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Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by loswhite(m): 12:38pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Rajman45:Low self esteem is what a makes a man thinks that having sex with a woman is a favour...pussy brain 5 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Samyj247: 12:38pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
its a red flag but let's go deeper before conclusion. user283 have u tried to let her know that u love gift and since 2 yrs she has not given u anything? have u tried to ask her what she thinks about Ladies giving gifts to a guy they love...ask her whats her view concerning such, let's know what she thinks. u are just a contract staff and can be sacked at any moment so u need. what if u are sacked and ur wife is the only one that can offer help and she begins to misbehave. I am not saying u should leave her but ask her the above questions, let's know what's in her head, let's know what she thinks about giving to a guy. it maybe that she is always broke, but no matter how broke she is, she can still borrow money from friends to assist u, if she really loves u. How old is she? shoperite pays above 50k so no excuse should come from her. I believe its a mindset thing. ask her first let's know her mindset concerning giving. If she says she can't help someone thats not her husband then u are good. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by emerged01(m): 12:39pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
wittyt98:God bless you! There is only one thing my wife do that makes me do more. She is always in support,God has really blessed me with her. She is my pride. A woman should always show attitude of support when a man is in need. 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by lollybizzu(m): 12:39pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Rejoice5000: As in .....even on birthdays. I fear that kind lady o. She's deep. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Samyj247: 12:40pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
its a red flag but let's go deeper before conclusion. user283 have u tried to let her know that u love gift and since 2 yrs she has not given u anything? have u tried to ask her what she thinks about Ladies giving gifts to a guy they love...ask her whats her view concerning such, let's know what she thinks. u are just a contract staff and can be sacked at any moment so u need. what if u are sacked and ur wife is the only one that can offer help and she begins to misbehave. I am not saying u should leave her but ask her the above questions, let's know what's in her head, let's know what she thinks about giving to a guy. it maybe that she is always broke, but no matter how broke she is, she can still borrow money from friends to assist u, if she really loves u. How old is she? shoperite pays above 50k so no excuse should come from her. I believe its a mindset thing. ask her first let's know her mindset concerning giving. If she says she can't help someone thats not her husband then u are good. maybe she has encountered some issues involving giving to a guy, which has in turn destabilise her mindset or thought in that area. just ask her...go deeper like an investigator. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Jiokejohn: 12:41pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
user283: My interest is borne out of your mission of getting married to her. I'll only advise to the best of my reasoning. Marriage is for mutual benefits, mutual love, mutual enjoyment, mutual care and ABOVE ALL, MUTUAL SHOULDERING OF CROSS if table turns around. My question is 'IF YOUR NIGHT TURNS TO DAY, WILL YOUR PARTNER STAND BY YOU?' Peradventure you lose your job years after marrying such a character, what will be your fate? You can manage everything in your life but marriage. Do not think of managing your marital life especially when you have clearly seen the signs ahead. Otherwise, you continue shooting your foot. Love is all about making sacrifices especially in hour of need. Anything short of this is fantasy. Some people who don't have at all go the extent of borrowing in the course of making sacrifice for love talk more of who have but not willing to give. Generosity is not measured when you are super-rich. Even the poor gives out of their shrunk purse. An age long problem with many of us, black Africans is that we hardly weigh our merits and demerits options before taking our decisions. The last thing I will tell you is to quit the relationship because I wasn't the brain behind its establishment. In your every action, let your conscience and deep wisdom guide you. Best of luck and blissful marriage in advance. [NB: I might be wrong but this is exclusively my opinion.] 3 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by fredoooooo: 12:41pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
wallezee: Inside life 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by henzy4life: 12:41pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Bro there are other MAJOR things to look out for in an intending marriage journey which I strongly believe that she met almost 80% of them and that was why u already had plans to go for introduction B4 this distraction of being stingy flashed in ur brain. overlook that stinginess and marry her,u will come back here to testify of how she was actually forming to be stingy. There's no female that is naturally Stingy to a guy,rather life experience has taught them something. Believe me that she's stingy to her brother cos she's saving up for her future hubby |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by jaxxy(m): 12:42pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
udemzyudex: She might have unknown responsibilities like school fees or siblings. I’m just saying. He already asked her brother tho bt he can do sm more investigations. An unhelpful woman is a gross liability. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by wizdomnzube(m): 12:42pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Guyman02:OP, if u read dis tori finish nd u nor do the needful, den I pity u nd ur future.... Most women nor dey offer anything for relationship buh dey nor dey one agree. Bros save ursef from dat broke ass wen u one carry put for house! Niggaz go just use dia hand carry problem. 2 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by shyman03(m): 12:42pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Rethink again... |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Hoodbilonia: 12:42pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by user283: 12:42pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Samyj247:There's a Yoruba adage that says you have to pretend as if you're dead just to know those that will cry I've applied this method yet the situation is still the same. I've been sick for a few times we've been dating and she's never moved by my condition. There are times she has seen my account balance reading negative yet she will be the last person that will ever assist me in a little way |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Brightgem(f): 12:43pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Guyman02:nawa o! This is serious. Deep indeed! I dnt know what else to say. 2 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by bonnyhope: 12:46pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Eyeness: A rich man today can be poor 2moro, so you won't require help from your spouse? 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by MichaelSokoto(m): 12:47pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
OP, is she an ibo girl? if she is an ibo girl, then there u have it! my 2kobo and chilled cold bowl of kunu noni! abeg lemme properly tickle d tinini tinini somtin tickling my ears since...
