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Lucyliz:
Please I am really scared and confused right now. I need serious advice.

It happened when I and my boyfriend broke up due to some misunderstandings, we were not engaged then.

We broke up and didn't contact each other for weeks. Then I traveled to Ogun state at my grandma's place for somethings. I met this guy and we got along well. We go on outings, had fun and eventually had sex. After that it dawned on me and I regret it. I ignored him for some days and later came to my grandma's place to look for me.

We talked and he told me he want us to start a relationship. I declined and told him I have no feelings for him.

After a week I left Ogun state and came back to Lagos.

Afterwards I got back together with my ex and now we are engaged. We haven't picked a wedding date yet but we planned it to be next year.

Fast forward to last Month, my fiance told me he needed to rent an apartment for one of his friends coming to lag to stay permanently.
He got the apartment and the guy came to lag..
I didn't get to meet him until after a week...
I was in a mall with my fiance and he called him telling him he need to go out since he was bored. He came to the mall and behold it was this same guy I met in Ogun State. I knew I was doomed .... I got really scared and nervous at the same time cuz my bf never mentioned or showed me his pics before...

He was only looking at me without saying anything except to my fiance... I was even scared of leaving their midst cuz I was scared he would tell my fiance....

Later that week he called me with a different line and told me it was him. I ended the call immediately on hearing his name....

I can't tell my fiance what happened btw us or he would never forgive me...

The guy has been calling but am not picking his calls am scared of what he might say...

I told my friend abt it and she asked me to have an agreement with the guy never to tell my fiance but am really scared about everything and confused....

But then I remember have seen his face on my fiance phone before but didn't pay attention cuz he was on lowcut there...

Have been acting funny around my fiance especially when the guy is there and he is starting to suspect something is going on...pls help me...

I can't lose my fiance and I don't want the wedding called off...

Pls kindly advice but I can't tell my fiance cuz he often tells me he can't have a taste of what his friends have tasted...

I can't stop thinking and crying...

Pls help me I beg u all

Sis, it's the same trick the devil uses to cheat us.
Confess to him, whatever will be will be and you will be free for life and if you don't and eventually marry him, You will be in d worst prison of your life.

LilMissFavvy:
The deed is done and you can't reverse the hand of time. For how long will you continue to ignore his call? Ignoring his calls has made you live in fear. If I were you, I would pick the call, listen to him, make him understand that we all make mistakes, and what happened between you and him was a mistake, also tell him that you and your guy had a break up during that period you met him, simple. Face him, his reaction will determine your next move.

This is my advice to you as well. Pick his call and listen to what he has to say. He might either want you not to tell his friend about what happened or he would want to blackmail you for more sex (pls do not fall for this).

And have you discuss all these with your mother? I 'll strongly advice you do asap.

At worst, you'll need courage to tell your finance which I think you should do before your wedding pls. It's very very important you take a stand on this issue before the D-Day.

Please ignore all those who calls you all sort of bad names and believe me most of them have done a similar thing in the past or far worst than yours but will claim to be innocent and quick to point accusing fingers.

My prayer is God will give you wisdom, courage and stong heart to scale through this trying time. It is very well with you IJN.

U are quity is bad u are not a good example just a week argument nawa o what us ur profit on it now, but thank God u not tell lie, u av consiece nd u sober, Go are pray for forgiveness after that , take that ur friend and go to meet that man secretlly to stop it because is it great mistake to ur life, if he spoil ur family the relationship btwn him and ur fiance wil spoil too. Pls Don't beg him. If he refuse call dis number 08055581347

Ur "fiancé " knows all that happened but just pretending. Have you heard of ladies bn disgraced on their wedding day? That's what's gonna happen to u if you don't confront him head on. Sorry to say, you sound desperate if u knew all this and still hid it from him.wish you the best.

Tell your fiancé ASAP.
Called off wedding is better than marriage that you feel like someone has something over you.

FYI you didn’t cheat on him even. Na you sabi

Lucyliz:
Please I am really scared and confused right now. I need serious advice.

