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Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 12:46am On Dec 18, 2019 |
healthserve:The best advice to give to anyone who can not adjust to partner's demands or work out differences in marriage is to quit. Two can not work together except they agree, don't stay in a relationship where you'll claim someone wasted your opportunities for you, rather choose between alternatives which one is more important to you, for some family is everything, while for some career is everything, while for others family and career is all they crave for. In all, find your dream and live but make sure not to spoil some other person's blues with your reggae because what means the world to you might be very disgusting to your neighbor, always find a balance and don't force people to accept your choices because you believe they're the best. 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 12:47am On Dec 18, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl: Sorry to intrude. I thought you said your guy is on the forum. This comment of yours can cause unsettling feelings... Correct me if I'm wrong. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:47am On Dec 18, 2019 |
TonyeBarcanista: 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:48am On Dec 18, 2019 |
healthserve: Come. Did I come to meet you specially to introduce any man to you? Don't get on my nerves o! |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by djon78(m): 12:50am On Dec 18, 2019 |
healthserve: No be small dysfunctional Male. Women have there own issues, but majority of problems today in marriages come from men. They maltreat, mess up lives of there wives, and we have many married, unhappy women. Sometimes I don't even blame feminists because they are using it as a defence mechanism. When you maltreat a woman, you are then developing a beast. Women are meant to be loved, pampered and well cared for, although discipline and respect must be there too. But because some men are now beasts, the women are now genetically modifying to there own beasts, and society keeps on degenerating 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 12:50am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Desric: I've mentored over 300 relationships. Trust me all my girls I tutored and gave sound doctrines a resettled in their marriage comfortably. This is just the foundation for this comment. I will hardly ever tell a person to leave a marriage but will point out facts and leave the decision to them. I don't do thought-manipulation or any from or proxy-manipulation. More so, 50% of divorced or u happy marriages can be fixed if both partners are willing to be vulnerable before themselves and communicate. Here, the wife is open, the husband is clammed up ( fears and insecurities). He isn't dealing with his own sense of being. I can't and will never tell anyone to learn even a bad marital partner. That call is theirs. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 12:51am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Forward77:You think yours is a solution? Wait, I thought you said you won't give me "cheap attention"? How's yours a solution? That she should pamper and pet a man who clearly doesn't think she's entitled to working and earning money. That's how abuse starts. First cut her off finances, then separate her from loved ones. Her people have already started siding with her husband. Then she becomes vulnerable to all sorts of abuse without any money if she can't cope anymore. How many housewives do you know that are truly happy that they are dependent on "oga" for matches, sanitary pad, and every other thing? How many big babies, sorry, men, married men, do you know that truly respect their wives that are housewives? Is that the advice you'd have given to her were she your blood relation? 5 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 12:55am On Dec 18, 2019 |
djon78:I grew up watching my mom go to work. Her income has shouldered much more weight than that of my father. Single handedly sent four kids to the university. 3 are graduates. It is wicked for a man to renege on his agreement to let her work just because "working class women are not submissive". Bollocks! 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 12:55am On Dec 18, 2019 |
djon78: More oil Sir. I'm yet to see a single Well pampered woman that overnight transformed into a beast. If any woman transforms into one, it was the last man before the new one. Good nurturing opens up the goodness in people and usher in transformation. Positive healthy transformation like how a Dakore looked like when acting earlier in the days, and her current look which many will want to say is wealth-transformation and not pure marriage-trabsformation Marriage should build a woman and Improve/tra sform her. Not the other way around. And yes. Too many marriage issues thesedays is from men. And not our counterparts, and yes feminists are on defense mechanism in the long run as a resort using all sort of coping mechanisms to try to force men to e better 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 12:55am On Dec 18, 2019 |
healthserve:What if she lands the job and the man's "fears and insecurities" become real? Anyway, na their wahala sha, they know themselves better and should sort themselves out. Mind you that fears and insecurities don't just start, there are some traits exhibited by the suspected partner that in most cases springs up these fears and insecurities. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by tianshie(m): 12:55am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Forward77: Do NOT listen to this turd. Only men whose confidence hinge on the suppression of others believe that a working woman is unsubmissive. Working gives a woman a VOICE. Allows her to grow self confidence. But faux-conservatives who support and thrive in a patriarchal society want women to stay at home, locked away so that only they control the purse strings. And as long as the woman depends on them for sustenance it increases their sense of safety. You live in a patriarchal society, so you have to find a way to manage your husband's demands. You're probably going to acquiesce. But know that you're not wrong to want to work. Do NOT let anyone make you think you're erring. You're right. He's insecure. A lot of Nigerian men who go into marriage are emotionally unprepared. They have no idea what they're doing. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by BrainSanitizer: 12:58am On Dec 18, 2019 |
