Midas01:
There is not "pained" about what you person you quoted wrote. When y'all lack proper arguments, you resort to the "you sound pained" rhetoric.


Learn to condemn what is evil regardless of gender. How can a man use a lady for years who stuck by him through thick and thin only to dump her later claiming she has no vision? When he was fvcking her he didn't know?

true! Some men are wicked.

livebyday:


I don't think you understand what the word Stan means even

I'd be more than grateful to be enlightened sir. Anyways, I appreciate her post.

Or11:


Lazy man . Found it in less than a minute. Oya let the breeze blow and open fowl yansh

https://www.nairaland.com/2794994/dear-girls

Guy you madt ooo...see ego punching..

Immediately I saw pap.. I knew its coming from South Africa. That's their staple. Copy copy well done

Davash222:
When they’re done Hoeing, they turn to feminists and start to sell Bags, Wigs and Weavon on WhatsApp, Instagram and Facebook. That’s their meaning of empowerment and Independent.
men are getting wiser now, Una go hear am!

You and these bags and wigs shii

Riele:
Ofcourse , these is the kind of thread empty male barrels would love to read !


For all i know , Most men are trash !

For all I know most women are not trash, but you ain't one of em'

Hairdo666:

You didn't lie. Doesn't change the fact that you're a little boy in a grown man's body. Find a hustle, you're useless. Na your type sabi gossip.

You didn’t lie. I gossip for a living. Na from gossip I take know say you sell Hairs here.
Hungry surulere feminist!

Davash222:
When they’re done Hoeing, they turn to feminists and start to sell Bags, Wigs and Weavon on WhatsApp, Instagram and Facebook. That’s their meaning of empowerment and Independent.
men are getting wiser now, Una go hear am!

Lame.

Rigel95:
For all I know most women are not trash, but you ain't one of em'

Oga face your front !

Ginaz:
Some people will just come and be writing rubbish . That’s how you give men the right to just do anyhow things and get away free.

Which man in his right senses would watch his girlfriend grow up with him with no dreams of her own or even if the lady doesn’t have dreams, he can’t build her up? That means the guy doesn’t care anyway and he is just using the girl for sex.

Girls I would advise you to follow men who have visions, aspirations and a future cos even if you were the most dumbest girl in the whole world, their dreams would rub off on you to make you become better.

Na only empty and wicked boyfriends na fit do that . They are building their lives , they know the girl isn’t making any steps to build hers but would hang around, f***k her for years only to dump her like a trash. If she didn’t have plans, why not leave her ? Why hang around and use her and dump her? It’s very painful .

There is no excuse whatever in the planet that justifies that. It’s very painful and I sympathize with any lady facing this situation.

The man simply would have left her since she wasn’t good enough than to dump her at the last minute.

When a man is broke and trying to start life, it is IMPORTANT that ladies should know that being with him, unless you are married, is INCONVENIENCING him. This is a fact many ladies do not seem to realise. Or they realise, but do not want to accept. He needs the space to think and plan and work. Sticking around is inconveniencing and for most men, it is an ego thing too.
If the man is hardworking and responsible, he will generally make statements that will alude to the fact that it is best he is left alone to focus and concentrate.
The problem is that ladies emotionalise this decision-making process; they stick around and believe that if they stay and support him, they are entitled to having a say in his life- that is, getting married.
When the guy bounces back on his feet, he will usually make the decision of marriage based on logic and rational rather than emotions. If the lady who stuck with him is not viewed by him as productive- whatever is his definition of being productive- he ends the relationship and moves on with someone who he views can add value to him.
Harsh reality, but these are simple facts.

Once again, UNLESS you are married to him or to her, you are simply staying with him or her through the tough period at your own risk.
Yes, this goes to the ladies as well.
You arent entitled to marriage with the guy or girl. You are not.

Mindfulness:


In They didn't plan it from the beginning. They developed and changed so OP's message to ladies to have something going on for themselves instead of waiting for a man to make a difference in their lives is a good message since we have too many ladies thinking that marriage is the ultimate and only goal in their lives not realizing that there is more to life than marriage and that a good relationship consists of two people willing to grow independently and together. If a lady wants a high quality man, she must be high quality too. It's not enough to look pretty and often men do not even go for the prettiest ladies but women who add value to their lives, more value than a maid could add.