It happened when I and my boyfriend broke up due to some misunderstandings, we were not engaged then.

We broke up and didn't contact each other for weeks. Then I traveled to Ogun state at my grandma's place for somethings. I met this guy and we got along well. We go on outings, had fun and eventually had sex. After that it dawned on me and I regret it. I ignored him for some days and later came to my grandma's place to look for me.

We talked and he told me he want us to start a relationship. I declined and told him I have no feelings for him.

After a week I left Ogun state and came back to Lagos.

Afterwards I got back together with my ex and now we are engaged. We haven't picked a wedding date yet but we planned it to be next year.

Fast forward to last Month, my fiance told me he needed to rent an apartment for one of his friends coming to lag to stay permanently.
He got the apartment and the guy came to lag..
I didn't get to meet him until after a week...
I was in a mall with my fiance and he called him telling him he need to go out since he was bored. He came to the mall and behold it was this same guy I met in Ogun State. I knew I was doomed .... I got really scared and nervous at the same time cuz my bf never mentioned or showed me his pics before...

He was only looking at me without saying anything except to my fiance... I was even scared of leaving their midst cuz I was scared he would tell my fiance....

Later that week he called me with a different line and told me it was him. I ended the call immediately on hearing his name....

I can't tell my fiance what happened btw us or he would never forgive me...

The guy has been calling but am not picking his calls am scared of what he might say...

I told my friend abt it and she asked me to have an agreement with the guy never to tell my fiance but am really scared about everything and confused....

But then I remember have seen his face on my fiance phone before but didn't pay attention cuz he was on lowcut there...

Have been acting funny around my fiance especially when the guy is there and he is starting to suspect something is going on...pls help me...

I can't lose my fiance and I don't want the wedding called off...

Pls kindly advice but I can't tell my fiance cuz he often tells me he can't have a taste of what his friends have tasted...

I can't stop thinking and crying...

Pls help me I beg u all

Just tell your guy... Your mental stability is key to your freedom...the Truth will surely set you free...

Lucyliz:
Please I am really scared and confused right now. I need serious advice.

It happened when I and my boyfriend broke up due to some misunderstandings, we were not engaged then.

We broke up and didn't contact each other for weeks. Then I traveled to Ogun state at my grandma's place for somethings. I met this guy and we got along well. We go on outings, had fun and eventually had sex. After that it dawned on me and I regret it. I ignored him for some days and later came to my grandma's place to look for me.

We talked and he told me he want us to start a relationship. I declined and told him I have no feelings for him.

After a week I left Ogun state and came back to Lagos.

Afterwards I got back together with my ex and now we are engaged. We haven't picked a wedding date yet but we planned it to be next year.

Fast forward to last Month, my fiance told me he needed to rent an apartment for one of his friends coming to lag to stay permanently.
He got the apartment and the guy came to lag..
I didn't get to meet him until after a week...
I was in a mall with my fiance and he called him telling him he need to go out since he was bored. He came to the mall and behold it was this same guy I met in Ogun State. I knew I was doomed .... I got really scared and nervous at the same time cuz my bf never mentioned or showed me his pics before...

He was only looking at me without saying anything except to my fiance... I was even scared of leaving their midst cuz I was scared he would tell my fiance....

Later that week he called me with a different line and told me it was him. I ended the call immediately on hearing his name....

I can't tell my fiance what happened btw us or he would never forgive me...

The guy has been calling but am not picking his calls am scared of what he might say...

I told my friend abt it and she asked me to have an agreement with the guy never to tell my fiance but am really scared about everything and confused....

But then I remember have seen his face on my fiance phone before but didn't pay attention cuz he was on lowcut there...

Have been acting funny around my fiance especially when the guy is there and he is starting to suspect something is going on...pls help me...

I can't lose my fiance and I don't want the wedding called off...

Pls kindly advice but I can't tell my fiance cuz he often tells me he can't have a taste of what his friends have tasted...

I can't stop thinking and crying...

