Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

Doing your thing to "teach him a lesson" is never the way to go.

We cannot grasp the true state of your home without hearing his side,but I'm sure you cannot lie to yourself...if leaving him is the best option,then leave him but don't deny him of his kids, it's better you go through the legal channel than absconding with your kids.......Your sanity and happiness are paramount..I wish you all the best

Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

with your narrations above I would conclude that you both never had marriage but competition.
If truly that you are a (Good Christian) you will know what to do next, the voice is within you
You know the truth, we here don't.
I advice you take decisions that will not leave ur conscience forever haunted and cause you more depressed
Any one may tell you what to do but will not bear or share the consequences with you
Let's talk more (07052811669)

Kindheartedd:
I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

That's an illegal deprivement.

That line "he is owing me a lot of money...." That is were the problem lies. Why would he be indebted to you and you think you are a good wife? His money, your money are for you both after marriage. Imagine if it is the other way....and he says this. Entitlements will start rolling out.... It's not just your husband at fault in this whole issue...you too have faults! Both of you should bring down egos and make this home work for your happiness and your kids.

daddytime:
Judging by your narrative above, I support your moving on if it'd help restore your sanity, save you from further abuses, and eventual death, because, e better make person no get husband or wife than to get the one wey go make am dey fear to go house everyday.

However, I'd advise you never to keep the kids away from their father. How you intend to achieve that? I do not know...

Please, do not make the kids the dupe of daddy and mummy's failed relationship.

Stay safe and strong.

What correlation does Christianity has with been responsible in marriage? What do you mean by being a casual Christian? Religion and been responsible are two different thing. Please keep your advise to yourself, if a person( Man or Woman) is irresponsible it has nothing to do with religion. Why do we Africans ascribe religion to everything?

Lemme me give you small sense, while you move out atleast let your people know cos if you move out Without letting no one know is putting your husband in danger cos surely your parents will ask him to provide your existence if he hasn't done something fetish with u, since you too are not in good terms.

My advice though.

Husband oya come forward and say your version. We the elders are here.
Peace to anyone who finds it.

Marriage is full of ups and downs and it has no special definition. However, the institutions called marriage isnt complete without the parties going thru tests of times.



Shalom!

24kmagic:


This has nothing to do with Christianity or religion. I fall into that "casual Christian" category. I don't go to church nor read the Bible, but not many active Christians live a more just life than me. I was born and brought up a Christian, but somethings about Christianity and religion as a whole doesn't feel right to me. My religion right now is HUMANITY. Your husband lacks humanity. I can't treat a human being like this, not to talk of my wife and mother of my kids.

I wish you well in whatever you decide to do but like someone above said, do this legally before it backfires.

Self-righteousness. On what grounds have you deemed this to be the case?

Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

I support you on this one and I know a lot of men will support your move.

In my book, we are first Humans before we are anything.

this oe don make small maney she don grow wings, idots like you are the reason some useless men just assasinate you for no reason. learn to use your brain na

EllemGiggy:
with your narrations above I would conclude that you both never had marriage but competition.
If truly that you are a (Good Christian) you will know what to do next, the voice is within you
You know the truth, we here don't.
I advice you take decisions that will not leave ur conscience forever haunted and cause you more depressed
Any one may tell you what to do but will not bear or share the consequences with you
Let's talk more (07052xxx)

Why do u have to drop a phone number? Ogbeni drope your advise and move on like everyone else.

Quorax:


Why do u have to drop a phone number? Ogbeni drove your advise and move on like everyone else.

Lol

Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

You probably got involved with a 'Narcissist'. Read up on it if you haven't.

Also, give yourself time to heal. And don't give up on men and relationships because of one man's toxic attitude.

You deserve better.

Wrong move! You want to kidnap the kids and run!! He will go after you with the courts and police. The legal thing to do is to file for divorce -and you guys can share equal rights to the children. Remember that they are also his kids too.

daddytime:
Judging by your narrative above, I support your moving on if it'd help restore your sanity, save you from further abuses, and eventual death, because, e better make person no get husband or wife than to get the one wey go make am dey fear to go house everyday.

However, I'd advise you never to keep the kids away from their father. How you intend to achieve that? I do not know...

Please, do not make the kids the dupe of daddy and mummy's failed relationship.

Stay safe and strong.

We can't just conclude because we haven't heard from your husband... ...because you might say your own story just to sweet us,but madam,you only told us the bad words your husband told you,while not tell us the bad words you eventually told your husband too....because we all knows women have bad mouth .....

If there is one thing I have learnt from my personal experiences and for all the number of years I have spent on earth, is not to jugde by just one side of the story. People have a way of painting pitiful pictures to deceive and to earn undeserved sympathy from the general public. I am not saying you are lying, I am just trying to say I dont have the luxury of hearing from you husband to aid a more balance argument. But if the truth is as you've put it, I wish you well.

