Marriage is not by Force

Bible only said WHO EVER FIND A WIFE, FIND A GOOD THING not a better thing.

golddust6000:
thats not true. I am almost 40, I can beat my chest and say the money in my account is over 4million.
The reason why I will not marry anytime soon is because I am looking for working class lady, or self employed person. I am afraid to marry a jobless lady or a liability, these are the reason why I will not rush my marriage.

So 4m is money? Lol
How many baby food and diapers can that even buy.

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you vex pack the 'guest' commot.

You're right

Maski87:
Am sure he was cheating, my dad is 75 and still cheating

You just spilled a bomb!! Dad got a very extreme libido Danm
Even Buhari is pleased

To each it own. The fact that it does not work for Mr A does not mean Mr B own won't work out.
All I see here is someone looking for excuse not to marry.

TourismMan:
So a guy we used to watch football matches together got married around November last year and I was happy for him cos he was already 40 something. I'm so shocked to have learnt days ago that the marriage crashed in less than 3 months. In fact, the informant told me the marriage packed up precisely in the month of March this year for undisclosed reasons.

Honestly, cases like this scare us the singles big time. To me, no marriage is better than broken marriage. What has become our marriage these days?

Before you go into it, do your findings very well and also pray to God for directions

Maski87:
Am sure he was cheating, my dad is 75 and still cheating

shows some respect to your father and stop washing his dirty linen outside.

mabea:
You must be a Yoruba man

Other people have been contributing intelligently to the thread but you just had to find a way of showcasing your shameless tribal bigotry when it's not needed. Your type isn't needed in a sensible thread like this. Go to Politics and Crime sections where your unevolved types exist in multitudes to drag your Afonja and Igbo nonsense there.

RisenPhoenix:


No actually, I married quite early; I planned my life strictly. It's just that my hobby is people-watching. I really love observing people. Humans are interesting creatures.

I pray you find what you're looking for

dannybrasky:

Irony of life

Very painful stuff.

I should have added in the IV that there's not going to be reception at my wedding but I know my mother can start crying. My dad won't even talk. He would print his own IV and share instead of my own.

When gold becomes mere paper. When lies was revealed. In all this, two immature mates cannot tolerate each other.

simplesearch:



You do not possess sufficient knowledge of what led to the breakup. In other word, your assumption is based on mere speculation, if you are truly his friend you should try and find out exactly what led to the breakup, no one here should be doing that for you.

Exactly, the comments are just speculations but might be deeper than what everyone is seeing or thinking.
Something like this happened to a female friend of mine years ago, the marriage broke apart in 5 months. After asking her what exactly happened, she told me her husband is impotent. I asked if they didn't court before they wedded, she said they strictly followed church's protocol about no sex before marriage and it cost her the shame she found herself in, she remained in the marriage years after hoping the situation could be salvaged but alas! Still same same, so sex he quit. Married to someone else now and she has 3kids.

safarigirl:
all of this is superficial.

Omashola is a prime example of how being single for too long can mess with your head.

You are all these things and you can't seem to find a woman that can tick all the right options in your box? It is well. I wish you luck in awaiting this elusive queen of yours.

My job takes me Around the world. I need someone who is presentable, I am not in anyway rushing to marry, if my queen come over today so be it. But not a liability, more money to be made.

partnerbizn4:


lmao.

Guest ke

I was actually being polite. At that age, he probably sees her more like a 'guest' with a 'p'. I mean come on, he already has a fixed long term programme and a perfectly working budget for everything; from watching tv to toilet time; and she's not in it. Suddenly she comes in and disrupts his whole lifestyle, wanting a share of everything; from his bed to his food money, even to insensitively sitting on the toilet when he wants to use it. How isn't that pestilential?

Jgoldie:
God knows I hate stingy men....if you are stingy while dating,you will definitely be stingy while married...


Oops what do I know

work and earn your own money and you would never be affected with the stinginess of a tight handed husband.

mabea:
You must be a Yoruba man

Because he said he won't marry a cheap, materialistic imp?

Maybe cheap, materialistic imps are reserved for those from your area.

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you vex pack the 'guest' commot.

On point

New generation marriage come with strong advocacy for women right and the need to somehow obey their wishes as a man.


If you don't wake up to this reality your marriage is bound to crash in no time.

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you
vex pack the 'guest' commot.

Exactly what I'm experiencing in my marriage and I've made up my mind to quit.

safarigirl:
there are a lot of working class ladies that are ready to marry, so, looking for working class ladies cannot be the reason you won't marry anytime soon.

Perhaps you are looking for a product that is not in the market. You can not have it all, your clock is ticking.

. i wonder what u would say, if someone told a woman that she cannot have it all and settle because her biological clock is ticking.

TourismMan:
So a guy we used to watch football matches together got married around November last year and I was happy for him cos he was already 40 something. I'm so shocked to have learnt days ago that the marriage crashed in less than 3 months. In fact, the informant told me the marriage packed up precisely in the month of March this year for undisclosed reasons.

Honestly, cases like this scare us the singles big time. To me, no marriage is better than broken marriage. What has become our marriage these days?

That’s what happens when strangers marry each other. The fact is people don’t really know themselves, I mean strengths and weaknesses b4 getting married so little issues exposes the flaws of such unions. Though there are many reasons why a marriage might crash bt the truth is people don’t change they only reveal themselves more in marriage. Know your partner (kyp). Lol

ambivert27:
Maybe both of them are too stubborn. Two captains can't be in a ship

Dem be Messi and C.Ronaldo

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you vex pack the 'guest' commot.

TourismMan:
So a guy we used to watch football matches together got married around November last year and I was happy for him cos he was already 40 something. I'm so shocked to have learnt days ago that the marriage crashed in less than 3 months. In fact, the informant told me the marriage packed up precisely in the month of March this year for undisclosed reasons.

Honestly, cases like this scare us the singles big time. To me, no marriage is better than broken marriage. What has become our marriage these days?

Scare you what...?

For a start, the guy was you said 40+ which means you people gave him mouth until he ended up rushing into it in order to get rest from you people...

He didn't get to take his time to know her well nor give her time to know him well but only impatiently jumped into the very available flight...

He saw that opting out was the only option because maybe the relationship was built on falsehood and pretence that were sadly only but discovered afterwards...

olabrinks:
No I think mentally the average 25 year old man is not ready for marriage responsibilities. Marriage is not a joke, I think 28 to early 30s is okay. By then, the brain is developed enough to undertake real adult decisions. But yeah, I’m really against late marriages. I know it’s not always avoidable, but if it can be avoided then try.

It depends on the upbringing. 25 is mature enough, and you also get the added privilege of maturing with your wife. The beginning if marriage can be childish and turbulent, so it's ok to learn together. Again it depends on yhe individual. Some men are mature at 20 while some men never mature at all.

mysticwarrior:
work and earn your own money and you would never be affected with the stinginess of a tight handed husband.

You are entitled to your opinion...

I don't need you to quote me to prove your point