baby124:

She broke her celibacy for him, she would have had unprotected sex with him if her conscience was clear. She was already calling him fiancé, getting him opportunities and planning traditional marriage with him. She knew his ways were not pure, she had done her research. OP needs serious cane. Smh. What a yeye man.

At no point do I advocate unprotected sex. But they had come far enough that if she didn’t have reservations she would have asked for a test and gbensh him unprotected

thorpido:
She had become close to Op,liked him and fallen in love.She was single,so she had no reason not to go ahead with him.
Nevertheless,she had her hunches but didn't have proof.That was what held her back.

baby124:

She broke her celibacy for him, she would have had unprotected sex with him if her conscience was clear. She was already calling him fiancé, getting him opportunities and planning traditional marriage with him. She knew his ways were not pure, she had done her research. OP needs serious cane. Smh. What a yeye man.

At no point do I advocate unprotected sex. But they had come far enough that if she didn’t have reservations she would have asked for a test and gbensh him unprotected

baby124:

She broke her celibacy for him, she would have had unprotected sex with him if her conscience was clear. She was already calling him fiancé, getting him opportunities and planning traditional marriage with him. She knew his ways were not pure, she had done her research. OP needs serious cane. Smh. What a yeye man.

At no point do I advocate unprotected sex. But they had come far enough that if she didn’t have reservations she would have asked for a test and gbensh him unprotected

sassysure:


Lol
The babe was mad her plan failed. She wasn't patience nor smart. What right has a girlfriend to reach out to a wife if she dont want to put asunder as the man is dragging leg?
Even an ex wife, she absolutely have no fking right.

The guy promised her heaven and earth but was as slow as snail in execution.

This guy will change mouth again if the babe tell him they should start all over.
What a confused child. If u don't want stories that touch....., there is CD everywhere and very cheap.

Abeg, the story get as e be sef.

Sometimes castration should be allowed.

FreemanTJ:


She has never had unprotected sex with anyone and she doesn't lie, she has never given me a reason to be suspicious, she was that honest. We both did test and she still insisted on protection. She didnt want a child out of wedlock considering her background. I am a very smart man and trust me there was no way she could have known. We had no pictures of our wedding pictures on social media from any of my family members. This wasn't her first time using my laptop and I saw the message from her office insisting she sends a mail which she had to type in Msword on my laptop. Yes, she had the hunch, but the gmail gave me out.

FreemanTJ:


Thank you for pointing that out. The gf is now the bad person because she isnt the married one. As women they really dont know what they're capable of until they're in someone else's position. She could have forgiven me. Kept quiet about it and insisted I divorced my wife which I was planning to do anyway.
Instead she reached out to my wife, asked for forgiveness and asked her to fix her marriage. At that moment it may seem unreasonable but if I choose to stay in my marriage I think she triggered it.

FreemanTJ:


My gf didnt know about the child until recently, and since that moment we haven't seen each other except talk on the phone. I and my wife didnt live together not just because of distance, it was one of the conditions I gave if I was to marry her. I didnt want to be around her.
Yes i agree my gf was wrong but guess what!!! her actions might be what is making me consider staying in the marriage and yes I did doubt the paternity because a relationship was never established, she was desperate to be married and I thought she was trying to tie me down with it.
It's okay for you to judge me. I agree I've been wrong and will do all in my power to mend my marriage but honestly cant guarantee forever and I have no intention of going back to the gf since she doesn't even want me either. All she ask when we talk if we are working on our marriage. She regrets her actions but according to her she had to do it else she would want to continue with the relationship but after revealing the truth to my wife, it will be impossible for her to continue the rship with me.

