hmmm...Op we cannot stay here and draw hasty conclusions over the reason behind one's failed marriage!
It could have been anything!

Tobinrobin:
A friend of mine who got married this year at a really huge event center has divorced the husband. The marriage didn’t even last 4 months sef.

This is serious

Your marriage doesn't fail, you fail your marriage.
It doesn't matter how old you are, marriage will humble you.
Love alone doesn't sustain marriage.
Character, patience, self-control, forgiveness, boundaries, trust, encouragement, tolerance and dying to self.
I learnt a lot in marriage, thanks be to God for getting married as it's the second best decision I have ever made.

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you vex pack the 'guest' commot.

This is for those Ladies looking for a guy older than them by 10 years when they themselves are already in their 30s.

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you vex pack the 'guest' commot.

Good take. As an advanced bachelor, I can relate to this.

Maybe the hubby isn't handsome enough. That's what cause broken marriage these days. Improve your look

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you vex pack the 'guest' commot.

You don't even know who initiated the divorce and you centered it on the guy's age before getting married.

golddust6000:
thats not true. I am almost 40, I can beat my chest and say the money in my account is over 4million.
The reason why I will not marry anytime soon is because I am looking for working class lady, or self employed person. I am afraid to marry a jobless lady or a liability, these are the reason why I will not rush my marriage.

there are a lot of working class ladies that are ready to marry, so, looking for working class ladies cannot be the reason you won't marry anytime soon.

Perhaps you are looking for a product that is not in the market. You can not have it all, your clock is ticking.

So so true. I think the perfect age for marriage for guys is 28-36. Anything above that is pushing it, and you start becoming too picky and cautious.

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you vex pack the 'guest' commot.

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you vex pack the 'guest' commot.

Very true, a close relative of mine is having same problem....

BlowYourMind:
I don't know what you mean by poverty, but I married without job literally, and my marriage is still intact, now I have a joy through my inlaw, just marry a woman not prostitute or a materialistic imp.

You must be a Yoruba man

In this life, just pray God bless you with a good marriage

These days marriage na gamble

spencekat:
You don't even know who initiated the divorce and you centered it on the guy's age before getting married.

It doesn't matter. He will either send her packing or make life unbearable for her so she can pack out. Same result.

Touching

golddust6000:
thats not true. I am almost 40, I can beat my chest and say the money in my account is over 4million.
The reason why I will not marry anytime soon is because I am looking for working class lady, or self employed person. I am afraid to marry a jobless lady or a liability, these are the reason why I will not rush my marriage.

4M isn't money bro.
That's not up to the wedding budget of people.

They tried. Not easy to spend a week with uncomfortable spouse.

LongThickPenis:


Sincerely, without your in-laws, would you be able to boast of decent earnings to take care of your family. How does it feel knowing you in-laws set you up to take care of their daughter. Will you be free to speak your mind when they cross your boundary? Just asking

Hmmm

RisenPhoenix:

It doesn't matter. He will either send her packing or make life unbearable for her so she can pack out. Same result.

You can't say.

ekevwe:
They tried. Not easy to spend a week with uncomfortable spouse.

BlowYourMind:
I don't know what you mean by poverty, but I married without job literally, and my marriage is still intact, now I have a joy through my inlaw, just marry a woman not prostitute or a materialistic imp.

Would you mind sharing your story with the young ones on Nairaland. When I get to read several demands that must be met before marriage on this platform, I become flabberwhelmed and disappointed at the same time due to their myopic reasoning

We ought to understand that after when we got married; everything around the man had to change because you are now married, choice of food to eat, outings , the friends you keep , going out to watch football matches etc. You have to either carry her with you or you inform her earlier on your day schedule as it is key as you needed much time to spend with her after work or business. But some men still live in marriage as if they are still single; if a woman hate anything a such , it is when you ignore her to be doing what will please you without carrying her along.

Your wife must be your best friend.

Source from God

Understanding

Information

Respect

Trust

Spiritually incline

Prayers

These above nuggets will help to keep the marriage in-align with God's ordinances. Be bless...!

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you vex pack the 'guest' commot.

Nothing I mean nothing but the damn truth lol....

Okoyiboz3:


4M isn't money bro.
That's not up to the wedding budget of people.

You said some people. Well With 500k he can still tie the knot Different strokes for different folks.

Okoyiboz3:


4M isn't money bro.
That's not up to the wedding budget of people.

But many people have wedded with less than that in their accounts.

Azzin,what should even crash a marriage except infidelity? Marriage nowadays is more like secondary school dating...

BlowYourMind:
I don't know what you mean by poverty, but I married without job literally, and my marriage is still intact, now I have a joy through my inlaw, just marry a woman not prostitute or a materialistic imp.

What of d ones with all d money and it still crash..money shld not always be d yardstick..
This 5factors may help out
Must be born again
Good character
Check compatibility
Companionship
Capacity..

dannybrasky:

You said some people. Well With 500k he can still tie the knot Different strokes for different folks.

Exactly!

Then please make sure you marry within your age range. Precisely over 30, don’t start talking about fertility or old age blah blah. It’s very hard to find a young 20 something year old who has their shit together, esp in Nigeria. The problem with people is unrealistic expectations, this is why most of you will be on your death bed alone. You will meet that working class lady but she will not be physically appealing, or she will be too bossy and independent. Wait until you are 60, that is when you will find the one.

golddust6000:
thats not true. I am almost 40, I can beat my chest and say the money in my account is over 4million.
The reason why I will not marry anytime soon is because I am looking for working class lady, or self employed person. I am afraid to marry a jobless lady or a liability, these are the reason why I will not rush my marriage.

hmmmm, he thinks marriage will be free of challenges, since they where married legally, for them not to be together is not a good thing, no matter the problem, God that instituted marriage will make it easier for couples to live together in peace, after all we have couples who have been together for years and still living peacefully.

safarigirl:
there are a lot of working class ladies that are ready to marry, so, looking for working class ladies cannot be the reason you won't marry anytime soon.

Perhaps you are looking for a product that is not in the market. You can not have it all, your clock is ticking.

everyone clock is ticking. I can tell you how it goes.
Moreover approaching Nigeria girl of this days eh. They look more aggressive when talking to them.
You won’t know I am 38 years old except I tell you, sister my clock is not ticking o, I am so handsome to the extend that if I walk pass group of opposite sex they always look me twice.
So I have all it takes to wait for my queen to arrive.

TourismMan:
So a guy we used to watch football matches together got married around November last year and I was happy for him cos he was already 40 something. I'm so shocked to have learnt days ago that the marriage crashed in less than 3 months. In fact, the informant told me the marriage packed up precisely in the month of March this year for undisclosed reasons.

Ogbeni,
Marriage is not for "kids". If they are not family oriented, let them maintain status quo till an intervention comes from themselves, religious circles or extended family.

This is still an unconfirmed story, come with facts next time.