deltateam:


You said 'once' in your lifetime. It nevertheless doesn't make her an angel as you don't even know her yet. Your reference is out of context.

You're an ignorance of what you don't know. She was anything a man could wish for


That you're meeting harlot or you're harlot yourself doesn't mean everyone fall in the same hook with you


I don't know why someone else opinion and wishes is your headache. I don't like exchanging words with slow brain people


So swerve

RESHARPENED:
'She asked for a 2-week break'

Congratulations, you got yourself a girlfriend with scruples. She doesn't want to cheat on you. The two-week break is to allow the new guy twist, turn and tweak her system to his full pleasure and her carnal satisfaction without the accompanying conscience-crippling guilt of infidelity.

In plain terms,
She's going to get sexually intimate with the new guy.

And there's no stopping her. If after the tryst, she still fancies you then she can come back with a pure heart, devoid of guilt. Since, technically you guys were not together during the time she did the deed.

If on the other hand the experience was orgasm-inducing, she's going to dump you or fxck with your head and make you walk away.

So, you have to just understand that your girlfriend is gone with the new goon. Forget her and move on!

You can thank me by working on yourself and NEVER giving any girl your absolute commitment.

Rich Regards!

Was about giving you an A
Before I saw this
( You can thank me by working on yourself and NEVER giving any girl your absolute commitment.)
Just because she doesn't know the value of loyalty and commitment no mean say another girl won't
When will u men stop judging some ladies because A messed up..e no mean say B na the same

Sweeetheart:



You're an ignorance of what you don't know. She was anything a man could wish for


That you're meeting harlot or you're harlot yourself doesn't mean everyone fall in the same hook with you


I don't know why someone else opinion and wishes is your headache. I don't like exchanging words with slow brain people


So swerve

Everything a man could wish for but you didn't marry her. What a hypocrite.

As a friend and someone who has the experience, when a woman quit relationship, do not chase.let her be,otherwise d more u chase her d more she loses interest in you. Since you have tried your best by trying to talk some sence into her but she decline,let her go for good since she think ur relationship isn't worth it. Focus on developing yourself,if eventually she comes back,tell her you have forgiven her but you can't continue a relationship with her because your future and life is no longer safe with her. Send her back to that guy by telling her to go settle her conflict with him. Women are quick in making decision and quick in regretting their decision. Don't listen to her when she try to tell you she wasn't in her right state of mind when she let you go,her sence was very ok when she left you for that guy.It is your decision to forgive her or not but if she comes back n u accept her,what guarantee you she won't cheat on u again.A woman who dont have self control is not worthy to be a wife.some wil think am rude but the truth is,even though u will accept her,let her earn it,not u just accepting her without her earning it.discipline her,it is ur future so dont joke with it.if u just accept her,she will do worst than what she did earlier.Currently she n d guy are in love bombing stage,soon the will be in reality stage. Don't rush into entering another relationship, use this opportunity to think what could have cause the relationship going south,develop urself for a new relationship u will enter. Thank your God for saving you.
Please remember my words "don't chase her and never accept her back" if you do d opposite,then have urself to blame

bejick:

Did you start like, tell us you have never been heart broken as a younger person. Most people it after the heart break the come get mind. They will come here and be making noise as if say nacso then born them.

ur absolutely correct.Technically, no lady has gotn my hrt broken b4.Buh i dn get hypertension tire because of girls xpecially durin my undergraduate days cos i was naive nd was doin luv.Nd luv gave me HBP. Now am a working class guy wit charisma nd high self esteem.
B a successful guy nd see how ladies will follow u.Nd d best tin u can do 4 urself as a gr8 nigga is neva kip one girlfrnd. NEVER!!.

safarigirl:


Why do you think it id abroad turning her head? Abroad dey turn head pass marriage?

Maybe the new guy has promised to put a ring on it, and she is now considering the possibility of OP being ready for marriage any time soon.

Sometimes, women are lured with promise to marry, not promise of abroad trip.

What if it's the wrong person promising marriage?

