sisisioge:
Dearest Lord in heaven! May God bless you maamis...you guys rock

SteveOfu:
My dad refused me getting married to the love of my life then saying he is too old( 34yrs) and much exposed for my age .He was a personal assistant to Abia state Governor then. I was only 16 and felt I have arrived been fiancé to such person.He cherished me. Truthfully,he never touched me.

Few weeks after,,he traveled for business promising to convince my dad on his return. My father's refusal made me stubborn, I didn't want be around my home cos their over Christian life was making them see everything in another view,i cannot confide in my late mum without getting this look of you must be like a rev in this home. so i ran to my girlfriend's house. She was about 4yrs older than I was then but my body structure made us look like age mates. She convinced me to follow her to PH for her birthday party. Didn't know I was been arranged for her boyfriend's brother.
I was drunk ,first time anyways and he took advantage of me. By morning he was apologizing and professing love and wanting to date me... begged me to take him to my home I refused. I was confused,the love of my life is coming home the next week.how will I face him. I went home,my parents were angry with me but still didn't care to know how I feel, what I wanted but happy I came home alive.

Two weeks later I noticed I was pregnant,i opened up to my man and he said"mummy,do not ever ever tell anyone what happened,this child is mine and it's going to be reason your dad will let me marry you." We hide the pregnancy till it was 6 months,then he came again but my dad stubbornly turned him down again claiming my people don't give out a pregnant woman in marriage till I deliver.

After the delivery of my son whose birthday is today too ,my dad said he is free to marry me but without the boy. He made some underground plan to send us to his mum abroad if after talking to my dad with some relations and it didn't work out. He traveled to his village(Item) to get an uncle to help talk to my dad only for him to come back poisoned,he died two days after 6 months after,i got admission for a preliminary course in fedpoly campus. My parents took my child and I went back to school.avoided men like plague,finished my study then proceeded for my OND. After my OND finals, I went home for my aunty's burial,there I met my daughter's father. He tried everything for us to date and I refused then went ahead to tell him my story. He felt pity on me (so I thought Sha). He started visiting me in school more often, giving me listening ears and all that I lack from home.
I decided to give him a chance.

One month into the relationship, I took in, told him and he asked me to get an abortion because he is from my late aunty's compound,I ran to my cousin who is also his cousin and he called for a meeting. This guy who has been pestering me, traveling all the way from Abuja to Oko to see had the guts to tell everyone present that i am a good girl but he has a fiancé he wants to marry.
When asked the way forward, he said he will do what my people call "agbachaa afo ime"(no English na for it but a kinda way of he has nothing to do with the child and the amount for that was 20k then). I didn't know if I should start crying. I cursed him in tears.
My mum said her pain was she nursed this boy in question while babysitting her elder sister's children in that compound, his own mother pleaded with him to take me as his wife but he was adamant. My dad rejected the money,we left. He warned him never to smell our compound.

I had my daughter 29th January 2004 ,her dad had accident that day, shop burnt, container lost in the sea, the girl left him one month later for his friend then he ran back to me. Begged for marriage but no, not for me, all I did was lift the curse, out of joy he said he will never get married till I do and he kept the promise. My mum started pestering me to accept a suitor, to please her I did in 2013 and by 2016 the marriage ended.
So now,i am happily single.I don't ever want to get married.

This is how I became a single mum of 2 champions,though I will never let anyone I know go through it..

culf:
Enough respect to all single mothers out there. May God strengthen you all and put permanent smiles in your face

SteveOfu:
My dad refused me getting married to the love of my life then saying he is too old( 34yrs) and much exposed for my age .He was a personal assistant to Abia state Governor then. I was only 16 and felt I have arrived been fiancé to such person.He cherished me. Truthfully,he never touched me.

Few weeks after,,he traveled for business promising to convince my dad on his return. My father's refusal made me stubborn, I didn't want be around my home cos their over Christian life was making them see everything in another view,i cannot confide in my late mum without getting this look of you must be like a rev in this home. so i ran to my girlfriend's house. She was about 4yrs older than I was then but my body structure made us look like age mates. She convinced me to follow her to PH for her birthday party. Didn't know I was been arranged for her boyfriend's brother.
I was drunk ,first time anyways and he took advantage of me. By morning he was apologizing and professing love and wanting to date me... begged me to take him to my home I refused. I was confused,the love of my life is coming home the next week.how will I face him. I went home,my parents were angry with me but still didn't care to know how I feel, what I wanted but happy I came home alive.