Bleep go soon hungry you ..... you go tire

Dear mom how am I going to pay you for what you've done for me

my dad is a coward he left I and my siblings to my mom to nurtured us till we grow- 2pac shakur


God bless all mothers, you took a wise decision. I support you but will your kids love to grow without their dad?


have you called for reconciliation of attitude between your family and his family. you would be blamed later if your family is not aware of your whereabout and if you haven't tell them about his behaviours all this while


so my advise is if you must take a step, make sure your family are aware of all the things you've been savaging

Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

The way I see it. You married a superior man with superior earnings becouse woman just want that and now you are sad becouse you can't manupulate him and control him. He makes more money than you and you want a joint account so that you will have access to his money. You want to keep a lifestyle that you have not work for and when he refuses. You claim abuse. You are wicked. You want to take the children from the man not even thinking about how it will effect the children as long as you are emotionally fulfilled. Selfishness that is a woman. Well if I was the man, I will send you out myself and start my life fresh. Imagine measuring yourself for private school that was paid for by your father. Jesus get over it. U are not a kid and it was not your money.

lereinter:


One sided story

So who we be fucking you now?

haha, u be weyrey

Na me nah. The babe just DM me jare. Na one side for Mowe for Ogun state she won dey dey. She contacted me for accommodation which I am currently arranging.

So many religious men here, pushing her to pray and keep pushing, they can't believe a woman is financially stable enough to walk away, welcome to New Nigeria. Some are even threatening her with bible quotations as if they are holy. Tomorrow if this woman slumps and die due to pressure, the same folks will be all over this place blaming her. Madam, please don't run with the kids, be bold to it legally. Life is per head.

24kmagic:


This has nothing to do with Christianity or religion. I fall into that "casual Christian" category. I don't go to church nor read the Bible, but not many active Christians live a more just life than me. I was born and brought up a Christian, but somethings about Christianity and religion as a whole doesn't feel right to me. My religion right now is HUMANITY. Your husband lacks humanity. I can't treat a human being like this, not to talk of my wife and mother of my kids.

I wish you well in whatever you decide to do but like someone above said, do this legally before it backfires.

Your religion is now humanity. Kudos bro. People's eyes are beginning to become open on the falsity of religion in general. Dont feel discouraged. If u have enough data or u go to any place that has WI-FI, please try to search youtube videos on AronRa even if its just one.

If u regret it, always quote to call me a fo0l whenever u catch me online.

Cutehector:
How do people even end up marrying demons. It really beats my imagination. The matter tire person

From the narrative he earns more and the money was the focal point ,end of story

She has now discovered that money doesn't make a man , she would never measure up to him financially

daddytime:
Judging by your narrative above, I support your moving on if it'd help restore your sanity, save you from further abuses, and eventual death, because, e better make person no get husband or wife than to get the one wey go make am dey fear to go house everyday.

However, I'd advise you never to keep the kids away from their father. How you intend to achieve that? I do not know...

Please, do not make the kids the dupe of daddy and mummy's failed relationship.

Stay safe and strong.

@Kindheartedd this advice here is tailor made for you. But do not be in a hurry to execute. Go missing for at least 5 to 7 years. When you surface for air again everyone will respect you.

People do not know what they have until they loose it. You need to vanish completely but stay connected to only one person.. Pick a sister you can trust. This way even in hidding you will know whats going on and it will help you make the right decisions and heal.

"The sorrowful cries of the oppressor is like medicine unto the oppressed.'


Cheers baby girl!

Mad ooh. Lesson teacher. You want to teach your husband (father of your kids) lesson.

Lol, I am here laughing. So now the competition is within. Like in Nigeria, we are done competing with neighbours, friends and extended families. now husband and wife are competing. We are really mad. Our woes didn't start yet.

Aunty if you want to move on, move on, why do you think you are teaching him a lesson. Lol. If the husband you described above is what it is, I doubt the least of his worries will be if you leave.

A better reason to leave is because of your sanity and you don't want to live in competition of who is richer with your husband and not because you want to teach him a lesson. Are you Jesus Christ, that you think his life will be over without you. Teach yourself the lesson first.

Both of you have ego problems, with the way you described him and how you see him.

You told us all the abusive words he told you but you didn't say the ones you have said to him.

The both of you are mad and deserve each other.

Teach yourselves lesson. Ndi lesson teacher. Ndi ara.

We have not seen anything yet.

Well,








There are always 3 sides to every story.

Your side

His side

The truth.

Sounds like one redpill guy here is your husband . This one is no that you don't earn o ,its not up to him, he is on a dick meassuring competition with his wife,the part where he said your salary is for eating not for savings is really what a jackass would say.


Do you sis, but i wish you don't try to hide the kids from him,if he wants to reject them because you left him ,let him do that himself to their face(which he will likely do cos he sounds like an asshole). So in the future ,like that other guy ,you dont turn out to be pianted the villain who deprived her kids the fatherly love of her kids.

Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

I sent you a PM.
Please reply.

I want to talk with you privately.

This is obviously a woman in her 20s. I'm guessing 26 at most. There is something about the writing which exudes the aura.

I can't do anything but support your decision. It is left to you whether to stay silent or call him in future. From the many examples I've seen you'll call to disturb him in under a year. The celibacy thing, it's not possible. Humans are made to procreate, your hormones will make you actively search for the warmth of a man ⁠— any man whatsoever.

Bigcowhorn:


@Kindheartedd this advice here is tailor made for you. But do not be in a hurry to execute. Go missing for at least 5 to 7 years. When you surface for air again everyone will respect you.

People do not know what they have until they loose it. You need to vanish completely but stay connected to only one person.. Pick a sister you can trust. This way even in hidding you will know whats going on and it will help you make the right decisions and heal.

You can thank me later.

all of yu advicing her to go hiding are mere idots

all the people advising you to go hiding or run are idiots. what i expected you to do is avoid him for 1 or 2 months, and watch him come back to his senses. breaking up is never the answer