Am a virgin and he was a virgin then. we promise to wait till marriage which made me to love him more. I always cook, clean do everything as if I was his wife.

But this guy never showed any signs that he will want to marry me. If I bring it up he keeps quiet over it.

After graduation we came back to Nigeria my grandmother who was like my mother because she was the one who took care of me, was sick I was in the hospital with her for 1 month he never showed up despite the fact that his house was close by. I saw so many signs that I was only wasting my time because he hardly calls even before then we had issues about a girl in his room which he denied everything yet I let it go because of love.

So through my savings from university I went to Dubai got a good job decided to forget about him for good and started dating a Canadian guy who was really nice to me and was willing to wait but my problem with him was that he always calls me sexy and shapy, big botty girl which made me feel like he was after my body because he was always telling me he can't wait to have me on his bed because he feels am too sexy.

Yes, I have great body no doubt, I became confused of the situation and decided to break up that was when my ex started begging for forgiveness that now his working in the bank and his planning to settle down by 2020.

My grandmother died I went to Nigeria and we met I realized he has slept with different girls and was even hiding his phone from me. Acting strange so I came back to Dubai continued my work and the white guy was trying to come back that he won't say things like that because he knows am different but the truth of the matter is that I don't even have any single love for the white guy. I still love my ex but my ex keeps talking to me like am a trash, I got angry and blocked him but he sent me massage on Facebook saying am childish and called me names this is someone who can never say things like that to me before but now he talks to me anyhow without respect because he feels am desperate for marriage because I always want to get married early, am in my early 20's.

Due to the situation all the guys both white and blacks asking me out for serious relationship have said no to all because I feel I can't love anyone again in my life because of my ex I don't know if am in my right senses have tried possible ways to forget him, I deleted all his pictures on my Facebook, always watching movies yet nothing seems to work.

Now am thinking of traveling to any European country look for a good white man so I can forget about him because I know I deserve better than him. I need advice if dating another guy mostly white can make me forget him or it might make things worst since am doing it because am trying to forget him.

From everything I have read from this post, I can categorically say, AUNTY WHY YOU DEY LIE.
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Rach111: 5:35pm On Sep 29, 2019
Hipsofagoddess:


I suspected it too. He sounded bitter.

As long as you're human, you can't forget your ex, because he is part of your memories. But you can have the best memories with someone who adores you, and that is what you should focus on. Visualize your perfect relationship, exactly how you want it to be. Do this everytime the thought of your ex comes up.

If you have girlfriends, go visit them and have fun joking and laughing. Don't even bring up the topic of your ex or any guy for that matter. Just you and your friends laughing, and being happy.

From your writeup, it seems you spend most time alone aside from work, it may be the reason why you are yet to take your mind off him.

Go out and meet other people through conferences, meetup, and so on. Don't be alone.
yes dear you are absolutely right am always alone and most of my friends are white talking with them is like a waste of energy because they always talk about their boyfriends which makes things worst for me. I just like to keep to myself and use my phone. It's time to go out and treat myself good. His the one talking it's too obvious
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Rach111: 5:38pm On Sep 29, 2019
Saintabdul:


From everything I have read from this post, I can categorically say, AUNTY WHY YOU DEY LIE.
if you don't have anything reasonable to say just walk away. You think everyone is as jobless as you? Why will I take my time in tears and type all those words, looking for advice if it was a lie? Am not jobless I just need someone to talk to not people like you
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Samade4good: 5:40pm On Sep 29, 2019
Please reach me on this mail. (samade4good@yahoo.com) I will like to know you more.
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Rach111: 5:44pm On Sep 29, 2019
pmc01:


Your opening statement just weak me... You're feeling really haunted. It seems he lives rent-free in your head.

I can't fault you claiming he has a wrong opinion of you, but you really need to give yourself a break.

Stop taking people's opinion to heart... Be open to criticism, but do not accommodate negativism, while at it. I mean learn to draw a line be objective criticism and destructive criticism.
I know what am talking about I was surprised when I realized he knows my Facebook account and he told me everything I and the white guy was talking about. His always checking on me everywhere I know him so am not surprise
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Paulo3ree(m): 5:45pm On Sep 29, 2019
IamaNigerianGuy:


Forum owner
You don't mean it, lalastical the snake man is seun?
Are you sure, hmm

Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by jclassiq(m): 5:47pm On Sep 29, 2019
AJIBOLA840:


so when you saw this, is it necessary for you to quote me


.idiot

Yes its necessary for me to quote you.
I owe it a duty to show you how foolish you sound bullying a person when they are down. Grow up, u dimwit.
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by liverpool72(m): 5:53pm On Sep 29, 2019
It because u are full of because Dat why ur love left u
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by evansjeff(m): 5:55pm On Sep 29, 2019
Rach111:
I dated my ex for 6yrs. Who was never proud of me, can't even post my pics on any social media, even the day I did he got angry and removed it.