Two weeks later I noticed I was pregnant,i opened up to my man and he said"mummy,do not ever ever tell anyone what happened,this child is mine and it's going to be reason your dad will let me marry you." We hide the pregnancy till it was 6 months,then he came again but my dad stubbornly turned him down again claiming my people don't give out a pregnant woman in marriage till I deliver.

After the delivery of my son whose birthday is today too ,my dad said he is free to marry me but without the boy. He made some underground plan to send us to his mum abroad if after talking to my dad with some relations and it didn't work out. He traveled to his village(Item) to get an uncle to help talk to my dad only for him to come back poisoned,he died two days after 6 months after,i got admission for a preliminary course in fedpoly campus. My parents took my child and I went back to school.avoided men like plague,finished my study then proceeded for my OND. After my OND finals, I went home for my aunty's burial,there I met my daughter's father. He tried everything for us to date and I refused then went ahead to tell him my story. He felt pity on me (so I thought Sha). He started visiting me in school more often, giving me listening ears and all that I lack from home.
I decided to give him a chance.

One month into the relationship, I took in, told him and he asked me to get an abortion because he is from my late aunty's compound,I ran to my cousin who is also his cousin and he called for a meeting. This guy who has been pestering me, traveling all the way from Abuja to Oko to see had the guts to tell everyone present that i am a good girl but he has a fiancé he wants to marry.
When asked the way forward, he said he will do what my people call "agbachaa afo ime"(no English na for it but a kinda way of he has nothing to do with the child and the amount for that was 20k then). I didn't know if I should start crying. I cursed him in tears.
My mum said her pain was she nursed this boy in question while babysitting her elder sister's children in that compound, his own mother pleaded with him to take me as his wife but he was adamant. My dad rejected the money,we left. He warned him never to smell our compound.

I had my daughter 29th January 2004 ,her dad had accident that day, shop burnt, container lost in the sea, the girl left him one month later for his friend then he ran back to me. Begged for marriage but no, not for me, all I did was lift the curse, out of joy he said he will never get married till I do and he kept the promise. My mum started pestering me to accept a suitor, to please her I did in 2013 and by 2016 the marriage ended.
So now,i am happily single.I don't ever want to get married.

This is how I became a single mum of 2 champions,though I will never let anyone I know go through it..

DESAN:
I was 15 since in secondary school wen I met him, his parents never supported our relationship cos am Yoruba and his igbo. I got beaten up by my parent so many times cos each tym I visited him his parents will catch me away and come to my house to report. I got pregnant at17 wen I was about to write waec thank God I schooled in the north I was able to write my exams with pregnancy and his parents denied ever knowing me during the period. All these tym he didn't deny the pregnancy but wen asked if he will marry me his answer was always if God says yes. Three years later my parent decided to relocate to Lagos we both agreed to rent an apartment I gave him money but he spend it but kept showing me house without toliet facility knowing I won't accept. He finally left for school and I couldn't stay back in Jos cos he took all my life savings and I can't also stay in his family house cos his parent didn't accept me ND my child even after 3yrs . I had no choice but to travel to Lagos he then used my relocation as an excuse for breakup and he never paid his daughter's school fees . Am a graduate now and my dota is 21 a 300L computer science student at kwasu.
I tot I had learnt my lessons and I feels my mistakes shouldn't stop me from loving again but guys always gave excuses like , I like u would have love to marry u but becos u have a child I can't cos of my family so I feel shld gave love any chance with a elder divorcee hmmmm the greatest mistake of my life . After waiting for so long thinking my wait was going to be celebration hmmmm it's been sadness for the past three years. I got to a point of depression but for the love of my kids I can't kill mysef. This man made me stop my banking job, I got pregnant had anoda gal, my brothers weren't allow to visit me , cos to him I might invited my bf to d house in pretence my elder brother came once he walk him out, my sisters he wanted to sleep with . No visitors are allowed to visit me, he chooses d tv station I will watch and the days I will sleep. He buys everything home so I can't step out of d house, I can't go to church cos pastor will toast me . It's was crazy he will lock up the house wen going out and I got physical abuse as well. I left him last year. Life has been so so difficult asam yet to find a job and I have two lovely daughters to take care. It's not been easy but I pray next year will be a better one for us.

