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I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by Lucyliz: 11:39pm On Nov 22, 2019
Please I am really scared and confused right now. I need serious advice.

It happened when I and my boyfriend broke up due to some misunderstandings, we were not engaged then.

We broke up and didn't contact each other for weeks. Then I traveled to Ogun state at my grandma's place for somethings. I met this guy and we got along well. We go on outings, had fun and eventually had sex. After that it dawned on me and I regret it. I ignored him for some days and later came to my grandma's place to look for me.

We talked and he told me he want us to start a relationship. I declined and told him I have no feelings for him.

After a week I left Ogun state and came back to Lagos.

Afterwards I got back together with my ex and now we are engaged. We haven't picked a wedding date yet but we planned it to be next year.

Fast forward to last Month, my fiance told me he needed to rent an apartment for one of his friends coming to lag to stay permanently.
He got the apartment and the guy came to lag..
I didn't get to meet him until after a week...
I was in a mall with my fiance and he called him telling him he need to go out since he was bored. He came to the mall and behold it was this same guy I met in Ogun State. I knew I was doomed .... I got really scared and nervous at the same time cuz my bf never mentioned or showed me his pics before...

He was only looking at me without saying anything except to my fiance... I was even scared of leaving their midst cuz I was scared he would tell my fiance....

Later that week he called me with a different line and told me it was him. I ended the call immediately on hearing his name....

I can't tell my fiance what happened btw us or he would never forgive me...

The guy has been calling but am not picking his calls am scared of what he might say...

I told my friend abt it and she asked me to have an agreement with the guy never to tell my fiance but am really scared about everything and confused....

But then I remember have seen his face on my fiance phone before but didn't pay attention cuz he was on lowcut there...

Have been acting funny around my fiance especially when the guy is there and he is starting to suspect something is going on...pls help me...

I can't lose my fiance and I don't want the wedding called off...

Pls kindly advice but I can't tell my fiance cuz he often tells me he can't have a taste of what his friends have tasted...

I can't stop thinking and crying...

Pls help me I beg u all

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by laughitall(m): 11:40pm On Nov 22, 2019
Idiat

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by Mood11: 11:40pm On Nov 22, 2019
We should help you to unsex? angry

Did you not do eeeeh aaaah when he was chuking you undecided

You claim to be in love but small quarrel you rush go collect pritck for neighbouring state undecided

Modified:
Since I started dating my boyfriend I only have three friends;
The father
The son
The holy ghost
kiss

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by DaddyNimo(m): 11:44pm On Nov 22, 2019
girls tell me something, how do you Bleep people you don't have feelings for? you're a hoe simple. I wish I know your guy to tell him a hoe he's about to Wed..

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by Riele(f): 11:45pm On Nov 22, 2019
Aunty .

You shouldn't be feeling guilty in any way .

Don't tell your fiancee and if you try coming into an agreement with the "friend" , he might try to frame you up . Just saying !

The past is in the past anyways .

***
They'll come here calling you names like hoe etc

Never mind them , you aren't a saint and they too aren't one .

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by midnighter(f): 11:54pm On Nov 22, 2019

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by LilMissFavvy(f): 11:56pm On Nov 22, 2019
smiley The deed is done and you can't reverse the hand of time. For how long will you continue to ignore his call? Ignoring his calls has made you live in fear. If I were you, I would pick the call, listen to him, make him understand that we all make mistakes, and what happened between you and him was a mistake, also tell him that you and your guy had a break up during that period you met him, simple. Face him, his reaction will determine your next move.

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by shege45: 11:57pm On Nov 22, 2019
Mood11:
We should help you to unsex?

You claim to be in love but small quarrel you rush go collect pritck for neighbouring state undecided
����� leave dem
Just short period u go blow

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by b3llo(m): 11:57pm On Nov 22, 2019
Food that have been eaten cannot be uneaten.

What have been fuc.ked can not be unfuc.ked.

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by AfroKnight: 11:59pm On Nov 22, 2019
This story absolves you from any guilt so much that I strongly suspect it is but a figment of your imagination.

What is the problem here? It happened during the break. No problem. You probably didn’t know you guys would be back together again. Tell your fiancé. Better not let him figure things out later or on his own.

