pryme:
I just hope you guys find a real life companion sooner than later, cos when you are on your own for so long, you tend be more dependent on yourself, and enjoy solitude more.
While others may do everything to make the relationship work cos they can't stay alone, you tend to take the relationship as an "option" cos you have your self to fall back on (where others find this difficult to do), you don't have a problem being alone, this could be a problem.

But it gets worse, introverts are just too picky, shrinking the possibility of finding a life partner from 1 in a 1000 to 1 in 10,000 or even 1 in a million.

With this in mind, I have made my peace with the fact that I may die alone in solitude.
It's all or nothing, it's either it the right person or nothing.

Apus:





Too late. For me, I have come to accept the fact that I enjoy my own space too much and the benefits therein. Family can't even place why at 27 I haven't been in any serious relationship. Though I hide under the guise of building myself, career-wise and all of that, but I know deep down nothing of such is happening at least not soon.
I have become so independent that even solitude doesn't scare me anymore. About tomorrow's X-mas, trust me, I know how to catch all d fun in world all by myself

pryme:


Have been there, and I must tell you it scared me, cos I was worried I was actually a robot (Prime - Pryme), that was soulless and without feelings.

But The first time I fell for lady I was really relived, not because of the excitement of being with a beautiful women (which is most times the case for many guys), no it was because it means am human and able to give and get love (cos one day I would like to carry my own kids and spoil them silly with love, but that has to start somewhere - the Mother.
Even now I don't like that word "love" cos in most cases its either it's a disease of the mind or it's a scam.
But when you experience true love from another woman, it could be bad cos it will ruin you - yes in a world filled dishonest people and where relationship is mainly for convenience, you won't last long in shallow relationships that is the norm (most times).
And for the fact that you prefer being alone means you will only be with someone that offers you something extraordinary that you can't give yourself.
But it will be a miracle for you to find a person
with a beautiful soul that loves you and only you,
and add something extraordinary to your life,
you love her back just the same,
at the same time living a comfortable life.

The stars have to align, which I hope it happens for you.
When it happens, you will fall hard and you will love hard and for a good reason.

scave:


I once fall hard, I asked her out several times but she friend zone me, now i just decide to be careful with my heart, even when I see some admiring me I keep a blind eye, I no want stress, being alone is sweet for now till I reach where I want to. I just hate asking someone out if I don't have true feelings. And I am not even ready to have that true feelings either.

Apus:


Hi, I am 28 and can safely assume 'I'm a mirror image' of 'yourself' literally except I do not look forward to any kind of relationship anytime in the future. Personally, I do not see this as a problem because I find I'm much happier on my own. Some will say that's selfish of me but I find my happiness comes from seeing other people happy and in the little way I can, I try to do that as much as I can. But does this mean I have 'problems' and ought to see a 'psychologist' as suggested by a friend who finds this abnormal?


Too late. For me, I have come to accept the fact that I enjoy my own space too much and the benefits therein. Family can't even place why at 27 I haven't been in any serious relationship. Though I hide under the guise of building myself, career-wise and all of that, but I know deep down nothing of such is happening at least not soon.
I have become so independent that even solitude doesn't scare me anymore. About tomorrow's X-mas, trust me, I know how to catch all d fun in world all by myself

pryme:
I just hope you guys find a real life companion sooner than later, cos when you are on your own for so long, you tend be more dependent on yourself, and enjoy solitude more.
While others may do everything to make the relationship work cos they can't stay alone, you tend to take the relationship as an "option" cos you have your self to fall back on (where others find this difficult to do), you don't have a problem being alone, this could be a problem.

But it gets worse, introverts are just too picky, shrinking the possibility of finding a life partner from 1 in a 1000 to 1 in 10,000 or even 1 in a million.

With this in mind, I have made my peace with the fact that I may die alone in solitude.
It's all or nothing, it's either it the right person or nothing.

Apus:





Too late. For me, I have come to accept the fact that I enjoy my own space too much and the benefits therein. Family can't even place why at 27 I haven't been in any serious relationship. Though I hide under the guise of building myself, career-wise and all of that, but I know deep down nothing of such is happening at least not soon.
I have become so independent that even solitude doesn't scare me anymore. About tomorrow's X-mas, trust me, I know how to catch all d fun in world all by myself

JacksonMS:
were you in any relationship before?

JacksonMS:
we were not made to have a partner.

JacksonMS:
we were not made to have a partner.

maeola:

Thank you. It feels good having someone understand this much. I guess it's a natural way of life for people like us.

SkinnyNigga:
yours is low self esteem .. who dey pursue you ? why bury your head, what are you ashamed of ? you need help

okikiosibodu:

I have never been to a beach not because I can't afford it, but cos I can't stand the imagination of a crowded place with total strangers, in an open space. I live in lagos. If it's a big hall (say a partyl I can always step out or go to the gents to get a grip of myself and then return. In the theatres, I make sure I go early to the cinema so I can be among the first set of people to enter and then walk straight to the furthest chair at the rear, to avoid human interaction/ contact. But don't knw how to deal in a beach
I know it won't be a day's work, but can you give a guide on how to come out of this shell?

okikiosibodu:

I have never been to a beach not because I can't afford it, but cos I can't stand the imagination of a crowded place with total strangers, in an open space. I live in lagos. If it's a big hall (say a partyl I can always step out or go to the gents to get a grip of myself and then return. In the theatres, I make sure I go early to the cinema so I can be among the first set of people to enter and then walk straight to the furthest chair at the rear, to avoid human interaction/ contact. But don't knw how to deal in a beach
I know it won't be a day's work, but can you give a guide on how to come out of this shell?

pryme:
I just hope you guys find a real life companion sooner than later, cos when you are on your own for so long, you tend be more dependent on yourself, and enjoy solitude more.
While others may do everything to make the relationship work cos they can't stay alone, you tend to take the relationship as an "option" cos you have your self to fall back on (where others find this difficult to do), you don't have a problem being alone, this could be a problem.

But it gets worse, introverts are just too picky, shrinking the possibility of finding a life partner from 1 in a 1000 to 1 in 10,000 or even 1 in a million.

With this in mind, I have made my peace with the fact that I may die alone in solitude.
It's all or nothing, it's either it the right person or nothing.

JacksonMS:
we were not made to have a partner.

doctorgold:
Being introverted hasn't helped me especially in business. I struggle to advertise what I do to people. Working on that part already though.

I do have a problem with 2 introverted people getting .married. not sure it will be any fun. I met my wife through a mutual friend and she is the complete opposite. She is the life of the party. At our wedding, she had to dance for two. Lol. Local man was just embarrassing his generation. Luckily though, she is helping me come out of the shell. I now find myself being able to do things I wouldn't do on a normal day. I would just prefer that our children take up her nature.

Hakeem12:
I have an older cousin, about 31 or so. He's a programmer and works remotely, hence he hardly leaves his house. He stays in his room all day either coding or playing games. All of his sisters are married, and his parents are worried about him. We were both invited to a party sometime last year, and he was seated beside this pretty lady. Guy just pressed his phone throughout, even when the lady was trying to make conversation with him. The funniest thing about him was when he was in university, he was the life of the party, always hanging out with ladies and everything. Now's he's changed completely, prefers being alone or with just few people he knows. I don't think he will ever get married. His younger sister told him she was going to visit him today with some of her friends, the guy left his place immediately. He still isn't back home till now.

Chibuchris:



Abeg oo e da kun my own no reach like that ooo partner get e own sweet side ooo, when you truly find the right one

Hakeem12:
lol, says who?

pryme:


Who can decide?