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Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Nobody: 9:27am On Dec 15, 2019 |
Triniti:Some people tried that and they not alive to tell the story. Some will snuff out d life from you before you leave them. Next thing we see on Fp, Man Kills Wife. She should escape first. 13 Likes |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by tabithababy(f): 9:36am On Dec 15, 2019 |
Sorry dear, you married your enemy 3 Likes |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Triniti(m): 9:40am On Dec 15, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe:chai, I didn’t see anywhere she mentioned that her life is under threat. You should put your emotions in check and give pragmatic advice 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Nobody: 9:44am On Dec 15, 2019 |
Triniti:Well, one gotta b careful. U know how some humans can get |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by bukatyne(f): 9:53am On Dec 15, 2019 |
Sanchez01: This, I agree with 100%. Thinking of proving anything to him means his opinions of you still controls you. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Chubhie: 10:03am On Dec 15, 2019 |
You need time off to heal. Since your husband is toxic, I doubt he would watch you walk away without attempting to damage you more. You need your family's support, a good lawyer and a solid plan. Follow due processes inorder to avoid more chaos going forward. Everyone deserves to be happy. You will find happiness again. All the very best. 6 Likes |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by COdeGenesis: 10:04am On Dec 15, 2019 |
Kindheartedd: You have gone through a lot. Your travails are quite touching. However, you cant get past this alone, you need friends and family to be behind you, trust me. Think it through. I can talk you through this, it's the least i could do. Everyone deserves to be happy but make sure your family are in the know, you might end up killing your parents or siblings if you decide to go underground without informing them |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by lereinter(m): 10:10am On Dec 15, 2019 |
One sided story So who we be fucking you now? 6 Likes |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by LadySarah: 10:41am On Dec 15, 2019 |
What abt the kids.You cant cut him off drom his kids even though you are trying to heal. |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by 24kmagic: 10:48am On Dec 15, 2019 |
Kindheartedd: This has nothing to do with Christianity or religion. I fall into that "casual Christian" category. I don't go to church nor read the Bible, but not many active Christians live a more just life than me. I was born and brought up a Christian, but somethings about Christianity and religion as a whole doesn't feel right to me. My religion right now is HUMANITY. Your husband lacks humanity. I can't treat a human being like this, not to talk of my wife and mother of my kids. I wish you well in whatever you decide to do but like someone above said, do this legally before it backfires. 18 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Nobody: 11:07am On Dec 15, 2019 |
Take a deep breath first. You have every right to leave a marriage that you do not find yourself happy in, but abandoning family, friends, business and everything you call home because of a soon to be ex-spouse is like cutting your nose to spite your face. Just get a good lawyer and divorce him amicably. Contrary to what Africa Magic always teaches, divorce need not always be bitter and acrimonous. For your future peace of mind (after your anger at being 'insulted' has died down; as it will), take heed. 6 Likes |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by ZiriMane(m): 1:02pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Kindheartedd: You want to hurt him by teaching him a hard lesson but I only see you getting hurt. When he sue's you for kidnap you would realise you weren't smart after all and he's words 'fish brain' would ring in your head. Don't hurt your kids by denying them of fatherly affection cos it's obvious from your plan they don't lack it much. File for Divorce at court and obtain exclusive rights of being a single parent to your kids as a smart woman would do (but I don't support that as I feel they need him also in their lives) instead of planning to kidnap them. You may say; but they are my kids! How is this kidnapping ¿ If I were his lawyer, with this your plan I'd make sure u stay in jail for so long and make you never see your kids again. I know no one deserves to live a depressed life, but wisdom is the most principal thing. 11 Likes |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by zed7: 1:36pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Whatever makes you happy. I have learnt to always support men till proven otherwise. There are lot of bad men around no doubt but women are known to be dramatic and blow things out of proportion. Anyway, you have the right to leave if you feel that's the best decision for you but I ain't calling your husband names till I hear his own side. 3 Likes |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by JONNYSPUTE(m): 1:41pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
ZiriMane:.. Wisdom. |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Prognose: 1:51pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
And these ones would have done pre-wedding pics and recited love poems to each other. My love, my sunshine, my bright morning star,my tolotolo. Lol. Marriage is sh!t hard work. Not for babies. Not for sissies. And no, love doesn't exist. Not the way we practice it here anyway. If you're reading this and you want to marry , Marry with sense. Not with love. Marry like you're taking an exam. Study your partner. Test them! Don't think it's old fashioned, do it. Else at the end you will cry. 10 Likes |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by samguru(m): 1:53pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
