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djoe21:
So what makes 33 the lower limit 'perfect age' and not 32? Or what makes 37 the upper limit and not 38?

I was about to ask.

I like to grow up with my spouse. I did not want someone with numerous body count unable to bond properly or someone who is always thinking of out maneuvering a woman because he has been burnt before.

I loved us both to have clean slates and build on it together.

I see men 30+ around me and age absolutely has nothing to do with marriageability.

midnighter:
33-37 is perfect marriageable age for a man

You are not serious!

Ideal age for a man to marry @27-35

vincentjk:
Maybe they've their reasons of saying that. As for me, my bestfriend told me she would marry someone younger than her long as they love one another.


She's 4years older than me thou and i think i'll consider working something out with her when the time comes (if she's still single) she's a homely girl and has respect.

Any problem marrying someone who has been your best friend and you two have know each other so well for years?

That is the best relationship ever

midnighter:
No problem with that, I was just stating the nicest age for a man to marry IMO.

Personally when I see 20-something year old guys marrying I find it strange or I think maybe they are doing it for religious reasons. A lot of the 20-somethings I know dont seem oriented towards marriage at all.

But of course age isnt the key factor but maturity and capability. I am just speaking in general.

There is nothing strange in a man in his 20s marrying

This geh, sense full your head too much on this matter. How you take decode us like this? How old you be?

As a younger man I would almost never makke a girlfriend whose past I knew.

Now I wan show her say I sabi pass that small boy wey dey chase her. For money, sense, patience, bedroom skills, how to help her make her own money and improve her life generally even if we no go marry.

pocohantas:
Nothing is wrong with a man U-33, but I will tell you the advantage of an above 33 man or what most ladies look out for in them (and older men in general)

1. Financial stability: I put this first because it is (one of) the most importantant attraction. If you are old without money, one would wonder what you were doing in your youth.

2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. She has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid and if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.

3. Older guys are more chilled: Age, experience and more money to their pockets has taught them to take life jeje. They don't get angry unnecessarily over petty issues like younger guys who see everything as a bruise on their fragile egos.

4. They are more caring, maybe fascinated by your juvenile displays. Those things you will do and make the younger guy go all red-pilled, the older guy will tell you sorry, make you carry your wahala dey go. He looks at you at as a child, with that smile on his face.

5. They are most times not scared of looking weak or not in control. Unlike younger guys who seek validation of their fellow younglings, an older guys is a man all by himself. But don't mistake this for stupidity, he is very well watching and calculating.

6. If you really wanna tap into wealth of experience/knowledge, then an older guy is your best bet. They witnessed Abacha's regime with clear eyes, they saw Yakubu miss that goal- he is like your History teacher. Also, his friends will most likely be his age group, some of their gfs would even be older than you- that is if you are really young. Except you are a bimbo, you will be on your toes to upgrade, that way you don't look stupid at their hangouts . I can't say the same thing for younger guys who just sit around and talk about ASUU strike.

7. Oh! Their voice! It gets deeper and subtly assertive as they age. When they talk, they exude this confidence and masculinity. It isn't forced, read off a book or some alfa male code. You just can't miss it.

...etc

There are exceptions, but on the average, there is really no comparison. We get finer with age, all things being equal.

pocohantas:
Nothing is wrong with a man U-33, but I will tell you the advantage of an above 33 man or what most ladies look out for in them (and older men in general)

1. Financial stability: I put this first because it is (one of) the most importantant attraction. If you are old without money, one would wonder what you were doing in your youth.

2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. She has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid and if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.

3. Older guys are more chilled: Age, experience and more money to their pockets has taught them to take life jeje. They don't get angry unnecessarily over petty issues like younger guys who see everything as a bruise on their fragile egos.

4. They are more caring, maybe fascinated by your juvenile displays. Those things you will do and make the younger guy go all red-pilled, the older guy will tell you sorry, make you carry your wahala dey go. He looks at you at as a child, with that smile on his face.

5. They are most times not scared of looking weak or not in control. Unlike younger guys who seek validation of their fellow younglings, an older guys is a man all by himself. But don't mistake this for stupidity, he is very well watching and calculating.