Remember, the devil you know is reasonably better than the angel you don't know

It's obvious you lacked parental care, if not, you won't come up here and be mentioning someone's mother like an idiot and as long as you continue with this kind of attitude, guys will continue to dump your a-ss... Las las, Shilo go be your last home!... I ain't gon reply you no more bitter soul!

Jewessgratitude:


Just like men dumped your mother during her time too.

Yes ive been dumped before long ago and theres nothing to hide there cos i dont pretend and no woman, girl or lady go tell me say she's never been dumped before make I hear. Na today? Even your sisters have been dumped before and your daughters too will be dumped as long as its men they are dating and not monkeys or apes. Na una way. You'll say I told and dont forget to ask your mother the men who dumped her before your father finally came to her rescue. Dundi.

cybug:


Very dangerous

stanliwise:
You're buying the victim mindset the OP might be selling, what gives you the impression that the OP hand is clean.
person wey go don chop this girl punna for like 3 years na. Infact you have to pity the new Guy.
Op is not masculine enough in my opinion, if your girl isn't sticking around you again then it means you don't appear charming to her anymore.

I don't understand you. Because op has bleeped her for 3 years so you want op to wait for her till the new guy dump her. So, the total amount of time the girl dates the new guy will serve as punishment for op for f"cking her for 3 years.

This is interesting.

Hmmm my guy talking from my own experience,just forget about dat tin called relationship with her.
Same tin apen to me,

henry457:
As a friend and someone who has the experience, when a woman quit relationship, do not chase.let her be,otherwise d more u chase her d more she loses interest in you. Since you have tried your best by trying to talk some sence into her but she decline,let her go for good since she think ur relationship isn't worth it. Focus on developing yourself,if eventually she comes back,tell her you have forgiven her but you can't continue a relationship with her because your future and life is no longer safe with her. Send her back to that guy by telling her to go settle her conflict with him. Women are quick in making decision and quick in regretting their decision. Don't listen to her when she try to tell you she wasn't in her right state of mind when she let you go,her sence was very ok when she left you for that guy. Current she n d guy are in love bombing stage,soon the will be in reality stage. Thank your God for saving you.
Please remember my words "don't chase her and never accept her back" if you do d opposite,then have urself to blame

The bolded got me.

Some people here are saying he should wait for her. Wait for her for what?

Oil de your head jor.

I beg of you, Bleep her before leaving her. Bleep her like you will kill her. Please.

henry457:
As a friend and someone who has the experience, when a woman quit relationship, do not chase.let her be,otherwise d more u chase her d more she loses interest in you. Since you have tried your best by trying to talk some sence into her but she decline,let her go for good since she think ur relationship isn't worth it. Focus on developing yourself,if eventually she comes back,tell her you have forgiven her but you can't continue a relationship with her because your future and life is no longer safe with her. Send her back to that guy by telling her to go settle her conflict with him. Women are quick in making decision and quick in regretting their decision. Don't listen to her when she try to tell you she wasn't in her right state of mind when she let you go,her sence was very ok when she left you for that guy. Current she n d guy are in love bombing stage,soon the will be in reality stage. Don't rush into entering another relationship, use this opportunity to think what could have cause the relationship going south,develop urself for a new relationship u will enter. Thank your God for saving you.
Please remember my words "don't chase her and never accept her back" if you do d opposite,then have urself to blame

She actually came to my side yesterday, I didn't give her much attention . I was just focused on Tv . Then she asked whats wrong i told her nothing, then she said she knows I'm angry and that she knows she has frustrated me. I said NO that's all she's doing is fine. Then she was full of apologies. I told her its okay but its only if I see changes I can know the next line of action. She wanted to sleep over but I didn't allow her to.

franchasng:
Lol, honestly its good for a man to be financially buoyant mhen, sometimes stories like this keep me wondering how possible cos I know chicks will never dare this nonsense with a guy that is in full control of his financial life, instead its the financially buoyant guys that are terrorists terrorizing women and giving them sleepless nights


Let me borrow one slang I learnt here, guys hustle oh make your girlfriend no come de tell you to give her 2 weeks break










I remember when I was a guy, no chick tried that with me, back then, I was the most wanted terrorist among ladies, I am forever grateful cos I know its not by my power oh, owo ni koko mhen




op Cc: holaxi this is a wake up call that will motivate you to add more effort towards liberating yourself financially....if it takes leaving Nigeria to any saner country to look for greener pasture, go for it and forget women.