I don't want to be judgemental on your ordeal,all I can say is divorce/separation is not the solution. From your narrations,your husband is proud,pompous and domineering and I strongly believe all these traits must have surfaced during your courtship but you thought you can cope. My sister,you can not prove any point to a man that has good income, at worst he will get another woman and sting you further. Please,if the insults/assaults are not life-threatening,please bring in your pastor or those who he respects alot for intervention. If you quit and things go worst for you nko? My sister, if not for any other thing consider the plight of your kids. My advice Whenever he starts his madness just trivialize everything and turn his negative energy to your positive energy. Woman is the owner of the family, man is just the head and it is your responsibility to make your marriage work. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by TheArchangel(f): 2:10pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
samguru:It is not the responsibility of a woman to make a marriage work because the woman did not marry herself, rather It is the couple's responsibilities to make their union work. Men has been telling women this ridiculous bullcraps for aeons by neglecting their God-given responsibility and resting it solely on women. I bet If this was a man complaining, you would have told him pointblank to send the wife away. @Op, tell him you are taking a Christmas vacation. Use the opportunity to finalize your plans. Do not do anything hasty. Use your vacation time to file for a separation and custody of the kids. Get a nice good Love Machine and give your self series of orgasms first cos lack of a good old sex can becloud judgement and insight. 7 Likes |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by BuhariNaWah: 2:14pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Please what kind of job do you do from home? I want to learn. Kindheartedd: |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by ZiriMane(m): 2:17pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
TheArchangel:you want make person pikin (Christain for that matter) begin dey masturbate upandan.wush kine archangel u be like dis? 2 Likes |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by samguru(m): 2:18pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
TheArchangel: Madam are you a feminist? If yes I rest my case |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by TheArchangel(f): 3:19pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
samguru:What do you mean? Did you see that word written anywhere near my write up? Mentioning feminism seems to assuage your lack of clever rebuttal. ZiriMane:Christian I have no idea what that means in Nigeria, all I know is that she needs sex with pure climateric orgasms for initial overhauling of her quest for vengeance . With all the things going on, she may not have had a glorious climax with her husband. I still reiterate that orgasms resets memory and improves insight whether aided by a pen!s, tongue or a v!brator. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by AfroHistorian: 3:38pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Are you in Lagos? Tune your Radio to Nigeria Info from 11pm - 4am (Monday night, Thursday night, Friday night). Love and Life Lounge, put a call through, you will most definitely get help. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by Graxie(f): 4:06pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Please don't run away with the kids, go for Christmas holiday with your kids to your parents house, from there file for divorce. Follow due process. Be wise. 3 Likes |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by okpalaAnambra: 4:20pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Please leave....life is too short to live in sorrow |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by okpalaAnambra: 4:20pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Leave, run and never turn back |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by soberdrunk(m): 4:20pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
I was believing until the "celibate for life" part.... One thing I have noticed is that the most women go for "my type" instead of men that truly love them and I feel this is one of the major reasons for high rate of divorce...... 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by NaijadrivaCars: 4:23pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
daddytime: As a married man, I won't judge based on her narrative alone. She could be the problem. Hear both sides first. cc: Kindheartedd 4 Likes |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by michoim(m): 4:24pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Are you also not greedy, why are you asking for joint account? 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by airminem(f): 4:24pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Your last paragraph gives the answer. Take care |
Re: Finally, I Have Decided To Leave Him by uzoexcel(m): 4:25pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
hmmm...this marriage thingy is scary. All I wanna ask is "did he start this his behaviour before/after marriage" or he had this traits before proposing and you ignored it? did u guys date at all? 2 Likes 1 Share |
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