What do you mean by "more value than a maid could add"?
So in addition to cooking and cleaning and taking care of children women are also under obligation to provide for men and be breadwinners too?

While all the men do is go off to work and return back to rest?

I dont think you even live in Nigeria, Nigeria where the average man tells himself he is too big to do housework and cooking so are women now supposed to handle the homefront also slit bills just to prove herself otherwise the man would be justified in leaving her because she contributed nothing?

Ginaz:
Please what I hate most is general misconceptions. It’s not every woman who did nothing while the man was hustling , some women literally did odd jobs , side hustles and other things to make their lives better .

Some went to school, really hustle as much as the man. I hate stupid talks like these , do you people think women are brainless and useless? Majority I see Omo, dem Dey hustle and their bfs broke like mad.

You guys should stop preaching what you don’t know . My mom’s friend is a hustler , singlehandedly paid for rent for those years the guy was broke and hustling , did one or two things for the ungrateful guy only for him to abscond with another girl . Wasted her youthful years for nothing.

As for now sef, I won’t advise any girl to put up with a guy for any reasons cos of statements like these.

Some mumu will just write up and come to say you only asked for Brazilian hairs and shoes like they knew you or stayed with you in the house to know that.

All the girls I Dey see for street dem Dey hustle . Dem be hustlers , they gat dreams. Stop the stereotype!!!!

Just as there are good for nothing men, there are good for nothing women too.

On a ratio of 80% , girls Dey hustle even in relationships.

You've succeeded saying nothing. Absolutely nothing!

Davash222:
When they’re done Hoeing, they turn to feminists and start to sell Bags, Wigs and Weavon on WhatsApp, Instagram and Facebook. That’s their meaning of empowerment and Independent.
men are getting wiser now, Una go hear am!

Eye see

Davash222:

You didn’t lie. I gossip for a living. Na from gossip I take know say you sell Hairs here.
Hungry surulere feminist!

At least I sell something and make a living. Unlike you that begs celebrities online for giveaways. May sense detect you. Agadi nwoke na agu ofe. Shame.

Bravo!

ireneidiva:

You just said you support each other. Is it not the point I made? When a husband decides to go back to school and the works harder taking care of the home, is that not support? The person going to work everyday that comes back to meet a warm meal at home is not being supported? Think well next time before calling someone's post trash Mr. Adult. Bye

You actually have some point to be frank

Hairdo666:

At least I sell something and make a living. Unlike you that begs celebrities online for giveaways. May sense detect you. Agadi nwoke na agu ofe. Shame.

Lol
Thanks for making me laugh. So, it’s me you’re calling Agadi nwoke Me that is still young in heart.

Riele:
Ofcourse , these is the kind of thread empty male barrels would love to read !


For all i know , Most men are trash !

Daddy issue right??

MARX77:


I'd be more than grateful to be enlightened sir. Anyways, I appreciate her post.

stan
/stan/
noun
an overzealous or obsessive fan of a particular celebrity.

It's used as an insult to describe an obsessive psycopath fan

eni4real:
Daddy issue right??

RisenPhoenix:
Only broke men would like that.

Since I believe it is my job to provide for my family, now and in future after I'm gone; I prefer my wife to stay at home, beautify herself for me, and provide me with slutty sex when I want it; and take care of our children while I'm hustling. That's what I married for.

Of course being human and not a sex doll that can be kept in the cupboard when not in use, she can work and hustle for herself in her spare time if that's what keeps her from getting bored, or she can take up knitting or flower arranging or boxing or figure skating or telemundo watching; as long as she makes sure that she doesn't cheat, her activities don't affect our sex life, and our children's welfare is not compromised, I don't really care.

You're thinking more like a Muslim guy, lol

Riele:

Ishilove:
Poignant. However, not all women sit idly by when their man is broke and hustling. Be that as it may, just as there are scumbag men, there are also scummy women. How some women can comfortably bill a man for their expenses when they aren't aren't crippled always amazes me. Get up and work, add value to your family, relationship and the society so that egomanic misogynists will not come online to say rubbish about the womenfolk. A scummy man will still find an excuse to leave even if you work your fingers to the bone, but at least you will be able to beat your chest that you are an independent woman who was taken advantage of by a no good, rat soup eating son of a bitch. (Thank you, Dolemite).

Someone up there also said "after hoeing they go to the Gram to sell wigs and bags". Going by this statement, all IG hustlers at retired prostitutes?

