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Kendumazy:
That's how u na dey talk. Second chance will turn to third chance, from third chance to fourth chances. May God help you anyway.

Butterscotch92:
I know I'm going to receive a lot of bashing here but I don't mind as I'm looking for solution. I've been following other related threads on the topic and it seems most men don't forgive women that cheated on them.

I cheated on my man. This happened over a year ago when the relationship was going through a rough patch. Actually I didn't set out to cheat and never planned it.

In fact the person it happened with was a person I was confiding in when I was trying to get solutions to my relationship issues.

This person was my married colleague that I joined to work in his car. I thought I could get mature advice by telling him. I was weak and emotionally down and on one of such days of crying to him it happened in his car.

It happened like 3 more times because I go to work with him and come back with him. But I was overcome with guilt (because he was married and for cheating) that I had to stop. But my mistake was that I didn't cut him off completely.

I remained cordial friends with him since he is a colleague and I stopped joining his car. He also moved to another branch. He called occasionally to try his luck but I never gave in. Somehow my man became suspicious by his calls and one thing led to the other and I had to confess.

My man said he has forgiven but can't get back together again. I have been following other threads with similar topics and I saw that men find it very hard to forgive a woman that once cheated.

In this case I'm truly sorry, I have learnt my lessons and I can never make that kind of mistake again. I don't love the man in question, I never wanted anything from him apart from advice from the onset, I stopped on my own, I only remained friends because he was my colleague. I love my man and will do anything to keep him and win his trust back. I'm not a cheat by nature.

I'm heartbroken and filled with guilt and regret. I can't talk to anyone in my circle for fear of condemnation because I'm wrong in every area.

Please is there any hope for me? How do I go about winning him back? How do I convince him that I truly regret my actions? How do I help him heal?

Great6Pack:
The worst set of hypocrites in this world are men. You can go Bleep as you like either as married man or while dating but it is a taboo for her to do it.

Let it be known here that I am not in anyway in support of cheating while married or courting. But let the truth be told, if you access 10 men, married or courting, at least 6 of them had at one time had sex with someone not their mate. One thing is sure, if this babe is the one that the man confessed to, she will happily forgive him and move ahead with the relationship.

Why can't men sometimes do same. Especially when you know your mate isn't promiscuous but was overtaken by moment of weakness?

Sis, please gather yourself together and concentrate on your work and life. I give you 3 months, a RESPONSIBLE guy will be dying to be your man. And if your present guy (soon to be ex) comes back, tell him he was in the past but you have moved on.

Please abuse me ONLY if you know you are innocent and never cheat. God is watching!!!

Apus:
Honestly, I don't know for him. But putting myself in his shoes, it will be very hard since sex is involved.

My advice is for you to try healing cos you sound really messed up. Forgive yourself. Increase your worth. Be content that he has forgiven you. Hopefully he might come around.

I wish you best of luck.

JERRY1925:
Sometimes when a man genuinely love you.. He wants you just to himself. Your body becomes his pride.. Because in most cases that's the only thing a man values in a woman.. It's priceless knowing you have a girl or a wife no other man can touch.
It's priceless knowing u have a girl u can leave for weeks and she's intact.
But for women it's different, u don't really value our body that much.. U value our possessions, our future.. Our strength and if we fall short, u change course.

Well, to my answer.. If u truly love your man.. Stay away from your friend...stay so far away.
Give your man some month..prove to him you've stayed far. Prove to him it won't happen again..you can do this, by giving yourself time to heal and also giving him some space to miss u. He will come around. But give him time to think. And don't give him room for second thought.

theButterfly:
According to your post, he already said he forgave you (which is respectable of him), but that he doesn't want a relationship with you anymore (which shows he's a man w| standards). You can't expect any sane person to continue a r|ship w| someone who has cheated on them (had sex with another party) not once but four times. Girl, put yourself in his shoes.

Trust is very difficult to repair once it's broken.

Move on and learn from this.

Butterscotch92:
I know I deserve all the bashing I'm receiving here and more. But I wonder why it's very difficult for most to believe that I'm actually repentant about the whole thing. I know I really hurt my man which is part of my pain. I can never repeat such action no matter the circumstances with what I've learnt and I believe if I am lucky enough to get a second chance I'll be a much better version of myself and be forever grateful. It happened in the car because I wouldn't have agreed to follow him elsewhere by then it would be premeditated. I rejected every of his attempt to meet him anywhere else. Those were moments of weakness although it cannot be justified.

chiomzy86:
Blame your big mouth..u didn't offend him,u offended God,so u should confess only to God and ask for his forgiveness. The guy u dey confess to has been cheating as well,but he was wise to keep it to himself. I guess u HV learnt your lesson the hard way

Butterscotch92:
I know I'm going to receive a lot of bashing here but I don't mind as I'm looking for solution. I've been following other related threads on the topic and it seems most men don't forgive women that cheated on them.

I cheated on my man. This happened over a year ago when the relationship was going through a rough patch. Actually I didn't set out to cheat and never planned it.

In fact the person it happened with was a person I was confiding in when I was trying to get solutions to my relationship issues.

This person was my married colleague that I joined to work in his car. I thought I could get mature advice by telling him. I was weak and emotionally down and on one of such days of crying to him it happened in his car.

It happened like 3 more times because I go to work with him and come back with him. But I was overcome with guilt (because he was married and for cheating) that I had to stop. But my mistake was that I didn't cut him off completely.

I remained cordial friends with him since he is a colleague and I stopped joining his car. He also moved to another branch. He called occasionally to try his luck but I never gave in. Somehow my man became suspicious by his calls and one thing led to the other and I had to confess.