Pls help me I beg u all

You just gave the guy the license to even have sex with you at will. He may simply give you the condition of having sex with you to keep the secret. You are already tied. Is better to confess to your fiancé and move on, than let someone turn you to an intimacy gadget. It would even be worse if your fiancé caught the two of you. Confess to your fiancé, if he love you he will stay, if he doesn't (Which he has the right to), move on

DaddyNimo:
girls tell me something, how do you Bleep people you don't have feelings for? you're a hoe simple. I wish I know your guy to tell him a hoe he's about to Wed..

Akinh:
I will try and get that ur fiance's no...he doesn't deserve a gutter like u...just few week into disagreement u rush what if he married u..and u have a fight so na neighbor go chop am that night, and moreover u said u didn't have feeling for the other guy but when he took to out u open ur legs ..this shows how useless u re...and am sure na � go cause the disagreement between u and ur finance... something ladies of now adays do reason from below...is better u accept ur fate now and find another guy before u shame urself..idiat

RTSC:
If the guy is sane, he won't marry her.
Infact, most guys will not.

She is too sexually loose.
If he is smart, he would forgive her and wish her good luck in her future endeavours and part ways.

Many people stay for months or even years in a relationship without sex, this one had sex after a few outings with a friend even with someone else still in her life.

Look at these nonsense hypocrites

midnighter:
Yes now, let the relationship be ruined if that's what it takes.

She can't keep worrying and crying for the rest of her life and plus it's not fair to keep it from him and start the marriage based one lie.

How will his friend suddenly begin to move away from his friend just because of her? You can't control what other people do, especially when you don't even know them and they don't owe you anything.

It’s complicated and whilst I believe In openness I’m not yet sure if telling him is necessary just yet. I wud need to better understand the her and the frnd involved to decide that.

Firstly, you're a uselessly loose lady. You don't open your leg for another guy because you have a slight quarrel with your man.

2) You just made a second mistake by telling your friend n seeking advice from wrong source. Don't u av mom, blood sisters? By the time ur friend exposes you over little fight, then u will know that ladies can be very useless.

3) Biggest problem is if the guy enjoyed sex with you and cannot stop fantasizing about how good you are in bed or how neat n nice your private is, then you are in hot soup. He will do everything to have u again to hush.

4) At this point, the only n final solution is invite him to your elder sister's house ( a married older blood sister who is far older than you). Explain all that happened to her before the dude arrives and tell her to help you beg him never to tell your boo as you truly loved him and you were only very stupid for opening your useless legs carelessly. Let your elder sister employ her maturity to beg him never to show interest in you again. If I were him, I will not bother you anymore, for her sake and for my friend I truly love. I will only get another girl asap to help outdate you in my head.

(I'm Male, 35yrs)

Note: If ur fiancé gets to know, It's over!

Just sacrifice your relationship

cococandy:
Look at these nonsense hypocrites

I am not a hypocrite, cococandy.

I'll suggest you pick his call and hear him out first but no matter what he says
examine when you and your guy are in good mood tell him about it. it is better that he knows now than later
pls don't sit on time bomb

Help you with what exactly? To make you unsex her?. You must be joking

daben1:
"I don't want the wedding to be called off" lmaooo,
olosho! na now you wan retire from business
well, having sex during the break up is not a bad thing, but having it with someone you don't have feelings for... ahn ahn, you check am na, only oloshos do that

I think we all should be clear on the fact that being hor.ny doesn't need having feelings with someone o

Lucyliz:
Please I am really scared and confused right now. I need serious advice.

It happened when I and my boyfriend broke up due to some misunderstandings, we were not engaged then.

We broke up and didn't contact each other for weeks. Then I traveled to Ogun state at my grandma's place for somethings. I met this guy and we got along well. We go on outings, had fun and eventually had sex. After that it dawned on me and I regret it. I ignored him for some days and later came to my grandma's place to look for me.

We talked and he told me he want us to start a relationship. I declined and told him I have no feelings for him.

After a week I left Ogun state and came back to Lagos.

