I need to start this write up that i met this lady early this year and i had another lady who from my analysis is not so much in love with me so when i finally met this lady, she was everything i desire in a woman, so we started dating and from dating i went to see her sister in Abuja then from Abuja i went to kogi to meet her parent.

I met her family late June 2019. So I work in a blue chip company with a salary of little more than 100k so but i realized the salary won't make me live my dream life so i took a loan from gtbank to buy a car and use for e hailing.

My fiancee was so much supportive that she on her own decided to add like 200k fund so i bought a toyota matix.

So when I gave out the car the people i gave it to were all misbehaving so i decided that i will drive the car, she was so cool and nice that she will do everything at my beck n call.

Now when i went to meet her sister in Abuja her sister insists that we should pick a date meanwhile in may when we were marking her birthday, she told me how sad she was due to the fact that she was marking her birthday and she is getting younger so i promise her then that we will marry this year. I told her in Novermber so we finally settle for a date and the sister spent her money.

Unfortunately for me things were not as i planned in the uber biz, i need a few repair here and then. Now we got days left to wedding and she has been very irrational. She is pregnant for me, each time she visits me, i will beg her, na the cry and cry. How I truly want a happy home.

pappy2000:
I need to start this wrte up that i met this lady early this year and i had another lady who from my analysis is not so much in love with me so when i finally met this lady, she was everything i desire in a woman, so we started dating and from dating i went to see her sister in Abuja then from Abuja i wnet to kogi to meet her parent. I met her family late june 2019. so i work in a blue chip company with a salary of little more than 100k so but i realize the salary wont make me live my dream life so i took a loan from gtbank to buy a car and use for e hailing .my financee was so much supportive that she on her own decided to add like 200k fund so i bought a toyota matix. so when i gave out the car the people i gave it to were all misbehaving so i decided that i will drive the car, she was so cool and nice that she will do everything at my beck n call. now when i went to meet her sister in abuja her sister insist that we should pick a date mean while in may when we was marking her birthday , she told me how sad she was due to the fact that she was marking her birthday. and she is getting younger so i promise her then that we will marry this year. i told her in Novermber so we finally settle for a date and the sister spent her money unfortunately for me things was as i plan in the uber biz i need a few repair her n then now we got days left to wedding and she has been very irrational , she is pregant for me, each time she visits me i i will beg her na d cry n cry how i truly wante a happy home.

now she is everything i dont like in a delay i am even thinking of commiitting sucide because she conplains that i am not a man . I just cry and cry all day , i have no tears left in my eyes. she is just irratioanl always asking me for money.. she is very unloving , i am planning to ivorce her as soon as i marry her.

I am i40 ears old and i have heard enough people telling me to go n marry now i am not finding any fulfillment in this union, she is asking for multiple things at a time and i cant go in the life of crime. I have pleaded with her for a better tomorrow what can i really do.. i AM THINKING OF DIVORCE AFTER THE WEDDING.

It is well...

I need your advice, I know a lot need to be done but a lot also have been done. we are getting married n both of us are no longer in love. Its like planning to go behid bars she i just cancel the wedding or i go ahead

I have already done court wedding with her and she kept complaining of things not done if i knew she is like this i will not marry her. I swear.

i wish i am still single the truth is that i explained everything to her and i told her how much i earn now i am pay 45% loan on the car, should i cancel the wedding or i continue

Go and see a counselor with ur spouse

her sister bought an echolack bag and she said she will willing to relieve me of all the burden of the things i need to buy for the wedding list, she insit that i should go and buy mine that its not proper for me to take her sisters bag, I have donated 70k for the cost of the wedding but her sister and family have done a lot

idesylvester:
Go and see a counselor with ur spouse

she is just not listening, each time i beg her that there is a better tomorrow. she just snubs me, she even told meshe wanted to abort the baby which is four month old when i threathen her that i am no longer interested

my life is not better than the life of my fathers

maybe you shouldn't continue with the traditional as you both are already legally married.she needs rest and peace for now especially as she is pregnant. I think you need patience okay. Pregnancy isn't easy and makes women rude,naughty or develop other weird behaviors. Be patient. with your finances now, I will advice you not to spend money on some things for now (either traditional marriage ceremony or divorce) just be patient and save up money for your lovely baby that's on the way.

selfwife:
maybe you shouldn't continue with the traditional as you both are already legally married.she needs rest and peace for now especially as she is pregnant. I think you need patience okay. Pregnancy isn't easy and makes women rude,naughty or develop other weird behaviors. Be patient. with your finances now, I will advice you not to spend money on some things for now (either traditional marriage ceremony or divorce) just be patient and save up money for your lovely baby that's on the way.

the date of the wedding has been fixed..