My man said he has forgiven but can't get back together again. I have been following other threads with similar topics and I saw that men find it very hard to forgive a woman that once cheated.

In this case I'm truly sorry, I have learnt my lessons and I can never make that kind of mistake again. I don't love the man in question, I never wanted anything from him apart from advice from the onset, I stopped on my own, I only remained friends because he was my colleague. I love my man and will do anything to keep him and win his trust back. I'm not a cheat by nature.

I'm heartbroken and filled with guilt and regret. I can't talk to anyone in my circle for fear of condemnation because I'm wrong in every area.

Please is there any hope for me? How do I go about winning him back? How do I convince him that I truly regret my actions? How do I help him heal?

Butterscotch92:
I know I'm going to receive a lot of bashing here but I don't mind as I'm looking for solution. I've been following other related threads on the topic and it seems most men don't forgive women that cheated on them.

I cheated on my man. This happened over a year ago when the relationship was going through a rough patch. Actually I didn't set out to cheat and never planned it.

In fact the person it happened with was a person I was confiding in when I was trying to get solutions to my relationship issues.

This person was my married colleague that I joined to work in his car. I thought I could get mature advice by telling him. I was weak and emotionally down and on one of such days of crying to him it happened in his car.

It happened like 3 more times because I go to work with him and come back with him. But I was overcome with guilt (because he was married and for cheating) that I had to stop. But my mistake was that I didn't cut him off completely.

I remained cordial friends with him since he is a colleague and I stopped joining his car. He also moved to another branch. He called occasionally to try his luck but I never gave in. Somehow my man became suspicious by his calls and one thing led to the other and I had to confess.

My man said he has forgiven but can't get back together again. I have been following other threads with similar topics and I saw that men find it very hard to forgive a woman that once cheated.

In this case I'm truly sorry, I have learnt my lessons and I can never make that kind of mistake again. I don't love the man in question, I never wanted anything from him apart from advice from the onset, I stopped on my own, I only remained friends because he was my colleague. I love my man and will do anything to keep him and win his trust back. I'm not a cheat by nature.

I'm heartbroken and filled with guilt and regret. I can't talk to anyone in my circle for fear of condemnation because I'm wrong in every area.

Please is there any hope for me? How do I go about winning him back? How do I convince him that I truly regret my actions? How do I help him heal?

hkidola00:
dont annoy me pls ,which repent?.. I forgave my gf who was intimate wit her cousin 2wice,a year later now, she's back cheating on me wit another guy, just b'cos I aren't picked her call for two months... she started dating another fast fast... if ur husband abandon u for two months, I'm sure u will hop on another dicckkksss again.. idiots

DownChelsea:
pls fall in love with and marry me. Since you will forgive wife

Godsonjolly:
Even if no one forgives you, God has forgiven you and I too forgive you lol. No girl would confess, but you did. Tho you wrong but there's no need judging you with that. What is done is done and what is gone is gone. It's really hard to let go cos we humans. It will only take great love and strength to forget such. Just be yourself, forgive yourself, enjoy yourself, don't get bothered over the issue dear. Afterall men do marry a repentant prostitute. And you not a prostitute. Since you have changed and admit your faults, try talk to your ex, make him see reasons that u changed and won't ever commit such, u can also pray for God to touch him or do whatever you believe in. But if he doesn't, leave him. A better person will come by and won't even look at your past. Be good dear, be safe and stop hurting yourself. Love doesn't get exhausted at all. It's enough for anyone who really wants it. Be good.

Butterscotch92:
I understand. We have talked about this. But it's difficult to move on with the guilt, regret and sense of loss. And I want to do anything to help him heal.

OlaitanAkanbi:
If you truly love the guy find him go after him and beg him let him trust you again don’t hide anything from him let him have access to your phone and contact so he won’t be scared of you cheating on him again go down on your knees beg him ( to find true love this days are very hard )

GTWeb:
What I will advice you now is if you suspect he cheats too.

Or have no idea whether he cheats too.

Get yourself on the page below:
https://smartenwave.com

From there, you guys can trade by barter, forget things and refresh.

Promise to eachother never to do that again.


My 2kobo

Erums:
This year has taught me alot on relationship. I dated a lady since 8th Dec 2018, she cheated on me with numerous guys at different times, I was broken, really shattered...
I forgave her.. But trusting wasn't easy.

Now instead of her to help amend back the trust.

She now starts keeping tabs with male bestie
Having relations with her married ex
Even comparing me to new man she met and saying that he such a gentle man and knows how to care for a lady.

That is he wasn't AS by genotype she would have left me fr him..

Now that was when my eyes really cleared.. I have lost confidence because I was literally doing everything to convince her otherwise not to take dat step.

Well I braced up... Took control of the relationship, bleeped her like mad.... Break up, make up, break up, make up again like 5 times...

Now I'm done... Im. Leaving...


Lesson of this is ; don't hurt people dat truly love u, love is dangerous, if they get so hurt it can be miserable for u...

I just made her know dere is no future and she started making plans of how to get pregnant for me....

I let her know I'm. Done... Even if she get pregnant by any means me... I can't trust her

I broke up with her 9th Dec 2019....i year of good lessons to ever live with...


Let him go... Cos u done alot of damage.... Well u repentant... Fixing the trust back is gonna be difficult...

Katsuke:
Well in your bid to sound like a strong man, you actually came out as a weak one, sorry to say.
Beta Male for that fact, I'm not bashing, just stating the obvious

OlaitanAkanbi:
If you truly love the guy find him go after him and beg him let him trust you again don’t hide anything from him let him have access to your phone and contact so he won’t be scared of you cheating on him again go down on your knees beg him ( to find true love this days are very hard )