FreemanTJ:


She has never had unprotected sex with anyone and she doesn't lie, she has never given me a reason to be suspicious, she was that honest. We both did test and she still insisted on protection. She didnt want a child out of wedlock considering her background. I am a very smart man and trust me there was no way she could have known. We had no pictures of our wedding pictures on social media from any of my family members. This wasn't her first time using my laptop and I saw the message from her office insisting she sends a mail which she had to type in Msword on my laptop. Yes, she had the hunch, but the gmail gave me out.

baby124:

That she stole his wedding pictures, opened a profile on Instagram and started stalking the wife till OP put his child’s picture up? Even blaming the innocent woman who doesn’t know what this OP is up to for not putting up her family picture to warn *girls* that he is married? That girlfriend is completely crazy!!! She has known from the get go that OP was married. She was playing along and looking for proof. When girl say they dream about this and that, they have seen evidence and just want you to admit. Her dream was too exact and vivid to be a revelation! Trust me!

Omojudy:
All these talk wey una dey talk.
One guy did me like this when I was in between marriages, supported me, wanted to know all my people etc. 3months I had no clue as the wife and family where based elsewhere. Later I come Dey suspect one lady with him, that made me go detective.
I visited in his absence and searched the whole house. Guy was married with 5kids to wifey and the name I suspected was a gf with one kid for him.
Well, I trashed his self contained office allocated apartment, flooded it and took everything of value in it which wasn’t much by the way. I remember I had gotten him a gas cooker as he wasn’t cooking or maybe using stove when I met him, took down to bathroom slippers and small bag of rice. Lol.
Then I contacted his wife and gf and accused them of giving him chance to break other girls heart.
The wife later became my friend that he had to warn her to avoid me. The gf first said thanks to me then probably called him then called me back to change mouth, so I asked her what was her wifely position since the other lady has older and more kids for him.
Omo guy was not even remorse, he asked me if I would have left if I was already pregnant with child for him.
So Omo guy used to carry me to functions, I met his superiors etc. I could only wonder how they looked at me while I had no idea.
I don come give una forward gist wey my blog people never even reach yet.

baby124:

That she stole his wedding pictures, opened a profile on Instagram and started stalking the wife till OP put his child’s picture up? Even blaming the innocent woman who doesn’t know what this OP is up to for not putting up her family picture to warn *girls* that he is married? That girlfriend is completely crazy!!! She has known from the get go that OP was married. She was playing along and looking for proof. When girl say they dream about this and that, they have seen evidence and just want you to admit. Her dream was too exact and vivid to be a revelation! Trust me!

baby124:

Lmao. Don’t mind the OP. He has been given snake in a monkey shadow style, so he’s confused as usual. Men are so gullible though. Smh. Only a useless player will try to justify this mad behavior.

FreemanTJ:
I eventually put up my daughters picture then I noticed she brought down the fake page but she said she was still depressed and it would take the grace of God to help her heal. She told me the baby looked exactly like me which I began to notice too when I went to visit them this weekend. My wife claims she can't continue the marriage which I'm supposed to be happy about but I didnt want it to be around this type of circumstances.
The other lady is so confused and devastated and is probably still in love with me.

I didnt wish to be in this mess. If I stay in this marriage I'll be unhappy for the rest of my life. I'll be there for my child whenever she needs me. For the other lady, we could have been perfect but now that her family is against it, it seems a no go area. I've always been financially supportive to my wife and baby even though it wasn't the type of marriage I planned for.
I dont know how to make it up to the lady as she has insisted she wont forgive me for lying to her while my wife cant stand me either.

Gloriousheart:

Nawa. Grow up, man! You can choose to love your wife if you want. True deep lasting Love is a choice not just a feeling. All these long story is because you are looking at life and marriage with fairy tale rose-colored glasses. If this new lady suddenly got pregnant for you before marriage, you will lose feelings for her too. What is it sef. You stay in your marriage or sail. Stop all these neither here nor there character. It's not manly. How can you say you were forced into marriage? You didn't need to marry her if you didn't want. Were you forced to impregnate her or be intimate with her? She was good enough for sex but not marriage. This is the mistake some folks make often. Then they start crying foul. Now you're married, concentrate and see if you can build your marriage. Stop behaving this way.