Have never cheated on him because I hate double dating. Am a virgin and he was a virgin then. we promise to wait till marriage which made me to love him more. I always cook, clean do everything as if I was his wife.

But this guy never showed any signs that he will want to marry me. If I bring it up he keeps quiet over it.

After graduation we came back to Nigeria my grandmother who was like my mother because she was the one who took care of me, was sick I was in the hospital with her for 1 month he never showed up despite the fact that his house was close by. I saw so many signs that I was only wasting my time because he hardly calls even before then we had issues about a girl in his room which he denied everything yet I let it go because of love.

So through my savings from university I went to Dubai got a good job decided to forget about him for good and started dating a Canadian guy who was really nice to me and was willing to wait but my problem with him was that he always calls me sexy and shapy, big botty girl which made me feel like he was after my body because he was always telling me he can't wait to have me on his bed because he feels am too sexy.

Yes, I have great body no doubt, I became confused of the situation and decided to break up that was when my ex started begging for forgiveness that now his working in the bank and his planning to settle down by 2020.

My grandmother died I went to Nigeria and we met I realized he has slept with different girls and was even hiding his phone from me. Acting strange so I came back to Dubai continued my work and the white guy was trying to come back that he won't say things like that because he knows am different but the truth of the matter is that I don't even have any single love for the white guy. I still love my ex but my ex keeps talking to me like am a trash, I got angry and blocked him but he sent me massage on Facebook saying am childish and called me names this is someone who can never say things like that to me before but now he talks to me anyhow without respect because he feels am desperate for marriage because I always want to get married early, am in my early 20's.

Due to the situation all the guys both white and blacks asking me out for serious relationship have said no to all because I feel I can't love anyone again in my life because of my ex I don't know if am in my right senses have tried possible ways to forget him, I deleted all his pictures on my Facebook, always watching movies yet nothing seems to work.

Now am thinking of traveling to any European country look for a good white man so I can forget about him because I know I deserve better than him. I need advice if dating another guy mostly white can make me forget him or it might make things worst since am doing it because am trying to forget him.

Hook me up babe, I'm a working class guy who needs a serious lady to settle down with.
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Rach111: 6:01pm On Sep 29, 2019
ricki:
Now this is what i called a B I T C H...... or an international bitch.
Must you show your foolishness everywhere?
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Rach111: 6:08pm On Sep 29, 2019
SenatorAiyzik:
If you would take my honest opinion, the truth is none of them deserves you. They are both toxic for you, considering you're just starting up and from your words, you never had any sexual encounter with any man before. I believe you deserve better, a man who would love you for you. Honestly, none of them is worth your time, yeah i know you still feel something for your ex but cmn, make use of time as it heals wounds. Cut the desperation, it'll make you meet the wrong person. Concentrate on being a better woman for now as you're in your early 20's. Just be you. If you want to talk anytime, I'd be here.

Note: Most guys would want to use this as a means to get to you, acting all good and all, giving you all the attention cos they know at this point you are vulnerable, do NOT give in to them. They are also toxic for you. Trust me, I know this! Mentioning the fact that you work in Dubai, have a great job and a great body has drawn all the attention from the wrong people now, they'll all act all good just to get to you at this vulnerable stage of your, Do NOT give in to them or you'll regret it not too long. That's the honest truth. Concentrate on being a better woman now and if you'd like to talk anytime, I'd be here.

Goodluck
thanks a million
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Nobody: 6:14pm On Sep 29, 2019
Rach111:
yes dear you are absolutely right am always alone and most of my friends are white talking with them is like a waste of energy because they always talk about their boyfriends which makes things worst for me. I just like to keep to myself and use my phone. It's time to go out and treat myself good. His the one talking it's too obvious

Yes, you need to go out. Even if it means taking a stroll breathing in fresh air. Don't be in a hurry to enter another relationship.

I know you want to marry and start a family to call yours so that you don't feel lonely again. But you need to also tread carefully because many are in lonely marriages.
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Nobody: 6:28pm On Sep 29, 2019
So op u want to go to Europe and fall in love with a white man while ur still emotionally attached with ur ex? These ladies sometimes i wonder where their brain is located really.. You wan use petrol quench fire.
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by AJIBOLA840: 6:37pm On Sep 29, 2019
jclassiq:


Yes its necessary for me to quote you.
I owe it a duty to show you how foolish you sound bullying a person when they are down. Grow up, u dimwit.


Sorry sir I won't do that again

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by arrestdarrester: 6:51pm On Sep 29, 2019
Your ex is a very good bad guy. He wants to add you to his list of conquered arses. Forget him for good.

But wait Ooo, what is this craze you seem to have for white guys sef?