After reading all the comments so far, I realize that at least 80% of those who commented are more confused than the person who created this thread. Some people are either ignorant of what marriage actually is, plain stupid, intentionally mischievous, dangerously hypocritical, a combination of at least two of the above, or all of the above. Some comments are conceived, designed, baked, manufactured, packaged and delivered straight from hell! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 1:01am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Desric: I said I've been around at least 300 marriages. A woman doesn't transform into a beast from being treated well. I'm yet to see a single one. I see people who rely on suppressing other people to appear powerful as stupid and mentally sick. Tell males to develop themselves and not rely on suppressing their women. The young women of this coming generation won't stay in toxic environment for too long. If they get deceived into lmit like in this case, once their awakening is triggered, they'll leave. Its simple as abc 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by MrCork: 1:02am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Damilolacoker: are u lightskin? |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 1:07am On Dec 18, 2019 |
healthserve:You can say that but we live in a world where all hands are not equal, most women become beast in a relationship when they're not satisfied, when they're frustrated or when they believe they've made a wrong choice because they've seen or believe there would have or there's a better option out there, sometimes out of unhealthy competition with peers etc so sometimes it might not just be that the man isn't treating them fine, the man might be doing the best he can but when a woman is fed up... |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by LesbianBoy(m): 1:08am On Dec 18, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl: You are mad. Ode! |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 1:10am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Desric: When trying to force a woman to crip her wings, alot can go wrong. I K ow and understand your part. But many people marry the wrong partners that's why. If you marry your own wife, even if she has a million, she won't give you stranger problems. All these tactics we resolve to employ is simply because of the insecurities that emenates from our own core. Coupled with marrying the wrong partners. If a woman is excessive forced, it can induce unhappiness like in this case and can turn her into what can even destroy the man. To get sweetness from a woman, it's with sense and gentility not force o. Force may restrain a woman but won't keep her for too long. Trust me. 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Yankee101: 1:11am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Chase your dreams 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 1:12am On Dec 18, 2019 |
healthserve:Already if you're not aware, I am. A lot kids will be raised in broken homes, it's already happening so my advice is before you come into a relationship especially marriage these days define your terms and conditions don't bring your feminist movement into a poor man's life in the name of you're civilized and educated otherwise just look for somebody to impregnate you if bearing kids is your reason for marriage or better still do the IVF thing and be fine. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Forward77(m): 1:12am On Dec 18, 2019 |
demarc001: You are right. God bless you too! |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by therajah: 1:13am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Conceptman:True talk! 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 1:15am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Desric: Before I started dating. I worked on my psyche, fears, insecurities and dream. If you don't come to relationships whole, it would affect your judgement. But then, sexual tension is the reason many relationships started 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 1:16am On Dec 18, 2019 |
CaptainMitch: |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by ForbesHomesNG(m): 1:16am On Dec 18, 2019 |
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Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by CaptainMitch: 1:17am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Choose a hamper for your Christmas https://twitter.com/Mide_C/status/1204427229943541760?s=19 UyaiIncomparabl: |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 1:18am On Dec 18, 2019 |
CaptainMitch: I dash you all, dear. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by midnighter(f): 1:20am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Desric: So after all these permutations and speculations, can you finally admit that the OPs husband was wrong to go against their previously agreed conditions for the marriage and that that was the actual cause of the problem and not OPs wanting to work? Because thats what we've been talking here. 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by 001spice: 1:21am On Dec 18, 2019 |
bukatyne or watever ur stupid name is.u r a devil. home breaker, i doubt if u r even marry. devil that who u r 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 1:22am On Dec 18, 2019 |
[quote author=healthserve post=85006318] Before I started dating. I worked on my psyche, fears, insecurities and dream. If you don't come to relationships whole, it would affect your judgement. But then, sexual tension is the reason many relationships started [/quote No two marriages are the same, what has worked in marriage A might probably not work for marriage B. Nevertheless, for any marriage to be successful, the parties involved must be willing to shift grounds, make sacrifices, tolerate, and make compromise where necessary, most especially, wives must submit to their husbands no matter their position before expecting love from the man, anything other than this has never worked well in marriages. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by midnighter(f): 1:22am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Hizzy: Yes, I advised her to change her approach BUT THAT DOESNT STOP THE HUSBAND FROM BEING A FREAKING LIAR ! 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by ForbesHomesNG(m): 1:22am On Dec 18, 2019 |
midnighter: |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by midnighter(f): 1:24am On Dec 18, 2019 |
ForbesHomesNG: Lol excuse me oh, I mistakenly hit "submit" before I finished typing so that was not all. |
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