FreemanTJ:


Thank you for pointing that out. The gf is now the bad person because she isnt the married one. As women they really dont know what they're capable of until they're in someone else's position. She could have forgiven me. Kept quiet about it and insisted I divorced my wife which I was planning to do anyway.
Instead she reached out to my wife, asked for forgiveness and asked her to fix her marriage. At that moment it may seem unreasonable but if I choose to stay in my marriage I think she triggered it.

ojun50:
So wetin be the koko of wetin you write now

FreemanTJ:
I'm Confused With The Way Forward With My Relationship And Marriage

2 years ago I met a lady through a colleague. We got really close and became friends, few months later we got intimate and eventually she got pregnant. She was so scared and devastated and pleaded that I not only accept the pregnancy but marry her as well.....her parents are both pastors and she didnt want to bring shame to them by having a child out of wedlock.

The truth is, I wasn't ready for such commitment but I couldn't bear to see her depressed and so devastated, so I succumbed to getting married to her. Within 2 months we had to do a rushed traditional wedding and white wedding but before that I told her I felt trapped and we had an agreement we weren't going to be living together. This was because we both had different apartment at that time and due to proximity to work I wanted to stay on the island while she stayed on the mainland. She's an entrepreneur and since she was pregnant it wasn't going to be easy for her shuttling between island and mainland

She was ok with the agreement and all the while we lived apart. After the wedding I never wore the ring as I never considered myself married. My parents were the only ones that showed up at my wedding, all my sibling were really disappointed.

Anyway, to cut the long story, while I was with this lady before she got pregnant I met a lady at an event and immediately we connected. We would chat for several days and play chess game for long hours. We shared alot of common interest in our profession, games and all. She's not the reading type so I always recommend books for her to read and we reviewed together. After about 3 months of communicating online she asked if I was seeing someone, at that time my wife (it feels odd using the word wife) was pregnant, I stylishly dodged the question but she another she insisted I answered and I just had to confess I had a gf.

FreemanTJ:
She thanked me for telling the truth, we continued playing chess but it wasn't as often. One time we were playing and started teasing sexually, she played along and was surprised I even mentioned anything sexual. Few months after, I got married but never mentioned it to her. I fear I might lose her while going through a marriage I never wanted.
During this period I withdrew from all form of communication, I was trying to figure out my life yet distracted. She kept sending messages on WhatsApp which I ignored until after about 2 months, I responded and she was upset that after connecting so well I suddenly withdrew.
She asked if I had a meltdown or emotional breakdown which I denied. Just told her I was detoxing from social media but I was back for good. So we continued chatting for another 3 months and decided we saw a movie together. After the movie I told her I wanted to see more of her. Eventually after some weeks, I invited her over and we got intimate. It wasn't the best of experience for her as she claims to have been celibate for over a year.

When she got home that night we discussed our sex extensively and she said she has never experienced orgasm and has always had painful. I felt I could change that experience for her. The next time she came over she asked if I truly had a gf since we spend alot of time communicating online, this time around I said I did but due to the distance we had issues and the rship isnt heading anywhere. I knew it was selfish of me but I wasn't ready to let go. After the third attempt she had her 1st orgasm and i could tell she wasn't ready to let go either.

After a while she got suspicious, she would tell me she had a dream of a short black lady chasing her out of my room and I kept reassuring her it was impossible but she kept insisting this dreams were recurring but I kept denying I had a gf or wife. She described my wife perfectly and I just wondered how some people are gifted with the ability to see things in dreams. All through the while she insisted on protection as she couldn't trust me completely. She grew more suspicious daily and I got defensive everytime and this started causing a strain in our relationship.
During this period we were dating and I asked her if she publicizes her rship on social media and she mentioned no, then later she asked me what I was hiding but i got defensive and we had a major argument.

donstan18:
You got a lady pregnant, you married her.
Next thing, you connected with another lady while playing chess.
What next? You've started discussing orgasms with her after you both went to see a movie.
Now a short black lady has been chasing her in her dreams



TBH, Never in my life have I seen a BOY as so confused, wayward, deceitful, irresponsible and promiscuous as this OP.


Thanks.

FreemanTJ:


We weren't dating. We were just friends and the marriage isnt based on love. I was trapped, she begged for the marriage. The plan was to take care of the baby once she delivers her but she insisted she would kill herself if I didn't marry her before the baby comes.