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Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by uzoexcel(m): 12:47pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
hmmm Thanks for sharing!!! Guyman02: 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by AkhereOkaka(m): 12:47pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Starlight10: Perfection has nothing to do with the issues been espouse here, if i may ask you can you date such a guy that has that kind of attitude? what the Op is saying relationship should be give and take( no matter her little it is from her part). If he can cope with it let him wife her, if not he knows what to do. This kind of lady will have money with her even if there's an emergency which needs money she will tell the husband that she doesn't have. A friend of mine told me that was how her step Mum behave, she will hide groceries and tell the husband to bring money for groceries after he gave her the money she will keep the money and bring out the hidden groceries. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by content208: 12:49pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Rajman45: Are you trying to say that even your grand parents shared in stupidity and Dumbness before they transferred the mental decay to your parents? Your background is really pitiable |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by UndauntedYOCA(f): 12:49pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
I strongly believe that relationship should be a give and take, not just relationship sef. I used to have this boyfriend who's from a rich home, he'd try to help me whenever I needed help (even when we broke up), super nice, one time he gave me his phone and collected my own tons sobe (palasa) just so I could read for my exams, ooo, very kind and I wasn't able to reciprocate his actions in cash o but in my own little way I would buy us drinks and some stuffs sometimes, I tried to help. No matter how broke you are I believe you should always try to help that person you're in a relationship. I'm in a new relationship and I try my best (though not much). What's there in randomly just sending #1000 airtime? What's there in send sending him cash to just get ice cream? Pay for movie tickets etc. Little things do count a lot. My boss here at work does so much for me and I'll never be able to repay him (oh he's super rich) but I buy him apples, candies and he appreciates those little gestures as if they're great. See, it's probably my own perspective but I think it'd be difficult for that type of woman to help you grow. If she hasn't done a thing for you in two years (if that's true o) then when in the world is she going to start to support you, supporting each other shouldn't just come through prayers, they should come in words and actions. My view though. Pardon my grammatical and typographical errors. 7 Likes |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by lollybizzu(m): 12:49pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
user283: Bro I beg you in the name of whatever you serve/worship leave her o, leave her. See I'm not married too but honestly with all these your observations, it's a red flag. I know it's not going to be easy but in the end, it will better for you. Her younger brother even confirmed it! I've only been very close to just one lady all my life aside my sisters and honestly she dey try when it comes to giving. She has her flaws too but stinginess is not one. You need someone who will support you, even a rich man will appreciate such wife. Then finally, before you throw in the trowel, you can sit her down, discuss with her in love, let her know your fears about this her attitude. Her responses will help you in taking your final decision. Best of luck. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Gudlite: 12:50pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Please don't go into marriage with the mentality that your spouse will change with time. 99% don't but they will bring out more behavior you never saw in them before marriage In fact there are four people in marriage 1) The man you Married 2)The man You thought you married 3)The woman you married 4)The Woman you thought you married There are two things here, 1)The devil you know is better than the angel you don't know so you can decide either to tolerate that behavior in her after marriage or 2)Quit the relationship now because a broken relationship is better than a broken Marriage But most importantly seek the face of God (meaning PRAY WELL for God's direction ) 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Nobody: 12:50pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
I have this urge to say something,anything but I don't know what to say. |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Edyice: 12:52pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
udemzyudex: Continue looking for lady to fend for you anytime you ask . Men will continue to help her out , don't worry you will get your money Good luck mate |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by AkhereOkaka(m): 12:52pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
udemzyudex:Absolutely apt a person that gas a given mindset will always give no matter how small it is, irrespective of his/her earnings 1 Like |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Samyj247: 12:53pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
user283:does she know ur salary and do u know her salary? I am a psychologist I know what she thinks about u, and I will tell u. That's why I said ask her, let's know why she has that strong mindset concerning giving to guys. There is something in her that she needs to bring out, and when she has brought it out, u can mould it and everything will b fine. There is something she has experienced in the past that made her to act that way. u need to go deeper and investigate and let her tell u that thing. If this is the only bad reason u have about her then relax she is not bad bro...Except: So ask her, if she has revealed that reason that made her have that mindset, then convince her to trust in ur and u guys relationship, if she affirms to that then good. Don't tell her just give the relationship 6 more months and within those six months, bring up good news or whatever and ask her for a gift later on again, ask for 1-5k promise to pay back promptly. make sure u pay back o. if after ur 6 months experiment and she still refused to borrow u 1k to 5k or give u a gift or something (remember u must ask for it) then run for your life and let her go. user283 |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by IamHonourable1: 12:53pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Mr man,mind you its not a taboo |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Happyguy201: 12:54pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Dimples0303: what does submissive has to do with this madam dimples |
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Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by isblog(m): 12:57pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
favoryte33: I don't believe she will turn a new leaf. She has shown you who she is and it is left for you to make a decision now. You know what you want in your woman and since this is one criterion you expect such woman to have and she doesn't and isn't willing to look into it, then do the needful . In future, if things get rough or tough for you with such a lady, you may be reduced to nothing just to get help from her. help she should naturally render to a man she loves. Don't force it bro. You can't change it in marriage |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by Samuels90: 12:57pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Starlight10:Your sister is still stingy, she should take care of her family (blood) and new family (husband and kids). She should give regardless...... A giver is a giver, it comes freely.. Girls are just too stingy these days, always want to take and don't want to give. OP decide wisely |
Re: My Girlfriend Is Extremely Stingy. Should I Be Worried? by lollybizzu(m): 12:57pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
greenalwaz: You are very right sir. |
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