6. If you really wanna tap into wealth of experience/knowledge, then an older guy is your best bet. They witnessed Abacha's regime with clear eyes, they saw Yakubu miss that goal- he is like your History teacher. Also, his friends will most likely be his age group, some of their gfs would even be older than you- that is if you are really young. Except you are a bimbo, you will be on your toes to upgrade, that way you don't look stupid at their hangouts . I can't say the same thing for younger guys who just sit around and talk about ASUU strike.

7. Oh! Their voice! It gets deeper and subtly assertive as they age. When they talk, they exude this confidence and masculinity. It isn't forced, read off a book or some alfa male code. You just can't miss it.

...etc

There are exceptions, but on the average, there is really no comparison. We get finer with age, all things being equal.

Just want to note that your points 2 and 4 are in contradiction

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pocohantas:
Nothing is wrong with a man U-33, but I will tell you the advantage of an above 33 man or what most ladies look out for in them (and older men in general)

1. Financial stability: I put this first because it is (one of) the most importantant attraction. If you are old without money, one would wonder what you were doing in your youth.

2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. She has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid and if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.

3. Older guys are more chilled: Age, experience and more money to their pockets has taught them to take life jeje. They don't get angry unnecessarily over petty issues like younger guys who see everything as a bruise on their fragile egos.

4. They are more caring, maybe fascinated by your juvenile displays. Those things you will do and make the younger guy go all red-pilled, the older guy will tell you sorry, make you carry your wahala dey go. He looks at you at as a child, with that smile on his face.

5. They are most times not scared of looking weak or not in control. Unlike younger guys who seek validation of their fellow younglings, an older guys is a man all by himself. But don't mistake this for stupidity, he is very well watching and calculating.

6. If you really wanna tap into wealth of experience/knowledge, then an older guy is your best bet. They witnessed Abacha's regime with clear eyes, they saw Yakubu miss that goal- he is like your History teacher. Also, his friends will most likely be his age group, some of their gfs would even be older than you- that is if you are really young. Except you are a bimbo, you will be on your toes to upgrade, that way you don't look stupid at their hangouts . I can't say the same thing for younger guys who just sit around and talk about ASUU strike.

7. Oh! Their voice! It gets deeper and subtly assertive as they age. When they talk, they exude this confidence and masculinity. It isn't forced, read off a book or some alfa male code. You just can't miss it.

...etc

There are exceptions, but on the average, there is really no comparison. We get finer with age, all things being equal.

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vincentjk:
Maybe they've their reasons of saying that. As for me, my bestfriend told me she would marry someone younger than her long as they love one another.


She's 4years older than me thou and i think i'll consider working something out with her when the time comes (if she's still single) she's a homely girl and has respect.

Any problem marrying someone who has been your best friend and you two have know each other so well for years?

Unless she's getting desperate I doubt it will work cos it's obvious you've been friendzoned.
I'm speaking from experience.

pocohantas:
Nothing is wrong with a man U-33, but I will tell you the advantage of an above 33 man or what most ladies look out for in them (and older men in general)

1. Financial stability: I put this first because it is (one of) the most importantant attraction. If you are old without money, one would wonder what you were doing in your youth.

2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. She has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid and if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.

3. Older guys are more chilled: Age, experience and more money to their pockets has taught them to take life jeje. They don't get angry unnecessarily over petty issues like younger guys who see everything as a bruise on their fragile egos.

4. They are more caring, maybe fascinated by your juvenile displays. Those things you will do and make the younger guy go all red-pilled, the older guy will tell you sorry, make you carry your wahala dey go. He looks at you at as a child, with that smile on his face.

5. They are most times not scared of looking weak or not in control. Unlike younger guys who seek validation of their fellow younglings, an older guys is a man all by himself. But don't mistake this for stupidity, he is very well watching and calculating.

6. If you really wanna tap into wealth of experience/knowledge, then an older guy is your best bet. They witnessed Abacha's regime with clear eyes, they saw Yakubu miss that goal- he is like your History teacher. Also, his friends will most likely be his age group, some of their gfs would even be older than you- that is if you are really young. Except you are a bimbo, you will be on your toes to upgrade, that way you don't look stupid at their hangouts . I can't say the same thing for younger guys who just sit around and talk about ASUU strike.