Girls should be least worries on any guys' life problem list, especially a guy that is still struggling financially. Focus on improving your financial life first, believe me, better ladies with far better qualities will come your way without stress and you will feel like its a dream, I speak from experience when I was a guy

Wish I could like this more than once.

This your advice enter my head so much.
Others have been saying same thing up there... But this your own...

Although my own never start to misbehave but I'm still observing her while I'm seriously working to improve my financial life like you said.

Reason why I'm still holding her is that we've been together for a while now and she still dey do normal otherwise, I for don free her, come face my huzzle squarely...take a long sabbatical leave from relationship.

More advice is welcomed bro .

Korllami007:


I don't understand you. Because op has bleeped her for 3 years so you want op to wait for her till the new guy dump her. So, the total amount of time the girl dates the new guy will serve as punishment for op for f"cking her for 3 years.

This is interesting.

All I am saying is stop making the Op the victim here.

The loss of interest could be the fault of the OP, this is relationship, it doesn't work in one way remember?

franchasng:
Lol, honestly its good for a man to be financially buoyant mhen, sometimes stories like this keep me wondering how possible cos I know chicks will never dare this nonsense with a guy that is in full control of his financial life, instead its the financially buoyant guys that are terrorists terrorizing women and giving them sleepless nights


Let me borrow one slang I learnt here, guys hustle oh make your girlfriend no come de tell you to give her 2 weeks break










I remember when I was a guy, no chick tried that with me, back then, I was the most wanted terrorist among ladies, I am forever grateful cos I know its not by my power oh, owo ni koko mhen




op Cc: holaxi this is a wake up call that will motivate you to add more effort towards liberating yourself financially....if it takes leaving Nigeria to any saner country to look for greener pasture, go for it and forget women.

Girls should be least worries on any guys' life problem list, especially a guy that is still struggling financially. Focus on improving your financial life first, believe me, better ladies with far better qualities will come your way without stress and you will feel like its a dream, I speak from experience when I was a guy

This post made my day bro, I respect you for this.

Bro move on, stop wasting your time on her, she thinks she's found someone better and she has forgotten that on that side, the grass ain't greener. She gave you the space to be better for yourself, breath better,save more on calls and stuffs that don't add up. Guy just move on abeg, abeg na

anslem04:

I don't think i came across any part OP mentioned or talked about is financial status

I wasn't referring to the OP there, I was being general.

.. stop makin these all about bin broke, mayb u nid to also knw gurls breakup n dump rich guys tew.

But he's always a edge above. There's high propensity of him finding a new one within a blink, although if he's manly enough.

As per a broke nigga... 1. you must realize shoe get size don't hunt 4 materialistic gurl, stick u ur class or below.

Materialistic girl is a no no.. I agree with you here.

2. As a broke ass, u must av prospect @least that wil make a gurl consider you, then u must grow cos what can keep a gurl to a guy with audio prospect is growth.
3. As broke ass, not avin money doesnt stop u frm bin unique, offer her sumtin she can't easily find, pay attention to sumtin on her most guys won't even notice.
4. As a broke ass, the only way to keep ur age mate gf is wife her asap ... 4get all these i must av two G wagon,10m in my acc b4 I marrry illusion.
i won't even advice a guy rich or broke to date there age mate, younger remains d most appropriate

You're right on point.

anslem04:

I don't think i came across any part OP mentioned or talked about is financial status

I wasn't referring to the OP there, I was being general.