MumNatasha11:
Having a child out of wedlock was never my plan, in all I don't regret keeping my daughter. During my youth service, one of my course mate in school who was asking me out then and I never gave in to his advances, charted me up on Facebook, we started talking, as weeks passed, months passed I fell in love with him, thou he wasn't in the country then. Everything was moving on smoothly and happily until he finally came home December 2015. I had to travel to umuahia, Abia state to stay with him, after some days he proposed to me and I accepted the ring because i loved him so very much, We started making plans on meeting his mum because his dad was late, each time we fix a date to go and see his mum ,she comes up with one excuse or the pretending to be ill. After several attempt to introduce me to his mum, none was successful, she neither wanted to see me nor speak with me on phone, he then decided to carry on with the plan without his mum. After visiting my parents with his elder brother and friends for introduction, he later collected the marriage list, before then I started having symptoms of pregnancy, I told him about it, we thought that with the pregnancy she will have no reason to say no. When he choose the date for the traditional marriage, one night I was talking with my mum my supposed mother-in-law called me and said "you will only marry my son over my dead body" with the fear because I just lost my only sister that month, my mum told me that the marriage won't hold, she can't loose her only surviving child again. I told him about my mum's decision, he never acted like he was bothered about it, I felt he would have been influenced by his mum. After 3 months my parents learnt about my pregnancy, she never gave me a breathing space, I went through hell in that house because I was pregnant, I ran out of the house not knowing where exactly to go, with the little money I had with me I rented a room in port Harcourt, Rivers state. After delivery life became so hard that i had go around washing dishes and doing laundry for people with my daughter at my back, I saved money to rent a shop and start selling rubber slippers, when I couldn't renew my house rent I was sent packing out of the house, till date I have been sleeping inside my shop with my daughter, after several armed robbery attacks in the shop, thank God I wasn't raped, nor my daughter injured. I thank God I never gave in to the advice of some friends to abort the baby, she's my reason for living, I struggle and hustle in life is for her, I don't think I would give love a chance anytime soon. God bless all single mothers, the lord is our strength

DESAN:
Amen

Welcomme:
Too many lies just to win $300....
See many coded Olosho up there claiming responsible single mothers...Tueh! From their profile pix u go don know. One even claim she dey work for super market dey receive 10k to feed her baby...See her profile pix, u don't need an angel to tell you say na O..L..O..S..H..O she be...

cerpvad:
At OP, can you also create a thread on Single Father Challenge. Single Fathers too deserve to be listened to

Efewestern:


How many single fathers do we have? please give it to these beautiful women, they are trying.

cerpvad:
Fairnes should not be determined by numbers.

culf:



wao, but why giving up? in life, never say never

GrabHisBalls:
What's not funny? Was I supposed to use a sad emoji?

SteveOfu:
It's not easy.

Blazing12345:
Well, for me it just about man's inhumanity to man and I'm hoping God will see me through. Got married to an Igbo man and everything became a nightmare immediately after my third child.

My womb got ruptured when I was in my ninth month and my womb was removed though the baby survived and this man abandoned me in the hospital coupled with the fact that I gave birth to a girl, making it 2 girls and a boy.

My family rally round and paid my bills because it was through CS, came back home he has already moved out with my first two kids and denied me access to them,all along it's seem I wasn't observant enough to noticed he was keeping a mistress and planning something serious with her. Because he is living with her now.

I reached out to his family and they are like their brother needs more children and male kids which I can't give him now. So I should forget about him. So I became a single mum just like that,catering for the new born baby alone.

Well,my problem now is how to sue him for all the demages he has caused me and also retrieved the other two kids from him.Getting a competent lawyer will cost good money,which I'm still working towards it

This is my previous thread though about this

https://www.nairaland.com/4974754/how-go

CC PerfectMatchNG

IyaTola:

I was naive and stupid at the same time

Fountainofyouth:



Then create a thread for men nah, cos you seem pained, create a thread and monetise it so that it will be fair.