7. Oh! Their voice! It gets deeper and subtly assertive as they age. When they talk, they exude this confidence and masculinity. It isn't forced, read off a book or some alfa male code. You just can't miss it.

...etc

There are exceptions, but on the average, there is really no comparison. We get finer with age, all things being equal.

Lol, this girl sef....very on point analysis!

pocohantas:
Nothing is wrong with a man U-33, but I will tell you the advantage of an above 33 man or what most ladies look out for in them (and older men in general)

1. Financial stability: I put this first because it is (one of) the most importantant attraction. If you are old without money, one would wonder what you were doing in your youth.

2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. She has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid and if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.

3. Older guys are more chilled: Age, experience and more money to their pockets has taught them to take life jeje. They don't get angry unnecessarily over petty issues like younger guys who see everything as a bruise on their fragile egos.

4. They are more caring, maybe fascinated by your juvenile displays. Those things you will do and make the younger guy go all red-pilled, the older guy will tell you sorry, make you carry your wahala dey go. He looks at you at as a child, with that smile on his face.

5. They are most times not scared of looking weak or not in control. Unlike younger guys who seek validation of their fellow younglings, an older guys is a man all by himself. But don't mistake this for stupidity, he is very well watching and calculating.

6. If you really wanna tap into wealth of experience/knowledge, then an older guy is your best bet. They witnessed Abacha's regime with clear eyes, they saw Yakubu miss that goal- he is like your History teacher. Also, his friends will most likely be his age group, some of their gfs would even be older than you- that is if you are really young. Except you are a bimbo, you will be on your toes to upgrade, that way you don't look stupid at their hangouts . I can't say the same thing for younger guys who just sit around and talk about ASUU strike.

7. Oh! Their voice! It gets deeper and subtly assertive as they age. When they talk, they exude this confidence and masculinity. It isn't forced, read off a book or some alfa male code. You just can't miss it.

...etc

There are exceptions, but on the average, there is really no comparison. We get finer with age, all things being equal.

I wish there was a 'love' button, I would have clicked it an odd number of times. You just put my thought process in recent times into words.

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lilwetdick:
i agree completely with you but i also noticed people who get married between age 20-27, get divorce easily than those who married when older,let also not forget that countries with good economy do have higher divorce rate than countries with developing economies.

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With due respect, this is absolutely nonsense Sir

This is am interesting and educating topic. However, i personally believe that age is not a factor to be considered when it comes to marriage except for logical reasons such as maturity, security and reasoning. There are those above the stated age who still behave below expectation. What matters most to me is the ability of the man to respect, love and cherish the woman above anything else. And i think any woman should be contented with this. You could build the maturity, security, reasoning and whatever it is you cherish together. Just don't allow your friends or perceived threats destroy your good even before you build it. Marry him and build on the future.

Craig24:
50yrs? How much more years do you think such person has left to live?

I for one, I don't care what the society thinks but our families makes up the society, we grew up in it, schooled in it Worshipped in it, which we draw our norms n values from. You have no idea what stigmatization the 50year old nuclear n extended family will go through, money or no money. The society doesn't care.



My uncle who was close to fifty before he got married has five children today


First,is gurl 26yrs with no plans of getting married anytime soon cos they practise holiness n righteousness at deeperlife, besides his wife's a devil's incarnate.

Second, a boy, 24, just graduated from
ANSU(igbariam campus) yet to be called up for NYSC.

Third, a boy, 20, yet to gain admission but has been sitting for exams.


Fourth, a gurl, 17, still doing her O'level.


Fifth, a gurl, 14, Jss1


Now tell me how he has to live n anticipate for grandchild while he has a family of seven(including himself n wife) from his monthly pensions at the FCT at the age of 74, hypertensive too?

wow

Newguyhere:
gbam! you just said it.
And the funny thing is even those women claiming 25 are in most cases lying about their age. All of them are old cargos, it's only make up and push up bras nah im dey hide the sorry state of their body

MAKE UP AND PUSH UP BRA.

WOW. I LEARNT SOMETHING

lilwetdick:
i have a life already, if you couldnt answer a question you would as well just ignore it and move on instead of the bulls you wrote.

your behavior was immature, you acted like a kid

You proved her right.
You know what maturity means.

pocohantas:
Nothing is wrong with a man U-33, but I will tell you the advantage of an above 33 man or what most ladies look out for in them (and older men in general)

1. Financial stability: I put this first because it is (one of) the most importantant attraction. If you are old without money, one would wonder what you were doing in your youth.