.. stop makin these all about bin broke, mayb u nid to also knw gurls breakup n dump rich guys tew. [/b]

But he's always a edge above. There's high
As per a broke nigga...
1. you must realize shoe get size don't hunt 4 materialistic gurl, stick u ur class or below.
2. As a broke ass, u must av prospect @least that wil make a gurl consider you, then u must grow cos what can keep a gurl to a guy with audio prospect is growth.
3. As broke ass, not avin money doesnt stop u frm bin unique, offer her sumtin she can't easily find, pay attention to sumtin on her most guys won't even notice.
4. As a broke ass, the only way to keep ur age mate gf is wife her asap ... 4get all these i must av two G wagon,10m in my acc b4 I marrry illusion.
i won't even advice a guy rich or broke to date there age mate, younger remains d most appropriate

Move on man..

pocohantas:
3yrs and counting...

How old are you?
How old is she?
How old is the agent of dickstraction?

We dump one, we marry another.

No one wants to become evening newspaper.

Few yrs from now, you will dickstract another young guy's babe and he will be here to wail too

Cold world.

Guy I wish I can find you and buy a very cold beer

OLAJADON:

so u expect @holaxi to stand guard waiting for a unserious girlfriend to return to him while she is giving the attention he deserves to another man because I don't understand.
maybe you will probably do or u are doing the same, she didn't consider the consequences while trying to push her relationship to the edge.

This is the mistake most guys make. Have you bothered to ask him how the communication aspect of their relationship looks like before this guy came around? It is this kind of mentality that drives many women to the hands of sweet tongued men. Relationship isn't just about been sexually intimate or just calling to ask how was your day and have you eaten. It spans above this.

There is this part of a woman that seeks to connect to the person she is in a relationship with. I don't know how to explain more than this but do you know in all their 3yrs of been together and going through thick and hell together like he said. They might not have this bond and connection and maybe someone else is giving it to her and you blame her? This is psychology please. Having a good communication doesn't even have to do with giving her frequent attention. It is about spending each moment you have together in the most judicious way.

My gut tells me this guy is obviously a player and a sweet talker. My final message to the op, if you know you truly love her, kindly disregard all the negative comment and save her from making a big mistake. She is only carried away.

Ladies and drama

Tifesingz:
It's obvious you lacked parental care, if not, you won't come up here and be mentioning someone's mother like an idiot and as long as you continue with this kind of attitude, guys will continue to dump your a-ss... Las las, Shilo go be your last home!... I ain't gon reply you no more bitter soul!

If you check my first commnent that you mentioned, its has a tone of warning and not bitterness like you claimed. Rather its your mentions that have a tone of bitterness.
Anyways I'm done with this mentioning.
Learn not to intrude or interfere in matters that do not concern you.

Inside life.

The year you met her if she writes Polytechnic jamb exam, by now she would have finished ND.

Even if you have a state governor and after three years he kept the same story, you will advice him not to contest for another term. You have wasted a term already (3 years for that matter).

May be l did not get you right. Are you referring to a year of friendship and two years of courtship . It means you met her 2016 November, servicing her pu..cy till now, haba, she needs to CLOSE border, if na your sister nko, won't you advice her to try something else.

My advice for you as you are entering 2020.
1. Use you energy to huzzle more for money, the lady tried l beg. Her mate that married and gave birth in 2016/are thinking of second child by now.

2. For her to come to your place again to sleep, apologise to her and communicate why your relationship has not move to next level.
3. Introducing her to your family or astertor is meaningless, ladies are wise now.

Lonelypacifist6:
Is that how y'all jump after guys who promise to marry you? how would the marriage last?

Is it not society that has told women that they must be married to be relevant?

I don't know who "y'all" are, I am telling what obtains in reality. Whether marriage last or not is inconsequential, at least pesin wey don marry no dey the same groupchat with who never marry at all.

It is the mentality foisted on today's women by a society that puts marriage above love, and makes it a prerequisite for female respect

pocohantas:
3yrs and counting...

How old are you?
How old is she?
How old is the agent of dickstraction?

We dump one, we marry another.

No one wants to become evening newspaper.

Few yrs from now, you will dickstract another young guy's babe and he will be here to wail too

Cold world.

