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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Aladdin1(m): 11:10am On Nov 08, 2019 |
Bro.take a leave at your work place or a few days off and go to a mountain or private place and spend time in praying to God.first ask for mercy for fornicating and getting a woman pregnant when you are not married to he cos its the pregnancy that is putting you in a fix and tight corner now. tell God your problems,cry out to him and seek his mercy,help and direction in this matter.4 me i feel you made a mistake.that woman is unfortunately your wife.but she womt give you peace,joy or happiness in future.she hid the dark side of her to lure you.living with her can make you develop high bp or commit suicide.she would push you t6 extreme that u would do d evil u never inagined u could do.also no matter the lovely sisters effort.u are not going to marry dat elder sister or live wit her.so be guilded.u are already at a fix and u need Gods intervention so seek God. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by efeski(m): 11:11am On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000: Pappy E be like say you de gree the sister own o |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by justilo: 11:12am On Nov 08, 2019 |
@pappy2000, You've got to be the man here. Meanwhile, you made some wrong decisions already of which you have to reap. You don't have to heap so much blame on your wife because she is passing through a tough stage of life (pregnancy phenomenon). Be in control, plan good and understand her situations better. You don't have to make poor and bad decisions any further. You wife is definitely reacting to hormonal changes that is peculiar to every woman. #myhumbleopinionthough# 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by inspitation: 11:13am On Nov 08, 2019 |
if you are not happy about this marriage pls quit people leave a wedding even on the wedding day at least you still have few days to go tell them you are not comfortable the girls family is only pushing you to save their own family's reputation as she is already pregnant and don't want to be shamed for it after the wedding they will show their true color. Run run and run again |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Nobody: 11:15am On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000:Calm ur nerves. It's the pregnancy that is stressing her out. Take a chill pill, life ain't that serious |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Kbs468(m): 11:16am On Nov 08, 2019 |
odedele: They've already had the Court wedding na. It's the traditional and white wedding that is causing commotion now ooo. You know girls and their drive to impress and boast that they had the best in town among her peers couple with the fact that she's 34 years of age. She would want to prove that inspite of the delay in her life, it is worth it. Now, When money no dey, kasala wan burst from her insisting that pappy2000 haven't done all that is expected of him. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by fireback: 11:21am On Nov 08, 2019 |
Gaspardd:she's not letting him settle for less by telling him to sell his uber car and buy okada... what type of advice is that? 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Martinez39(m): 11:21am On Nov 08, 2019 |
Indeed, they are all like that. You already made the mistake of getting her pregnant, don't make the mistake of marrying her. The mistake of getting her pregnant is enough to handle, don't add more to the table. 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Mrjaz(m): 11:22am On Nov 08, 2019 |
Smile and give her time with commitment plus be a fool for a while you might turn out to have the best marriage ever 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Kbs468(m): 11:25am On Nov 08, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe: I don't think it's necessarily the pregnancy though. Imagine a 34 years old lady planning for marriage. Imagine her number of friends and how she must have boasted Remember she is from KOGI and speaking from experience with a particular tribe there And in 2 weeks time, Bobo (pappy2000) is saying there's no money and pleading for her understanding. Calling him not Man enough because she claims he hasn't done enough that is required 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Coolgent(m): 11:28am On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000:Hormonal changes during pregnancy may cause serious change in behaviors. Let her sister know the kind of problems u are having with your wife, ask for her suggestions. NB:I think u should go ahead with the wedding with a prayer that she will change after she give birth. Never sell that car o |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Kbs468(m): 11:30am On Nov 08, 2019 |
fireback: That's it. It's all about desperation for marriage at 34 All she wants is for him to sell the car, buy Okada and the rest of the fund be spent on the marriage for public consumption. Somebody that is supposed to advise the guy to postpone the wedding since they've had court wedding already. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Duru009(m): 11:31am On Nov 08, 2019 |
I will advice you to QUIT now before its too late. Be a real man, take that decision now and you don't need to consult anybody for that. |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by kinxlyk: 11:36am On Nov 08, 2019 |
Change the date of your wedding... Postpone it like 6-8 month.... Let her born first and study her character before u proceed.... If she doesn't change then... Means she's not the right one for u.... Sometimes pregnancy and menstrual period makes women change attitudes a bit 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by fireback: 11:36am On Nov 08, 2019 |
My advise is... do not go fother with any marriage rite again, be it traditional or church wedding. As for you saying you don't want to break the sister's heart, remember you are not getting married to the sister and you're not going to live together with the sister. Be a man for once and cancel that marriage tell the sister that you have already done court wedding, that you want to save up before you can proceed with any type of marriage again. By the time they're still waiting for you, she would have put to bed and there's nothing anyone can about it. Then you continue to watch her character, if she refuse to change, you can now go for a divorce with the money you were suppose to use for her traditional marriage. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by realoscar84(m): 11:46am On Nov 08, 2019 |