2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. She has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid and if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.

3. Older guys are more chilled: Age, experience and more money to their pockets has taught them to take life jeje. They don't get angry unnecessarily over petty issues like younger guys who see everything as a bruise on their fragile egos.

4. They are more caring, maybe fascinated by your juvenile displays. Those things you will do and make the younger guy go all red-pilled, the older guy will tell you sorry, make you carry your wahala dey go. He looks at you at as a child, with that smile on his face.

5. They are most times not scared of looking weak or not in control. Unlike younger guys who seek validation of their fellow younglings, an older guys is a man all by himself. But don't mistake this for stupidity, he is very well watching and calculating.

6. If you really wanna tap into wealth of experience/knowledge, then an older guy is your best bet. They witnessed Abacha's regime with clear eyes, they saw Yakubu miss that goal- he is like your History teacher. Also, his friends will most likely be his age group, some of their gfs would even be older than you- that is if you are really young. Except you are a bimbo, you will be on your toes to upgrade, that way you don't look stupid at their hangouts . I can't say the same thing for younger guys who just sit around and talk about ASUU strike.

7. Oh! Their voice! It gets deeper and subtly assertive as they age. When they talk, they exude this confidence and masculinity. It isn't forced, read off a book or some alfa male code. You just can't miss it.

...etc

There are exceptions, but on the average, there is really no comparison. We get finer with age, all things being equal.

This is why i try not to be too close to young ladies even the ones young enough to be daughters to me cos they just fall in love recklessly. Honestly, mature guys in age and psyche are so irresistible..little wonder why many young ladies prefer married men.

BTW Poco i no know sey you get sense small like this o.

cococandy:
They are usually immature.( generalization I know)

But you might get lucky and find one who isn’t.

Sometimes Even the ones who come across at first as mature “for a guy of their age”, in the long run they show their immaturity as well.

Case in point? Assess the reasoning level of NL males. The kinds of topics they create, the kinds of comments they post, their affinity for malicious trolling and etc etc.

you don’t need anyone to tell you why.

Wait, Who told you that you're matured?

I see charcoal calling kettle black

Alexaonfleek:
I can't speak for other girls,but I personally have romantic interests in guys who are usually way older than me.

As for the topic,guys in their 30s are usually more mature than those in their 20s,tho there are exceptions.

Hmm abi its because they have more money?

TonyeBarcanista:
You are not serious!

Ideal age for a man to marry @27-35

Any way you like it is okay, sir.

lilwetdick:
but what is maturity of a man according to a woman?

i often hear how this word is thrown anyhow by women, you will hear woman say that man is matured maybe because he dresses in a certain way or does something in a certain way, to a guy that is just being him behaving like that at that moment.

maturity to them is when the mess up and you keep quiet without challenging, sometimes they do something stupid, belittle and expect you not to react. If you react, you are immature.

Biggaboi:
Unless she's getting desperate I doubt it will work cos it's obvious you've been friendzoned.
I'm speaking from experience.

Nobody is talking about friendzone here. Infact if you see me real then you'd understand what I'm saying

lilwetdick:
when you start calculating your age and the age your children will be, i think it is a recipe for disaster, that is desperation.

i think a man need to prepare himself financially, mentally and emotionally and also select a good woman to have a good marriage instead of calculating his age and future kids age. nothing bad if as a man you get married at 50 years, if you take care of yourself, you will see the prime of your
future children.

This what they don't know.

I laugh when people do this. I am not birthing more than 2 kids, max 3. I don't care about gender.

truthsayer009:
Hmm abi its because they have more money?

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In the first place who doesn't like money
Even you as a person,don't u like money

Anyways,that's not the only reason I go for older guys.They are more mature,just like that point pocohantas listed up there.

The best marriage is anyways that between two best friends.

vincentjk:
Maybe they've their reasons of saying that. As for me, my bestfriend told me she would marry someone younger than her long as they love one another.


She's 4years older than me thou and i think i'll consider working something out with her when the time comes (if she's still single) she's a homely girl and has respect.