Pocobaby... So on point.

Windflower:


This is the mistake most guys make. Have you bothered to ask him how the communication aspect of their relationship looks like before this guy came around? It is this kind of mentality that drives many women to the hands of sweet tongued men. Relationship isn't just about been sexually intimate or just calling to ask how was your day and have you eaten. It spans above this.

There is this part of a woman that seeks to connect to the person she is in a relationship with. I don't know how to explain more than this but do you know in all their 3yrs of been together and going through thick and hell together like he said. They might not have this bond and connection and maybe someone else is giving it to her and you blame her? This is psychology please. Having a good communication doesn't even have to do with giving her frequent attention. It is about spending each moment you have together in the most judicious way.

My gut tells me this guy is obviously a player and a sweet talker. My final message to the op, if you know you truly love her, kindly disregard all the negative comment and save her from making a big mistake. She is only carried away.

Big head. You have wise - Your last paragraph. Too much sense dey worry you. Girls and falling your sweet tongue. And later deep regrets.

Its always the rule, lose a very good someborry and almost always regret the loss deeply. Some never recovered the loss of a good person. Never only few I mean absolutely few jump from good to good. Its most times South

holaxi:
My girlfriend and I have being together for almost three years now. We've had all the moments the good ,the bad and the ugly.

But recently she met a guy who asked her out, she refused his advances but the guy and her spend so much time on calls and chatting which I don't really like.

I've talked to her so many times about it but if she listens for a week the next week they are back in business.

Last week we were chatting and she just went offline I tried calling her to know what's up only for her number to be busy for like 20 mins. When she came back online and I told her she said she wasn't on call with anyone.

When I probed her further she said she wanted a two weeks break that I complain too much and I don't trust her.

I apologized to her so peace could reign but since then I've started losing interest in her.

I would advice you move on with your life because she has done so. 3 years is ok. She probably have grown weary of you.

Taking you by your words,don't be discouraged.
I"m speaking from experiece.
Forget her completely as if u never meet.
Look for better job,hang out with good friends and forgive her.
Make money,better ladies with serious mind will come your way soonest.
Lastly,pray to God to direct your ways and you will never be stranded again.

henry457:
As a friend and someone who has the experience, when a woman quit relationship, do not chase.let her be,otherwise d more u chase her d more she loses interest in you. Since you have tried your best by trying to talk some sence into her but she decline,let her go for good since she think ur relationship isn't worth it. Focus on developing yourself,if eventually she comes back,tell her you have forgiven her but you can't continue a relationship with her because your future and life is no longer safe with her. Send her back to that guy by telling her to go settle her conflict with him. Women are quick in making decision and quick in regretting their decision. Don't listen to her when she try to tell you she wasn't in her right state of mind when she let you go,her sence was very ok when she left you for that guy.It is your decision to forgive her or not but if she comes back n u accept her,what guarantee you she won't cheat on u again.A woman who dont have self control is not worthy to be a wife.some wil think am rude but the truth is,even though u will accept her,let her earn it,not u just accepting her without her earning it.discipline her,it is ur future so dont joke with it.if u just accept her,she will do worst than what she did earlier.Currently she n d guy are in love bombing stage,soon the will be in reality stage. Don't rush into entering another relationship, use this opportunity to think what could have cause the relationship going south,develop urself for a new relationship u will enter. Thank your God for saving you.
Please remember my words "don't chase her and never accept her back" if you do d opposite,then have urself to blame

nice one man thumps up....

holaxi:

I'm thinking of breaking up because I've tried everything, I've talked to her I've scared her . In short I'm tired of everything.

i have been reading your replies down to this particular one and it is obvious that you are indeed God fearing which means you are a christian.And that is why you will be entirely worn out when you engage in anything outside your Father's will or instructions for your life due to His love and mercy,so even if you get another lady all by your self evaluations,there's a probability that you will still bring your marital issh on this platform.GOD loves you so much that he allowed the lady misbehave now and not when you are married to her,so grab the sense and run back to Him for His choice for you maritally