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by Blacknote: 12:04am On Nov 23, 2019
Mood11:
We should help you to unsex?

You claim to be in love but small quarrel you rush go collect pritck for neighbouring state undecided

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by alphaNomega: 12:04am On Nov 23, 2019
Give me your fiancé's number, I would direct him here

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by nero2face: 12:19am On Nov 23, 2019
I see no reason to be afraid here, the guy is a grown up man, u should call him and talk to each other maturely, am sure he won't be comfortable with u as well, both of u should see it as a mistake and keep it a secret forever, it's not bigger than what people keep as secrets...

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by SweetPreeq(m): 12:20am On Nov 23, 2019
Just small misunderstanding happen o, 2 seconds you don go collect another sweetpreeq....

Hanty well done o

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by zomoears(m): 12:33am On Nov 23, 2019
Okafor's law de do d guy...u have been fvcked by him once, u can be refvcked if he feels u owe him pension grin.

Just kidding.

Seriously speaking though, if you don't take his calls, you will never know...

Eat that frog. Take his call!

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by Ceenelly(m): 12:42am On Nov 23, 2019
Lucyliz:
Pls am really scared and confused rn.I need serious advice.
It happened when I and my bf broke up due to some misunderstandings, we were not engaged then..

.we broke up and didn't contact each other for weeks...then I traveled to Ogun state at my grandma's place for somethings ...I met this guy and we got along well...we go on outings, had fun and eventually had sex..after that it dawned on me and I regret it...I ignored him for some days and later came to my grandma's place to look for me.

...we talked and he told me he want us to start a relationship... I declined and told him I have no feelings for him.

After a week I left Ogun state and came back to Lagos....
Afterwards I got back together with my ex and now we are engaged...we haven't picked a wedding date yet but we planned it to be next year...

Fast forward to last month...my fiance told me he needed to rent an apartment for one of his friends coming to lag to stay permanently...
He got the apartment and the guy came to lag..
I didn't get to meet him until after a week...
I was in a mall with my fiance and he called him telling him he need to go out since he was bored...he came to the mall and behold it was this same guy I met in Ogun state..I knew I was doomed .... I got really scared and nervous at the same time cuz my bf never mentioned or showed me his pics before...

He was only looking at me without saying anything except to my fiance... I was even scared of leaving their midst cuz I was scared he would tell my fiance....
Later that week he called me with a different line and told me it was him....I ended the call immediately on hearing his name....
I can't tell my fiance what happened btw us or he would never forgive me...
The guy has been calling but am not picking his calls am scared of what he might say...

I told my friend abt it and she asked me to have an agreement with the guy never to tell my fiance but am really scared about everything and confused....

But then I remember have seen his face on my fiance phone before but didn't pay attention cuz he was on lowcut there...

Have been acting funny around my fiance especially when the guy is there and he is starting to suspect something is going on...pls help me...
I can't lose my fiance and I don't want the wedding called off...

Pls kindly advice but I can't tell my fiance cuz he often tells me he can't have a taste of what his friends have tasted...

I can't stop thinking and crying...
Pls help me I beg u all



the word love have suffered in most people mouth, one thing about this generation is That after a breakup the highest people stay single is just one day the next day another relationship have started, you better explain to your bf in a manner he would understand, cos no agreement that you will involve with the other guy that will not back fire.

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by slimjohn2k5: 12:49am On Nov 23, 2019
All I saw was

No feeling, bleep
No feeling, bleep
No feeling, bleep
No feeling, bleep

That's the definition of a prostitute

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by midnighter(f): 12:50am On Nov 23, 2019
nero2face:
I see no reason to be afraid here, the guy is a grown up man, u should call him and talk to each other maturely, am sure he won't be comfortable with u as well, both of u should see it as a mistake and keep it a secret forever, it's not bigger than what people keep as secrets...

The nzuzo will hold until the fiance and his friend have one crazy quarrel and the guy wont even know what is coming out of his mouth...

The truth is that its better to tell him now and potentially scatter the wedding than be waiting on tenterhooks for the rest of your life, wondering if your secret will be revealed...