Are you really sure of what you want?
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Sewgon79(m): 7:14pm On Sep 29, 2019
Rach111:
I dated my ex for 6yrs. Who was never proud of me, can't even post my pics on any social media, even the day I did he got angry and removed it.

Have never cheated on him because I hate double dating. Am a virgin and he was a virgin then. we promise to wait till marriage which made me to love him more. I always cook, clean do everything as if I was his wife.

But this guy never showed any signs that he will want to marry me. If I bring it up he keeps quiet over it.

After graduation we came back to Nigeria my grandmother who was like my mother because she was the one who took care of me, was sick I was in the hospital with her for 1 month he never showed up despite the fact that his house was close by. I saw so many signs that I was only wasting my time because he hardly calls even before then we had issues about a girl in his room which he denied everything yet I let it go because of love.

So through my savings from university I went to Dubai got a good job decided to forget about him for good and started dating a Canadian guy who was really nice to me and was willing to wait but my problem with him was that he always calls me sexy and shapy, big botty girl which made me feel like he was after my body because he was always telling me he can't wait to have me on his bed because he feels am too sexy.

Yes, I have great body no doubt, I became confused of the situation and decided to break up that was when my ex started begging for forgiveness that now his working in the bank and his planning to settle down by 2020.

My grandmother died I went to Nigeria and we met I realized he has slept with different girls and was even hiding his phone from me. Acting strange so I came back to Dubai continued my work and the white guy was trying to come back that he won't say things like that because he knows am different but the truth of the matter is that I don't even have any single love for the white guy. I still love my ex but my ex keeps talking to me like am a trash, I got angry and blocked him but he sent me massage on Facebook saying am childish and called me names this is someone who can never say things like that to me before but now he talks to me anyhow without respect because he feels am desperate for marriage because I always want to get married early, am in my early 20's.

Due to the situation all the guys both white and blacks asking me out for serious relationship have said no to all because I feel I can't love anyone again in my life because of my ex I don't know if am in my right senses have tried possible ways to forget him, I deleted all his pictures on my Facebook, always watching movies yet nothing seems to work.

Now am thinking of traveling to any European country look for a good white man so I can forget about him because I know I deserve better than him. I need advice if dating another guy mostly white can make me forget him or it might make things worst since am doing it because am trying to forget him.

Let chat on Facebook and get to know each other better. Here is my facebook ID (tajudeen.olusegun.56). I will love to have a good conversation with you
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by elvido(m): 7:24pm On Sep 29, 2019
love will find you some day, just keep pushing the limit in what ever you do.

same here I was too in this no sex thing until marriage for good four years..but it didn't workout.. for a year, it was hard to move on, I made the mistake of using someone to move on, but it didn't work out..I started hurting others too. so I learn from it. now, I'm almost done with the healing process..to clear my mind b4 jumping into a relationship.

I know sometimes it feels like you have connection or unfinished business with him..but trust me you have to move on..

love will definitely find youu.

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by AJIBOLA840: 7:24pm On Sep 29, 2019
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jclassiq:


Yes its necessary for me to quote you.
I owe it a duty to show you how foolish you sound bullying a person when they are down. Grow up, u dimwit.
[/s]


Sorry I won't do that again

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Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by friendl: 7:47pm On Sep 29, 2019
That is the problem with women ,they don't know what they want ,they see a nice guy,(he is not man enough) ,they see a rugged guy,(that is who they want ,yet he treat me like thrash ,....l know love is silly
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by LoveThemChubby(m): 8:00pm On Sep 29, 2019
Please remain strong and get yourself involved in more activities at your leisure time (church, sport, acquiring a skill you find fun etc.). I know its not easy but you have to let him go. Its unfortunate that he is trying to manipulate you because he knows you love him. Never let his desperation now deceive you into running back into his arms. That he is now ready to marry doesn't mean he has changed or will change.
As to getting another man, you will surely get another man that is better than him. Only don't let down your guard or standard because of the timeline you have set for yourself.
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by VicM6: 8:05pm On Sep 29, 2019
I know your problem...
just buy 2 blue cows, 3 green dogs, 1 white tortoise, 3 rubber of bitter kola, four yellow goats, 10 black cowries and 4 headed snake.... i will settle ur problem for u.... just DM me.... grin

But the fact, you don't have to look down on other guys or travel far from home before you can get what you want. instead, why not sit down and try to strategies on your next step.. Live life cool and enjoy your all moment.
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Dbeliever(m): 8:34pm On Sep 29, 2019
Honestly, you should not be missing someone who call you names. Your true husband is on the way.
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by emmnprince(m): 8:35pm On Sep 29, 2019
Someone here said you don't need advice. You need hot slap to format & reset your memory.

You're really confused. No complete or perfect guy. Settle for one that has common sense and you will tap sense from his common sense.
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by CowbellY: 8:44pm On Sep 29, 2019
Rach111:
I dated my ex for 6yrs. Who was never proud of me, can't even post my pics on any social media, even the day I did he got angry and removed it.