Any problem marrying someone who has been your best friend and you two have know each other so well for years?

vincentjk:
Nobody is talking about friendzone here. Infact if you see me real then you'd understand what I'm saying

Bro, ask her out fast or let her know your plans for her and give her some time to ponder over what you have said cos there is no greater feeling in this world than getting married to your bestfriend.

Newguyhere:
gbam! you just said it.
And the funny thing is even those women claiming 25 are in most cases lying about their age. All of them are old cargos, it's only make up and push up bras nah im dey hide the sorry state of their body

Funke

MusaDanladi1:
Bro, ask her out fast or let her know your plans for her and give her some time to ponder over what you have said cos there is no greater feeling in this world than getting married to your bestfriend.

She knows my feelings already and I can tell she feels same way as well but I'm not yet ready for marriage while she's (if she gets a serious suitor)

Btw how do one start asking his best friend out again

yazga:
On Monday I read a post asking women if they could marry a 29yr old man earning 60k a month which translates to 720k a year.

Whether the ladies were pretending with their replies or not, The responses were really interesting to read. Its nice to see that there are still reasonable women here who don't dance around in fantasyland and are keen on working together while looking ahead.

A woman who knows how to take a little and make it work is priceless. A trait I thought was lost with the generation of our mothers.

Apparently I was wrong and such women who are great at managing limited resources still exist

What caught my attention however, was the fact that more than half the women said the salary was ok but they couldn't marry any man under 33. I snooped around to try and see if anybody gave a logical reason for this conclusion but couldn't find any

So I want to ask officially. What's wrong with a man under 33?

If he makes you happy, and he is ready to spend the rest of his life with you what's the problem with his age that would be a hindrance?
Or could it be that you are older so like the typical

Nigerian woman you can't marry a younger man?
Is it possible that a man can tick all the right boxes on your list of an ideal man but you turn him down cuz of age?

Please ladies share your thoughts on this with us. We want to know oh

You probably in a group with older ladies of age 30+

lilwetdick:
but what is maturity of a man according to a woman?

i often hear how this word is thrown anyhow by women, you will hear woman say that man is matured maybe because he dresses in a certain way or does something in a certain way, to a guy that is just being him behaving like that at that moment.

maturity is how we relate and handle issue and situation its our we compose ourselve

pocohantas:
Nothing is wrong with a man U-33, but I will tell you the advantage of an above 33 man or what most ladies look out for in them (and older men in general)

1. Financial stability: I put this first because it is (one of) the most importantant attraction. If you are old without money, one would wonder what you were doing in your youth.

2. Emotional maturity: The average woman is more emotionally mature than a guy her age. She has to look further to find a balance- MOST times. A guy has all the time to be stupid and if he decides to be stupid for life, there will be a woman for him. Women have to get sense on time, she has a biological clock to watch and most men do not have that fix-it mentality.

3. Older guys are more chilled: Age, experience and more money to their pockets has taught them to take life jeje. They don't get angry unnecessarily over petty issues like younger guys who see everything as a bruise on their fragile egos.

4. They are more caring, maybe fascinated by your juvenile displays. Those things you will do and make the younger guy go all red-pilled, the older guy will tell you sorry, make you carry your wahala dey go. He looks at you at as a child, with that smile on his face.

5. They are most times not scared of looking weak or not in control. Unlike younger guys who seek validation of their fellow younglings, an older guys is a man all by himself. But don't mistake this for stupidity, he is very well watching and calculating.

6. If you really wanna tap into wealth of experience/knowledge, then an older guy is your best bet. They witnessed Abacha's regime with clear eyes, they saw Yakubu miss that goal- he is like your History teacher. Also, his friends will most likely be his age group, some of their gfs would even be older than you- that is if you are really young. Except you are a bimbo, you will be on your toes to upgrade, that way you don't look stupid at their hangouts . I can't say the same thing for younger guys who just sit around and talk about ASUU strike.

7. Oh! Their voice! It gets deeper and subtly assertive as they age. When they talk, they exude this confidence and masculinity. It isn't forced, read off a book or some alfa male code. You just can't miss it.

...etc

There are exceptions, but on the average, there is really no comparison. We get finer with age, all things being equal.

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