Afterwards I got back together with my ex and now we are engaged. We haven't picked a wedding date yet but we planned it to be next year.

Fast forward to last Month, my fiance told me he needed to rent an apartment for one of his friends coming to lag to stay permanently.
He got the apartment and the guy came to lag..
I didn't get to meet him until after a week...
I was in a mall with my fiance and he called him telling him he need to go out since he was bored. He came to the mall and behold it was this same guy I met in Ogun State. I knew I was doomed .... I got really scared and nervous at the same time cuz my bf never mentioned or showed me his pics before...

He was only looking at me without saying anything except to my fiance... I was even scared of leaving their midst cuz I was scared he would tell my fiance....

Later that week he called me with a different line and told me it was him. I ended the call immediately on hearing his name....

I can't tell my fiance what happened btw us or he would never forgive me...

The guy has been calling but am not picking his calls am scared of what he might say...

I told my friend abt it and she asked me to have an agreement with the guy never to tell my fiance but am really scared about everything and confused....

But then I remember have seen his face on my fiance phone before but didn't pay attention cuz he was on lowcut there...

Have been acting funny around my fiance especially when the guy is there and he is starting to suspect something is going on...pls help me...

I can't lose my fiance and I don't want the wedding called off...

Pls kindly advice but I can't tell my fiance cuz he often tells me he can't have a taste of what his friends have tasted...

I can't stop thinking and crying...

Pls help me I beg u all

I can't advice u to tell ur fiance because if u do, he will neva believe u again. I can't advice u to make a deal with the guy because he might want to take advantage of that or use it to blackmail u.
all i can say now is ur past is haunting u, just pray the guy does not talk and don't try to form extra friendly just let things be, if the guy is matured he will keep ur secret but like I said before don't let him take advantage of u

Mood11:
We should help you to unsex?

Did you not do eeeeh aaaah when he was chuking you

You claim to be in love but small quarrel you rush go collect pritck for neighbouring state

D moment u ignore a girl for a minute, she is already planning her marriage with another man....they can't stay.....Gosh

Notin is hidden under d sun for ever, d truth must surely come out one day. It is beta u tell him d truth now dat it is still early so dat he can make up his mind nd comes to term wit it dan him finding out after d wedding wich he wil neva trust you again. It is beta to call off an engagement dan to b driven out of ur matrimonial home. Come clean and if he really loves u, he will forgive you

Wow

Pls try to tell your fiancé. even if it means asking him questions n putting it in a story form.

midnighter:
I was seriously expecting to see "click here to read more" at the end of the post, but its actually real

Sister sorry oh, the thing is that you dont know what the friend will do Until you pick his call and see what he wants to tell you. Maybe he wants to have an agreement with you too.

Having said that, I think you would still need to come clean to your fiance at some point so that you dont start the marriage on the wrong foot and anyway, its not like you cheated on him. Are you sure he would really cancel the wedding over this?

Chai! What a horrible coincidence, sorry.

believe me if @lucyliz can confess to her man, although he might say he has forgive her but he won't forget, that is why we are men, the memory of his friend ever tasting his wife won't erase.
That is why I said it is only the friend that can help out by acting mature and forgetting the past, if she strike deal with the guy, he will sure take advantage of her. Let her just continue ignoring the guy, he won't be sure of what is in lucyliz mind, it is called mind game.

midnighter:
I agree that it will be embarrassing but you're advocating for just giving up without even trying which doesn't make any sense.

Going by your logic, she equally doesn't have anything to lose by coming clean and trying to salvage the relationship.

Even if the man can't cope with her she will still find another person who can

You still don't get it. He may accept her but will he forget? He will remind her of it for the rest of her life by his actions or words. Trust which is the ingredient for a successful relationship is broken.

Something is baffling me o, u had sex with a guy u met for the first time?

don't abuse me coz am a learner here, does that area always itch to the extent that one needs to have sex with an outsider?