Read your words like you were crying to me.

Feel sorry for you. I understand man. Really wish you didn’t get her pregnant. This would be curtains by now.

You shouldn’t be coerced into doing something you don’t want. Your happiness and mental health matters.

I used to think marriage should be full of bliss. I have begged and begged her. but its all falling on deaf ears

Why get married only to divorce when you can end the relationship now and save yourself the headache and money/time?

That mission is impossible, ABORT it!

People change

FROGMAN101:
Read your words like you were crying to me.

Feel sorry for you. I understand man. Really wish you didn’t get her pregnant. This would be curtains by now.

You shouldn’t be coerced into doing something you don’t want. Your happiness and mental health matters.

I am crying daily. there is nothing wrong in trying business,even if one fails,she got an excellent family her sister even told me she is willing to borrow me money when i told her she said i am an idiot.

0KNM:
Why get married only to divorce when you can end the relationship now and save yourself the headache and money/time?

That mission is impossible, ABORT it!

i mentioned this to her loving sister but she insist that the wedding should continue that things will get better.

I really dont want to brak her sister heart because she has spent her money n energy to make this realtionship work but now my wife is just irrational. I told her its a step at a time but she insisit i should do all, she is asking for phone i must her a new set of chair and do proper wedding all at once, she even suggested i should sell my car n buy okada

pappy2000:



i mentioned this to her loving sister but she insist that the wedding should continue that things will get better.

Bro, things never get better, it gets worse and worse. Trust me

like how you gave up on us. quitter

0KNM:
Why get married only to divorce when you can end the relationship now and save yourself the headache and money/time?

That mission is impossible, ABORT it!

Bro, it could have been worse. Atleast she isnt trying to poison u yet, stab u in ur slp or trying to hire sn to kill u.
So rejoice bro and give thanks.
And again she not letting you to settle for less is a good thing in my opinion. Well that might be a stupid comment but then always look at the bright side of things

ladyGKilaBCrueD:
like how you gave up on us. quitter

Don’t you see we are discussing serious adult talk here? We do not
Need contributions from kids. So, take the stepping before I konk your head

0KNM:
Don’t you see we are discussing serious adult talk here? We do not
Need contributions from kids. So, take the stepping before I konk your head

How can I get out of this nightmare

domestic violense

0KNM:
Don’t you see we are discussing serious adult talk here? We do not
Need contributions from kids. So, take the stepping before I konk your head

pappy2000:



How can I get out of this nightmare

Bro, I have dropped my own advice; quit now when you can. A failed relationship is better than failed marriage

ladyGKilaBCrueD:
domestic violense

Involve the sister.

She seems more logical. Explain the whole situation to her and her hear own side.

Why get married to divorce later?

This life is also too precious to go and die anyhow. But the truth is nothing comes easy.


Since you are this suicidal even when you never enter the marriage. Bros, my advice is, don’t go ahead with the marriage. And before you cancel the whole engagement, please I want you to make up your mind first, then go to that her sister and tell her what has been happening and why you do not want to go ahead with the marriage, then walk away. If she wants to terminate the child, na her business.



Most people see signs of toxic marriages early enough, yet they dabble into it, it is not wise

pappy2000:
I used to think marriage should be full of bliss. I have begged and begged her. but its all falling on deaf ears

bros as a counsellor.. I married without a job for 5 years before God openwd a big way for me this year.. I married a nurse... So respectful... Highly tolerant and very understanding lady.. The question i need to ask u is dis... Are u a Christian? If yes then i dont feel u know about seeking God's face before u choose a woman... From inception this marriage is quite faulty.. U are going to this marriage because shes pregnant... That a bad foundation..that lady will frustrate you..beta accept her child and seek God's face for a life partner

pappy2000:
I really dont want to brak her sister heart because she has spent her money n energy to make this realtionship work but now my wife is just irrational. I told her its a step at a time but she insisit i should do all, she is asking for phone i must her a new set of chair and do proper wedding all at once, she even suggested i should sell my car n buy okada

haba.. U need to slow down on thia engagement bro.. This lady is just destined to have a child for u
. Not your wife.. Even if u collect 70k in abuja.. Your wife willl understand wt u and belive u can be great... Don't let this woman send u back to village.. Reverse and ask God for a wife not a pest

pappy2000:



i mentioned this to her loving sister but she insist that the wedding should continue that things will get better.

.

Don’t mind her sister,

What were you expecting her to tell you? That you should not marry her sister?


Don’t be pushed into an early grave brother, leave that relationship with your life .