*sigh* I need a break from NL. I can feel the stench of ignorance and toxic stupidity trying hard to overwhelm me.


On a side note: Feminism must be the most abused word in gender relations in Nigeria.

u sound highly intelligent..

Instead of ubunja to be educating the women folks about improving their self worth too, he won't. his loyalty is only to the brotherhood. selfish lot.

Thank you OP, I have gained one or two things from this write-up

Ginaz:
Please what I hate most is general misconceptions. It’s not every woman who did nothing while the man was hustling , some women literally did odd jobs , side hustles and other things to make their lives better .

Some went to school, really hustle as much as the man. I hate stupid talks like these , do you people think women are brainless and useless? Majority I see Omo, dem Dey hustle and their bfs broke like mad.

You guys should stop preaching what you don’t know . My mom’s friend is a hustler , singlehandedly paid for rent for those years the guy was broke and hustling , did one or two things for the ungrateful guy only for him to abscond with another girl . Wasted her youthful years for nothing.

As for now sef, I won’t advise any girl to put up with a guy for any reasons cos of statements like these.

Some mumu will just write up and come to say you only asked for Brazilian hairs and shoes like they knew you or stayed with you in the house to know that.

All the girls I Dey see for street dem Dey hustle . Dem be hustlers , they gat dreams. Stop the stereotype!!!!

Just as there are good for nothing men, there are good for nothing women too.

On a ratio of 80% , girls Dey hustle even in relationships.

I agree with you totally. I also would advice my daughters never to live with some idoot they are not yet married to.Thats where the insults start from.

Some would even tell the woman to quit their work and treat them like trash afterwards

midnighter:


I understand all of that but what I disagree on is the act of CONCEALING your feelings.

The OP said that the guy noticed that his babe just watched tv in her pajamas all day. She did not mention anything about the guy VOICING HIS DISPLEASURE at that fact.

If you are in a relationship and the other person is losing their grip then you should be comfortable with telling them that theyre moving in the wrong direction. If they dont listen to you or refuse to act on your advice, you are free to go your way without guilt. You must not yolk yourself unequally with somebody out of some misplaced sense of loyalty when the person is clearly content going nowhere.

Not that you just look at them with a disapproving eye and go ahead and collect your pap and chicken from the microwave, sneaking and scheming in your mind about how you will find a better lady. That is passive-aggressive and unfair.

.. You are very funny. So you think that in situations like this,the guy wouldn't have voiced out his displeasures atleast once?

JONNYSPUTE:
.. You are very funny. So you think that in situations like this,the guy wouldn't have voiced out his displeasures atleast once?

YOU are very funny for talking about "situations like this" instead of the one WE READ ABOUT IN THE OP !

Davash222:
When they’re done Hoeing, they turn to feminists and start to sell Bags, Wigs and Weavon on WhatsApp, Instagram and Facebook. That’s their meaning of empowerment and Independent.
men are getting wiser now, Una go hear am!

op has killed dem alredy!! Why u con bury dem again!!! /u no wan mak dem reincarnate Na wa oh!

Ginaz:


She is wrong !!! Period!!! Pained about what exactly? Have you seen me before that you knew I was pained? Stop talking like a toddler just to make a senseless point.

the sad thing is that OP is wrong.

How many men are leaving women for other women who are industrious and hardworking?

The truth is that a lot of 'successful' men are not looking for industrious and hardworking women, they are looking for trophy wives; women who look pretty on their arms. That is why when a lot of men 'make it' and leave the women that were with them when they were poor, they move on to women who are more attractive and more 'desirable' women who will make them the envy of their peers. They are not looking for women to boost the wealth, it is the Brazilian hair and designer outfits women they go to, because men believe that if they are with women who look good, it reflects positively on them.

But let us deceive ourselves with these bullshit stories of made men wanting women who consolidate their wealth

MARX77:


I'd be more than grateful to be enlightened sir. Anyways, I appreciate her post.

Its not totally true.Working class high profile women get divorced too.

I think its a matter of compatibility because our great grandmothers were majorly stay at home, home makers and seldom got divorced.

livebyday:


stan
/stan/
noun
an overzealous or obsessive fan of a particular celebrity.

It's used as an insult to describe an obsessive psycopath fan

Lol, thanks for the knowledge...