The moment they are pregnant, they come with this sense of entitlement as if one should worship them. Little wonder no suitor was ready to settle down with her before u came along. She was the same person scared of her age before, now she is pregnant and want to be dictating to you. She is toxic, it's better you cancel the marriage now before she send you to your early grave. How can she be so desperate for corfu wedding, knowing ur financial status. Pls which side of kogi is she from cuz I'm equally from Kogi. They always want to show the entire community n their peer that they are getting married, so all caution should be thrown to the wind to make it one in town wedding ceremony. Op, leave now while u still can, if not she will kill you. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by realoscar84(m): 11:49am On Nov 08, 2019 |
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Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by akaahs(m): 12:02pm On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000:bro, u arent man enough to stamp ur feet on some decision u feel would give u peace and happiness. is either u suspend everything now till things between both of u take shape or u do ur things ur own way to favor the family 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by mrsheddy(m): 12:11pm On Nov 08, 2019 |
Bros, calm down, most women exhibit differents behaviour during pregnancy. I am a living testimony cus i have witnessed it. It is very hard to bear but once she puts to bed, she will definitely change unless hers is naturally inbuilt. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by nextlevel2020: 12:12pm On Nov 08, 2019 |
The undeniable fact is that, the ladies of nowadays expect incessant influx of fund before you can see their tooth outside. However, in my opinion, banking loan isn't an option for anyone who aims to succeed at preliminary state of any business. Girls put more insight on what is coming in than the prospects of their partners. I would suggest that you should get her seated and find out why she's acting that way, then two of you can develop a strategy for improvement. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Foxie: 12:13pm On Nov 08, 2019 |
statusquoante:Is it the same piece I read, that you read? Where did he mention that he quit his job, na Wa! The same Holy Bible says '... Be quick to listen, be slow to speak...' (James 1: 19)! |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by airbrush: 12:16pm On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000: wait you pay how much on a loan from GTBANK ? 45% of what please reply |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by sterlingD(m): 12:20pm On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000:Man l am touched by the words in BOLD.Thank God that you are still working.Please sort out your finances.This is very key and very important for you.Man up and take charge. At the age 34 l expected the lady to be cool headed and calm and also very,very,very understanding and very matured in all facet (spiritually, intellectually,socially,economically,emotionally and physically)and be willing and ready to join hands to make it happen. In all of this you did not mention any of your relatives........................................................................ etc.What happened here? |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Aladdin1(m): 12:23pm On Nov 08, 2019 |
Sound advice.kudos.op listen tn wise counsel here. |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by mechanics(m): 12:26pm On Nov 08, 2019 |
You shouldn't have got her pregnant, why the rush when you will still have her all to yourself, just discuss the issues with her if she's still interested in the friendship, for me you are starting a family on a wrong note by getting her pregnant before marrying her. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by yansky(m): 12:32pm On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000: be patient brother, nothing is wrong. she is pregnant and she is probably getting pushed somewhere. pleas be patient 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Glare247(m): 12:36pm On Nov 08, 2019 |
pappy2000:I can feel ur pain,I want to be frank with u,d solution to ur problem is not on nairaland or any social platform,d solution to this issue is u, I am a married man,I. Know and understand ur pain,the irrational behaviour she is portraying is not because she doesn't love u,its because of her state,I have 2kids ,each of my wife pregnancy comes with different dimension,d second was nagging,d first spitting around,d bulk of d job is on u sir,don't anger her,find a way to pamper her,find a way to let her reason along with u,just be calm,no perfection in marriage sir,its a union of 2 imperfect individual ,u have different upbringing ,u have different background ,always consider this always ,have a blissful life ahead 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Nobody: 12:49pm On Nov 08, 2019 |
Kbs468:But I thought he said she's loving, supportive and understanding? Even gave him 200k for d car, so I don't get where d bad attitude is coming from |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Divay22(f): 12:50pm On Nov 08, 2019 |
AngryIgboMan:But he's not asking for money na |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Nobody: 12:53pm On Nov 08, 2019 |
Duru009:Quit? A woman is becoming irrational because she's carrying a baby which comes with different hormones and you say he should quit? Kai 1 Like |
Re: I Am Getting Married Yet I Am In So Much Pain/ by Brightgem(f): 12:53pm On Nov 08, 2019 |
24kmagic:lolz! Ayah! Kogi pipo Don suffer, I bet you it's one tribe somewhere spoiling ol of us. Mostly those who grew there, exhibit those behaviors. We Kogi in the diaspora are different. #grins but can't force you to change your notion. |
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