I am just sorry for her gan...this life is crazy...all the way from Ogun state...mehn...

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by ProtectMyMoney: 2:16am On Nov 23, 2019
Lucyliz:
Pls am really scared and confused rn.I need serious advice.
It happened when I and my bf broke up due to some misunderstandings, we were not engaged then.
I can't stop thinking and crying...
Pls help me I beg u all




Answer the phone to hear what your Fiance's friend would like to say then come back and update your story to get sound advice.

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by IneedOT: 4:52am On Nov 23, 2019
When you and your husband have misunderstanding, you're the type that will rush out of the marriage and mount another dick without wasting time, your type won't make the move to settle things with your lover, it's called ego, I wish your guy can see who you are and cut off from you, he deserves a better lady

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by Liposure: 5:07am On Nov 23, 2019
Girl,You need 2 move on.what happened in d past cannot be undone.that guy is just a distraction

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by BareFacedLies(m): 5:11am On Nov 23, 2019
DaddyNimo:
girls tell me something, how do you Bleep people you don't have feelings for? you're a hoe simple. I wish I know your guy to tell him a hoe he's about to Wed..

Me also bleep women they have no feelings for!

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by deltateam: 5:19am On Nov 23, 2019
midnighter:
I was seriously expecting to see "click here to read more" at the end of the post, but its actually real shocked

Sister sorry oh, the thing is that you dont know what the friend will do Until you pick his call and see what he wants to tell you. Maybe he wants to have an agreement with you too.

Having said that, I think you would still need to come clean to your fiance at some point so that you dont start the marriage on the wrong foot and anyway, its not like you cheated on him. Are you sure he would really cancel the wedding over this?

Chai! What a horrible coincidence, sorry.

Its a bad situation. I see blackmail loading. The guy is an idiat for calling her. What for?

I think op should just end the relationship. Most men may forgive but forgetting?

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by vincentjk(m): 5:20am On Nov 23, 2019
I personally think the guy wants to let you know before going ahead to tell your fiance.

Real men see themselves as brothers not just friends and would never have an affair with each other's woman(it's against "the bro code"). Pick his call and reason with him before it's too late because he feels he has betrayed his own brother.


After all most people do this esp when the said person looks better than their partner and would only realise after it has been done. Don't say i didn't warn you

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by deltateam: 5:23am On Nov 23, 2019
AfroKnight:
This story absolves you from any guilt so much that I strongly suspect it is but a figment of your imagination.

What is the problem here? It happened during the break. No problem. Tell your fiancé. Better not let him figure things out later or on his own.

I am disappointed with the ' it happened during the break' nonsense.

Does it mean when you have a misunderstanding with husband you rush to available man?

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by Olalan(m): 5:23am On Nov 23, 2019
Just be calm , pick his call and hear What he wants to say........he'll be a terrible friend if wants to blackmail you, and once he suggest that open up to your fiancee.

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by femmoy(m): 5:33am On Nov 23, 2019
I'm not surprised at ur behavior,that's how most ladies reason. a little misunderstanding,piam....they rush into another relationship without thinking what if we settle this dispute? one way thinkers (zombies).

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by PabloAndreas(m): 5:43am On Nov 23, 2019
I dnt know what u plan on doing bt it‘d sound n feel worse if he got to learn bou it from his friend n not you...with that said,i still strongly believe this whole story is a plot from a Nigerian movie n u just tweaked it a bit and changed a few happenings

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by DonBenny77(m): 5:48am On Nov 23, 2019
Anywhere una travel go na to spread leg

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by chii8(f): 6:04am On Nov 23, 2019
Tell your guy now and face the consequence, don't allow yourself to be blackmailed after marriage.

Plus, you sound desperate with the "I don't want the wedding to be called off," you went to have sex with a guy you just met and someone you claimed not to have any emotional attachment to.

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Re: I Had Sex With My Fiance's Friend, Please Help! by solmusdesigns: 6:27am On Nov 23, 2019
undecided

marriage is a long lasting bond, if you cant tell your partner you cheated while on a break abeg dont marry him

you see your spouse should be that person you can murder a person in front of him/her and would still cover for you

..

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