Have never cheated on him because I hate double dating. Am a virgin and he was a virgin then. we promise to wait till marriage which made me to love him more. I always cook, clean do everything as if I was his wife.

But this guy never showed any signs that he will want to marry me. If I bring it up he keeps quiet over it.

After graduation we came back to Nigeria my grandmother who was like my mother because she was the one who took care of me, was sick I was in the hospital with her for 1 month he never showed up despite the fact that his house was close by. I saw so many signs that I was only wasting my time because he hardly calls even before then we had issues about a girl in his room which he denied everything yet I let it go because of love.

So through my savings from university I went to Dubai got a good job decided to forget about him for good and started dating a Canadian guy who was really nice to me and was willing to wait but my problem with him was that he always calls me sexy and shapy, big botty girl which made me feel like he was after my body because he was always telling me he can't wait to have me on his bed because he feels am too sexy.

Yes, I have great body no doubt, I became confused of the situation and decided to break up that was when my ex started begging for forgiveness that now his working in the bank and his planning to settle down by 2020.

My grandmother died I went to Nigeria and we met I realized he has slept with different girls and was even hiding his phone from me. Acting strange so I came back to Dubai continued my work and the white guy was trying to come back that he won't say things like that because he knows am different but the truth of the matter is that I don't even have any single love for the white guy. I still love my ex but my ex keeps talking to me like am a trash, I got angry and blocked him but he sent me massage on Facebook saying am childish and called me names this is someone who can never say things like that to me before but now he talks to me anyhow without respect because he feels am desperate for marriage because I always want to get married early, am in my early 20's.

Due to the situation all the guys both white and blacks asking me out for serious relationship have said no to all because I feel I can't love anyone again in my life because of my ex I don't know if am in my right senses have tried possible ways to forget him, I deleted all his pictures on my Facebook, always watching movies yet nothing seems to work.

Now am thinking of traveling to any European country look for a good white man so I can forget about him because I know I deserve better than him. I need advice if dating another guy mostly white can make me forget him or it might make things worst since am doing it because am trying to forget him.

An ex is an ex for a Reason.
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by whizbee(m): 8:45pm On Sep 29, 2019
I was once like you, I got over her and I'm with the love of my life right now... you can send a direct message if you really need epp
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by skedy1(m): 8:51pm On Sep 29, 2019
Rach111:
I dated my ex for 6yrs. Who was never proud of me, can't even post my pics on any social media, even the day I did he got angry and removed it.

Have never cheated on him because I hate double dating. Am a virgin and he was a virgin then. we promise to wait till marriage which made me to love him more. I always cook, clean do everything as if I was his wife.

But this guy never showed any signs that he will want to marry me. If I bring it up he keeps quiet over it.

After graduation we came back to Nigeria my grandmother who was like my mother because she was the one who took care of me, was sick I was in the hospital with her for 1 month he never showed up despite the fact that his house was close by. I saw so many signs that I was only wasting my time because he hardly calls even before then we had issues about a girl in his room which he denied everything yet I let it go because of love.

So through my savings from university I went to Dubai got a good job decided to forget about him for good and started dating a Canadian guy who was really nice to me and was willing to wait but my problem with him was that he always calls me sexy and shapy, big botty girl which made me feel like he was after my body because he was always telling me he can't wait to have me on his bed because he feels am too sexy.

Yes, I have great body no doubt, I became confused of the situation and decided to break up that was when my ex started begging for forgiveness that now his working in the bank and his planning to settle down by 2020.

My grandmother died I went to Nigeria and we met I realized he has slept with different girls and was even hiding his phone from me. Acting strange so I came back to Dubai continued my work and the white guy was trying to come back that he won't say things like that because he knows am different but the truth of the matter is that I don't even have any single love for the white guy. I still love my ex but my ex keeps talking to me like am a trash, I got angry and blocked him but he sent me massage on Facebook saying am childish and called me names this is someone who can never say things like that to me before but now he talks to me anyhow without respect because he feels am desperate for marriage because I always want to get married early, am in my early 20's.

Due to the situation all the guys both white and blacks asking me out for serious relationship have said no to all because I feel I can't love anyone again in my life because of my ex I don't know if am in my right senses have tried possible ways to forget him, I deleted all his pictures on my Facebook, always watching movies yet nothing seems to work.

Now am thinking of traveling to any European country look for a good white man so I can forget about him because I know I deserve better than him. I need advice if dating another guy mostly white can make me forget him or it might make things worst since am doing it because am trying to forget him.

And I'm here girl friendless.

Your story is as good as mine.
Let's hook up asap.
Re: Ex Boyfriend Problem. So Confused by Clinghton: 8:52pm On Sep 29, 2019
Be patient true love would locate you

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