As a guy gan, I can't meet a lady for the first time and introduce sex to her when those village people are not following me

I know some people will talk rubbish but I care not

DaddyNimo:
girls tell me something, how do you Bleep people you don't have feelings for? you're a hoe simple. I wish I know your guy to tell him a hoe he's about to Wed..

aswae nairaland sweet ....Hahahahah

Samuels90:
;DSparro and vincentj make una take am easy guys... This story is fake, easy brodas!

Most outstanding peacemaker of the month! Am just goofing around as per lack of work jare.
Meanwhile, vincentj has now been resurrected. He has demonstrated a rare kind of maturity. Kudos

I don't know why y'all are asking "y could u av sex with a guy u don't love"... it happens a lot especially with we men. so, if it happens with men it can happen with women. after all we are all human.

Ladies are very emotionally weak especially the married ladies, they can be easily laid with just by seducing them with dirty talks...

In my days in OSU den, I was a friend with a lady but I liked her so much... by chance, we had sex and I quickly " asked" her out after it on the same spot, I received the shock of my life that day. this lady said "no" that the feeling she had for me was just for friendship. I felt disappointed though but I moved on.

My advice sis, some men know that you people are very weak emotionally... Pls tell him! One of this things may happen. He rather lose the guy or lose you. but I think he would lose the guy because for a man to make up his mind to marry a certain lady isn't an easy one. If it were me, I would rather sacrifice the male friend

b3llo:
Food that have been eaten cannot be uneaten.

What have been fuc.ked can not be unfuc.ked.

stop now, seriously I don't like it
someone said it was a mistake, so let's assume she made a big mistake......Mind u, What have been bleeped can not be unfucked

Lucyliz:
Please I am really scared and confused right now. I need serious advice.

It happened when I and my boyfriend broke up due to some misunderstandings, we were not engaged then.

We broke up and didn't contact each other for weeks. Then I traveled to Ogun state at my grandma's place for somethings. I met this guy and we got along well. We go on outings, had fun and eventually had sex. After that it dawned on me and I regret it. I ignored him for some days and later came to my grandma's place to look for me.

We talked and he told me he want us to start a relationship. I declined and told him I have no feelings for him.

After a week I left Ogun state and came back to Lagos.

Afterwards I got back together with my ex and now we are engaged. We haven't picked a wedding date yet but we planned it to be next year.

Fast forward to last Month, my fiance told me he needed to rent an apartment for one of his friends coming to lag to stay permanently.
He got the apartment and the guy came to lag..
I didn't get to meet him until after a week...
I was in a mall with my fiance and he called him telling him he need to go out since he was bored. He came to the mall and behold it was this same guy I met in Ogun State. I knew I was doomed .... I got really scared and nervous at the same time cuz my bf never mentioned or showed me his pics before...

He was only looking at me without saying anything except to my fiance... I was even scared of leaving their midst cuz I was scared he would tell my fiance....

Later that week he called me with a different line and told me it was him. I ended the call immediately on hearing his name....

I can't tell my fiance what happened btw us or he would never forgive me...

The guy has been calling but am not picking his calls am scared of what he might say...

I told my friend abt it and she asked me to have an agreement with the guy never to tell my fiance but am really scared about everything and confused....

But then I remember have seen his face on my fiance phone before but didn't pay attention cuz he was on lowcut there...

Have been acting funny around my fiance especially when the guy is there and he is starting to suspect something is going on...pls help me...

I can't lose my fiance and I don't want the wedding called off...

Pls kindly advice but I can't tell my fiance cuz he often tells me he can't have a taste of what his friends have tasted...

I can't stop thinking and crying...

Pls help me I beg u all

For me I think you should hold a meeting with you, your bf and his friend and say the truth inn front of then tell your bf it was a mistake and humans are prone to mistakes..... don’t keep it a secret one day you would regret not telling him

laughitall:
Idiat

something tells me this was culled from an episode of superstory....be using fake story to enter front page

Inside life, once de bee is always de bee!!!

Hear what your ex-sex mate has to say but it's advisable yoi confess to your fiance. That way, you'll be totally free of the emotional torture you're going through now. Will he still marry you after that? What will be, will be.